people judge my age

Rachel - posted on 03/28/2010

hello dear :) i can understand where you're coming from as i was 21 when i had my son. i think that you know better than anyone else how you feel about you fiance. you're the one that has to live with you decision so if you feel confident about it...just live your life. i got a bunch of slack b/c i didn't marry the father of my son, from family mostly...but once they saw my reasoning they agree with me. i know it's hard to deal with the nay-sayers but you have a wonderful gift from God in your child and i applaud you for doing the right thing and keeping it. that child will be the biggest blessing of you life. and to have a man that is supportive and loving can only help you both :) be strong just ignore ppl that are rude if you can...

Jennifer - posted on 03/28/2010

i understand where you're coming from and can definitely relate. im 22 and have two children who are 11 months apart. i turned 21 six days before my first was born. and honestly, age is just a number. getting pregnant and having children will make you grow up fast. and it is quite annoying having ppl throw in their two cents, especially if its discouraging. but like others have said, its your life, and you have a family to think about now. taking care of them is your number one priority. so congratulations, being a mother is amazing and good luck with unwanted advice. i always smiled on the outside and thought about silly things like what i was making for dinner that night or if we needed milk. we're currently planning our wedding and at times is seems like everything is happening so fast. but we're comfortable and happy with eachother and ridiculously in love. to me, thats all that matters. : )

Melissa - posted on 03/28/2010

O ya we have been together since I was 17 and half yrs old and this yr I will be 29.

Melissa - posted on 03/28/2010

Amber...I was 19yrs old and my boyfriend (now hubby) at the time was 19 when we found out we where going to be parents.We did not get married till our baby girl was 2 yrs old. Then we got married cause he was in the military and fixing to move.Plus I was 20 yrs old and my boyfriend(hubby now) had just turned 20 yr old a week and day that he became a daddy.

Good Day! - posted on 03/28/2010

I was a young 21 year old bride. I've been happily married for 5 years. =)

However, there is one thing that bothers me about your post.

Plus, it's little hard to turn back now, in my second trimester and my wedding is in two weeks.

Lyndsey - posted on 03/28/2010

When my husband and I got married I was 21 and my husband was only 20...Not long after we got married we got pregnant and had our first child when i was 22 and he was 21(we found out we were pregnant in Oct and he was born in June)...Now I a 23 and my husband is 21 going to be 22 and we are pregnant with our second child(due in Oct)...People said we were young and yes we are! But if you two truely love either other and are not getting married just because of the baby I dont see the problem in it! But I will warn you it can be hard because you are so young...just like it has been for my husband and I!

Kerrie Louise - posted on 03/28/2010

i had my daughter when i was 18 n ill tell u wot sum of the looks i got was amazing but at the end of the day im having the baby not them so let them look shrugg it of n enjoy its amazing ias u no bein a mum in single mum n now when i get looked at i smile.

Megan - posted on 03/28/2010

Hey, my best advice is to just ignore it. I'm 20 too. See you're a bit luckier than I am because your fiance is 21...my fiance is only 18, he just turned 18 after I turned 20 and we've had a lot of people that were really down on us getting married and us having a child together because of our ages.

I'm not saying anything, I still have three months before my little one comes along, but I'm not saying that I know everything. So what if I've helped my sister and brothers with their children after they were born? Doesn't mean I know everything and I hate when people assume that I think I know everything just because I'm having a baby.

Congratulations on the wedding. I'm not having a wedding, we're doing it the Town Hall way, but he starts tech school right after graduation and it's just hectic right now. But I wish the best of luck to you and your fiance and I think you guys are doing the right thing for your child.

Like I said, just ignore them, or if it's unsolicited advice, do what I do, smile and nod your way through it. You don't have to take anyone's advice if you don't want it or you think it's unnecessary. :D

Hope this helps.

