never talk to CPS

Nichole - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 107 moms have responded )

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iam a young mother of 8 and have had many false calls about my children most from the school who never once came to me with any concerns...very very long story short ..in my unfortunate Situation iv discovered something i found that most people dont know...NEVER TALK TO CPS...u dont legally have to talk to them if they knock on ur door asking ?s never talk to them even if u have nothing to hide like i thought i didnt, but they took everything i said turned it around and removed my 2 oldest children(they r home now thanks to my lawyer) i was guilty until proven innocent....it was the hardest most horrible thing i ever went through...so please if they come to u refuse to talk unless they have a court order there is nothing they can do ..and without u lettin them n ur life they cant get the proof in order to get that court order..dont let them violate yours and your childrens rights (4th and 5th...look them up...know them)

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LaToya - posted on 01/22/2010

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I currently work for CPS and I have to agree with Jamie... If CPS comes to your house, especially from being called by the school, there were some problems. For people, who have never been involved with CPS, you may not know this but there has to be a reason for the removal of children and it must be approved on multiple levels including by a judge. I'm sure there was more going on than what has been shared. Not to be rude... I also don't think, it is a smart idea, to advise other parents to "hide" from CPS. Child Protective Services are not designed to "take" children but to offer families services to strengthen and protect their children. If they are removed, there is a reason!

Tori - posted on 01/27/2010

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I dont know your situation but I do know that in my experiance with my extended family. When the child NEEDS to be removed they do nothing and sit on their ass'. When there is no reason for removal or child indangerment the child is removed and kept away from their parents forever it seems. They dont help. Thats just my experiance with CPS.

LaToya - posted on 01/25/2010

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I guess it depends on the CPS county or state office and their rules and regulations... I can speak for the work that I do. My main job is Family Preservation... We exhaust ALL necessary measures before ever even discussing the removal of children from the home. Where I work, unless it is an emergency situation, we must have a signed court order prior to removing children from the home and a follow up court hearing within 72 hours.... I know that everyone has heard of someone that has had a bad experience with CPS... However, we must remember the primary purpose of the system, which is to ensure the safety, protection and well being of the children. Beyond investigating allegations and removing children... There are a large variety of services offered to families that might need them.

We are obligated by law, to investigate all allegations and a lot of times, they are someone being vindictive and calling in the complaints. No one should blame CPS for investigating these complaints. If you have nothing to hide or not having any problems, why not speak with them. We encourage people to look at your individual situation and relationships regarding why someone would want to report you. Also, as someone earlier mentioned, CPS can get a court order to force cooperation and failure to comply with that order can result in your children being removed from your custody and you being arrested for Contempt of Court, which will be non-bondable charge. CPS is not to call someone a bad parent however they assess whether you might need additional assistance to strengthen the skills you already have.

I could go on all day... however, everyone knows someone who has had a bad experience with some gov't system or another, whether it is CPS or law enforcement or the school system, etc... I just believe that people use these sites for advice about different situations... For FTMS or people who don't have CPS experience, should not be encouraged to do something based on other people's bad experiences or individual situations. My post is for them to really think about these posts and make an educated decision not an emotion based one!

Jamie - posted on 01/22/2010

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Not to be rude, (actually totally being rude) if you have had the school call CPS on you many times then something has to be up. And just because you have your kids back now doesnt mean that CPS didnt have the reason to take them. My husbands exes sister had her kids taken away twice and got them back . usually when they get takesn away you go before a judge and he lets you know what you need to do to get them back. there is more to the story then you are letting on and id love to read your case file and get both sides of the story. Not to be rude.

Kym - posted on 01/26/2010

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Sorry, i cant really agree with you there. They are there to do a job and believe me - regardless of if you have one child or ten - if your not doing anything wrong a short and polite conversation will go far. And be thankful that there is some one out there that cares enough to say something. The nothing to hide policy goes a long way if your not doing anything wrong. People make mistakes, sure no worries, but for every misunderstanding there are dozens of children taken away from violence, sexual abuse and neglect. My hat is off to them. Its a hard job and they encounter some of the true horrors of society concerning what should be some of its most innocent members. I am not judging you or your circumstances - i don't know you. But i feel that you need to be aware your not just giving this information to the mums that are doing the right thing... your also giving it to the ones who aren't. That are doing the wrong thing. Your enabling them to keep out the only people that may be willing to get those kids safety (either with parenting help or foster care) and to say that all CPS are bad and wrong is a really blanket statement and its like people jumping on here and saying that because you have a lot of kids your not able to take care of them, its not cool, not all large families are ignorant welfare bums.

