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Heather - posted on 03/22/2010 ( 110 moms have responded )

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Hi, me and my hubby were discussing opening up a mommy and daddy day home. I was just wondering what all the moms out there thought of it? If you'd want to take your children there? If you'd be iffy with my husband being in part of it? keepin mind we're both nonsmokers dont drink or party he had more babysitting experience then I did and we'd do all the normal day homes stuff. :D

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Kristin - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think it's a good idea, but I would probably be a lot more comfortable sending my own child to your home if you had one other person, like an "extra" girl on hand to help the two of you out. It would make me feel a lot more confident about your intentions and what was going on during the day. I do think it's definitely a cute and unique idea, as long as you and your husband are sure you can be a couple as well as business partners. :)

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Errin - posted on 03/26/2010

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i thonk that it would be a good idea...if you and your hubby or loving people who have had no problems and have a clean background i think that would be great

Stephanie - posted on 03/26/2010

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I don't know why, but i would feel a little off with that situation. I do trust men with our son (my dad, my brothers, even our male friends). Maybe it just seems weird because EVERYONE that works at our son's daycare is a woman. I guess I've just become use to that being the norm.

Heather - posted on 03/26/2010

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In all honesty that's hard to say. It would honestly depend on patients and personality of the caretakers in my opinion. I had both of my children in daycare while I worked and there was a male that more or less ran the daycare but was involved. I honestly thought he was a great guy with a lot of patience. He was very resourceful when I needed help pertaining to my children (especially finding a doctor when we started noticing how severe my son was when it came to ADHD) I feel parents now a days would be looking at not only the care providers, but the environment, price, what activities are going to be done with their children (all parents worry about developmental stages), snacks, etc. Good luck to you and your husband.

Whitney - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think it's a wonderful idea as long the enviornment is safe and clean. I think I would want to get to know both of you but I think its a great idea.

Nicole - posted on 03/26/2010

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I know plenty of couples who do daycare together. Infact if he has a great interaction with kids, then why not!

Nicole - posted on 03/26/2010

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i think it would be great, of coarse i would have to "interview" you guys and check out the house haha. i suppose its no different than having a babysitter. my sister does my babysitting though, but i would prefer that over daycare, just as long as no other children are sick around my baby, i don't want her sick.

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it sounds like a great idea, i wouldnt be ok with a man doing it by himself, only with his wife helping. good luck

Pamela - posted on 03/26/2010

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to be honest i would take my kids there. it doesnt matter whos ther has long has the kids are being watched like they are suppose to be

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I think its a brilliant idea. Its always nice when dads are involved, I'd be more than happy to take both of my children to a day home with males around. I think its good because sometimes a child doesn't always want the mummy figure they want a daddy figure so I think its great =D x

Christina - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think it's a great idea! and would have absolutely no problem with Daddy being a part of it. My husband helps out a lot at home, and I don't see any problem with that at all! Some children don't get to see both mommy and daddy together and they need that influence in their lives.

Melissa - posted on 03/26/2010

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Hi Heather, I ran an in-home daycare for about a year. I was the primary care taker, however, my husband was home all day long with me (he worked nights). None of my parents had a problem with my husband being home with me. I think most of them liked that there would be an extra pair of hands to assist with all the activities.

Katie - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think it is a great idea. I know a lot of people don't feel comfortable with men watching their children, but I have a male nanny and it's has worked great for my son. If that's what you feel drawn to do I say go for it!

Jennifer - posted on 03/26/2010

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I work with daycare homes and daycare centers and have 2 daycare homes run by male daycare providers. I don't see a problem with it, but make sure your parents are aware of the fact he will be helping. Good luck!

Stephanie - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think its a great idea if its what both of you want to do.I would leave my child with you.I think more people would care if you guys were decent nice people other than if your husband was there or not.Good Luck!

Lacey - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think is a good idea :) Our daughter is in a licensed home care and her husband is around quite a bit on breaks and lunch. He is also a fill in for her when emergencies arrise. I think it's nice to have a good, healthy male rolemodel around for all children. Of course everything depends upon experience and background as well. There is actually a "Daddy daycare" in the down I work as well! Seems to go over well!

Rebecca - posted on 03/26/2010

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Go to your local police station and get background checks and child registry checked. I have mine for childcare and it was free where i am.

Theresa - posted on 03/26/2010

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As long as you and your husband are not pedifiles, I don't understand why anyone would have a problem with that. It sounds like it would be a healthy alternative to traditional daycare. Just be sure to let the parents know that you are not convicted felons, and invite them to participate as much as possible to prove it is a good situation

Kylie - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think it is a good idea, youll find that heaps of people will agree, it is in a controlled enviroment and you will find mums and dads wanting there children in a family based home more than a unfamily based if that makes sense lol....umm another words family owned and runed is better than having one runed by a whole bunch of peole in my opion

Megan - posted on 03/26/2010

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I would prefer it over any other kind of home daycare. Family is what life is about.

