okay for every proud mother..heres a question i need answered

Jessica - posted on 02/02/2010

You did the right thing, you be proud as hellll but you also let him know its not good to hit. I will always tell my daugher, you dont start a fight but you sure as hell finish it.

Nanci - posted on 02/02/2010

ya i dont want niether of my kids to be pushed around..n dont hit unless really provoked..i was proud sad to say it but i know also that it was very wrong to hit sum1..i kno he was just tryn to help but i alredy told both of them...i cudnt do nething to stop it but maybe the next time i can by telling him sum of the advice ur giving me...Thanx so much for yalls in put..i luv circle of moms

Lisa - posted on 02/02/2010

shannon luv it DOES NOT make u look bad, iv had countless rows with my step mum cos my step sister is nasty to my son ther is 5 years between them, shes 10 and should no better pls pls do not feel bad if they are doing this to ur son and u c it upsetting him, pls say something, because it will show ur son that the behaviour that they show towards him is wrong, other wise he will eventually learn to do it bak, also shows him that u wil protect him, he needs that. dont feel bad this is ur baby they are doing it too :)

Shannon - posted on 02/02/2010

I don't know what I would have done in your situation but know where your coming from.. My son is only 17 months old and lets kids push him around. My neice is rough with him, takes his toys away (litterally grabs them out of his hand), and when she's on his firetruck will try to run over him if he is standing infront of her. And when my friend brought her son over (he's 2) he bullies my son to where my son will just cry and try to stay away from him. My friends child pushed my son to the ground, takes his toys, pulls his ear, and pushes him constantly and my friend doesn't do anything until I say something first.. I know she sees him do it but I don't know if she just doesn't care or what. But I hate to say it because it makes me look really bad but I wish my son will just push, pull, or hit back. Im not going to tell him to hit or anything but if he did it back I don't think I would yell at him because he would just be taking up for himself and maybe it would make this other kid stop picking on him.

Lisa - posted on 02/02/2010

id tell him that he should never hit anyone unless he is hit 1st, then u wont come accross the same situation, even tho the bigger kid did it in the wrong way, he was atleast trying to get ur son to listen to u, he should listen really, no kids listen 1st time, but i think that the other kid, even if it was the wrong way, was just trying to get joe to listen to his mum (u) lol i would not b proud, i really dont like my kids hitting any 1 at all, i hate it, and my son play fights with me my bloke and friends but has never purposly hit out at any 1 even when they have hit him. i think id have punished him purly cos he needs to learn that hitting is wrong unless they hit u 1st, but at the end of the day kids will b kids and think the other mum went over the top a lil bit, but just teach him not to hit unless another kid hits him 1st thats what iv taught mine and hes 5 he hits messing about but never has hit any 1 in anger not even kids that hit him 1st he cuims bak crying to me hahhaha bless him :)

Sarah - posted on 02/02/2010

its hard because you wnat your children to drfend themselfs. i told my daughtor that is is not right unless that is her only option. i told her she should tell an adult first and try to talk ti out ( of coure not untill she was older. ) my daughtor has hit 2 ppl in school and well i don't belive she should be hitting i also don't want her to get beat up. some boy was hitting her she told the teacher 3 times and the teacher did nothing so she punched him in the stomach , he never hit her again and i told the princapal that i blam the teacher for not responding... its a fine line to walk