on the verge of giving up....

Sarah - posted on 07/03/2010

Hang in there you are not alone.Most mom's have been in that situation before and many still are.Some things that worked for me were getting out for a daily walk,but always take a different route so that you do not get bored of doing it.Go to a school field with bubbles and a picnic lunch and a camera you can capture so many magical moments that way.You could also take up a hobby do you have a yard or patio?...what about gardening if you have an outdoor space your child could play or nap outside with shade of course while you garden to give yourself a beautiful space.The other thing that worked wonders for me was turning on the baby monitor and stepping outside on the patio or another room to give yourself some much needed you time.Good luck and keep your chin up things will get better.

Ricky - posted on 07/03/2010

I feel the same way at times. I live in a city where I dont know much people and have very few friends (who dont have kids and work during the day). So I ended up joining a mom group (through meetup.com) and it helped me with finding people to socialize with.
I also found it helpful to nap with my son or do something for me while he napped like take a bath or start a hobby. My boyfriend and I also go to bed and hour early so we can lay in bed and talk before we fall asleep and get a little extra sleep if we dont have much to talk about. If your worried about not eating, have easy finger food in your fridge and pantry onhand. That way when you go in your kitchen to get food for you kid you can grab a few grapes or carrots or whatever for yourself. Try new activities with your kid, like go for walks/treasure hunts (talk a basket and see what your kid grabs) and if its raining put on raingear and play in the puddles, its amazing what a little fresh air can do.

If your hubby has 2 days off a week make one of those days business and the other day pleasure. It helps my family alot, We do whatever needs to be done on one day (like run errands, go deal with other people if needed etc...) the other day is just family time, He even lets me sleep in, we don't worry about anything that day, its just a day of relaxation. You can also try a mommy night, where you go out with friends (or by yourself) while hubby watches the kid, even if its just to a movie.

As much as we love being mommys we do need time where we can just be ourselves, and Its amazing how much that can help.

Ashley - posted on 07/03/2010

Try joining a baby and mommy swimming its cheap u need somthing that u can get out of the house and talk to big people lol bin there i tryed playgroups too got me out of the house and maby u will meet some friends sounds like that is really what u need. Being at home all day is not healthy were adults and need communication with the outside world lol. Good luck if u want to chat send me a message

Abbie - posted on 07/03/2010

just think of your child.. it will help you to get go on with your life.. you must be thankful because your husband working for your family.. me and my husband work 6x a week 12-14hours a week.. i hope this message help you.

Tyneisha - posted on 07/02/2010

You have to take time for yourself. Tell your husband when you need a break. Yes he works,but what you do is a job too. Even if all you do is go for a walk. Get a relative or trusted friend to watch your child while you and your hubby get some time for yourselves.

Keisha - posted on 07/02/2010

Im also in school too. ell ya, But I am really considering getting a part time job... :-) But joining some of the online groups and sites may help too. It keeps you active with others. :-)

Shaunna - posted on 07/02/2010

I know how yu feel its hard out there. I m basically a single mom and do everything on my own and have been trying to leave where I am but its so hard to get back on my feet. You should take a walk around your neighborhood or go to a local playground and try and make friends with other moms. thats what i do with my son just to get out of the house and away from all the stresses

Brittney - posted on 07/02/2010

Sounds like your in the exact same situation I'm in. I have a 2 month old and we live with his daddy and his daddy's parents right now. I'm going to school online so I'm stuck inside all day. And my fiancé is struggling to find a job. I get so depressed over it I just break down and cry. But I try not to let it get to me so much. I just look at my son and then I'm all better again. It's always darkest before the dawn! Keep your head up!

Keisha - posted on 07/02/2010

Well, I too have/had this problem. I became a stay at home mom for the first time with my last child who is now 2 yrs old. I'm still not working due to my other half wanting me to stay at home. Yes!!! I get frustrated at times.. Plenty of times. Try to find things that make you happy, that use to make you happy. I see kids all day everyday and sometimes going to the store alone makes my day. I read, watch a lil TV, play on the internet... On some of the days your hubby has off go somewhere by ya self.. Or take walks...

Samanatha - posted on 07/02/2010

I know how you feel. We had just moved to a new town when my daughter was born, and I had quit my job to be home with the baby. Try to find something that you enjoy doing when the baby is napping. ( I took up sewing, and it really helped.) If nothing seems to help though, make an appointment with your doctor.

Amber - posted on 06/24/2010

That is enough to make anyone depressed. When my son was a baby I was in a similar situation my husband was working 2 full time jobs so I could stay home with our son but it left me so lonely. I tried play groups they didn't really work bc I was so much younger than the other moms. I found going to for walks really helped it atleast gave me a change of scenery for a little while. You should talk to your doctor if you think ur depressed.