Need suggestions on how to prevent accidents, pooping in panties wont go on potty?

Saundra - posted on 01/23/2010

Krystle- You know that's funny b/c I've tried the "natural consequence" approach of letting them wear undies so the accidents are SUPPOSED to be uncomfortable- while my nieces and girls in my pre-school would HATE it- my sons and the boys in the pre-school could have cared less! TYPICAL BOYS! :)

Stephanie - posted on 01/21/2010

I thought the chart with the pictures is a good idea so i'm heading out tomorrow to get my supplies to create a toileting master chart lol. Thanks for the advice i'll let you know how it goes.Steph

Krystle - posted on 01/21/2010

It does tend to be harder in a split home my daughter was ready to start learning at 18 months but her dad didn't start helping train her at his house til she was like 2 or so and we finally had her completely trained pee/poop at the age of 3. My son is another story he was 2 when me and his dad split up and he's almost 4 now and he still is not completely trained. With my daughter just letting her wear big girl undies all the time made her stop having accidents well of course at first she had a couple but then she was fine cus she didn't like being wet or poopy. My son has been alot harder to train. He's finally starting to go poop in the potty cus if he has an accident in his undies I make him clean the undies out himself. Kinda mean I know but why should I be the one to clean them out when he made mess and that was my last resort to get him to go in the potty cus I literally tried everything (charts, rewards, consequences, discipline) and nothing worked til this. He told me he knew when he had to go poop he just didn't want to take the time to go on the potty so cleaning his own pants is solving that issue.

Danielle - posted on 01/21/2010

It's not that he won't do it it's that his mind doesn't understand his bodies signals as I gotta poo but more as that doesn't feel good

Danielle - posted on 01/21/2010

I'll let you in on a secret. I also worked part-time and went to school full time when my oldest were babies. I went to school for early child developement and the text books say children biologically aren't ready to potty train until 34-36 mos for girls. And 36-37 mos for boys. All 4 of my children were potty trained by their third birthdays on their own. My oldest daughter took the longest. For herthird birthday I gave her a pack of Princess panties and she was fine. Her decision and it worked.

Heather - posted on 01/21/2010

My freind told me with her son after he got his big boy underwear and was able to go on the potty all the time if he did poop his pants he would get a "cold but bath" were she would clean his bum with a cold wet rag, she said it worked amazing for her, my son is just getting the that age and he gets a potty dance and flushes the toilet if he goes, and an airplane ride if he goes poop

Lindsey - posted on 01/21/2010

See the problem is, she is always dry in pull ups. She goes to a daycare and they always found her dry, so they told me to start putting her in panties. I have to ask her if she has to go and make her go. She wont tell me if she has to go. At school they get an M and M if go pee pee on potty and 2 if go poop. She wont go poop there or at home. She goes in her panties. I just am not sure if she is still to young or what the deal is. She also goes back and forth to her dad's house, so thats hard to because there she wont tell him at all and he dont make her like I do. She has had an accident everytime she has gone there it sucks. BUt thanks for all the advice, I appreciate it. I have done the chart thing where she gets elmo stickers which she loves and that didnt work. I tried buying her something she wanted. I dont know I guess keep trying things. Thanks!!

Jen - posted on 01/21/2010

We just started something new with my daughter. We have a potty chart and a penny jar. For each time she goes pee in the potty she gets 1 penny. If she goes number 2 or goes in the big potty she gets 2 pennies. However, if she goes in her pull up she gets 1 penny taken away and if she pees in panties she gets 3 taken away. At the end of the day we count all the pennies, put a sticker on the chart, and write how many pennies she earned for the day.

The results we've seen so far are that if she poops in the pull up she will immediately sit on the potty to go pee so that she gets the penny back that she lost. She also only needs 2 or 3 pull ups for the day compared to originally changing them as much as a diaper. Still no poop in the potty, but I've read that that's always the last thing for them to learn and it takes some time for them to know what it feels like before they go.

Saundra - posted on 01/21/2010

Hey Ladies! I ran a preschool for 3 years and this method worked for all of my preschool babies, and for my 2 sons. I hung a chart for each child called the "Potty CHart" and it had picutres I'd drawn of their potty chair- one potty was empty, one potty had pee pee, and one potty had poo. LOL. Ok- sounds weird but I've potty trained a couple of dozen 2 year olds so work with me here! :) For each time they just try to go- they get a sticker next to the empty potty. FOr each pee/poo they get a sticker. I let them go to the store with me to choose what stickers they want the most, and then I let them put the sticker on. So- at first of course there's a little too much wanting to sit on pot to get the stickers, but like everything else the novelty does wear off and they start to do it properly. Also- I did rewards for peeing/pooing- they'd get a cookie if they pee'd or poo'd on the pot at least once a day for an entire week. so every monday they got a cookie if the previous week was full of stickers. I didn't do a daily treat b/c I tried that first and had kids trying TOO hard at the end of each day! LOL! It was the last 30 minutes of the day potty rush trying to get that cookie! HAHA!!! But the chart works- it's a visual reminder of what they need to do, and it's a help for those who work out of home b/c they are so excited to show you when you come home that they used the potty. Good Luck!! :)

Stephanie - posted on 01/21/2010

Hey Lindsey, I have a 21month old and am expecting our 2nd in June, my boy always goes to the toilet to do his wees but i can not get him to do a poo either. If you get any suggestions please pass them on to me, i dont know what to do anymore. Its so annyoing because he understands that poos go in the toilet but he just wont do it.