my three year old will not write her name

Rebecca - posted on 01/28/2009 ( 23 moms have responded )

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my three year old little girl started preschool a few weeks ago, she love's it but when you drop her off im ment to get her to sit down and write her name, only she will not do it i have now tryied it at home stitting her down and doing it with her but i get the same thing she dont want to. all the other children there can do it but not mine dose any one have any idea's thanks

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Julie - posted on 01/29/2009

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Maybe it's the sitting down and the pressure thing that is throwing her off.  It does seem a bit odd for them to try to force the to write their names so early.  My daugther is 3, she can write her name but it's Ava, so it's super easy.  AVA.  Plus she's been in daycare since she was 2 and they have always done the dot to dot letters so she's had a year of practice.  Does she like to color or do anything like that?  She could just be into other things right now, don't worry about it at all.  She's still so young and some kids are better at that type of thing...focus of the thigns that she excels at and praise her on those so she knows your proud!  Encourge, don't get discouraged.

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that's strange.. i wouldn't expect a 3 yr old to do that. my daughter is 3 and she can't write her name either... let alone TELL people her name sometimes. she is still practising her communication skills!  practising can't hurt her any, assuming she wants to. .. if her name is long, i would suggest starting with her short form. and start by writing out her name in dots and get her to connect the dots. My daughter's name is Lillian, and we call her Lily for short. I'll bet it's much easier for such a young girl to learn 3 or 4 letters, instead of 7 or 8 of them! Wow... it seems like her school is very pushy/rushing the kids!

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Shannon - posted on 01/29/2009

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I just want to say that I wish the people at your preschool could read all these responses. It's not right to have pressure put on you and your child to learn something that some many kids did not pick up until years later. I also wanted to say that I LOVE Sheila Pichoskie's idea about using pudding or sand, make it fun :) I think I am going to be "playing" in the sand with the kids next time we end up at the beach.

Emma - posted on 01/29/2009

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my little girl cerys has just started to do it and she is 5 i tried everything but she was not into it at all i never pushed her she did it in her own time xxx

Maria - posted on 01/29/2009

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Hmmmm sounds a little advance for some 3 yo's.  Can she reconize her name if you were to right it. I always thought reading came before writing.  She might not be ready for it. Have you talked to her teachers and dr.  There are many steps that lead up to writing. Reconinizing Lettters and Pictures, Being able to hold the pencil, crayon, etc.  Has she shown in intrest in writing. 



My dd showed an intrest in writing at about 2 and 1/2 by watching me write and do homework. She wanted to do homework too. So we started off with numbers. Those are more solid in a young childs brain. She can only write straight numbers as i call them 1, 7, 11 etc. But she practies her "homework" every day. I dont except it to be perfect. But as long as she shows an intrest we will keep at it. When she gets mad or frustrated we move on to something else. Like drawing circles or squillies. She can count to 15 w/ help. 10 w/o. Shes not as prfecent w/ the Alphabet, but we keep practicing and as with numbers we just keep at it as long as she shows an intrest we will keep at.  The more she gets frustrated w/ it the less shell want to do it.



Have you tried getting her to write other words. Ive learned w/ my dd that if I want her to do something reverse pyschology works the best. The more I want her to do something the less she wants to do it. We practiced every other word but her name after a few days of that she wanted to right her name.. And she would start asking.. But a few days of you dont wan to that  and her stubborn streak kicks in too and I dont have to worry about it.  Also Can she write any other letters. I would start off by having her practice the alphabet.



 



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my son was 5 when he first wrote his name(mackenzie) I also started off with mac to make it easier.when i finaly broke down and asked for help i was told they learn things faster when u get creative..the game me a list of things to try and for my son it worked.I hope it will work for your daughter.

1. Try getting her to spell name with pudding... like painting with fingers
2. Cereal is a good one too
3. Sand

things she loves to play with are always helpfull... i found my son loved the pudding way.He would paint it and lick fingers and it really got him wanting to learn..

Danielle - posted on 01/29/2009

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My boy is soon to be 5 and he started writing his name just around age of 4, he started coloring pictures to send to "grandma" and everyone and thats one way he got interested in writing his name.

Mona - posted on 01/29/2009

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eeeehhhh...that`s a bit early!!! -I don`t think that this is something to expect from a three year old!



my girl wrote it whwn she was thre..but then again; she is early!!-she walked when she was eight months old...

