My son is very hyperactive constantly, my sister thinks i should take him to see my gp because she thinks he might have adhd i dont now what to do feeling stressed out all the time any suggestions

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Catherine - posted on 01/05/2009

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hi, my mom and I both thought my son might have been adhd but since he started school he's been better. Also we took out sugar and aspartame out of his diet and it made a big difference.

Amie - posted on 01/05/2009

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My son was diagnosed with ADHD last year. When he was your son's age he was very "busy". He had a very specific routine that he had had since he was born. (I needed that as well because like you I was a single mom!) That worked pretty well for us until he started the 1st grade. My now husband and I tried a lot of different things to help him. Making sure he went to bed early, limiting tv and video game time, having him lay out everything he needed the night before. We put a list on his backpack so he could remember what to bring home, one in his locker about what to bring to class, Every thing we could think of. We worked very closely with his teacher and still nothing seemed to help. She never said the words ADHD, but suggested we have him evaluated by his pediatrician. We brought in with us a detailed letter from her about his school day and what we were wittnessing at home. Well, he has it! I tried changing his diet, switched all the cleaning products in our house to Mellalucca, and stuck to our routine, discipline, and reward system to a tee, and his school days didn't improve. He was so sad! He would come home and say he was just stupid and that's why he wasn't doing very well. It broke our hearts to see this wonderful, gifted, sweet boy so downtrodden! We made the decision to try meds and after a few tweaks found the right dose. His meds last long enough to get him through his school day and he is so happy! He is not a medicated zombie and still very active, but is excelling in school. We keep in active in sports and playdates to help him burn off that extra energy and balance that with quiet family time followed by 1/2 hour of solo reading time every night. Works for us! I'm not sure if your son has this or not. It's so hard to tell at such a young age. I do wish that I had my son evaluated sooner. Even just to be better prepared for the challenges of having to focus so much in school. I would talk to his daycare provider and have them chart your son's day for a few weeks and you do the same. Then if you see his doc, you're well prepared. More than anything these kids need love and understanding. They don't want to be naughty, sometimes they can't help it and that's the difference between an ADHD child and just an undisciplined one. Sorry for the novel, but I hope it helps! Hang in there,girl and trust your instincts!

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My daughter has ADHD. She wasnt diagnosed until she was 6 yrs old ( she's 8 now) and had already been held back in the 1st grade b/c she wasnt able to concentrate to help her learn. She has been very active all her life and even though at times it drove me nuts, my reason for getting her tested and on a low dose of meds is to help with her school work. I dont want to change who my daughter is or how she acts, just help her focus on her work. She is now excelling in school and I couldnt be more proud of her. Just b/c a child has ADHD doesnt mean you have to medicate them until they are a zombie. I would recommend that you talk with your son's doc and if he is diagnosed I would research all treatment for ADHD. Thats what we did and it took several trials of meds to figure out what was best for her.

Dena - posted on 01/03/2009

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That is a very touchy subject..how old is he?? If he is still anywhere between 1-4, I would not be so concerned with the fact that he is just being a BOY!! Now I will say if you see other signs that are a little abnormal yes I would mention it to the doctor...most people are quick to diagnos children these days and want to drug them up for being who they are...think back to when we were kids bouncing of the walls...we made it and weren't medicated in the process. Sure we may have gotten yelled at more or spankings but kids are kids and kids will be kids!!! I will say if it is a concern for you do some research first on ADHA, hyperactive children, ect... Good luck!! Keep us posted!!!

Katrina - posted on 01/03/2009

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my brothers who is nw 18 was diagnosed wit adhd at the age 4 hes got it quite bad he can be uncontrolable sometimes but b4 u do anythin bout that try changin his diet and cut out stuff wit E numbers in it and drinks see if that helps if theres still no change then go see your gp again hope it helps and good luck

Heather - posted on 01/03/2009

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My son just turned 6 years old and he hasn't taken a nap since he was 2 if he didn't have medication to help him sleep he would be up all night long. We tried the all natural foods. We tried removing all the tv's we tried everything and nothing helped. We have to have the most strict routine with him because it helps his adhd. there is one thing you should know that when a child with adhd is at home with one or 2 parents in a very controlled environment and if they are kept busy they will behave better. You take them out in public to a store and most of them will freak out because there is way to much stimulation. Its the same with school. I am not saying that kids don't get wrongly diagnosed because they do all the time thats why you need a professional assesment. When we did ours even though the doctor knew he had it we still had to get forms from teachers, friends, family, and other people that deal with him to be sure. I hate when people who have never dealt with real adhd say that its not real and its the parents fault. Not every parent out there with an extremely hyperactive child is a bad parent or is doing something, My sons psycologist told me that I was the best parent she has ever dealt with because I don't care what it does to me or how it effects me. I care about my son and how people treat him because of it. He is not a bad kid he just can't always control the things he does.