Jaclyn - posted on 03/28/2010

sweetie you could be 50 and be going thru the same thing and having the same people tell you this bull...take it with a grain of salt and a shot of tequila. i have two sister n laws that were alot younger than you and your man when they got married and had babies. they have been together for almost ten yrs and the other 8...dont let people get to you. if you and your fiance know in your hearts that this is what you are meant to do here and now then who is anyone to tell you other wise. i wish you and your family the best. Im not gonna tell you that it is going to be all butterflies and rainbows but you know that since you have already LIVED 21 YRS! all the best in the world and Congrats on the wedding and baby!!! xoxoxoxo

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2010

Wow some people are just rude. Sweety you are not too young. I am 22, i had my first baby at 19, got married just after i turned 22 (my husband is the same age) and am expecting my 2nd child in september this year, we will still be 22. We have bought a house, my hubby works full time and i just became a nurse. If you have the maturity, the committment, the love and the determination to make things work and create a happy, stable family, who cares what people think. Go for it girl. Congratulations on your marriage and new baby :)

Shannen - posted on 03/28/2010

I was pregnant with my 1st at 19 had her at 20, and i was told by a person i used to work with that i was going to be a bad mother. It hurt so much at the time. But i stopped working there when i was 35 weeks pregnant and have never looked back or spoken to that person again. I know where you are coming from and also why is it that we can't make our own mistakes? how else would we learn!??

Katrina - posted on 03/28/2010

I got pregnant and married at the age of 17 and had my 2nd child at 22. You need to make the best desicions for you. You know you better than anyone else. I knew at 17 I was ready to be married and start a family. Unfortunately after our 2nd child was born he decided I was not enough for him and he cheated. None the less I wouldnt change one decision I made. Good luck

Denae - posted on 03/28/2010

I got married at 21! I also got pregnant twice at 21 ( but lost the babies) Then got pregnant at 22 and had my first at 23. I have a lot of people say that I look way too young to have two kids. People really need to start worrying about themselves for a change, because our world would be a much better place! Girl there will always be people who think they know what is best for you or people who judge every step you make. People who attack you with false accusations. No matter where you go or who you are. Don't surround yourself with them, it is not worth the stress. Do you think this girl heard these things from your friend? She knows or thinks she knows an awful lot about what she thinks or believes you are or whats best for you. She had to hear it from some one. I wish you the best of luck and hope you don't let this pettiness get to you! It sounds like this girl is jealous of you!

Crystal - posted on 03/28/2010

Congratulations on your enagagement and pregnancy! This is an exciting time in your life, enjoy it. You are not too young at all. My hubby and I got married at age 18 and got pregnant a month later. Our daughter was born just shy of our 1 year anniversary and there is nothing wrong with that. Our daughter is 1 year and 3 months now. We are good parents. I am 20 also and my husband is going to be 21 in a week. But I know how you feel, I feel like ppl judge us. But I really don't understand why. I think that we are doing the right thing and sometimes when ppl wait until they are older to have children, they can't concieve a child or have to get help. That is my opinion, but don't let anyone look down on you for being young, set an example for them. :) I hope that encouraged you, lol. I just encouraged myself by telling you that. Haha! Be blessed in your new life together as a family :)

Elysia - posted on 03/28/2010

the best thing is to try and ignore, unfortunatly we seem to live in a world where as soon as u have a momentous occasion in ur life every feels its there rite to put there 2 cents in, sad i know. Ive had a bit of this, i find mainly from ppl that dont actually know me. Ive just tuned 23 , been with my partner since high school, got engaged just b4 i turned 19 had my 1st baby at 21 and number 2 is on the way. Maybe u could try the old its my life and i need to make my own mistakes and learn from them as im sure u did, but i dont see my marriage or my baby as a mistake and its very sad if u do. Hope things look up for you

Britney - posted on 03/28/2010

personally im 20 and ill be 21 in may as well and i just celebrated my 2 year wedding anniversary in february and our daughter will be 2 in june. to me age is a number its mentally what age you are that determines when and why to get married. if your getting married because of the pregnancy then i dont think that that is a good idea. but if you know for sure that yall will be together forever then go forward with the marriage because thats what your family knows to be right. be sure you talk to your fiance about everything your future, future kids, i mean everything. and make sure hes "the one" but mentally if your mature enough and know deep down without a doubt that getting married is right for your family then i am in full support. like i said im 20 and have been married for 2 years and i have a daughter who is going to be 2 in june. its all wether your mentally ready

Vixi - posted on 03/28/2010

Whoa how rude are some people?!

Yes you are only 20 but if you are mature enough to become parents then go for it!

Dont let anyone put u down hun, them judging u only means they are unhappy with their own sad pathetic lives!

