PARENTS VS GRANDPARENTS

CYNTHIA - posted on 02/22/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )

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ON VALENTINE'S DAY MY BABY GRANDFATHER CAME TO PICK HER UP FOR A FEW HOURS HE SAID. HE TOLD ME THAT HE WOULD BRING HER BACK HOME, BUT HE DIDN'T MY BABY FATHER CALLED ME ABOUT 4 HOURS LATER ASKING MY WHEREABOUTS. IN THE BACKGROUND WAS HIS MOTHER AND HE WAS RELAYING MY RESPONSE TO HIS MOTHER. IN TURN SHE WAS ASKING WHERE I WAS, WAS I HOME, AND COULD MY DAUGHTER SPEND THE NIGHT. I SAID NO BECAUSE WE DIDN'T PREPARE FOR HER TO STAY OVERNIGHT. IMMEDIATELY SHE WAS I GUESS UPSET BECAUSE I WAS NOT HOME AND I SAID THAT MY DAUGHTER COULD NOT STAY OVER NIGHT. SO SHE TOLD THE BABY FATHER TO TELL ME THAT I NEED TO COME PICK MY DAUGHTER UP BC IT WAS GETTING LATE.. I DIDN'T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THAT, BUT WHEN I GOT THERE THESE PEOPLE MADE ME KNOCK OUTSIDE OF THEIR HOUSE FOR ABOUT 20 MINUTES THEN THEY BRING MY DAUGHTER OUT THE OPPOSITE DOOR FROM WHICH I WAS KNOCKING. I TOLD THE BABYDADDY THAT I DID NOT APPRECIATE HIS FATHER PICKING HER UP AND NOT BRINGING HER BACK AS HE SAID. I ASKED WHY DIDN'T HE MAKE A WAY TO BRING HER HOME AND HE REPLIES "THAT HE DON'T HAVE A CAR AND HE DON'T HAVE ANY MONEY." I SAD TO HIM THAT HE WORK EVERYDAY AND THAT HE SHOULD HAVE MONEY BC HE ONLY HAVE ONE CHILD TO TAKE CARE OF. HE THEN TELLS ME THAT HE HAVE TO TAKE CARE OTHER PEOPLE REFERRING TO HIS UNEMPLOYED GIRLFRIEND AND HER THREE CHILDREN. Then he says to me, "Im not going to argue with you. You have YOUR DAUGHTER, now get out of my yard." The grandma say that is was my responsibility to get my child home even though the grandpa came to get her and said that he was going to bring her back. Im so stressing with this family because it is always soemthing with them. The mother won't allow her grown boy become a grown man. She said i provoked him to go off cursing and disrespecting me in front my daughter. WHAT SHOULD I DO?? MY SITUATION WITH THESE PEOPLE ARE ONLY GETTING WORST......

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Terra - posted on 02/22/2010

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Maybe you can allow the grandfather to take her to the park in the summer or something then, just because the rest of the family is disrespectful he shouldn't have to be held accountable for it. Explain to him what happened and tell him that you just don't think that is the right environment for your daughter to be in. Tell him that you know that he tries and you respect him for it, but you can't back down on this issue with the rest of the family.

Terra - posted on 02/22/2010

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Cynthia,

I am sorry that you are having such a hard time. I would try to tell them, if they call ONLY, that if they want to see your daughter that they will have to see her over at your house so what happened before won't happen again. I would make it clear that it is unacceptable how they reacted. If they really want to see her then they will come over to your house. The first second that they start disrespecting you in your house and in front of your daughter I would show them the door. I would definately not let her go over to their house anymore until they gain some respect for you. It is like they are children throwing a tantrum because they didn't get their way. In all honesty I think that the grandfather had every intentions on bringing her back until his wife and son got involved in the mix. It sounds like he tried to stay out of it after the fighting started. Good luck and I hope this helps

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CYNTHIA - posted on 02/22/2010

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REALLY AND TRULY HE DOES TRY TO STAY OUT. HE GOT CALLED TO WORK. HE IS LIKE THE ONLY ONE IN THE FAMILY THAT TALKS TO ME RESPECTFULLY. THE MOTHER JUS TAKES HER SON WORD AND MAKES IT LAW.

Stevie - posted on 02/22/2010

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stop your relationship with them they clearly said your daughter so that means she is your daughter dont let them have her or take her if her biological father wants to see her bad enough he can take his lazy butt over there and play with her with you watching over dont have anything else to do with them besides how do you know what is going on over there maybe they are talking smack on you idk im not about to give you more reasons to add drama but honestly you dont know id just say end it now if he wants her in his life bad enough he will come to you to me it sounds like his parents have growing up to do themself so of course he isnt going to grow up

Tabitha - posted on 02/22/2010

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As hard as it may be you cut ties on your end. GIRL you dont nor do your daughter need some disrespectful ass ish like that in your life.. I would be sooo hella hella pissed you have no idea. It makes me mad reading this. If I were you I would no longer let them take the baby at all by themselfs cause one time you gonna go get your baby and they arn't going to give her to you. If I were you I wouldnt call or nothing if they wan to see her they can come over to the comfort of "your" daughters home and DEAL. I wish you the best and am sorry you have to experience such a situation like this.

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