My son turns 2 in june and is still not talkling

Paula - posted on 03/11/2010 ( 118 moms have responded )

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My son turns 2 in june and is still not talkling should i be worried? he is the second child and number 1 talks non stop and was also talking at 12months. is anybody else having the same problem?

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Ashley - posted on 03/14/2010

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by any chance are there any other langauges being spoken to him??....if so sometimes kids will get confused and not know what language to speak in so they wont speak. it happened to my brother. my dad was talking to him in french and my mom english. also a coworker of mine too. her and her daugher spoke german to her grandson..and the father spoke french to him. he was so confused he wouldnt speak. may not be the case but just a thought that popped into my head

Nicole - posted on 03/13/2010

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My son is the same-he is 18months.
I agree with Danielle-Before having my son I worked in the babies room(0-2yrs)of a daycare centre and there were many children that at two weren't speaking much-or not at all.
It's really common in boys especially..
As long as he is understanding you and following basic instructions.
It's also very common for the second child whether boy or girl to talk less because they don't have to..the first child does all the talking and gets him things he wants before he needs to ask-not sure if this is the case for your family but it happens a lot.
I wouldn't worry(silly thing to say to a parent I know).

LaCi - posted on 03/12/2010

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My son will also be 2 in June and he isn't talking either. My doctor wasn't concerned because he was on track or ahead in all the other developmental milestones. He has said a few words, kitty, mama, daddy, byebye, drink, and some others. He chooses not to, and when he's chattering and I say "can you say..." he looks at me mean and stops talking entirely lol. So I don't push it, I just repeat what things are, I make sure he understands what I'm saying, and I don't fret. He understands all my commands, he identifies words and objects, he just won't talk to me. Some kids are just late talkers, I think boys are also more likely to experience delayed speech. mine was also tongue tied at birth, which people say can delay speech, although we did have his tongue clipped.

Jenifer - posted on 03/12/2010

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I would get his hearing and vision tested to rule out a problem. If you are still concerned get your child evaluated, if you live in the US, Early On is a great service to parents, they have ST's, OT's, PT's, psychologists, social workers and all sorts of people who are there to help your child. My son was not talking and he wasn't just a late bloomer, he really had a problem. He just finished 4 years of speech therapy and it was worth it, now he is talking similar to the other kids in his class. With him he had problems understanding how to make the correct sounds with his mouth, since he could not figure out how to do it, he just didn't. We started my having him say more, and before that it was just mmm, then it moved up to more after a few weeks. It helped him to ask for things which I think gave him the confidence to want to learn more words. There is no harm in having your child evaluated, either nothing is wrong, or something is, but you are identifying the problem early and dealing with it. My son spent a few years in a developmental delay class, but he is in mainstream kindergarten and if I had not had him evaluated at 2, his life would be an even bigger struggle. So I would reccommend an evaluation, ask your son's doctor about it when he has his 2 year check up or make and appointment before then. I also took my son to a developmental and behavioral pediatrician to help with some of my son's issues. But as far as his friends are concerned he is normal and for the most part outsiders looking in don't see his issues, because he has coping mechanisms. When he is in a situation where he wants to make a bad choice he thinks it through and decides if the action is worth the consequence. Okay anyways, get the evaluation, please. It is better to be safe than sorry.

Danielle - posted on 03/12/2010

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my daughter is 21 months old and doesnt stop talking,lol..she can talk sentences..miss chatter box.

As long as you are talking to him a lot and reading to him then there isnt much more you need to do. if he can understand what you are saying, and can nod or shake his head when you ask him a question then i dont think you need to be worried.

I am a daycare worker and there are a couple of kids that are over 2yo that still are not talking ( only saying mum or dad) ...yet they understand everything we say and communicate effectively enough. They are up to date on everything else compared to kids the same age.

I wouldnt really be worried..but if you are then maybe after he turns 2 then maybe talk to your dr about things you can do to encourage him along?

