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my three year old is being mean to my six week old

Hollie - posted on 04/05/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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lately my three year old daughter is being really mean to my six week old daughter she will go into my room were we have her bassinet and pull on our six week old arm at first i thought it was to get her closer to try and get her out because i caught her before trying to get her out of the bassinet. but it has started to when the six week old starts crying she runs in there and just pulls on her arm or if someone goes in to look at her she will go in and do it before you can say anything to her. i have tried explaining to her that we dont do that that it could really hurt our little sister but it doesnt seem to help i am trying time outs in her room now but it is not helping i am afriad that the next step is a spanking i dont want to spank her because if we hit her she might think that it is ok to hit her sister. she is also being mean to our dog going over and hiting and pulling her fur and tail. i dont know what to do is it just a fase she is going through or is because she is no longer the only child and she is mad that mommys time is split between her and her sister i am at a loss here. my biggest fear is that she will really hurt her little sister and that is not what i want at all i am up for any suggestions from anyone

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Jenifer - posted on 04/05/2010

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Maybe she can tell you what is wrong. If she is jealous maybe you can tell her and set a timer and tell her when the bell rings that you will spend time with her and have just 5 minutes to spend with her,

Kristy - posted on 04/05/2010

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My suggestion is be firm but understanding! Really stick with time outs... but try some other place besides her room, the bottom step of the stairs or a chair at the kitchen table or even a folding chair you put in the hallway when she needs to use it. This way she won't get playing with toys in her room and forget she is in time out. She should be thinging about why she is there not playing. 3 minutes for a three year old!!!! Before she can get up get on her level and explain to her why she is there, make her say sorry to you and the baby. Also make sure to pay her a little extra attention for good behavior instead of bad. My son went through the same thing when my second son was born and he was about the same age. Most likely she is acting out because she is not feeling like the most important thing in your world any more. The good news is she will grow out of it, most likey in a few more months, just stick with it! I wouldnt go with spanking... i believe that hitting a child only teaches them to hit!

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