No, not again! Pregnant for the 2nd time!

Brittany - posted on 08/02/2010 ( 100 moms have responded )

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Well I'm 20 years old turning 21 in 5 months. I have a little boy who is 1 and a half and Im pregnant again! Oh boy. My son will be 2 and 4 months when the sibling is due. Any suggestions!!

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Liz - posted on 08/04/2010

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I'm going through something similar. I have a set of two year old b/g twins and a little boy who will be a month old on August 12th. It deffinently has it's challenges, but I know once my little one will get older it'll be nice having them so close in age.

Mary - posted on 08/04/2010

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I know just how you feel! I felt the same way with my second pregnancy! There are only 16 months between my 2 boys. My oldest boy just loves his little brother and thank goodness, they are the best of friends! They do everything together and that includes getting into trouble. lol It seems like a lot to handle right now but trust me, it gets easier. After you hold your second baby in your arms, you will know everything will be alright!

Mandy - posted on 08/04/2010

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I have heard that close in age is hard when they are young but easier when they are older my two are 3 years apart and that worked well for me. I am done with little ones (hopefully) but then again one was a bc baby and the other wasn't supposed to be here either ;) I don't find it to difficult with the 2, and my exhusband isn't around at all so it's just Mama... There are times when I think man it would be nice to shower uninterupted, but when I see them laughing and playing together I would never change a thing. You will be just fine ;)

Angelica - posted on 08/04/2010

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i have a 3 yr old stepdaughter (feb. 28,2007) a 2 yr old stepson (mar. 28,2008) and a 1 yr old daughter (oct. 15,2008) so im very busy but it is fun having them all so close in age. they get along the majority of the time and it looks like theyre going to grow up to be really good friends.

Summer - posted on 08/04/2010

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I had my oldest at 19, and when he was 8 months old we found out that surprise we're expecting another one, I was 21 when he was born, and surprise that IUD must not have worked, when my middle guy was 7 months old we found out about number 3 on the way. I was 22 when he was born. It's fun, busy, and hectic. But they are super close, now 5, 4 and 2. They'll all be in school together as they grow up, the play with each other which is great, I know so many "only babies" and they seem super needy to me. Mine younger 2 have talked by 9 months, full sentences my 15 months. I moved mine out of the crib and into a toddler bed about a month or two before the new baby came and they were fine. I put a child gate up in their doorway and they played in the morning instead of yelling to get out of the crib. I wouldn't change a thing, even though it was SUPER scary each time I found out I was pregnant.

Sandra - posted on 08/04/2010

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Im 22 I have a two year old she will be 3 in October 12th, And her baby brother will be here October 11th... I wasnt happy about being pregnant i freaked out even more when i found out about my second due date!!! But it hit me, Addi (mydaughter) will be so excited she will have someone to play with cuz she is the only grand baby. And now to think of it, i cant wait til she comes in room and says "mommy bubbie wont stop" or stuff like that even though it drives you crazy but at least Your oldest is occupied helping you with the youngest.. Im thankful now cuz i will get to have more peaceful time while she is playing with baby brother.. Dont sweat it, It should be fun!! Good luck and NOT really realigous but, God wouldn't give you more tasks in life if he didn't think you couldn't handle it..

Joanna - posted on 08/04/2010

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almost exact same gap between my two boys...its a great gap. my eldest dotes on his little brother!! its not as hard as you think! congratulations!!x

Kat - posted on 08/04/2010

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You'll be fine chic,im 28 with 3 children its always scary when you know you will have another one to look after,but it all falls into place after a few weeks like nothing ever changed.Take care x

Katy - posted on 08/04/2010

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same here my daughter will be 23months when i have my little boy and im living on my own now

Rachel - posted on 08/04/2010

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Lol. :) I have a 5 yr. old daughter, a 17 month old daughter, and we are expecting #3 in January. When we first got married we said we only wanted 1....yeah right. I am 25 yrs. old, but I had my 1st when I was 19. It seems very over-whelming to think about having 2 or 3 kids. This was unexpected for us, and I find myself wondering if I can do it with 3 kids...it's hard enough some days with 2. I think we all have those feelings of worry about how things are going to be. All you can do is go with the flow. I remind myself by the time this baby is here, my oldest will be in school every day, so I will only have 2 at home. You will have good days and bad days...but you will get through it. :)

Kimberly - posted on 08/04/2010

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more power to ya girl! i've got the one and i'm good. im not interested in being pregnant ever again. i want more kids, but i'd like to adopt. and skip over potty training that way, lol. i'm sure things will work out for you, all those mamas out there with 2 or more, you're my heros. cuz i certainly couldn't do it, myself. not where i am in my life right now.