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Kate - posted on 09/06/2011

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some kids dont start with the word here or there talking some start talking in small sentences. he might just be waiting to show you he can talk when hes ready too, if your too worried you could try speech therapy, but i doubt you will need it, just give him a few more months and see first

Niccole - posted on 09/02/2011

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My child also doesn't talk and he just turned two years old today on Sept 2nd. He doesn't point, only says a mumbled Thank You, dadda, and rarely says momma unless he wants something like food or comfort. He is a good problems solver, giggles, active, doesn't take to new people or surroundings, and likes to snuggle with his chosen group of people. I too worry!

Mary - posted on 03/18/2010

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First off don't feel like you aren't doing something you should be doing. Babys develop at their own pace. I don't believe in a cookie-cutter system. My son barely said anything when he turned 2, but it seems like the week after he turned 2 he was more interested in developing his speech. Reading to your baby is really important and I'm sure it is what helped my son! Don't worry!

Kimberly - posted on 03/18/2010

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I was actually the same way when I was very small. My biggest issue was that my two older siblings did all of the talking for me, so there was no need to talk. I wouldn't start worrying about a speech problem until they are closer to 30 months or so... I think if the are comprehending what you tell them it is probably they are just not interested in speaking at this time.

Jessica - posted on 03/18/2010

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My son turns 2 in aug. and he doesnt much too! he says mama, ga(grandma), pampa (grandpa), blue, dog, cat, kitty, thank you, red, i love you(which sould like one of those dogs saying it! lol) but as long as your baby can say a few words i think it ok. my son is very smart with everything else! he is a normal man and doesn't talk much, while lil girls talk, talk and talk! lol just like a woman ;)

Anna Roselle - posted on 03/18/2010

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about that paula,it' normal for babies if they reach their 2nd year not talking.. as in your baby didn't talk that much? can he tell something like daddy or mommy? uhm..what month did he start to walk?

Crystal - posted on 03/18/2010

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all you have to do is talk to him, and read books play music and sing to him that is what i did to my son that is two in April and my daughter that is one this month and they both are learning on how to talk

Lin - posted on 03/18/2010

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In addition to talking to his pediatrician for hearing/speech evaluation and encouraging language development, make sure you're giving him time to speak, and give him time to form his words. My son, when he turned 2, didn't speak much, but then I noticed that basically everyone else was doing the talking for him. I stopped the adults from doing that and gave him the opportunity to speak - even if all I could get is a "yeah" from a question in regards to his problem, it was a start. And he's getting more verbal all the time.

Shannon - posted on 03/17/2010

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my daughter just turned turned 2 in febuary and she has promblems talking too, she sees a speech therapist (in part due to her prematurity) but that hasnt worked, so my advise is if your really worried go to his doctor or seek a speciality program thats in your area

Priscilla - posted on 03/17/2010

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Your child might just be very introverted, if you are worried you might want to contact a speech and language pathologist. If you live in Texas, Early Childhood Intervention or (ECI) will do a free evaluation.

Kristy - posted on 03/17/2010

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I don't think ya have anything to worry about, usually the 2 kid is sometime faster. Boys are slower, my sons turned 2 in febuary and his only just started saying different sound now and been trying to talk in the last week. I think start worrying when they are 2 and half. As long as he understands everything what going on around him, i don't think ya have anything to worry about.

TiffyTiff - posted on 03/17/2010

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give it until he is 2 1/2 and if nothing changes take him to a developmental specialist because my son is 3 and he isnt talkin in complete sentences he is just tryna repeat certain things but i took him to a specialist and they diagnosed him with a developmental problem but for your son everything will be ok just continue to work with him and see what happens

Barb - posted on 03/17/2010

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my son is 3 and is still talking where you cant understand a thing he is saying and my daughter is turning 2 in may and same thing. We have tried to teach them both but still nothing

Amanda - posted on 03/17/2010

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My son started saying words early and now can tell me what he wants and what is on his mind. He is two and makes up stories for me. Your doctor could give you more on what to do. Is he around other children his age? Some kids who don't have the chance to interact with others their own age and older don't have to speak. When the want something they know how to tell you and you respond. My son's first word was bus cause every morning we would sit by the window and watch the kids get on the bus. Maybe an activity every morning will get him on track. Try repeating yourself when you give him juice and don't give it to him till he tries a few times. Some kids have more to say I guess, but getting him to the park, play ground or even play group might make that little voice come out when he hears other kids talking.