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Candyce - posted on 01/27/2010

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I'm with you there. My sister kept getting false calls as well; they even came to my house at one point. Same thing I say about police - if they come to your house, step outside and shut the door behind you. If it's your car, step out of the car, lock the door behind you. And only stay long enough to tell them to leave, lol.

Kourtnay - posted on 01/27/2010

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To Rebecca McCollum@ "To Amy Cole: Someone can NOT, I repeat can NOT adopt your son LEGALLY without you signing papers regardless of what state you live in."



Actually, being the adoptive mother of a 2 year old who was taken from her bio mom I can tell you that the bio mom did not have to sign anything in order for me to adopt...we had to show proof that we attempted to notify her but she was not required to attend the hearings or sign any paperwork and the adoption is completely legal. Rebecca, you should get the facts before you give false information to others.

Nina - posted on 01/27/2010

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I understand where you are coming from...my friend is a mother of 3 (oldest is 12 the other two are 2.5 and 1) and her husband was away in Iraq. Her little boy (2.5) was being alittle boy trying to climb on things and started to climb up the chain link fence which she said get down and started out to get him (just so ya know I was there talking with her on the deck). Before she could get there he slipped and fell and fractured his arm. He had a cast for quite a while then 1 week after he got his cast removed he was playing with his older sister and rolled off the couch, landed wrong and re fractured the same spot. When my friend brought him in again for another broken bone she got severely questioned, which was so scary for her cause she was all alone, husband was far away. I remember having to go down there and be with her while they were investigating her and not releasing mathew from the hospital to her. Luckily her doctor did a background check on the dad's medical records (since this doctor is old and was his fathers pediatrician when he was young). Turns out Mathew has a genetic calcium deficiency which makes his bones a bit more brittle than most. Good thing that doctor was around that long and remembered something, but that was so scary and it wasn't even my child. So it DOES happen and more often than some of you out there think!

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To Rebecca i feel like u was very rude. She can have as many kids as she want as long as she take care of hers..... I dnt like when ppl judge ppl.

Dawn - posted on 01/27/2010

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Just out of curiousity, what kind of things were they accusing u of and why did they only take ur oldest two children?

Darylann - posted on 01/27/2010

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I am just going to say that is seems like you feel people are giving you a lot of shit for this that you don't deserve. You are the one that put the info. out there for EVERYONE to read, so what did you expect?!?! And I don't know what happened, but I do have to say I don't believe your children would have been taken for absolutely no reason...seems a little strange. Aside from that, I feel sorry that your poor children are being overlooked in this situation. Whether they really should have been removed from your home or not, I'm sure it was really hard on them to say the least. :( That is sad.

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For Brandi smith:i am so sorry to hear how badly you were let down by people who are put there to help and protect you.its disgusting how some can just turn a blind eye.I am glad you are doing fine today and I'm sorry you went through that awful time growing up with no one to help you.i wish you all the best for your future:):)

Jennifer - posted on 01/27/2010

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Ok... just because CPS was called does not mean something is wrong... alot of people love to make accusations where none need to be made, my parents are prime examples, my second eldest sister had a a hard time gaining weight when she was a baby due to her having a high metabolism, they didnt do anything wrong but yet still CPS came in and take my 2 oldest sisters (my other sister and i were not born yet). They had to restrain my mom because she refused to let them take my sisters. My parents got them back but they had to do everything the courts told them to to get them back. Im not saying all CPS are bad, but you do have do be careful on how you word things because you never know who will twist your words around into something you didnt say like they did to my dad. My daughter when she was a few months old had to be hospitalized because she had a massive fluid bubble on the back of her head due to the vaccum having to be used when she was born, the doctors tried saying we had to have dropped her or knocked her head on something hard to have caused it... having to follow state law... called CPS and they did a short investigation on us and called my daughters father. Needless to say it was proven that we did no anything to cause it, there were no cracks in her skull, no bruises and they determined that is was indeed caused by the vaccum. People, including doctors, need to stop making accusations without hard proof and quit the here-say crap...

