Ok Ladies, This is another very embarrassing situation. Advice greatly appreciated!

Sativa - posted on 03/04/2010

To all the ladies,
Thank you all for your advice and please be assured that I have never felt guilty or embarrassed by this situation. I just find it so frustrating and maddening. I have read all the posts here so it does make me feel better that there are other women who face this just as I do. Thank you all, and if I do find a way to bear this better I will pass it on.

Amanda - posted on 02/23/2010

Hey hun. Before I had my daughter I had a crazy overactive sex drive! It was partially to blame for the break up of my first marriage. I used to cry whenever I didn't get it. I felt guilty about using toys which made it worse. My new hubby and I talked about it and he understands why I need to do other things from time to time. I think what you need to explaine to him is that you aren't replacing him or holding out on him....your only using other methods when he is unavaliable to do so himself. Maybe if he understands that it will make you feel less guilty about taking care of buisness yourself. A girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.lol Go a lil easier on the boy tho...u don't wanna damage him for the next time:)
I wish I could say that I felt the same right now....but at 7 months preggers all I desire is sleep!lol But I also don't hold it against my husband if he needs to "take care of buisness" himself.

Esther - posted on 02/23/2010

have you tried asking him if he could take out his piercing? I found having an open communiction about likes and dislikes about positions and diferent types of contact helped in my bedroom with my hubby cause after each of my three pregs my hormones have been from i dont want anything to practicaly jumping my hubby when he gets home.

Charmaine - posted on 02/23/2010

ur normal just distract yourself or buy a dildo LOL

Faren - posted on 02/23/2010

I am the same way! I want it more then my Hubby.. He doesn't like the idea of me using toys without him involved( I don't know why men are like that!). So I will do it anyway and it actually turns him on!! lol
I think a lot of people paint this image that men are supposed to be "horndogs" or something at then when we are more sexual we sometimes think there is something wrong! But thats not true, keep being the way you are:) !!

Kylie - posted on 02/22/2010

if he is uneasy about B.O.B you could get a toy that is for couples

Nikki - posted on 02/22/2010

Im in the same boat as you Ive always had a high sex drive, now im a nympho... i don't know how to stop wanting it all the time... im driving the hubby crazy ... if you figure out how to calm it down please pass on the info this way... thx

Shylo - posted on 02/22/2010

I had always wanted it more then my husband did, in the end it became a huge issue. I don't think you should have to take something to "cure" it I think it is apart of who were are as women and I don't think there is anything to be ashamed of. I think about it consitantly its just how some women are. I know I am not really providing any advise I just want you to know your not alone and its not something to be embarassed about.

Sativa - posted on 02/22/2010

I have tried the B.O.B. (Battery operated Boyfriend) method but he gets angry. He says that I disturb him and besides that, His Ex wife was only actually physical with him a small number of times in a 5 yr period. She liked her bullets better than him. She had his son so he tried to stay and make it work. I can understand the bad taste that a woman's toys give him but like you I see no other way out. By the way, I know it sounds bad but I have thought of going back on Depo-Provera. The last time I was on it, I lost anything resembling a sex drive. I have my tubes tied so it isn't about the contraceptive, it is about the loss of the throbbing 24/7. What do you think of that? Please be honest.

Morgan - posted on 01/21/2010

I'm sorry I can't help you I have a similar situation. But when he doesn't give it up I want to use other necessities to keep myself faithful like vibrators. Sorry if this is TMI but seriously. When you want it you want it. He doesn't approve but I don't know what else to do. If you can help me I'll try to do some research online for you

Amy - posted on 01/16/2010

You are definatly not alone, I had the problem when I was preg though it settled down a little after birth but not much until baby no. 4 when my partner left me for some little **** now there is nothing!!!

Laila - posted on 01/15/2010

There is nothing wrong with an overactive sex drive but i did read that an overactive sex drive is caused by increased testosterone(Spelling sorry). Talk to your doctor if it is a problem and they can help balance your hormones. Hope this helps

Kacee - posted on 01/14/2010

Same here! I couldn't get enough. It subsides. In the mean time, buy a waterproof vibrator and stop being ashames of your sexuality. It's a good thing that sex is still appealing to you.

Angel - posted on 01/14/2010

You're definitely not alone on this one, that's for sure! I personally have always had a bit of the "raging sex drive". While i was pregnant was the time that it calmed down quite a bit but after having her, i was almost immediately back to my old self. Although this can get a little hard to control, i consider it to be a blessing! so many women find have troubles in the opposite direction and i cant even imagine. I tell my husband he's lucky to have me the way i am and you should feel the same about you and your lucky ability ;)
Angel
P.S. everyone has wandering thoughts its all depending on how your brain connects those feelings to your sex drive. Cheating would just be a cause of not focusing those urges towards your husband or partner.

Sativa - posted on 01/14/2010

Thank you, Sheree, that does help.

Sheree - posted on 01/14/2010

Well let me say you are not the only one!!! I was exactly the same after i had my daughter. I put it down to because we had been trying to long to fall pregnant (2 1/2 years) that we forgot to enjoy sex. Now that we aren't "trying" for another baby at the moment, i have never enjoyed it so much and like you wanted it all the time. My daughter is now almost 7 months and the desires have calmed down a little but there is still times when you feel you cant get enough. As to how to fix it, im not sure sorry :( but wanted you to know your not the only one :)

Sativa - posted on 01/14/2010

I feel that I need to stress that I have no plans on cheating. I said that because I am trying to say how stressful this is to me. Some moms here know me and my husband personally and I dont want any further issues to deal with. Sp please dont run to him and say I have or will have a boyfriend. I tried to talk with him about this issue 2 years ago and all I succeeded in doing was making him feel as tho he were less of a man for me. I can't make him feel like that again. I'm sure you wives out there understand.

Sativa - posted on 01/14/2010

LOL it really not a good thing. I am a faithful wife but I think about the possibility of a swing shift boyfriend. I love my husband very much and don't want to hurt him or our family. This is actually driving me insane! I wanted to ask this question the first time I joined COM but was too embarrassed.

Kylie - posted on 01/14/2010

im sorry cant help i wish i had your sex drive though :)