Katie - posted on 03/17/2010

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i didnt go through that so i couldn't imagine. i have watched shows on tv i would take him to the doctor. if they find a problem early it would be easier to fix.

Miranda - posted on 03/17/2010

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my daughter is 19 months she will say things once and forget she wont say it again. but she understand everything you tell her. turn on a light or turn it off. throw something away you know... but she was walking at 9 months so she ismore physically advance but catching up with words. so i wouldnt really worry :)

Clerissa - posted on 03/17/2010

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All children develop differently, he just might not be ready. I know you probly already do this but just point different things out to him. I was also told that if you put an emphasis on words it helps them to learn how to say those words and remember them too. good luck

Jessica - posted on 03/17/2010

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(I wrote the following mostly for educational purposes, because I think all parents need to informed about autism. that said, I'm sure the poster's son is fine. : )

The only reason I would worry is if this is in combination with other behaviours. Does he communicate non-verbally with you? Does he respond to simple instructions? Does he engage in imaginative play (as opposed to only sorting, stacking or lining up toys)? Does he maintain good eye contact? Does he try to get your attention and show you things he has done or is happy or excited about? If several of these answers are no, then I would take him to a speech therapist or a paediatrician familiar with autism and have him assessed.

A couple other behaviours you can add to the list above: does he seems overly adverse to change or new things? (For example crying when you give him a new toy). Will he only eat two or three foods? Does he avoid other kids, freeze up, or cry in busy environments? Does he amuse himself for hours on end with simple things like looking at his hands? Does he seem sensitive to light, noise, touch or getting his hands dirty? Does he seem emotionally detached?

Autism is very treatable (even curable) if diagnosed and treated at a young age (the ideal starting time for treatment is under two and-a-half years). The window of opportunity for the most effective treatment closes quickly. Therefore, with this one it does not pay to "wait and see."

If however, your son seems otherwise typical and is just not talking yet, then I am sure he is fine; he is pretty young to be worrying about other causes yet.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/17/2010

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my daughter is 17 months and stil doesnt talk. I dont really think that there is anything to be worried about as long as he seems to be on track with everything else. My unlce didnt speak until he was about four years old and when he finally did the only thing he said about not talking was that he had nothing to say.

If you are really worried about it then I would ask your doctor and see what they say.

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Peds will tell you that every child is different. Some take time others just want to talk quick. You have two kids so maybe your son is just not ready yet. He understands that your other child talks, so maybe he just doesn't think he has to yet. It will probably be soon. When he wants something and no one is paying attention, lol. But you can sit down with him everyday and go through the letter cards with him. the one with the pics and letters. Most like after three days he will start to say a lil more.

Whitley - posted on 03/17/2010

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I had the same problem with my oldest daughter! I thought it could be a problem but come to find out she just didnt have anything to say! A couple months after she turned 2 she just took off talking and within a few months was speaking sentances! My youngest is 11 months old and is never quiet! Shes always wanting and willing to learn new words! Every child is different and as my dr says they will talk when they feel they have something you need to hear!

Melanie - posted on 03/17/2010

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I have a 2 yr old. He wasn't talking either. So my Doctor sent him to a Speech Specialist. He's been going for about 7 months now. He say's a lot now. Maybe talk to your Doctor and see what he/she says. Speech Therapy is good for them.

Alycia - posted on 03/17/2010

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My boys were the same way. My older son started talking very early and has an excellent grasp of vocabulary at 5 years old. My younger son just turned 4 and is now really picking up on his vocabulary, too, although he didn't really start talking until he was about 2 1/2. He had his own little language that he spoke in and then BOOM! He started talking all the time! Hopefully, that's all it will be with your son, too.