Dawn - posted on 03/26/2010

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I think it is great! coming from a single mom i think it would be great if your husband was involved so that other children of single mothers would get some male influence in their lives

Rebecca - posted on 03/26/2010

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In my area there are stay at home dad's who advertise childcare services on a website. I personally would not send my children to a man, especially my daughter, as every women in my family has had something happen to them and i don't want my child to be another statistic. I'm sure if those things never happened to myself i would be relaxed about it but right now, there is no way in hell. Having said that, with you present i might consider it. 2 heads are better then 1 and i feel things would run smoothly. Might sound sexist and i am very aware women do things to children as well, but i trust a women more with my child and i would think the male would be "supervised" properly. I would however, never expect the male to change a girl. I would maybe leave him in charge of the boys diapers or the women could do all the diapers(sorry lol)
Good luck with it, it may work in your area like it has mine with just males doing childcare but again i would be more apt to take my child to 2ppl then 1male.

Emma - posted on 03/26/2010

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Hi, I would not have a prob with a male being involved, but i am against any day care in a privet home, for me that just not an option. but good luck and hope it all works out

Anzinga - posted on 03/25/2010

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If i were to use ur services i would want to kno if you are cpr certified for infants. If you have job if so what do you do and do you bring your work home.I would want to see your home and where my child would be at most of the time she was with you. Other than those few concerns, if you feel you can handle other peopls children, i say it is a fantastic idea. It give the children you are watching the feelinf of home and secruity at the same time. good luck and may God bless you, your family and all the lil ones you will be taking care of.

Melissa - posted on 03/25/2010

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I would have to say I wouldn't mind as long as you both know what you are doing. (but my daughter has never been with anyone except family)

Keri - posted on 03/25/2010

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You're going to find many people that want care for their children that assimilates a home environment and having a husband and wife team is great for that! When writing your philosophy or vision statement make sure to include those core family values in there to let people know why you're choosing to practice childcare this way, that you want to model healthy relationships, for instance. You may also want to address gender roles and issues like who will be changing diapers, who will be preparing the food, etc, now so you can let parents know. Some parents prefer to have women changing diapers, for instance. Good luck - sounds like the two of you will make a great team!

Cera - posted on 03/25/2010

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honestly i think its a great idea!! I would probably feel better having both a man and woman there.

Cynthia - posted on 03/25/2010

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with the way things are today in this world i personally would be iffy about it but i also would do a background check and also ask for refences. but im just that kind of person im super protective maybe alittle bit over protective over my children bc of what has happen to me growing up. i also think having it in your home is a good idea as long its a clean home and its SAFE. and both u and ur husband would need to be certified to have a daycare in ur home. plus it will be a big seller to moms and dads who would have you watch there children if u are also c.p.r certified. :)

Lyndsay - posted on 03/25/2010

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As far as like a daycare agency, I would be perfectly fine with that. But from a marriage standpoint, do you really want to spend every waking moment of your day with your husband? I'm a big fan of personal space, so that totally wouldn't work for me... but if it does for you then I think it's a good idea!

Trisha - posted on 03/25/2010

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i have to say that i WOULD NOT be comfortable w it. I just wouldnt trust any man alone w my baby even if a woman is in the house or if he had kids. Its to weird

Sherri - posted on 03/25/2010

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I dont think that many people would mind. I would be concerned because daycare can really fluctuate and if you are a pay check to pay check kind of family it would be a bad choice to start a business with two people with unsure income.

Natalie - posted on 03/25/2010

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I must say no.... there have just been to many instances with men or couples doing ungodly things in the media and people remember those most of all. I am sure you will have a few people but for the most security on all ends get a visual monitoring system and the normal things you may do with hubby at home (as my hubby sometimes may do ) no touching in front of the kids in ways you might in your own home in front of your own kids, they will go home and bring it up with their parents who might question what their child is learning in your daycare. Have everything planned out and on paper for the parents to see. Good Luck

Kim - posted on 03/25/2010

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I think it's wonderful. I had an in-home daycare for my oldest daughters first 3 1/2 yrs. My husband works retail and there were many times that he was home when my daycare kids were there. I think it helped to have the kids feel like a part of our family, instead of just visitors in our home. Good luck to you. It is a very tough job, but somebody's gotta do it.