Terri-ann - posted on 01/03/2009

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I'd just like to say my partner's son has adhd which was passed on from his ex wife. For quite a few years my partners ex was telling the son to not take his meds etc and it made him worse..... He is alot better now he takes all his meds. Just do what you feel is best for your son..... it cant hurt him.... you caring for your son!!!!! You can always get a second opinion...... just keep trying with him hunni could just be his age....... i was very hyperactive when i was younger....... just me..... could be just your son.

Amy - posted on 01/02/2009

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Although everyone has made good points Diane is so right! My mother had 7 kids of her own and has looked after (and tamed) that many children through family day care introducing quiet time and setting boundaries!!! Quite a few children which she cared for were hyperactive. Their parents could not take them shopping or control them when at home. Some mothers would cry becasue they didnt know what to do. My mother is BIG on routine and quiet time..as well as discipline! One boy in particular settled down once mum got him into his routine and got him to have a sleep during the day. His mother said it aslo helped her at home and on weekends. A year later he started acting up again and was that hypo he would jump on his baby sisters head and rip out her hair....that was due to food additives!! Pizza shapes were the worst. Most of it was from the food colour that was added! So as Sarndra said maybe keep an eye on what he is eating and see if his behaviour changes after certain foods!! Also my neice eats all natural food and barely any animal products, she was given a strwberry milk and went hyperactive just after having a small amount of it!!! Im not saying rule out the ADHA as its possible it could be that, by some kids are just more "excitable"can i say!!?!!

Christina - posted on 01/02/2009

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I am in agreement with the majority of these responses, and this really is quite a serious topic. I am not going to say anything for or against ADHD, it is what it is. I was raised by to wildly liberal people (one being a holistic doctor) who believe "diseases" like that were made to sell drugs. I am not quite as crazy as them, so I will just leave it at that. What I will say is that you need to be SO careful bringing this to your doctor's attention. If he is good for you when no one else is around, chances are he does not have it. He is just being disobedient when he feels he can be. My older daughter was the same way. She was so sweet, but if I took her anywhere, she was a maniac. So, I took the easy way out and, literally, did not take her anywhere for 2.5 years. She is back to normal now, thank god. The reason I say not to mention this to your doctor is because it is really easy to say you are not going to do the meds.....until you tell your doctor that. Once you go against something your MD says they label you as some sort of disobedient patient or something. I don't vaccinate and my doctor knows that (obviously), so I feel as if he treats me like I don't care for the wellbeing of my children, which is not the case at all! Everyone has different ideals and belief systems, and I firmly believe that if YOU think your son is fine, he probably is. Don't let anyone else tell you what to do with him. If you choose to go the route of the MD, it will probably be a lifelong struggle that you deal with, which would probably be more difficult than what you are going through now. I, personally, would wait until he is at least 5 years old. That will give you enough time to track his acting out and make sure it is something you are willing to turn over to a doctor as a last resort. Good luck! I know it can be difficult.

Sarndra - posted on 01/02/2009

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Hi there, sometimes kids can get yperactive by the foods they eat. There are certain preservatives in food that can trigger this. You could go to a naturopath or something. Some soft drinks will also do this and plain old jelly becuase og the caffiene and loads of sugar. Maybe keep an eye on what your child eats?