Katie - posted on 03/17/2010

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My lil one will be 2 in May and she isn't talking very much. She was 14 weeks premature, so she hit all of her milestones late. I was really worried about her speech, so I had her evaluated by a speech therapist and she's on track at 21 months responsive and 22 months receptive. My older daughter (who is now 3) started talking nonstop when she was 1 and started putting two words together by 18 months. You can't compare one child to the other, they are so different! Talk to your pediatrician and if that doesn't ease your worries, have him evaluated by a speech therapist. Things to help them get talking include giving him a choice (Do you want the apple or the banana?) and don't just "give in." Try to get him to say the first sound, at least. Ask three times, and then give it to him because you don't want him getting frustrated!

Heather - posted on 03/17/2010

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I,ve been having the same problem with my 3 yr old. His pediatrcian suggested getting him assessed for school. I was nervous at first but the school district in our area took him right away and he is a completely different kid. They said he needed more socialization with children his own age and are giving him speech therapy to motivate him to talk more. He only goes 2 and a half hours but really don't worry, boys are usually more active than girls and words aren't important to them.

Cortney - posted on 03/17/2010

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Well I am growing up with a family of little children teachers and nurses and I have always been told that if you put their hand on your mother and just repeat one word over and over for maybe 10 times then the vibrations of the word will go to them and they will learn faster to speak. I hope it works when my baby is born in july because I am going to try it right away. I know it worked for my fiances niece. She just turned one in february and she already knows a few words but her favorite is "hi".

Ashley - posted on 03/17/2010

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my son just turned 2 in jan. and he just started saying a few words but i think girls develop fast than boys and ive asked my doctor and he told me that he will talk when he is ready so give him time and it will happen

Lyn - posted on 03/17/2010

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It takes time. Just throw a single word at him and have him copy you. Make it into a game so its interesting and he would want to participate. Good Luck!

Annie - posted on 03/17/2010

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DO NOT WORRY!!!! i have not had a kid yet, but while being pregnant i have read sooooo many books on it,So far, many books have said not to worry about things like this, you can work on it a little more, but some kids do not develop as fast as others,you may want to check with your doctor,but many kids take much longer then others, to talk,to walk,even for their teeth to come in some are later then others,its crazy, but dont worry too much untill the doctor states something is wrong!

Heather - posted on 03/17/2010

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a friend of mine is going thru the same thing right now just be patient. give it time when he is redy to talk he will let it fly.. just keep working with him he will be fine. he will surprise you in the near future.

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Hi Paula even though all children are different most doctors will look at a child at this age and except them to have some sort of vocabulary whether big or small..I would advise you to speak to a doctor as soon as possible and if there's a speech problem the sooner the better its caught and speech therapy is introduced the better for your son and if not thats brilliant but a doctors visit wont hurt to be 100% sure.:-)

.my fist was stringing sentences together by one she had great speech for her age i was told...but my second is different and has a few words but not much shes 14 mths so the are all different her speech hasnt been looked at yet i think it will her next check-up.

Rebecca - posted on 03/16/2010

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Go to the elementary school in your district and see if you can set up an appointment with the speech pathologist. If he isn't able to take classes there (I think they have to be 3 yrs old) then I'm sure they would be happy to point you in the right direction. Also, talk to you pediatrition about an early intervention program in you area. My daughter went to that and is currently taking speech classes to get her prepared for preschool next year. I hope this helped!

Nancy - posted on 03/16/2010

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I got my son test and checked by a specialist when the walking thing was not happening. He started doing it at 18 months. I am that crazy mom that over worries he just took a little longer. It really depends how you feel. Also can he hear you? That is what you need to check.

Jackie - posted on 03/16/2010

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My oldest didnt talk till he was almost 2 1/2. We had taken him to speach therapy to make sure everything was ok and they said to just give him some time. a When he finally started talking he went stright to sentences. It was crazy! My youngest just turned one and he is saying mama, dada, and buba(brother). Its so funny how different sblings can be!!