Jennifer - posted on 08/04/2010

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That's a good age gap, my boys are 2yrs 3wks apart. You don't have to purchase much since you've got major items. it's also great because they'll have a best friend right there at home:)

Stacy - posted on 08/04/2010

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I think you will be fine and I have heard children being that close in age are fun once they get a little older. My sister has a two year and a one year old. They are so much fun to be around and sometimes they get upset with sharing toys, but they are both in diapers and now they are mostly sleeping all through every night without problems. When the infant is here, that may make for some sleepless nights, but everything should be fine. You can do it, keep your head up and try not to stress to much.

Schyla - posted on 08/04/2010

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My girls are 2 years apart they are best friends (I wasn't ready for number 2 when she came along but I wouldn't change it for the world) Take a deep breath remember how much you love number 1 and know that number 2 will be just as much a blessing and joy in your life, it's overwhelming and scary but they are all amazing!

Heather - posted on 08/04/2010

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Well I am 21 with a 10 month old daughter and I cant wait till I get pregnant again. Everything will be just fine. I know it sounds scary at first but I am sure you will love it in the end.. Your little boy is going to love being a big brother.

Jo - posted on 08/04/2010

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im 24 and am expecting our 4th. my older two are 17 moths apart and younger one and this one will be 18 months apart. having two is really not much harder than one. youll be fine hun dont worry. good luck xx

Rebecca - posted on 08/04/2010

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I found out we were expecting again when our son was 13 months. 2 kids under 2...i thought i was in for it. I had a horrible pregnancy with our first and i was terrified it would happen again. Gesh was i ever wrong! It was SO different. Remember, as a baby they sleep a lot...what else can they do right. So don't worry, you will still have time with your son. The only obstacle i had was when my husband would be gone(he is military and gone often) He left when she was 2 months old for a month and i thought i wouldn't be able to do anything. I limited my time out because my son was a runner at the time so if i HAD to go somewhere i would just ask him to help hold the car seat, it was the only way i could make sure he was holding on to something and not running. My mother watched the 2 of them while i did groceries. Now they are 1yr and almost 3yr and he seems to pick on her a lot now because she plays with his toys now, but he doesn't run as much but i can tell you this...I CAN'T WAIT FOR HER TO WALK! My arm is KILLING me from carrying her everywhere lol.
You can do it! Don't be discouraged already. I have MAJOR anxiety and i started to panic before she was even here and it was so not worth it. Enjoy being pregnant and enjoy being a mother of 2:) It's not as hard as you think.

Rachel - posted on 08/04/2010

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This is crazy cause I am kind of in the same boat.. I just turned 21 july 23, my daughter is 3 and I am 3 months pregnant.. All you can do is weigh the options and make a decision based on what you want.. Talk to your son about it cause believe it or not he just might understand.. I talked to my daughter about it and took her with me to an ultrasound and she is excited.. But just be prepared cause he might act out alil.. Good luck and remember one thing at the end of the day it is you and your kids against the world..

Vikki - posted on 08/04/2010

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hi i have to boys aged 3 and 4 there is a 15 month age gap between then i found it hard at first then got easier as they got older x

S. - posted on 08/04/2010

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my little girl will be 2 and 7 months when my baby is born, TBH some day's i look and think i must be mad how am i going to cope but then other days i look at other mam's with kid's close in age and think if they can do it then so can i then i feel fine. i'm sure you'll be fine just like i will be and just think the kid's will grow up so close to each other good luck :)

Jacqueline - posted on 08/03/2010

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lol its not that bad my son is 20 months and my daughter is 7 months lol after a bit u get the hang of it u will do fine