Chin up, enjoy being pregnant and ignore those who sit judging u!! x

Rebeka - posted on 03/28/2010

Hi Amber... I think it's fantastic that your man wants to stay to start with, that to me means you are both ready for a great start to your lives and your bub's!!! I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. People start their carry on like what you've been through because they can't understand it or they are jealous!!! Her opinion won't make your life any different in the long run. Enjoy your first Mum experience and trust me when that baby is born your 'mother-in law' will forget all issues that she had to start with!!! Good Luck and Best Wishes...

Jaime - posted on 03/28/2010

I was nineteen when I found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend and I had been together a little over a year and I knew I was going to have this baby. He would have married me in a second, but I wanted to make sure when we get married it is for the right reasons and not just for the baby. The person who blew up on you, blew up because to them it is the unknown. I had many people who thought less of me, but you need to take the support from those who give it, and ignore everyone else. I am turning 21 in a few months and my son just turned 1 last month. I may be young, but I love him just as much as a mother should love a son. I am still in school, I am still working, and I am a great mom. You can still accomplish all your goals in life, they might just be in a different order than you thought. Congratulations on both your baby and your wedding! Stay strong, and be proud of your decision.

Jessica - posted on 03/28/2010

I have 3 children and one on the way. I was 19 when I had my first with my first husband. Getting married young is up to you as well as having a baby. If you think you can handle the responsablity of having a husband and a child go for it I say. Me and my husband now have been together almost 8 years and have been married for about 6 of those years. I was 23 and he had just turned 21 when we got married. Our daughter was born 3 months after we got married. We are doing just fine. We are a happy family with our girls and our first son on the way. I say go to church stay in church. The family that Prays together Stays together. And thats the truth.

Sheryl - posted on 03/28/2010

don't feel bad my family was not on broad with my preg. or me getting married. i was 20 when i found out i was preg. my self and i was already eng. so it was not like i was not going to marry the man. but i just said whatever this is my life and i'll live it they way i am going to. people need to get over them self and grow up. cause life is to short to complain. if you happy that all that matters. i still get looks and i am 25. like today my youngest who is 2 and has sensory processing dis. and may be autisc. i got a dirty look like i was to young and i just went on and did my mommy job. god gave you your child for a reason. no child is a mistake and that sound like what they are trying to get at. but they got to get over it. your marriage is coming and the baby too. i know it easer said then done just hold your head up high and don't let them rain on your happness. what you prob. should have done what just get x out of the chat and went on. that makes people even more upset cause they can't up set you. that what they are trying to do. i know it not easy but try it next time if it happen. just say what you got to say then x out of just walk away and say bye. have a nice life. my mom hates my husbend and more then likely always well but you know what i love him and his loves our kids and me. so she just got to get over it. best of luck and hang in there your not alone. i think all young moms and couple go through this stuff from others.

Chelsea - posted on 03/28/2010

I am 21 with a 5 month old, been married 13 months.
I say..Go prove the world wrong! You know what you are doing you know what you want...that's more than half the world can say...
and keep your head held high...'cause once that baby is out you get SO much parenting advice and they make it seem like you are doing it all wrong...but just remember they all think they are just being helpful and nothing matters but what you think and do. :D

Good luck and Congrats!!! :D

Frances - posted on 03/28/2010

Just try to remember that age is just a number. A persons maturity is NOT based on how many cumulative years they've been alive. I've met plenty of people older than I who are mentally younger than I am. As long as you are happy, and content with your situation, then thats all that matters. One of my best friends, and smartest, most respectable people I know, is 21 (she turned 21 in Jan.) and JUST delivered her 3rd baby. People are always going to have something to say. I would handle it by saying kindly, "thanks, but I wasn't asking for your opinion or your permission." Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy and your wedding! :) And CONGRATS!

Ashley=) - posted on 03/28/2010

The way i see it is you dont haveto prove yourself to anyone only the little child you are carrying and your boyfriend.



I was 19 and in my first relationship and we got pregnant but we have stepped up and did everything by ourselves..he worked so hard for us and it was a growing process for me aswell as my baby..but shes five today and a true blessing both my children are& a joy in not only our lives but of all who know them and love them also....i had my second 14 mths ago..i am nearly 25 and we have been together 7years.We live our life for them and i was lucky to not come across such rude people in my life so far but those who are rude to you dont deserve a reaction your better than that.I wish you the very best of lucky:-)

Nicole - posted on 03/28/2010

just let it roll off. my husband and i got the same crap, and we were 21 and 22. just try your best to stay positive and if you have to say something to them because they're in your face or being rude, just say that's the beauty of it all. you've already found that amazing special person who makes you better than you ever thought you could be. it just so happens you were on the younger side. :) hope this helps out.

