Lauren - posted on 08/04/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )
So my husband and I have always had problems with my MIL, she is just a self absorbed emotional person. It drives us both nuts, but more so me because I come from a very analytical calculated family and I am not used to this crazy rollercoaster of drama and emotional outbursts.
Anyways today she came to see us and drive us around while one of our cars was getting an oil change/tune up (we have to get it done at the dealership and it is an hour away from our house). She came because our son had some GI tests and I also had an appt. My son is only 3 weeks old and he is our first and she is seriously overbearing, like makes us feel as if we are inadequate parents because she is constantly hoarding him and snatching him away when he gets upset. I know she is excited and everything because it is her first grandchild, but when she is around or when we go to their house I feel like just a milk jug to her and I never even get to hold my son when she is around or even be near him. I have let it go on since he was born, but I have been getting fed up and to avoid confrontation I have been less responsive to her so as to not snap at her. Soooo today I was trying to take more control of the situation without causing conflict, but of course she flipped out and got all emotional when I went into the dealership to check on our car and told my husband that she is not going to do daycare for us anymore because we supposedly don't appreciate her (we do all kinds of stuff for her like pick up items at the store and help with her cake decorating business etc). The issue is now we have no daycare and I go back to work Sept 7th!!! This is not the first time she has gotten severely dramatic and backed out on us at the last second, but seriously how are we supposed to get daycare in 4 weeks!! It is just selfish and dumb because we only need her for daycare for like two months and she isn't punishing us she is punishing our son for nothing just because things aren't going the way she wants! She was already a mom, it is our turn to be parents and I am sorry if she disagrees with that, but she needs to be a grandma and stop making it look like we are inadequate parents!!