Melissa - posted on 01/27/2010

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Right on stacy I agree completely!!!! people on here really need to get off thier high horses.

Stacy - posted on 01/26/2010

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Someone can have 20 kids and still provide and be the best parent in the world. It takes one neighbor who is having a bad day, take it on someone they dislike and want to get rid of because, it bothers them. So for someone to say, " Stop having so many children if you don't want CPS." Well guess what, if you need a license to drive, fish, own a boat, etc; Then maybe CPS should SHUT THE F UP because 14 year olds can manage 1 child and 25 year olds certainly can manage 8. ( I don't know how old the person is who posted this, just giving an example.) So please, unless you have had the same experience as the person posting this topic, shut your mouth. :)

Kirsty - posted on 01/26/2010

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CPS only get off their butts when it suits them, and they know it. When my son was about 4 months old (he is 6 now), mu husbands ex wife rang cps and told them that i was beating him up. She told them that she had seen me that day at the shops and he was covered from head to toe in bruises. So they came to my house that very day. He was asleep in his cot, and they demanded that i strip him naked so they could check him. When they saw not a single mark on his body, the lady rang her superior or whatever and they still demanded to get him checked. They tried to take him from the house without a warrant, and without me. Needless to say when we got to the hospital, and saw the dr he absolutely revved the crap out of the cps agent, for obviously wasting his time, and my time, as he said a dark purple bruise doesnt fade in the span of a couple of hours. Bunch of dicks if u ask me, but when kids really need them, they r no where to be found

Melissa - posted on 01/26/2010

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I dont think Nichole has anything to hide..... I know, I would be defensive if someone attacked me about my parenting skills and how many children I have. This site is supposed to be to support and advise each other not to attack and scrutinize if you dont like whats being said then dont respond to the post.... but attacking someone because you didnt like what was said is crap! the last I checked we have a right to freedom of speech and if you dont like it go to a different site!!!!!

Brandi - posted on 01/26/2010

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I was fiercely abused by my mother for 18 years...I was neglected, left alone at home for weeks when 9 years old, with instructions that I would be beaten senseless (again) if I entered the kitchen...I was 50 pounds underweight in high school. My bus driver noticed, but was afraid to do anything about it because everyone's out to sue over anything. I was NEVER taken from my mother. I begged teachers, counselors, bus drivers, neighbors, and anyone else I could get to listen. Only one person was ever interested, she called CPS, they called my mother and she told them I was a bad kid (I made all A's in school, perfect attendance, never in trouble) and they took her word for it and discredited the person who tried to help me. At least CPS in your area is DOING their jobs. I only survived because I hit back. There are lots of children who never survive this crap because people are afraid to report what they see. I say if the parents have nothing to hide, then they shouldn't hide from CPS.

Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2010

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it definitely sounds like you are hiding something - especially if you are getting defensive to people who are probably, honestly trying not to be rude.

Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2010

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If you have nothing wrong and there is no legal obligation to talk to CPS then by all means don't tell them anything but if there is abuse going on - this is not the type of advice you should be giving. I'm just saying, there might be some young moms out there who are up to no good, then they read this and think hmmm...i'm not legally obligated to say anything so I won't and then there's nothing they can do about it if they can't prove anything. Sorry - but not they type of advice you should be giving!

Dana - posted on 01/26/2010

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it is not true that you always have something to hide if you dont want to talk to them....there are a lot of workers out there that read way too far into a situation or take the word of a 3 year old or a teacher or a neighbor....I have known on a couple workers like this on a personal level and believe me they cant all be trusted. You have rights and they should have to obey the law and not intrude on your privacy or your rights.