Sarah - posted on 08/03/2010

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I know how you feel! I was 20 when my first was born, 21 when my second was born, and turned 23 just a few weeks before my third was born. Mine are 18 months apart each. I won't lie to you, its not easy, but no age gap is! The biggest thing is to take it easy; your son will probably show some jealousy in various ways. Be patient with him and don't make a big deal out of it! For me, the pregnancies were harder than making the adjustment to two, then three. I kept a box of 'table time' activities for days when I was feeling really ill. We'd just sit at the table and color, play with play-dough, do puzzles, etc. Or I'd call a friend and we'd go to the park where I could sit and watch the kids play, but I had someone there in case I needed to excuse myself! As with any pregnancy, don't be ashamed to ask for help when you need it. Nap when your son does, eat well, and enjoy it as best as you can!! One day, you'll get to watch them play together and get into trouble together...and you won't want to trade it for the world!

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Congrats! I got pregnant with my first when I was 22 and had her shortly have my 23rd birthday. My daughter is 9 months old now and were going to start TTC VERY SOON. Best of luck to you.

Kathryn - posted on 08/03/2010

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i think its fantastic!!!! I'm turning 23 this month and have just had my second baby (boy). My daughter was 13 mos when I had him and she is just the best little helper. Its very difficult having to expect a baby to understand whats happening, but im sure with a 2 yo it will be a little easier. good luck

Amanda - posted on 08/03/2010

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i am 20 years old and i have a 10 month old son, and i am also 22 weeks pregnant with twin girls. i know the feeling, i might even have the babies on my 21st birthday, at least you have a toddler and you dont have to have babies together. it will be fun, dont stress it, you will love it in the end. =)

Hannah - posted on 08/03/2010

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congrats. my son just turned 2 and i'm expecting our second baby! they'll be 2.5 years apart as well. congrats again

Alana - posted on 08/03/2010

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I had a 9 month old baby boy when i found out i was pregnant for the second time, at first i was in total shock and thought that this was going to be a disaster. My older son Ryder is about to turn 2 and my baby boy Oliver is almost 6 months old and i would have to say i wouldn't change a thing! I will say at first i found it really hard to juggle both kids as they both had completely different routines but now its much smoother. Ryder absolutely loves his baby brother, he gives him cuddles and kisses all the time and is learning to share his toys with him. Oliver also adores his brother he stares at him when ever they are in the same room, and he giggles when they play peek a boo. Some days are still a struggle but i know it will get better when they are older and i think they will grow up to be good friends as well as brothers. Good luck with everything :)

Melanie - posted on 08/03/2010

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my daughter is 18 months old and i wish i could have another one! ive been thinking about it alot but my bf seems to think it would be better if we wait till brooke is out of diapers ready for school that type of thing...i really dont want to wait that long :(

Melanie - posted on 08/03/2010

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My daughter turned one in April and I am due with my son in 6wks! Im very excited about it as we were told we could have a hard time falling preg again so we started trying early and fell first go! I would rather have my kids close in age then go through the heart ache that many ppl go through of not being able to have kids. (that is in no way meant to imply that you dont want this bub or are being ungreatful or anything like that - i just mean i feel very lucky to have been given this baby and my heart aches for ppl who are unable to have kids)
I did find it very hard when i had morning sickness, all i wanted to do was sleep but all my daughter wanted to do was play!! But i know its all worth it and cant wait to have my daughter and son together!
Best of luck with you preg!

Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2010

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I was 18 and had my son he was 6 month old and i was preg with my lil girl and she was born at 29 weeks so my kids are 1year 1month and 1 day part if i can do it any one can becouse i was 19 when she was born just sit back and it will all be ok

Rita - posted on 08/03/2010

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My two children are exactly a year apart and my husband and I thought it was going to be rough but surprisingly, it wasn't. It will keep you busy that's for sure. Just put them on a good routine and you'll be fine.

JoAnna - posted on 08/03/2010

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First, congrats hun!! Second, try and get as much sleep as you can now, cause soon you won't get any!

Kimberly - posted on 08/03/2010

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Spend alot of time with your son before the baby gets there. you will also have to tell him about the baby. I suggest getting a book. I have a almost 3 year old and his brother is 5 months old. So its a little difficult but you will get through it.. us mommas are tough! Good luck.Also my second son was born 1 month after i turned 21.