Ashley - posted on 03/28/2010

you know what, don't let those people get to you. I was 17 when i got married and had my first baby, I am only 24 now and have two children. BUT when i was younger and i would be anywhere, people would judge me ALOT. The last straw for me was when i was 18, and my son was about 7 months old and just started crawling, we were in kroger, a grocery store in GA, and an older man grabbed me by the arm and told me how much of a horrible person i was for having children so young and my son at the time had a bruse on his forehead from bumping into the couch and he accused me of beating my kid and tried to say it was b/c i was a child. i lost my temper with him and scremed at him and told him how he got the bruse and left, then I had a yard sale once and an older woman walked up to me and just shook her head and said "tiss babies having babies, what is our world coming to". I was so mad i yelled at her and told her to get off my property. And even now, I am one of the youngest mom's with a kid in Kindergarden, and i get horrible looks from the other moms at the school. My advice to you is IGNORE them, its the only way you can get past it. When they look at you bad, just smile, heck sometimes i just say, hey at least i was responsible enough to raise my children instead of throwing them into a trash can, or having an abortion..

Karissa - posted on 03/28/2010

Here's the thing. You are an adult. You are allowed to join the military and die. You are allowed to purchase cigarettes. You are allowed to buy a car, go to school, buy a house, get married, and have a baby! Now with my next statement I'm not saying that you are irresponsible - You are young, only if you end up living until your 90. But you could die when you are 30 and that would mean you are over half way through your life. You are going to have a baby and at the age that you are at you have the opportunity to disregard your chosen life. Last night I saw a pregnant girl sitting at the bar drinking a beer while being 7 months pregnant. Obviously, bad choices. You are embracing your new life with open arms and excitement. And that's how it should be. Whether or not you planned to get pregnant or you were doing everything you could to not get pregnant, it doesn't change the fact that you are.

What would other people want you to do?
Not get married? Not have the baby? Have the baby and not be with the dad, who you love, obviously? Have the baby and act like an ordinary 20 year old and go out and party and jump head first in the life that "college students" are living?
As a person who lived that life for many years, have a baby at the age of 22 taught me responsibility, selflessness, humility, and love. Having my baby was the most wonderful thing that ever happened to me because if I had continued down the path that I was at I would have, no doubt about it, ended up a homeless, cocaine addicted prostitute.

I'm sure you weren't headed down that life, but I was. And people said the same things to me as they are saying to you. The only thing you can say is "I love my life. I'm looking forward to the amazing blessings that are in store for me." Being a mother and a wife is a noble thing. In this day and age many women think they need to be free and independent. I call that lonely and stupid.

I pray that you will raise your family with the love of God, full of mercy and forgiveness. Love that is never ceasing and unending patience. You ARE loved.

Bridget - posted on 03/28/2010

i was 18 when i got married and 19 with my first pregnancy....people were really judgemental when they found out about my marriage and pregnancy they thought i was too young but me and my husband are still together after five years of happy marriage and 3 kids.....my advice would be just to ignore them they are ignorant of your situation and have no right to judge i dont think you are to young you just do what feels right and good luck with everything :)

SarahJane - posted on 03/28/2010

I am sorry that this is happening to you. I think age is definately a factor that makes people talk. My husband is 10 years older than me, and when he was 18, I was 8. His mother had two children when my husband was 18; therefore, people thought the kids were his. LOL. So, its easy to for people to have an opinion without knowing the full truth. We have almost an 8 month old, and I will be 29 years old. I am glad that I had at least one baby before 30. Don't sweat it... Tell them to eat dirt!

Jennie - posted on 03/28/2010

I was 21, my hubby was 20, and we had been married for a year and a half and together for almost 5 years when I got pregnant. People were the same way. It is what it is.If thats what you truly want and makes you happy, then screw everyone else:) If someone says something then either walk away or whatever. You don't need all the added stress. You have enough stress preparing for your first child and your wedding.

