need help so bad

Jasmine - posted on 10/30/2009

Your doing a good job, just relax, Im 20 with a 2 month old son and when hes crying i see if hes hungry, maybe then try to burp him and change his bum, if its none of those i just cuddle him and hes fine, and somtimes hes just really tired and needs to sleep. Don't worry its normal. Walking away is a good thing when your stressed at least that is what i was told to do. Keep up the good work and if you ever need to talk im here!

Stephanie - posted on 10/30/2009

oh and your baby is a product of u, and feels your stress... try to relax as much as u can

Stephanie - posted on 10/30/2009

your normal! 100%! are you breast feeding???? that can physically drain your body sooooo much! its better to walk away then to get angry with a baby, but remember, baby needs you and doesnt ynderstand y you dont understand him/her. At night i would give my baby a nice warm bath, feeding (with a little cereal in the bottle) nice massage with massaging baby oil, and a song... it might sound like a lot but in an hour your baby could be asleep and you could be almost there too :) hope it helps.

Anna - posted on 10/30/2009

Don't worry, she's just priming her lungs for when she grows up to become a world famous opera singer! I also have a two month old daughter and sometimes when it's the middle of the night and she won't stop wailing, I draw a nice warm bath, light a few candles, and bring her with me into the tub. Guaranteed peace within minutes. Keep your chin up Momma.

Marse - posted on 10/30/2009

don't worry hun ........ seems like ur doing everything u should ...... when i had my daughter i was the same way, i had no help from any family members, so i use to cry when i didn't know what to do, and belive me there is always something new, once u get a hange of something its time to learn something else.......but anyway listen, enjoy that stage, it's true when they say "they grow so fast" that stage will go by veryyyyyyyy fast ........ good luck and keep up the good work

Crystal - posted on 10/30/2009

Sweety, it takes some time to adjust. Don't hate on yourself because its stressful. I have taken several classes and they all say the same thing about it. If you feel that you need to step away so as to not lose your cool, that is okay. Don't feel bad. Just make sure that you know that it all gets better with time. Its probably just because you are really tired and havent gotten used to the lack of sleep. Your talk of the time you enjoy with her during the day shows that you really love being a mommy, but that you are just tired and need a helping hand from time to time. Good luck and hang in there.

Jennifer - posted on 10/30/2009

I'm 25 with a 2 year old and YES, it IS normal to cry. I did, but I would talk to your doctor about it. It COULD be ppd, which is nothing to be ashamed of. Your body just went through a trauma 2 months ago, your hormones are out of whack...but if you have ANY thoughts, no matter how small, of hurting yourself, or your child, see your doc IMMEDIATELY! Even if it's in the middle of the night, the baby is crying, go to the ER.

If she is crying ALL THE TIME...what bottles do you use?? I was dead-set on using those Avent-flow bottles...JUNK! You could still see the bubbles while he was suckling...I went OLD SCHOOL (my mom used them with me). Playtex bottles...they use the "bags"...(I can't remember what they are called...I think Playtex nursers.) The bottles are plastic and round, and hollow...you put the Playtex plastic "drop ins" and after you make the bottle, you push the air (ALL THE AIR) out...As soon as I did that, my little man wasn't so fussy, or gassy! Another thing you could try, if she is gassy or burping a lot, hold her (wrapped also) with your arm under her legs and push them up as far as its comfy to her chest...Pressure on pressure, relieves pressure...That'll help get any air/gas outta her faster!

I am a person who NEEDS at least 7 hours of sleep to function. My son slept in his bassinet till he was 3 months old, then we put him in his own bed. Maybe your little one needs a routine, like mine did. Bottle, diaper change, a story, a lullaby, rocked during rough nights, then bed, even if he wasn't asleep. We played a baby lullaby cd and a small/dim nightlight...it worked. Bath before bed helped out a lot too...

I TOTALLY understand about walking away and let them cry while you catch your breath, but when you do that, try to sing or talk a little louder (but calm as you can) to let her know she's not alone...I still do that with my son.

In some ways, I'm still in the same boat you are, even though my lil one is 2. A few weeks ago he was diagnosed with moderate/severe autism, and he doesn't speak, so I'm STILL playing the guessing game..