Jessica - posted on 03/16/2010

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Honey, it is common! Most children don't start actual conversations until three! He is absorbing everything and he will talk when he is ready. My husband's first did not speak until three, but I will tell you this: She learned how to write her name, write simple sentences, and learned more advanced words at 3 1/2! He will talk when he is ready. Don't worry mom, you're doing just fine!

Leta - posted on 03/16/2010

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My firstborn is my son and he didnt start talking much until my parents as teacher helped me get him into a classroom setting for an evaluation. He was three and he didnt need the schooling so they let him go but his vocabulary took off. Now he doesnt want to stop talking. Then it got even better when he started headstart at four. Now he's almost 5.5! Dont worry he will be fine.

Jill - posted on 03/16/2010

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My son turned 2 about a month and a half ago and he just started saying a few choice words he doesnt even say mommy, I was told by his doctor it was because he had not been socialized and because I give him everything before he has a chance to ask.

Meredith - posted on 03/16/2010

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Thats pretty normal. I think. my son wasn't talking at two...maybe small things that didn't make since but then alittle after two he was talking in small sentences. Now he'll be 3 in May and he is talking really well...can't get him to stop. lol enjoy the silence.

Ashley - posted on 03/16/2010

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My first 3 boys started talking at a really early age, but my son will also be two in june, and says ball. thats it, he will shake his head yes and no, and if i ignore him and he gets frusterated, he will muster something that sounds like mom, but other than that nothing. he is sooo smart otherwise, he knows what everything is, where it is, where it goes, does any thing you tell him to do, get anything you tell him to get, but will not speak!!! his dr, is seeing him in 2 wks for it cuz they say at 18 months they should have a vocab of 50 words or more. it only freaks me out cuz my other 3 said probably 200+ words at 18-24 months.

Erica - posted on 03/16/2010

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My friends son is 4 and he still doesn't talk she took him to a specialist about a month ago and he has to get his tongue snipped but this is an extreme case. And does your son still suck on a nuk cause that may be limiting his speech. Best thing to do is talk and read too him as much as you can. Flashcards are good so he can learn what things are and how to read, you can pick them up at any store like walmart, target, exc... Also ask him questions so he is being givin the chance to respond.

Sade - posted on 03/16/2010

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I didn't have the same problem but maybe you should try enrolling him in speech and occupational therapies.

Kelly - posted on 03/16/2010

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my little boy turns 2 in 2 days and he still cant talk properly yet!! he can say words but not a sentance!! i asked my health visitor n she said not 2 worry cos all kids talk at different ages x

Tara - posted on 03/16/2010

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courtesy of preemie discussions for this post:

http://www.toddlerinterpreter.com

Research shows that Baby Sign Language can improve speech development in hearing baby's, this is especially important if your baby is premature as their adjusted age will be less than their peer group. Baby Sign Language uses simple gestures to communicate before you baby is verbal and you can begin from only a few months of age.

Tara - posted on 03/16/2010

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the suggestions about speech therapy were for our children, and in my case, my son needed it, he is 7 and still does not talk as well as he should. and in some cases if the baby was preemie then they might need speech therapy. it was a suggestion and in some cases needed-like mine. but who knows if your child needs it paula at this point. none of us know the situation :)

Brenda - posted on 03/16/2010

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Every child grows different. My first daughter did not talk clearly until she was about three and a half. She was almost through her first year of preschool. Do not worry he is fine. What i have learned after having four kids is that if u try to make them or force them to do something they will not do it. Just leave him alone and he will start talking in no time. Please do not listen to anyone telling u he need speech therapy, they told me that for my daughter. He is still growing and quit young. Once he start talking u are going to want him to be quiet, just playing.

Rebecca - posted on 03/16/2010

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My son is 2year old he didnt talk so what i do is sit down with him he show him thing what are they then he will talk!

Tara - posted on 03/16/2010

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and my husband didnt talk until he was 4 but his mom never did anything about it, so now he has some pronunciation problems

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