Kendall - posted on 03/25/2010

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i dont see a problem with it. if you guys can do that in order to be home with your kids everyday, i'd do it too. i never really thought about the idea but if you were licensed and stuff i wouldnt see why not. good luck.

Stevie - posted on 03/25/2010

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to be honest i would let my son go to your mommy and daddy home whatever your calling it before i would let my child go to a normal daycare or baby sitter infact my son is 16 months and has never gone and i still refuse it now i might do a baby sitter if i can trust the person and they are in my home but yeah id go with you guys more than anyone else wanna move close to me so i can lol

Amber - posted on 03/25/2010

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I honestly prefer home childcare centers. All of my children were cared for by a private daycare provider. However, before you begin a business with your husband you need to weigh the pros and cons. My husband and I own a home based business. While I love it now, five years ago it would have not been great for our relationaship. Consider that you will be together day and night. If this is ok with you, I say go for it.

Whitney - posted on 03/25/2010

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That is almost what my husband and I have done. He works as a mechanic and has a schedule that allows him to be home with us in the day, as he works in the evenings. It is great for the kids as those who don't have a dad around seem to settle better and enjoy the male attention!!!

Samantha - posted on 03/25/2010

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I think it's a great idea. Just be aware there will be a lot of people that might be very cautious about it. Maybe do like an open house where parents can check it out. Good luck!

Val - posted on 03/25/2010

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Its good for children to be around a male figure especially for the ones that dont have one,If you were CPR certified, your home and neighborhood were a save place for my child. I would do it.

Kimberly - posted on 03/25/2010

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I think if you were to advertise it and allow potential people to get to know both you and your husband, you would do fine. I know I personally like to get to know who's watching my children before agreeing to let anyone watch them.

Holly - posted on 03/25/2010

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i don't trust anyone with my child because of past experiences as a child..... so i only let aunt and grandma watch my daughter ..... thats just me... you are probably really nice and everything i just don't trust strangers with my baby...

Melissa - posted on 03/25/2010

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Personally, I wouldn't take my child to someone I didn't know personally, but I think it's a cool idea. I also understand how some moms might be iffy. If dads can be involved, that's awesome! Good luck with it. I say run with the idea.

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The daycare I took my son to the lady had this house that she only used for daycare. She didn't live there or nothing. Frankly, I wouldn't have brought my son there if she did live there. I'm personally weary of in-home daycares and a state certification does not deem something okay for me! I've been to state certified in-home daycare when I would pick up my neighbors daughter and I would never have let my child go there!!! This one in particular was soo freaking cluttered! IDK? I just think that if a friend's kid was over for a short visit my house is tolerable, but my house is MY space and there aren't always safe things for kids, like in my bedroom or laundry room...I can oversee MY children, but would not want kids of different ages that I have not made safe guards for...and my neighbor girl was the youngest of the kids there and she got taught things at an earlier age then had she been seperated or properly overseen by her daycare provider. That was what was nice about the lady w/the seperate house just for daycare! It made it homely but was specifically designed for daycare and other children...There wasn't 10 yrs of clutter built up or nothing like that! It was ultra clean and just right for kids!!! Your husband would maybe make me a little weary but I wouldn't leave my kid if I had iffy feelings/vibes from y'all!

Amy - posted on 03/25/2010

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I think it is a very good idea. You should do it. Guys do thinks different then girls so it could only be a good thing.

Marcella - posted on 03/25/2010

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i think it would make me feel better than leaving my child with a teenager who i know whould be on the phone and eating my food lol but good idea!!!!! i would so not worry if i left my kid with a husband/wife babysitting team

Rachel - posted on 03/25/2010

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That idea seems awesome. What better way to have day care than a family oriented situation. If you have to have someone watch you kid(s) it seems like the best option. :-) Great idea. You guys can give two different approaches too... I know my kids go to Daddy more often for playtime and me more often for comfort. Just a great idea! Good luck!

Geri - posted on 03/25/2010

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To be honest, I would be iffy with any male I didn't know. No offense to any of the guys out there, alot of you are great, but I have trust issues from my childhood. I think it is wonderful when a man wants to take an active role in childcare, and I think it can be very beneficial, it just isn't for me. I even worry about people that I know well... it is an issue with me and always has been. I have been through too much and know way too many peoople that similar things have happened to, and those experiences run the gamut from strangers, to daycare/hospital staff, to family and friends. And yes, women do molest children too, but the comparison of the two possible situations leans heavily towards men being the abusers in most cases. And that's what happened to me to affect my childhood, it was a male relative. So it made me nervous around any man.
I have nothing against the idea either, I just think some women would be weary of it... But I think you should go for it if that's what you want to do.I know not everyone is a monster, I just have trouble when it comes to my baby girls.

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