Just remember, you are your child's lifeline, you are her "spokeswoman"...God doesn't give you more than you can handle...so just talk to Him...it has always helped me. I used to look at my sis-in-law (her 5 yr old boy has autism) and think," O God, I couldn't imagine, please don't let that happen to my baby...I'm not as strong as she is...I couldn't do it". Well, apparently, He thinks I am strong enough...and you know what?...I am! I have to be...and so are you!! You can do it...keep your head up!! Lots of luck...Jen

Natasha - posted on 10/30/2009

You sound exactly as I did. I had Post Natal Depression. I was also 27 with my first child. I was a bank manager who made important decisions all day. I found myself at home looking after my son and I didn't have the same confidence as I did in my job. I was crying all the time, snappy and just a mess. Please reach out for help and assistance. My son is now 10 months old and I am in a totally new head space. I really enjoy being a mother. I found the first 3-4 months the worst and hardest. After that initial time your confidence grows, as you get to know your child. It really takes that long to fully understand them. I would say I didn't come out of my 'fog' until he was 6-7 months and when he started sleeping through the night at 8 months, I really started to get myself back. What your going through is very common. I had help from my Mum most days (she helped with the housework) and my husband took the Fri & Sat night shift, so I could sleep. I still woke up, but I made sure I stayed in bed and he got up, so my body could relax. Hang in there, there will be a time when its worth it.

Suzen - posted on 10/30/2009

You never really 'get the hang of it' Babies grow so fast that just when you think you've got it, they change. Walking away to get you head on is exactly what you should do. If your stressed out, she'll pick up on that, and she'll cry more.
It's hard work, but it'll get easier. Just remember that he loves you more than anything, and she always will.

Alissa - posted on 10/30/2009

i would really suggest reading a book or just researching thing on the internet. whenever i have a question i go to my book its called on becoming baby wise. it has gotten through the worst of times. and don't feel bad that you cant make her happy the second she cries. sometimes babies need to cry.

E - posted on 10/30/2009

walking away when you need a break is the best thing to do!, i always had a hard time at night too. the night is the worst part, but she'll learn to sleep thru the night soon. have you tried taking naps when she does during the day to try and prepare for a sleepless night? that night help. it definitly gets easier! if you cry a lot you should definitly talk to your doctor though! good luck

Angelica - posted on 10/30/2009

talk to your doctor,could be post partum, try talking to a friend or family member about everything, stress doesnt make it any better. &I let mine cry it out. now they all sleep through night and go to bed without any issues,no bottles or cups, no habits that im going to have to break. I never started them so i wouldnt have to stop them. honestly the best thing you can do when you're freaking out is to walk away. i mean you know, make sure she is safe,in her crib and let her go. its better for both of you then you getting mad or upset with her. thats dangerous and just makes it worse for you both.

Melissa - posted on 10/30/2009

Oh honey you are just going through the hormonal crash right after a baby. I went through it as well and it does get easier. The best thing you can do is get plenty of help with housework, get plenty of sleep- when baby allows. And don't forget to tell yourself that you ARE a good mom and the way you mommy is the way it's supposed to be. Accentuate the positive as much ad possible.

Tera - posted on 10/30/2009

I think that every first time mom goes through that. I know that I did. There is nothing wrong with you. The baby is only 2 months old, it will get alot better. The two of you are still getting to know what works for the both of you.

April - posted on 10/30/2009

Honestly sweetie, nothing is wrong with you. I have a six week old son and I was like that during the first 4 weeks. Your hormones are still all outta wack and you are not sleeping like a normal person. I would cry when I got irritated cuz I was not sleeping, but it will pass! eventually you will get the hang of sleep depo. Some times at night my son will cry alot, like he does not want his sucky, he isn't hungery, it is like he is fighting his sleep. Maybe that is what your daughter is doing? Just hang in there that is what i have to tell myself every night! lol Good luck!

HELEN - posted on 10/30/2009

you should talk to your family doctor. It is good that you walk away to take a breather. try to tire her out at night. have you tried to give her a warm bath at night?

Nicole - posted on 10/30/2009

Don't worry, every mommy goes through this, especially the first few months. Sleep deprivation is probably starting to kick in so it gets really hard to deal with anything let alone a screaming baby that can't tell you what they want. Actually thats the only way they know how to communicate. Don't feel guilty about walking away, as long as the baby isn't crying so hard that they can't breathe it is perfectly fine to walk away. Take a couple of minutes to gather your thoughts and remind yourself that this is normal and that you are a great mother...it will get better! And don't be afraid or embarrassed to speak to a doctor, it could be postpartum depression which is very very common because having a child is a huge change and responsibility that nobody or any classes can fully prepare you for.

