my son is 2 and a half months old and fights sleep?

Ashley - posted on 01/30/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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my son will not sleep in the afternoon. he fights with everything he has and when i finally get him to sleep as soon as i lay him down he wakes up more upset then before he went to sleep. what can i do to get him to sleep?

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Ashley - posted on 01/31/2009

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thank you all for your advice. he's getting better, i think it's just when i let him get super tired. like right now he's sleeping on the couch praise the lord. i will try all of these things tho and thank you again.

Katrina - posted on 01/31/2009

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try controlled comforting.. it's only failed for one person i know, and that is because she insists on giving up and lying down next to her son instead of sticking with it.

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Stacey - posted on 02/10/2009

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My son is the same age. We use to handle him too much and he got to the stage where he would only go to sleep if we rocked him and would scream when we put him down too.. We ended up having him in our bed at night and he would sleep...

He is now in a routine.



We give him his feed when hes due then play a little then lay him in his cot at 8pm. We let him fall asleep on his own most of the time he is crying but it works. At the start we went in there every 5 minutes and just rubbed his back or put his dummy back in a walked straight out. Did this for 1/2 hour in and out but extending the time each time and then he finally got to sleep.

Now we just put him in there as soon as he starts to show signs he is tired, rubbing eyes yawning or crying because he is over tired and fighting it and he goes to sleep within 10 minutes.

It is hard but they learn to fall asleep on their own, we have only been doing it for the last 3 nights but each day gets better.

Christine - posted on 02/10/2009

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Just a little note.. be careful with the pacifier.. I kept going in and giving it to him and it got pretty bad.. if you are ok with going in several times then that is fine but what I did was finally one day after I gave it to him once he had to put himself to sleep without it. It only took 1 or 2 naps to get it. Now he only gets it when he goes down and if he knocks it out of his crib he doesnt get it back and he will fall asleep with out it.

Ashley - posted on 02/10/2009

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i just want to thank all of you for the wonderful advice:) today i put my son down in his bassinet and he fussed for awhile and i waited a few min went in made sure he had his binky and i left. i did that i think 3 times and he is sound asleep. i also turned my fan on a little higher so he could hear the constant hum. letting him fuss wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. now i can get some housework done. thanks again for all the help:)

Christine - posted on 02/04/2009

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You should definitely put him down in his bed and dont let him just fall asleep anywhere.. then he will understand that it is bedtime. Also letting them cry it out is not a bad thing. My son was the same way and finally one day I just had to let him cry it out for all three naps and after that he was so much better. He now is almost 9 months and sleeps 2- 2hr naps and sleeps 12 hours at night. You just have to be consistant. The other thing that seems to help is get a fan and put it on med or high so there is a constant noise. If it get s little cold get a heater. Thats what he have in my sons room. It really works. Hope it gets better.

Bridget - posted on 02/01/2009

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Swaddling is a God send! I watched "The Happiest Baby On the Block", & at 1st I thought the guy was crazy! I tried his technique anyways & sure enough within 5 minutes my son was sound asleep. He fought the swaddle at 1st but then settled down. Also told my friend about it who has a son 5 months younger than mine, & it worked for her too! Says it was the longest her son had ever slept. He's 4 months & they're still swaddling him. He loves it! This is especially good for moms that are nursing because usually your baby is up about every 2 hours.  With the swaddling technique I could usually get him to sleep about 3 1/2-4 hours. Watch the video! You won't be disappointed.

Danialle - posted on 02/01/2009

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My son is almost 7 months and the same way. I have to keep it really dark during his naptime and makes sure he is OUT if I want to lay him down to sleep. Otherwise I have to bounce him, rock him, hold him or put him in his swing to stay asleep. It sucks! But Hopefully they will outgrow this!

Ann - posted on 02/01/2009

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A great CD to play during bed time or nap time is Return to Pooh Corner by Kenny Loggins....It is the BEST!

Sarah - posted on 01/31/2009

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I have no idea, mine did that since she was a month old and I awaited the day I could let her cry it out lol. I tried rocking and all that stuff and she just wasn't a sleeper. It does show how alert they are though but I know that doesn't do much good when you are tired too or need to clean. Hang in there!

Devan - posted on 01/31/2009

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I do also agree with julie. Mine is 5 months and has been cryin himself to sleep most of the time. It's usually only a few minutes. Though it will seem like a lifetime, and it really doesn't ever feel shorter. I have found he is just a crier and i have learned the different cries. Sometimes If it's been over 15 minutes I go in and check on him to make sure everything is okay(and it makes you feel better) but like my doctor says go in but don't get in the habbit of picking him up. go in, check on him, maybe turn on a mobile and leave. This way they learn that you haven't left them, but that their crying is not going to get them held. I say try it, and let us know how it goes.  P.S. I also have found that during the day he sleeps well in his swing. (surprising how much you can get done while they are napping)

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Have you tried a white noise machine like a humidifier? That helped my son immensely when he was little!

Sara - posted on 01/30/2009

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I have the same problem, although he will fall asleep and wake up 15-20 min later. i dont know what you can do to get him to sleep. have you tried a bath? that seems to help mine mello out at nite. what about his swing?



 

Danielle - posted on 01/30/2009

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I agree with Julie.
When I was getting my 5 month old on a schedule I would time out his feeding so after his second feeding I would strap him in his carseat and take him out for a couple hours. That way car ride would help him fall asleep. I did that for about a week so gradually after his second bottle he would get drowsy and then I'd lay him down.

I started doing that around 3 weeks old and by 6 weeks he was already sleeping through the night. Being consistent definitely helps. It also helps to establish if you establish a bed time routine, that way he wont get his nights and days confused.
I hope this helps.

Julie - posted on 01/30/2009

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Do you usually try to put him down at the same time everyday? Consistency may help. Also, try putting him down earlier. Maybe he is too tired by the time you put him down and that is why he is fighting it so much (kind of wierd, but true). What do you do to put him to sleep? Have you tried just laying him down and letting him fuss himself to sleep? I don't mean screaming and crying forever, but my son will often lay down and just kind of squirm and fuss for a little bit before falling asleep on his own, then he sleeps really well (he is 4 months old). I was afraid to try "crying it out" at first, but my husband convinced me to try it once. As soon as a I walked away, my son started calming down, and he was asleep in about 3 minutes.

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