Dana - posted on 01/26/2010

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Rebecca McCollum, that is a ridiculous thing to say. we need to be building each other up and try to be understanding and helpful...that is what this site is about

Jessica - posted on 01/26/2010

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Well I would have to agree with the girls saying that if u dont want to talk to them u have something to hide.. I have 2 kids and in October of 08 I had CPS called on me for the first time.. My ex husband was arrested and locked up in Sept of 08 for felonious assault against me.. He had told a officer he wanted to talk to a social worker about me so he told them that I fed my 15mon (at the time) bags of candy bars a day and feed her nothing but junk food that she couldnt even walk without having problems breathing.. So of course CPS comes out to my house and a VERY nice lady came in and talked to her and my self saying she had gotten a report on me.. Explained everything and we all sat there and laughed cuz it wasnt true.. She apologize for coming out and wasting our time but I laughed and told her she is only doing her job.. My ex called and made a FALSE report on me to try and get the state to take my daughter so she was be in the states system and he could try and take her.. My ex was not my daughters father.. He was so stupid he didnt even realize that because her father and I werent together that even if she was to be taken from me she would go to her father because he has a place to live, job, car, and can support her.. So I guess they are only doing their job.. If u push them away and make it to were they have to get a court order that only makes u look even worse.. If u have nothing going on or nothing to hide let them in and laugh with them when they find out its lies.. If u dont mind me asking why did the school call? When they come out they have to tell u what they are there for..

Kristina - posted on 01/26/2010

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i hear you.my friend got yelled at by a cop for smacking her kids hand cuz her kid was going through her purse.the cop said it was abuse and my friend told the cop she would rather smack her kid's hand than to have to take her kid to hospital for getting into something that could make the kid sick

Hillary - posted on 01/26/2010

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i have never ever had to deal with cps.. but as a mother, nothing infuriates me more than when i read many stories on children who were taken away by cps, then given back to the abusive parents only after a short time because the parents had "cleaned up their lives, and changed".. and many of those kids are on the news today because they were beaten to death. so you can say all you want that cps is looking out for whats best for the child.. but im sorry somebody is not doing their job!

Heather - posted on 01/26/2010

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I recently had a visit from a lady from CPS. I don't blame her in the least and she was very nice about it all. She was just doing her job. I blame the school teacher that made the report. My youngest son has 3 birth marks that are raised, pinkish in color, and about the size of a quarter. Well, the 2 marks that the teacher reported were under his shirt. She did not report the 1 on his elbow. She also didn't even have a witness for the report. When I went into the school to take them a copy of his medical record, so that he could be put into his file so that it wouldn't happen again, neither the principal or vice- principal knew anything about it. I am sorry, but I think if you are going to be looking underneth childrens clothes you should have a witness. I also think someone should have picked up the phone and called me so that an overworked social worker didn't have to waste her time coming to my house when she could have been at a house where she was needed.

Maureen - posted on 01/26/2010

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honestly i think cps is a cramp orginazition. my sister has had them called on her just because he son (who is a twin) had fallen twice and got stitches. he was learning to walk at the time. her peds. doc called them because the stitched were so close together. ( 2 months in between)
then my half brother (who was 2 ) was killed in a flood while in his mother and father's care and nothing was done to protect the other 3 children. the mother would lock them out of the house so she could nap and my father is an achoholic. the yell, hit and verbably abuse the children but still noyhing has been done. i have even gone into the services with pages of stuff they had done to the kids, the kids have even written me telling me what is happing, and i even taking in proof ( pics, video) and still nothing. it has been 6 yrs this may since my brother died. how many more kids have to suffer before someone does there job. the cps accuallt told the parents the were paent of the year material.
so i agree never talk to them unless ur lawyer is presant and if so record ur conversation so nothing gets twisted. if they wont lt u dont talk to them. this is just my opinion.

Tamara - posted on 01/26/2010

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Ive had CPS in my life before my children were removed Because of my ex i finally got them all home and havent had a problem since i wish i had known back then that I didnt have to talk to those ppl like you said they will take any and everything and twist it up into their own story I had to jump through a thousand hoops just to get my children back and the only thing that I did wrong was physically beat my boyfriend up after months and months of verbal and physical abuse I exploded my children were not home at the time but when I went to jail for the night they found a way to take my children .. After months and months of Drug drops (which i was never on any) pysch evaluations, anger management, parenting classes, and counseling I was finally able to have them home. But it never stopped a-holes from trying to use it against me later and calling them on me when they were mad .. ppl do spiteful things and will use anything to get back at you its been 4 years and my children are home safe and sound and in a new city and away from all the drama....