ARIANE - posted on 10/30/2009

nothing is wrong with u as a matter of fact it sounds normal to me...im 26 nad have two kids my youngest is 6 months...and oldest is 8 so it feels like this is my first time al over again..u should check with your OBGYN though u may have PPD....i had it for about three weeks after delivery...but it will get better!!! just remember that CRYING is the only way your baby knows how to communicate right now so be patient and follow you natural mother instinct....when u dont have that ....then u should be worried....lol

Ashley - posted on 10/30/2009

ok there is absolutely nothing wrong with you!! being a mom is hard work and i dont care what anyone else says. your baby is only 2 months it takes time to get the mommy thing down!! dont worry about not knowing excatly what your baby needs. just go through all the steps, does your baby have a clean diaper?, is he/she to hot to cold?, is he/she hungry, or maybe they just want to be held... you can not spoil a baby at this age!! if your go through al the steps and your baby is still crying then by all means do not feel bad about letting them cry it out.. there have been people that have hurt their babies from be to over whelmed and stressed. It is far better to let them cry it out and leave the room assuming they are in a safe place. you are very smart for walking away. taking a break and having u time is just as important as taking care of your baby.. when you have time for your self you come back less stressed! I hope this helps u out.. congrats on your baby and im sure your a great mommy

Jessica - posted on 10/30/2009

there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. you have to remember your hormones are going crazy for quite a while so the crying your doing is normal and will stop. there is also nothing wrong with walking away for a few minutes to gather yourself when she is crying...try to sleep when she sleeps and set her feeding schedule so her belly is full when its night time so she might sleep longer. Dont feel like you should be a pro by now, these babies dont come with instruction manuals!!!!! everyday is a learning experience. you asked for help that means thats better than a lot of people!!!! God bless and take a deep breath.

Amy - posted on 10/30/2009

no there's nothing wrong with you. my almost 5 month old fights sleep like none other at night, even tho i know she's exhausted. i've cried too, and just had to walk away. it's good that you do that. you still are a person, you need time too. don't beat yourself up, it's hard, and sometimes babies just need to cry it out. i read in a book that letting your baby cry is a lot harder on you than it is on your baby.

Sharice - posted on 10/30/2009

It's completly natural to feel overwhelmed when becoming a mom. Trust me I did, and it's good to have support from family and friends. Becoming a mom is a total new step to figure out because it's not just you anymore. Sometimes it's good not to pick up your child until you get your head on straight and calm your nerves, I remember when my son was born and he would flip out, I would go somewhere and just scream, that was the only way to let out my frustrations. Don't feel like your a bad mom, I'm sure that you are great and that your daughter has a great example of what a woman and a mother is supposed to be. We all get frustrated and we are never going to be perfect, just pray and ask God to guide you and help you where you feel you come up short.

Ebony - posted on 10/30/2009

the best thing that u can do is sleep when every the baby sleeps and if u think that u need a time out take it it is ok to let the baby cry then once u take ur time out u cum bacc to it fresh and new and it should work for u and sweete there is nothing wrong with its just part of b'n a mom

Beth - posted on 10/30/2009

There is nothing wrong with you ...it is all part of being a new mother. I am 25 having my first, and it was a difficult adjustment for me too. It is really hard on us when we are sleep deprived. I do agree with the other about talking to your doctor about postpartum depression. It is a very common thing among new moms. I can remember cry also when my daughter wouldn't stop crying and I didn't know what was wrong. I would sit her down and walk away to get my head on straight, and that is the best thing to do so nothing happens. We don't have all the answers sometimes. If you have done everything for him/her and they are still crying, then they are just fussy. My daughter would fuss sometimes just to fuss. She wouldn't be hungry, have a messy diaper, or anything. I know my daughter would fuss sometimes because she had gas pains. Have you tried gas drops or anything? It took me 3 mo. to figure that out. It is all part of being a new mom, but IT DOES GET BETTER! One day you will look back and think where has the time gone!! I hope this helps.

Kayla - posted on 10/30/2009

It is very normal the lack of sleep alone is trying on your emotions. Just remember that it gets better! I think all moms go through this feeling of being no good at the mommy thing. but you will get the hang of it and in no time you will be looking back telling yourself that you wish your baby was 2mo all over again.

