Leah - posted on 09/21/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )
Ok, so here's the problem. My husband and I have been talking for the last couple of months about adding a third child to our family in the next little while. Our oldest is 3 1/2, our youngest is 10 months, so we were thinking about starting to try by the time our youngest hits 18 months. We are both very fertile ;) so I know we would get pregnant with in a couple of tries. Thats not the problem but this is. My sister, who is truly like the second mother to our children, has been trying to have children of her own for the last 3 years with her husband with no sucess. My BIL has a very low sperm count and my sister doesn't ovulate regularly but they are still trying. My sister is amazing to our kids, she sees them pretty much every day, calls me up on her day off to see if she can take them for the day to give me a break, buys them clothes (not because we need or ask her too, she works at a chilrens clothing store and likes to buy them clothes) and is just the most amazing auntie. She is dying to have children of her own and I know it hurts her that she hasn't had the pleasure of seeing that + sign yet. I'm the younger sister by 2 years and if I were to get pregnant with my third before she gets pregnant with her first, well, lets just say that I'm scared she would be so hurt and upset she wouldn't talk to me. Even if she acted happy on the outside, I know she would be hurt on the inside.
So the question is, does my husband and I hold off having another one for now and give my sister more time to try, do I talk to her about it first or do we just go ahead with our plan and let her deal? What would you do?