Amber - posted on 08/03/2010

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use a baby doll to help him prsctice for the new baby. as you bring out more baby stuff, its important for him to practice not touching the baby. most older siblings want TOO much to do with the new one. so, bring out a swing, bouncy seat or something, and put the baby doll in it and make sure he knows to leave the little baby alone. it worked great for my son. plus the hospital where we delivered had big brother/sister classes. they sit and learn how to be helpful, and when to be patient. it was really good for my older son. gave him some really good ideas about when it was best to try to help out. i hope everything goes well for you!!

Sian - posted on 08/03/2010

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im 20, 21 in 6 days and im also [regnant with my second child, she is due on the 16th december, when my son will b 1 yr and 16 days old.

Amanda - posted on 08/03/2010

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i have girls that are 2yrs and 2 weeks apart, i got pregnant with my second when my oldest was 15 months, and it really isn't bad at all.. i have actually found that it is nice for them to have a sibling close in age. Just make your oldest feel included in everything.. feedings, diaper changes.. even if it is little things like handing your the wipes.. it helps to prevent jealousy as much as possible. Good luck and congrats :).

Sheila - posted on 08/03/2010

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My daughter was only 16 months old when her little sister was born. The first months were quite stressful and took a lot of patience, but I have to tell you, a year and a half later I would not have it any other way. My girls are so close and love each other so much. Of course you are nervous now, but it will turn out perfectly in the end. Good luck to you and your family!

Gracie - posted on 08/02/2010

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im right there with you i just turned 20 in march and my first one turned 1 in april....and this one is due september 29th!!!! i think it will be hard but it will all work out. i always wanted a big family and close in age...a lil closer then intended but everything will be fine..congrats and good luck

Christi - posted on 08/02/2010

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i got the iud to prevent this exact situation from happening. i want another child so badly, but there is no way i could afford another child and my son is autistic and requires extra attention. just take it one day at a time and breathe. congrats mama.

Lacye - posted on 08/02/2010

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cry now because you won't have time later. LOL i'm kidding. congrats. all you can really do is take it on day at a time. good luck!

Nikita - posted on 08/02/2010

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I will be 21 in 5 months also and my son just turned one on the 27 of july and i am due with his lil brother on sept 5. so they will be a little over 13 months apart.

Natasha - posted on 08/02/2010

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Haha I know exactly the feeling I have a one and half year old and another one due in octorber, But you know everything will be wonderful, because kids are always a joy. Just take it one step at a time :) I just turned 22 so I know how over whelming it can be and get but you will do great!

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Have fun! I have 4 kids and I'm 27, my first at 20, my second at 22 and to my surprise a third at 23. I actually had 2 babies in 2006, Jan. 10th and Dec. 27th. I gave my body a break before I had my fourth almost 3 months ago. Congrats, you'll be fine.

Theresa - posted on 08/02/2010

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im in the same boat as you almost im 20 bout to be 21 in march i had a "surprise" pregnancy at first i was so upset i couldnt tell you how much i cryed but then the more i thought about it sounded better just think about what do you want not anyone else YOU thats the advice i got hope it helps =]

Brittany - posted on 08/02/2010

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I am 20 and I have a almost 7 mth old and we are TTC #2 now! we want our childern close in age! Cograts!! Im sure you will do fine!

DeAsia - posted on 08/02/2010

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Its all about whats best for you. I know females that are younger than you with two and three kids. You can do it, but make sure to always take care of yourself first, and your kids. Congrats and I hope everything works out :)

Brittany - posted on 08/02/2010

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Thank you guys for your support and positive comments! I am super excited and nervous at the same time. My little boy is already is a toddler bed so it's great we still have a nice looking crib and other major big things. I'm happy with the age group I just can't believe it! lol Thank you guys!

Caitlin - posted on 08/02/2010

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That's not a bad gap. My kids are 15 months apart and it keeps me busy but I think it's great! My oldest really helps me out with the baby, brings me diapers, puts laundry in the laundry basket, sweeps up after eating, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Ashley - posted on 08/02/2010

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Take a deep breath and think of the positives. Use a bassinet for the new baby to sleep in before your son gets moved to a big boy bed. Explain to your son before the baby comes home that there is a new baby in the family. Try to get him used to the idea. I personally think the age gap is perfect between your children. Just try to be happy and love your growing family.

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