Suset - posted on 10/30/2009

Everything you've described is normal. I'm going through the same thing, I'm 27 and also have a 2 month old, the only difference is that she is my second child. Trust me even the second time around, you can feel like you don't know what you're doing. Don't let yourself get so overwhelmed, as long as her needs are being met, crying will not damage her. Maybe having your partner, if you are not single, take her for a while a night can bring relief to the both of you, that's what I do. If you really feel overwhelmed or start feeling like the negative feelings are completely taking over your life you should talk to a doctor. It may be postpartum depression, which can progressively get worse and affect your entire well being. Remember to also take care of yourself and try to find some time for yourself when you have the opportunity. Good luck, and feel better.

Sunni - posted on 10/30/2009

You are doing great you are walking away if you need to and being there all the times you should be. Just know it will get better, it will get better I promise.

Kimberly - posted on 10/30/2009

Dont worry this is completely normal....its okay!, and walking away to get your head on straight is a good way to gain control and composure of the situation, then you can calmly take care of the situation. Also let your doctor know whats going on PPD is so common, I have it. This is a new routine for you, a new well everything.....it will take time to adjust to then with a blink it will change again...lol.....my son is 15mo now really thats when it starts to change when they start crawling and walking, become more independent. My son takes a nap everyday between 10-1030....he'll lay quiet for awhile then I'll hear him start fussing cause he wants to get out, but I wait and eventually he falls asleep. CONSISTENT ROUTINE IS EVERYTHING......my best advise it to listen to everyones advise and choose your own path to conquer your days.

Lucy - posted on 10/30/2009

I would like to give you a HUGE hug! This is exactly how i felt when i had my baby boy and it took about 6 months before i was even having a good time in the day! It is the toughest job in the world but it does get easier and you'll get to know each other and settle into your own routine soon enough. I wish you all the best. Know that you are doing a fantastic job looking after your baby and all the care you put in now will be rewarded. The first few months are tough but your baby will grow so fast and it won't be long until it will give you so much love back. Stay strong, accept any help from friends and family, try to get some time for yourself (even having a nice bath or something) and feel proud of yourself. lots of love xxx

Melissa - posted on 10/30/2009

Everyone is different just han in there and talk to your doc tell him/her wat is goin on you might help wit something else. Breaking down into a cry can be normal when you a new mother its hard specailly when you are so tired. Hang in there and good luck!

Lindsay - posted on 10/30/2009

my daughter is almost one and i still have those days!! being a mom is hard in every way!! yet its very rewarding!! and since your baby is only 2 months you still have lots of hormons from being prego..i think its a good thing if you feel like you need to get it together to put your baby in a safe place and take a few min. to your self.. i have done that before.. thats a good method i think.. just hang in there.. know EVERY mom weither they admit it or not stuggles with being a mom.. or at least i do.. almost everyday.. hope that helps good luck!!

Katie - posted on 10/30/2009

You are doing just fine, hunnie! It's completely normal to get emotional when you're deprived of sleep or when your baby is upset and you can't seem to find a cause. It will all come with time. Just know that it is not your fault.



As long as you know that she's fed and clean, walking away to take a few minutes to calm yourself down is EXACTLY the right thing to do!! Our local family health nurses actually advise setting baby down in a safe place [such as a crib or playpen] if you're having a hard time handling it because it decreases the chances of an accident resulting in shaken baby syndrome happening.



Keep your chin up, girlie. You're doing great and things WILL get better!!

Katelyn - posted on 10/30/2009

there is absoluty nothing wrong with you ... my husband worked midnight for the first year of my oldest daughters life... i think i cried everynight ... she would scream and i would just rock her and cry ... it is ok to let them cry abit too it develops their lungs.. i suggest putting her in her car seat and if you put the car seat ontop of the dryer and run a load thru the dryer ... the vibrations will almost always lul her to sleep.. my mother in law shwoed me that one.. also try going to a walk with her... it will clear you head and put her to sleep.. . every mom i know has weepy moments

Carly - posted on 10/30/2009

Hi! There is nothing wroing with you honey! It is a big adjustment having a newborn baby in your care.Is this your first baby?I was very overwhelmed with my son Logan the first 2 months.Do u have a mom who you can talk to about this?Your not a bad mum @ all dont' think that for a minute!! You wll get the hang of it....you just need a bit of help,and a bit of time to adjust to being a mummy!! I think you should have a chat to your dr to ..see if tehy can help you to feel more relaxed with your bub.Best of luck honey you'll be fine!!!

carly

Erica - posted on 10/30/2009

There is nothing wrong with you. I have a 6 weeks old baby girl and I get frustrated at times when she cries because she doesn't cry that often so I don't really have to deal with it. I do the same thing I walk away from her when she is crying at times also it's best to do so that you know your going to be calmer when you do pick her up. The only thing that you can really do is make sure that she has a clean diaper and fed. If that doesn't work try holding her close that helps with my little girl at times, I also try and burp her because it's sometimes just gas. If it keeps continueing and getting worse I would take her to the doctors and make sure that she doesn't have colic because that could be causing her to cry. It will get easier, I know exactly what you're going through.