Stacy - posted on 01/02/2009

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My stepson who's 12 had ADHD and my 3 year old son has it also.I would ask his pediatrician on what to do.ADHD is usually past onto a child from a parent.My husband has it and it is hereditary so i would consult the dr and find out what they suggest.My 12 year old is on Concerta and it works great and my 3 yr old is too young so we just deal with it the best way we can

Brittany - posted on 01/02/2009

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I just wanted to bring up that although many kids are wrongly diagnosed, there is such a thing as adhd. Not only are they hyperactive, but they have a really short attention speed. My fiance explained it as although he really tries to concentrate, he can't, instead his brain will focus on a noise outside or something moving in the background. The people I know who have adhd really cannot concentrate or control their hyperactivity. They have trouble functioning in school or at a job without medicines. Also, if it turns out your son has ADHD then there are many medicines to help them, and many can make them more like zombies or cause weightloss. This happened with my brother so it is important to find the right medicine. I know with my brother, dexedrine worked the best, it did not affect his weight or make him into a zombie. It just helped his attention span.

Brittany - posted on 01/02/2009

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A lot of people automatically assume since a child is hyperactive, they want to diagnose adhd. How old is your son. I know my brother, my ex-boyfriend and his brother, and my fiance have adhd for real. One thing a lot of people don't realize is that if someone has adhd their body reacts to medicine in the opposite way. Which is why adhd medicine will make other people hyper. I know, for instance, when my brother was little he had to take a cold medicine, i think it had codeine in it, whatever it was would make normal people sleep, he was bouncing off the walls. If you give your son chocolate or candy does he get more hyperactive? If so, I doubt he has adhd. My brother and my fiance, and my ex boyfriend and his brother, become tired when they eat chocolate. For example, my fiance will drink chocolate milk or hot chocolate before going to bed. I hope i have helped you.

Diane - posted on 01/02/2009

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I agree with Natalia. As parents we have a responsibility to discipline our children and set bouondaries accordingly, not necessarily saying that your kid is bad Lesley! There is one thing I believe that parents now a days have lost the art of, and that is scheduling and consistency, but most importantly nap time or quiet time! Which also means not giving them candy or hyper inducing foods shortly before these periods of relaxation! The relax time is not only for the kids, at times it's for the parents too! Children need limits and quide lines, all parents should try these or something before opting for medication. And God Bless you Natalia for being a mom with a deployed husband!!

Natalia - posted on 01/02/2009

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I'm just saying being too quick to judge if a kid has ADHD instead of showing them the discipline that all kids need means your not willing to give it a try maybe her kid is just going through a phase and is testing her and her boundaries seeing what he can get away with. my daughter did that all the time because her dad was deployed my friend was "diagnosed" with ADHD in high school and there was nothing wrong with her she was a bad kid because she had no discipline and her parents were too self involved to deal with the real issues your brother probably grew out of his hyperactivity and that's why he is doing fine

Natalia - posted on 01/02/2009

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he probably acts up in front others because he thinks you won't punish him that's what my daughter used to do.

Heather - posted on 01/02/2009

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im sorry but this is for Natalia. I have a son that has adhd and since he was a year old his pediatrician has been telling me that he had it. I never wanted to put him on the meds but once he started school and he couldn't learn because of it I had no choice. Do you have a child that has been diagnosed with it. Especially if its severe? You are entitled to your own opinion but saying that it hurts them in the long run is just careless. my brother was on it and nothing bad ever happened to him now he is very happy 21 year old that is responsible and has a good job. With ADHD if you experience it you know that no matter how many rules and bounderies you put in place they don't always work without help.

Lesley - posted on 01/02/2009

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Thats exactly what i said to my sister he's a child and all children are hyperactive but its just making me think twice because i few people have said it to me know, but when we are alone he is as good as gold.

Heather - posted on 01/02/2009

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I was the same way and still am many times. You really should get him tested for your own sanity you don't have to do medication if your not comfortable with it. There are all natural things and counseling. Even if it helps a little. I must worn you a lot of doctors won't even think about testing the child unless they are in school and its causing a problem there. Or if there is severe problems at home. Just try to remember that he can't help it. My son tells me all the time that he doesn't know why he does it he just can't stop and he just turned 6. Hang in there. Ask someone to watch him for a little while so you can just sit back and relax. You don't even have to leave the house. Just ask them to come sit with you and take care of your son for a short time. A lot of my friends do it for me. Sometimes its easier for them if you are there to.

Natalia - posted on 01/02/2009

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kids are supposed to be hyperactive. but they also need rules and boundaries. and you need to let them know. have quiet time after dinner before bedtime and it gives them time to calm down before bedtime. labeling kids with ADHD is just a easy way of dealing with your kids, in my opinion, and believe me sometimes all i want to do is take the easy way but it hurts them in the long run.

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