Pain killers for light labour pains - i dont want them!

Ruth - posted on 10/09/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am 40 weeks and 2 days now and have been getting back aches, all i want is for my partner to give me a back rub, but A) he doesn't stay awake long enough and B) his hand gets tired. Plus its nice to have a little contact with my partner without it being full sex.

My partner said i should take paracetamol, but i made a personal choice to not use pain killers during pregnancy, i dont think i am being ridiculous with my choice and i think he should support my choice and be there for me. Instead of telling me to give up on my birth plan of a pain relief free birth, i believe he should encourage me and be more supportive. Am i expecting too much?

What does everyone else think?

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Ruth - posted on 10/12/2009

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Hiya everyone,

thats me now 40 weeks and 5 days... definitely getting less impressed, ha ha. My partner and i decided to try bring things on a bit quicker in a passionate way last night and dislodged some of the mucus plug, so fingers crossed i will have my show soon and then a baby to hold, YAY

Nicole - posted on 10/12/2009

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I agree with you. You need to sit down and have a talk with him. Explain to him that its you that has to go through the labor, and its your right to choose what methods you do/dont use. And it will be much easier if he is by your side to support you. Communication is key.

Ashley - posted on 10/12/2009

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i didn't want any pain meds either, heck i didn't even ask for heartburn medicine cuz i didn't want to take anything while prego. i had horrible back pain the entire pregnancy & i noticed that baths helped me back pain some (just make sure your water isn't too hot) and using a heating pad helped too. just make sure it's not on you too long, about 20 minutes off & on.

Ute - posted on 10/11/2009

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I refuse pain medication as well. I have terrible back aches due to my breats growth (34B to 36D in 4 weeks). I try to take a lot of baths and get massages from my husband or family.



I am lucky my husband is supportive. I am sorry you are having that issue right now. Did you try to tell him how you feel about it?



I also want a birth without pain meds. No epidural or anything. I just hope I can do it

Katrina - posted on 10/11/2009

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Stick with your choice, but also keep in mind that it's good to be flexible. If you decide during labor that the pain is too much, then don't beat yourself up. I wanted a medication-free birth with my first son, but wound up giving up. 15 minutes after my epidural, I was ready to push. I beat myself up forever b/c I felt that I had given up. But I just couldn't take it anymore. With my second son, I wanted pain meds, but didn't have time to get them as I was only at the hospital 44 minutes before he was born. Honestly, having done it both ways, if I do decide to have another child, I will make my best effort to do it without pain meds again. Everything down to the recovery has been a breeze. Honestly, the labor really wasn't that bad. I do see that you're over your due date. If you really want to go med-free, you may want to pass on induction if they offer it (unless it's medically needed). I was induced with ny first son and the labor was definitely harder. Good luck!!!

Ruth - posted on 10/10/2009

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Thankyou for your input ladies. I now feel alot more confident that i am not asking too much from my partner. I realise that i may end up having to use pain relief i have no issues with that, but my first plan is to go w/o if i can manage it. Ofcourse i know i may have to be given a C section or the midwifes may advise me to use some form of pain relief but until then i need to remain focused on my goal, so again thankyou for your replies as it has given me encouragement to stick to my plan

Been having lower abdominal pains this morning and very light back ache, so im hoping this is the beginning of the big event.

xx

Amber - posted on 10/09/2009

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Sounds like my husband! :)

I totally, 100% agree with you! With my first child I knew nothing about natural childbirth. With my second I chose to not use any drugs. It wound up being a c-section (for both births) but with my second I got to labor about 10 or so hours without any medication. My husband was behind me all the way and I believe yours should be too. You need that support during an important event.

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no you're not expecting too much at all!!.. sometimes its hard for the guy to fully understand, but thats expected.. the physical pain can be real bad but if its ur plan to go w/o meds during labor then great for you girl.. i tried that but man it was hard, i ended up getting the meds, and then epidural.. i ended up with a c section lol.. but doesnt matter, ur still giving birth

Heather - posted on 10/09/2009

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i completely agree with you!! it's your body doing all the work and you know what you can and can't handle. he needs to be more supportive of you!!

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