Jessica - posted on 10/29/2009

there is nothing wrong with you , it sounds like u might have postpartum depression . i did really bad , i cried like u and even worse . its nothing to be ashamed of . and it does not mean u r a bad mom. u will get the hang of it , being a new mom is hard . i hope u feel better and that this helped

Becky - posted on 10/29/2009

I don't see anything wrong with what you are doing. i have been their , i had my first at 18 and the 2nd at 20. you are not a bad mom it is hard to be young and a first time parent. we don't always know what is wrong or why they are crying. It takes time. people cry when they get frustrated when they don't know what is wrong or how to fix it and it seems to me that we all get that way a lttle bit more with not alot of sleep. it is also ok to walk away for a couple of minutes to claer your head. somethimes it gets to be over welming and we need just a few minutes just to regroup. it will not hurt the baby to cry a little. i think that you are doing everything how you should it'll take time but it will get better and easier. stay strong

Melissa - posted on 10/29/2009

Walking away when you have had too much is not wrong, its the right thing to do. If you need a second or even a couple of minutes to take a deep breath, then that is what your baby needs also, because your baby needs a mommy who can relax and take a step back from the situation, not someone who acts on impulse. Everyone has a hard time at some point in the beginning, who wouldn't with such little sleep? Just try to remember that if she cries its really not the end of the world, and try to listen to that instinct reflex, sometimes its buried really deep down under the layers of stress and sleeplessness.

Sinikka - posted on 10/29/2009

definately nothing wrong with you especially if its when you havent slept enough, i get really bad if i dont sleep or dont eat
and sometimes you have to let your baby cry as hard as it may be, i know i let mine cry if i know i have tried everything i can and i just need a small break or if there are other things that need to get done, as long as you're not letting her cry when shes hungry or in need of something
it sounds to me like you're doing ok, its better to walk away than to get angry at her!!!

Jessica - posted on 10/29/2009

There is nothing wrong with you.Being a new mommy is a big change and its not always easy.And for your new baby is not easy discovering this new world,a crib,lights,weird noises.When she was in your belly she didnt have to worry about these things.I think you baby needs time to adapt to her new surroundings and soon she'll be soon she'll be getting a good night sleep and you will too.She needs to feel safe thats why she cries at night and only your arms can give her that security.She will grow out of it I promise.I have 3 kids and i went through that with all of them.what I did was before bedtime I would give the baby a warm bath,then her warm bottle then I would put a CD of baby lullabies and that was it.They were out.So,Don;t worry youre doing just fine improvise try different thimgs you will find something that will southe her...

Carolee - posted on 10/29/2009

It sounds like you've got the hand of this mothering thing, actually. I had to do the same thing. The only suggestion that I have is... naps! My son is 2 years old, and I still nap at least twice a week! When he was born, I napped every time he napped, then every other time, then once a day, then one to two times per week when my body got its energy back. As far as the crying, all you can do is basically as yourself, is she changed, fed, warm, cold, bored, or overstimulated? Other than that, there are times when she will cry for absolutely no reason (that we can see), and she just needs to get it out of her system. The best thing you can do then, is to put her down when you get frustrated, and walk away for a couple of minutes until you can compose yourself and go through the checklist again. Good luck.

Alicia - posted on 10/29/2009

its better to put her down and walk away then to hurt her and dont worry i went through this with all my babies my youngest is 2 1/2 mo right now it gets better hang in there good luck momma

Amanda - posted on 10/29/2009

There is nothing wrong with you! all moms or at least most moms get over whelmed I know I did when my son was little. I use to cry with him. Mostly when I did not get sleep cause he was up all night and so was I so we were both very fustrated. I have walked away for a few minutes and let him cry a dozen times also that was actually the most given adivice to me when I was pregnant. Its better for you to take those few minutes to get your head under control then to continue to be fustrated won't be any good to you or the baby. So from what I can see you are doing fine. My son is three now and he is fine so if it helps just keep doing what you are doing.