Kasey - posted on 01/26/2010

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I had CPS called on me for suspicion of drug sales. I know this sounds like a bad situation, but it was all due to a very racist member of my family. My husband is black, and my children are biracial. This is a well known fact as I have a close family. But one member of my family evidently didn't like that I had a BBQ at my home and only had my husbands family there. She told CPS that she thought I was selling drugs because when she drove by my house there "were a whole bunch of black guys sitting on my porch with music and beer". I had nothing to hide, I talked to the CPS worker, we even took drug tests. But once she told me about the complaint, I still didn't have anything to hide or anything to be afraid of so I cussed that woman up and down. While she was standing there I called her supervisor. I guess her supervisor didn't like the fact that she investigated an unwarranted complaint. Let's just say that she didn't have her job very long because from what I understand is that this wasn't her first time investigated interracial couple for the simple fact they were not of the same race. I have respect for CPS, but not for the workers like the one who came to my house.

Amanda - posted on 01/26/2010

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I have never had anything like this ever happen to me and hope nobody would ever do something like that to me school or other wise...but I know of a few cases where (we call it social services here) had taken kids away where they should not of and a case where they did the right thing on taking the kids out of the other house...sooo that is kind of confusing to me...I know the law is not perfect but I heard if you co-operate with them then everything is suppose to be fine right? obviously in this case and some others that I know definatly not...and I am so sorry that you had to go threw that.. thank you for the advice but really how do you know who to trust anymore? I totally get your point and best of luck to you and your family! wow 8 kids I would love to have that many!! hope to have at least four one day...lol

Iysha - posted on 01/26/2010

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I think I would rather have CPS take children from families that MAY or MAY NOT be neglecting them, then give them back, than not take children that are being neglected but there isn't sufficiant proof. I have only had one experience with CPS...not me dealing with CPS but an Acquaintance of mine. Her son was found dead one morning in his crib that he shared with his twin sister. The mom and dad had had a party the night before. The floors of the house were covered with beer cans, the house smelled like pot, and there were dirty dishes and clothing everywhere. The police and Firemen that entered that house that morning thought for sure that the baby boy had died because of neglect. Turns out the baby died of SIDS. The little girl, the dead infant's sister, was not taken from her family for good the morning her brother died. She was returned to her family because they were not at fault for their son's death. It took 3 years of many calls, many court dates, many chances in order to have that woman's now 3 children taken and placed in the care of other responsible family members. She would have her children in child care from 7am to 5pm because she couldn't "handle all of them" even though she did not work or go to school. Her kids were very neglected and it took 3 years for CPS to finally take them away. That just doesn't seem right to me.

The reasons CPS were called to your home were a bit bogus, and that can be blamed on your children's school. However, it is good to hear that CPS is actually responding to those calls.

Monique - posted on 01/26/2010

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Ive never had my children taken or been investigated by CPS, but totally understand. In 2008 I had a supposed friend make accusations saying that I wasnt feeding my then infant daughter. She talked to everyone about it except me. Luckily no one believed her and a real friend of mine came and talked to me about it. We are in the military and that would have horrible for my husbands career and our lives.

Claire - posted on 01/26/2010

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I think it is a total catch 22. I know where I am, CPS is under MAJOR scrutiny because in the last 5 years 3 children have been killed by their parents, while under investigation by cps. The workers tried to NOT take the children out of the care of the parents thinking that they didn't want to put another child in the system, in case there really wasn't anything going on. Unfortunatly, their judgement was wrong. There was something going on, and because they tried to give the parents the benifit of the doubt.....the children were beaten to death. I have also seen what my God children go through. They are obviously being abused Physically and sexually by their father. Their mother, Dr's, Therapists and even the Fathers family has made reports of it, and 2 years later, they are still investigating and the Father still has his visitation with them. Granted these are two different states, the point of the matter is, unfortunatly, the Social services in many areas do not have the funding, or proper assets to do the investigations. Many workers are careful to not take the children from a situation that they think may not be harmful, but still knowing that they were called in the first place, they have to continue to investigat. It pains me to know that there are children torn from their families for false reasons, and it pains me even more to know that children have died because they were not taken from the harmful situations. I personally would feel better if the children were taken away wrongfully and ended up ALIVE, than not taken away and ended up dead! This is how things are, and will always be until the government develops a better system, but that may never happen.