Amanda - posted on 01/29/2009

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My daughter turned 4 last November and she can't write her name either. Her name is Maddison which is a bit hard so I've been trying to teach her to write Maddy, she knows what a "M","O", "D","T" and sometimes "A" looks like can write them but not her numbers or other letters yet. She starts pre-school next week so I guess they will be able to tell me if she is a bit slow I guess, she had bacterial meningitis as a 3 month old and they said I probably wouldn't find out until she started school if she would be behind.

Rachel - posted on 01/29/2009

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hi there. i have a five yr old son. he knows his numbers and his letters, but can't write them. he just cant grip a pencil properly. i found if i let him go at his own pace he is happy to practice, if i push he just gets frustrated. they will all learn at there own pace. there will be things you're daughter can do that the other kids can't. good luck with it all

Shannon - posted on 01/28/2009

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I have a step son who is almost 5, he has been writing his name since a little before 3. I also have a step daughter who is almost 4, and to this day has never wrote her name. Kids all pick things up at their own speed. I do really like the dot-to-dot idea, you can get books that have the same kind of idea for teaching kids to write. Kids are like the rest of us, if they are not interested, they wont want to do it. There will come a time that she wants to learn how. Until then, don't worry about it.

Amanda - posted on 01/28/2009

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hi. my daughter is also 3 and she cannot yet write her name, she has just started pre school and they encourage her to draw over her name that they have written. when she arrives in pre school she has to find her name on her coat peg and also on her name card which they stick to a chart to show they are there. personally i think 3 years old is too young to be pushing kids tro write their name, at this age its all about play and enjoying what they are doing. if your daughter is anything like mine (and most 3 year olds) if she feels pressured she's even less likely to do it!! she'll do it in her own time and if she feels you are stressed she will get stressed too.

Erica - posted on 01/28/2009

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Don't sweat it. I'm home schooling my 5yr old and my 3.5 yr old. I'm not even making my 3.5 yr old write her name my 5 yr old started to write his name whn he was 4. The schooling system is rushing kids way to much.

Bec - posted on 01/28/2009

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mark making is early emergent writing so if you can encourage her to look at her name and then make some marks on the paper that she thinks look like her name then i would be happy with that. shes very young and has lots of time! try not to worry.

Rebecca - posted on 01/28/2009

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thanks every one i have a new communitie if any one would like to become a member its called mums all round thanks again

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oh my she is 3. great for the other kids, but it sounds like they are really pushing the children to much @ your center. I have a child Development degree, let her be a kid. Stop pushing her. there are children that start kindergarten and still don't write there names. you seem like a good mom, but was this a concern before she started at the preschool? she is a individual, and don't worry about what other children can & can not do, or what her teachers high expectations are. God luck & God Bless

Samantha - posted on 01/28/2009

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hi, my son is 4 in March and he doesn't know how to hold a pen properly to even start writing his name. my daughter will be 5 at end on March and it's only over the past few months that she has learnt to write her name, but its always big writing which spreads right up the page on an angle lol, she will learn in her own time and the school will help teach her

Samantha - posted on 01/28/2009

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my 4 year old will only write it if his asked to and then its hard for him to stay concentreted, dotn rush her or pressurise her, itl make it worse x

Rebecca - posted on 01/28/2009

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hi well she can identify her name, her name is abigail but i want to start with abi she can identify a and she can find her peg at school as well

Tamara - posted on 01/28/2009

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from a young age, i did a dot to dot in the shape of my sons name to help him gain pencil control, then the basic shapes are there, all they have to do it join them.

gradually make them further apart and finally start writing it out and asking your child to copy it.
it will take time and all children develop different to others, so dont worry too much :) she will get it

Kim - posted on 01/28/2009

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I'm surprised they ask them to do that. My 3 year just started playschool. When she gets there she has to find her name three times, once at the door on a little popsicle stick person and move it to a new spot, then on her cubbie hole and then on her name tag. I would think that maybe be the end of playschool in may she would be able to attempt to Write her name. For your daughter I think it's just practice and sometimes time until she is patient enough  and interested enough to try. Can she identify her name if she saw three? If not maybe start there, then with the individual letter, then writing it? Hope i've helped a little.



 

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