Lyn - posted on 10/29/2009

My daughter is 4.5months and screams a lot in the evening too...Last night she screamed for 5hrs straight. I put her in her crib and sat outside for a few minutes and called my sister. I have a list of a few people in my life that I can call no matter what and that helps so much! It will get better! FInd people to support you....Mommy and Me groups and activities are great as well as talking to your doctor if you're feeling overwhelmed!!! Good Luck Momma!

Laura - posted on 10/29/2009

oh and make sure you have a little mommy time even and hour a day or night whichever is better for you

Laura - posted on 10/29/2009

no my dear.. there is nothing wrong with you!! youre a new mom with a newborn.. it can be frustrating.. with my first i cried a lot!! b/c bf was hard, no sleep.. umm yeah that will do it lol.. my second was a bit easier b/c i kind of knew better how to deal.. it will come with time.. take advan of help offered with everything.. even ask for it.. ur doing wonderful.. and normal.. ur doing right by walking away a bit too.. good on you.. sometimes you just have to to get right again.. its ok, you love your baby.. and it will get easier.. just breathe

Rebecca - posted on 10/29/2009

You sound like i did with my first child...there is nothing wrong with you at all. Everyone deals with things differently. Remember your hormones are still tryingt o get back on track from having a baby, which is why you may be crying. If you onyl cry when she cries it's most likly becuase you feel bad not being able to give her what she needs do to not knowing her cries yet (i still don't believe in that, i personal try until i get the right thing...even with my 2 year old it's still a hit and miss sometimes) I do however recommedn getting in to your Dr to have some discussions about depression. I know a lot of mothers who have it and are feeling more confidant now that they got help. There is nothing to be ashamed of when talking to your Dr. I know i go in for blood work in a few months to check my hormones as i knowi'm not back to the way i was before my son who is 2 and we just had a daughter who is no 3 months...we are still trying to figure out how i even got pregnant as i hate sex now lol...she is a God send though:)
Things will get easier in time, trust your instinct. You know her best...she ahs been with you for alonst a year remember. Does your spouse help at all during the night? are you nursing your daughter or formula? Maybe you could pump some so he could feed once or make some extra bottles for he can get up and feed.
When she is crying adn you pick her up does she stop after a few seconds or keeps crying? Try doing the love rub on her tummy if she is still crying when you pick her up. She might have gas and this will help without having to use gripe water. I have done this with both my kids and it works wonders! If it is gas, also try a warm bath before doing the tummy rub...if you do the rub first she may poop in the tub lol. A bath can help relax her belly some. (You can find it online just type in love massage for babies). Try laying her on her side and supporting her front and back so she doesn't flip. With both mine they lay on their sides andi have 2 thin blankets under the fitted sheet under the head to help prop them some so they weren't completly flat. My son hated laying flat adn my daughter, i learned fast, did too.
Maybe she is getting too much stimulation during the day as well. Try letting her be alone for a bit during the day. Try not to interact directly with her. Does she sleep a lot during the day? Where does she sleep in her bed, swing??? at night does she sleep with you or alone? I know with both my kids i had to have them in a craddle right next to my side of the bed. My daughter even right nwo still cocks her head so she can see me through the bars. Does your daughter use a pacifier?
Things will come more easliy as you get going, remember ti has only been 2 months of actual contact with her so you are both learning about eachother. Try to relax some. Take a warm bath at night and get your spouse to take a shift at night.
Good luck with everything!!

Kristy - posted on 10/29/2009

Honey, There is nothing wrong with you. Getting upset when you you have had little sleep is normal. I have three and when mine wake up even npw ther are nights I want to cry because I am so tired and my youngest is two. It will get better.

And walking away when frustrated is okay. It is a good move when you need to calm down. I did it all the time and still do sometimes. I make sure they are safe then give mommy a timeout. It helps me remember they a just children. Keep it up.

Kiley - posted on 10/29/2009

i think that this is a very common thing.. all moms' get upset when they don't know what is wrong with their baby.. i still get upset when i dont know whats wrong with my 4 1/2 month old.. and when ever my son was 2 months and younger i cried all the time because i didnt get any sleep! but dont think ur not a good mommy... being a mom is the best job in the world!!! dont worry.. millions of us feel ur pain!

Vicky - posted on 10/29/2009

you're completely normal my angel! everyone feels like this! i certainly did! it took me ages to get used to being a mom...try not to think into things so much i know its hard, your doing fine!! and you will always feel a bit weird & v upset about everything (doubting yourself etc) when you haven't had enough sleep!! trust me you'll be able to tell the difference when you are starting to get more sleep..promise!! ;-)