Charity - posted on 01/26/2010

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wow there are a lot of comments lol i had cps called a few years back when my son was three by my ex mil who absolutely hated me cps came i answered everything honestly and they found nothing they dismissed the whole thing.Anyways my point in this is that the lady who came and talked with us was very nice and i don't think that all cps workers are horrible i really feel that there are some out there who really care about what is in the best interest of the children. And i'm very sorry that you had to go through that.

Amy - posted on 01/26/2010

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They did! I have never EVER signed any rights away! I see as they stole my son! I wish I had the money to fight the system. It is pretty sad that they can steal a child and get away with it. I believe that if I could afford a 300 dollar an hour lawyer bill, I would have my son. Do not think that the system can not be tricked and loopholes can not be found. I do not even know where to begin to get him back.... this is the greatest saddness in my life.

Amanda - posted on 01/26/2010

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Sounds like you have had quite a few calls to CPS on your family. I have to say, you may have pissed someone off too. I know several vengeful witches who make calls like that just to stir the pot. Then again, some people make calls from the outward view, so it is something to deal with. However, you do not NOT talk to CPS. If you are pleasant and calm and listen to allegations and speak to the representative sent to your home, many times they understand. After two or more calls, they are going to be on you because of the amount of reports. It is simple, keep your business yours, and by the way, this posting of yours does not help your situation any.

Brendalyn - posted on 01/26/2010

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i never had to personally deal with them, but my sister has. a couple of years ago she gave her childrent to faoster care because she was having a hard time trying to provide for them and thought it was best that they go to someone who could take care of them until she got back on her feet...well...it has been a continueous hardship for her. even though she has a safe place and is still looking for work, CPS is making her do the run around...making it even harder for her to get them back...and they werent taken from her, she needed help. so i learned from her experience that when times get tough and i mean real tough...just to bear through it, and do what you can to ensure that you dont need to rely on the state for help because if you do....you may never see them again! and may i also add, that not only did CPS refuse to give back my sisters kids but they put them in a home where there is abuse and neglect. My sister had a visit with her kids one time and the boys had to use the potty and my sister took them and when she was helping her oldest son (3years old) she noticed that he had a considerabley large bite mark on his bottom that went over both cheeks. she took a picture and called the police and showed them what she found but when they went to the foster parents home, the "parents" said that my nephew had fallen off a play ground and hurt his bottom....but when she showed me...it looked like a bite mark! the police left without further investigation and left the kids there. the boys say that the foster father is mean to them, that when they wet there bed, they dont get changed and that the foster mother tells the boys that they will never see their mother again! and that is our "child protective services"?? granted they do help in other situations as well. ive seen them help other children many times, but the CPS workers where i live will do anything to get their hands on other peoples kids..even in innocent cases, and in serious ones...just leave the children to fend for themselves and its sad..my nephews are only 3 and 2 years old!

Heather - posted on 01/26/2010

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i am a mother of five beautiful children and i didn't think i had anything to hide so i talk to social services i have since lost custody of all five the first four i could kinda see but i got the help i needed and was making a fresh start and they took my little girl for no reason at all Now my family has them and have pretty much disowned me and are keeping my children away from me I am a full time student and i work a full time jobn and if i had any money i would hire a lawyer myself because my cps that took them was found guilty 6 months to a yr later for falsifing infomation on some cases but mine was never looked at again!!!!!!!!!

