Mary Renee - posted on 01/16/2011 ( 102 moms have responded )
I look young for my age... apparently! I don't see it, I dress nicely, I don't wear cartoon shirts or anything! I'm thin and have blue eyes and round cheeks but I never thought I looked SO young. I mean I know when I was under 21 there was no way I was getting into clubs but everyone said I would like it when I was older.
Now I'm 24, but people are so freaking rude while I'm out with my baby! I think they're trying to be nice but I can't help but feeling like they wouldn't treat OTHER 20-somethings this way.
I'll have my daughter with me and complete strangers will come up to me (at least three or four times a week!) and say:
"Is that YOUR daughter? What?! You don't look old enough to have a baby! How old are you!?" and it's not like a question it's like a demand, like how dare I look young and be thin and have a baby!
Or sometimes people just straight up come up to me (again- complete STRANGERS) and say
"How old are you?"
And then when ever I tell them they're like "What? I thought you were 14! You don't look old enough to have a baby!" or "You don't look like you had a baby." But they're not saying it to be nice, they're saying it accusatory.
I don't know about everyone else but when I was younger my mother taught me that you NEVER ask adults how old they are because it's rude. Granted, I'm not over the hill by any means but still! Why do people think they have the right to ask me this question?
What's worse is sometimes I get "looks" from people that don't ask me and they're just assuming. One time I got on a plane and the guy sitting behind me on his cell phone said to the called "Oh great! Now a teenager mom with a baby just sat down in front of me!" (btw, my daughter was an angel and didn't cry once during the whole 5 hour flight, I just nursed her practically the whole time!)
Any good responses I should make? My best friend said I should start saying "How old are you?" Hahah, and I think I will. Anyone else run into this? Sometimes I think about wearing a fake wedding ring just to get people off my back!