Brittany - posted on 01/26/2010

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I agree that what they did seems ridiculous. Unfortunately they can't ignore the calls just in case. I have heard many stories about CPS over reacting and some of it is personal experience. My mom was a single parent of 3 working two jobs. My step mother loved to make my moms like a living hell and she used CPS to do it. My sister and I had lice, twice in a row cause those suckers are hard to get rid of. We got them from school as well. Apparently thats something CPS has a right to call neglect. Even though it is a documented school wide epidemic. Also my 13 year old sister was watching my brother and myself while my mom went to the grocery store, which my mom was told by the courts in the first place was ok cause she was old enough and CPS was called by my step mom to complain and they came out an interviewed us all. I was 9. Even though I think CPS should investigate each call I think they should also use some common sense and maybe investigate a bit more before going in all aggressively believing a parent is in the wrong from the start! I'm sorry you had to deal with all that crap!

Kym - posted on 01/26/2010

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im just chatty lol - Thank you for not being judgmental but i'm really not fussed how others feel about it, i'm doing what is right for my family and that what counts for me. : )

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Im glad that is the case, and not as I read. By the way, it is nice that you explain why you need welfare, but honestly I wouldnt judge you either way. Thanks :)

Danielle - posted on 01/26/2010

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hi nicole was reading ur story and it sounds like the school that ur kids go to take judgement without talking to the children or yourselves at all i think they need to go to another school hope things improve best of luck

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In alot of case cps do a fantastic job and give children a life the never would of had if left in the care of there birth parents.



I do believe in honesty at all times if you don't have anything to hide you stand tall and speak up for your self as a mother who is doing nothing wrong.Your children were returned to you so its obvious then you were mistreated but made it clear you are a fit mother.

By not talking to them is making it worse.Talk to them and if your rights are being violated then take the proper measures to ensure your children are not removed on false facts.

I am glad you have your little ones back and it must of been awful for you stand tall as a mother who has nothing to hide but your information to others is not right.Any mother with nothing to hide will do anything to make the false facts stroke out.I do agree some people can call for nothing other than there pure selfish ignorant ways and not care what this can do to mothers like you etc.



Social services or cps as its called gave me a life that i never would of had if it wasn't for others who made those calls .

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Hi Beck, sorry i may not have worded that clearly, i wasn't saying that as a statement of my opinion - it was meant to be a an example of how wrong blanket, generalized, statements can be lol so thanks for backing that up ;) i dont think all welfare mums are bad. i am on a government payment myself for my son. He has a disability and i cant work and take care of him at the moment.

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Recently there was a story about a guy where I live that had gotten his very precious 4 yr old taken by cps, the mother lost her parental rights and the father was given back the little boy, not even 6 months after getting his son back, in a drug induced haze he bit the eye out of his childs head!!!!!!! If cps was doing anything right or good things like this wouldnt be happening, I agree with you nichole.... cps is way out of line and as for how many children you should have my best friend has 8 kids and she is an awsome mom so its up to each woman how many kids she wants!

Alina - posted on 01/25/2010

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please add me to your circle. we have similar stories and we really should get to know each other better. i would love to get to talk to you.

Karen - posted on 01/25/2010

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Yes i agree, taking them to auntie's would be better. Not everyone has someone they can go to though. Just don't like seeing people get put down. And coolers are a solution for food also. Fortunatley enough, I haven't been in this situation yet but had been growing up many times. We had fun with it though. Pretending we were camping. A kerosene or propane heater as our fireplace lol. Bad times can be good times. Even as an adult, I'd rather be poor than rich.

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If someone from CPS came to my door I would let that person in out of pure curiosity. I have nothing to hide at all so the visit would be very interesting. There are plenty of people out there that should not know that they are allowed slam the door on CPS so I'm not sure you that it's your place to tell us that. I wish you the best of luck in the future but I kinda hope this thread gets deleted soon so it isn't read by bad moms who need that extra push in order to fix the way they care for their kids.

Karen - posted on 01/25/2010

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Sorry, that is not neglect. Children do not need electricity. My mom grw up without it. Especially the way the economy is. A lot of us had kids before the economy was bad. Now people are fighting to get by. Heat water on the stove for baths, open a curtain for sunlight to read, an there are plenty of healthy foods you can cook without meat for a few weeks.

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no electric for a couple weeks is a long time, things happen i know so you need o take them to aunties house til your paycheck gets there or something

LaToya - posted on 01/25/2010

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@ Bridget... Having children in the home without electricity for a couple of weeks = NEGLECT. The inability to provide for your children's basic needs: Food, clothing and Shelter.

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