Carly - posted on 03/28/2010

I am 21. Gave birth to my son 2 weeks before my 21st birthday and yes I can tell you it happened to me. I would be out and about doing shopping, filling up the car with gas etc.. and people would be on my back, staring like I was some kid who got herself knocked up in a one night stand.. not once did they think of asking me about my situation. I have been with my partner 6 years, we have our own home, car, I work and my partner studies in Uni/works part time. Yes it was a shock when we became pregnant but we are completly capable of taking care of our child. He doesn't go without one thing and everyone comments on what a happy baby he is and that he is a credit to me. Really what it comes down to is pure ignorance, there is nothing you can do to change these peoples minds, they always assume you'll be an awful Mum because your young but truth be told I probably do a better job than alot of older Mum's. I will always remember going for my scans and a few middle aged expectant mothers were stood outside smoking and looked at me like I was trash and muttered about "young mums", I was so angry, I had always made sure I was extremly healthy having my son for his benefit, never smoked, drank etc and they had the cheek to stare at me while they were stood smoking there 20 a day filling there unborn childs lungs with smoke. Yeh coz I'm a bad Mum completley incabaple of being responsible... idiots!

Kourtney - posted on 03/28/2010

i was 19 and my husband was 22 and i went through the samething. But me and my husband were both active duty in the military and we both are in school. Im 20 now and pregnant but people still look at me like im too young and i will admit i do LOOK like im still 15 years old so random people in the store always looks at me and say i should go on that show 16 and pregnant and i usually curse them out because they judge me and dnt kno anything about me and they assume my age before they know my age. But anyway the way i see it is if you still working in walmart and you 30 and im getting paid more and probably doin better than you from being in the military and goin to school and being married with a baby on the waythen you dont really have nothin to say 2 me

Jocelyn - posted on 03/28/2010

I'm 30 years old,my Hubby is 31 .Next month(april) will be our 12 year wedding anniversary! AGE HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH IT! We are succsesful people as well(we own a resturant) and are raising 2 wonderful children ! Our daughter is 10 and our son is 8! I had them young and did just fine! stick to YOUR befielfs! People will always judge you no matter what you do. As long as YOU and YOUR HUBBY are happy...NO ONE ELSE MATTERS! Good Luck to you both with your wedding,Child and future life together.♥

Cheyenne - posted on 03/28/2010

i got married at 18 and ppl especially my dad where against it but the one thing i kept hearing especially from my bro who really didn't like the guy was "your a grown adult IF its a mistake its yours to make and no body has the right to put you down for it if it don't work out its a lesson learned" so ignore them they aren't worth getting upset but being pregnant your more sensitive to it all and no offense to any their are kids in high school getting pregnant at least your out of high school

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2010

I was 22 when I got pregnant had been out of the house since i was 17 and was not really ready for a child but hey who is I have a fiend that is 31 and she is prego for her first and she comes to me with questions!! once that baby's in your arms I think you will know what to do, it the way god programed us!!!!! Im 23 and think that being a young mom is great we will still have a life after our kids are grown and still be young enough not to be old and boring raising our kids!! people think your too young probably because at your age they were doing thing that made them not ready for a child!!!! thats what i think anyway!!!! good luck with everything and just dont let people get to you!!!!

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2010

Congrats on the baby and wedding! I think if you think the time is right then good for you! My mother was engaged to my father when she was 16 and he was 18! they got married the Aug after she graduated high school so she was 18 when they got married! they have been married for 32 years now! No one thought they were too young back then! I don't see why things are different now! People used to get married at even younger ages along time ago! If you and your fiance are happy with getting married at your age by all means go for it! I am 23 now and married my husband when i was 22! i couldn't be happier and we are expecting our 1st child! People should not be judgemental because your baby's father is in the picture and is stepping up to take care of you and your child together! Good for you and good for him! Congrats!

Jodi - posted on 03/28/2010

I just turned 25. My husband and i got married when i was 23, and he was 22. the baby's coming before he turns 25. i'm just a few years older, and i'm still getting judged. when i wasn't able to wear my wedding bands because i was too swollen, i had people telling me, "oh..i'm so sorry! i hope the father is in the picture...blah blah blah."

i just look at them and say, "yes. my husband and i actually planned this. we're very excited. thank you for your well wishes." they tended to shut up after that. but with working in retail, people think you don't have your life together, and that they can comment on every aspect of your life.

i'm sorry that someone you don't even know was doing this to you. if i were you, anytime someone speaks negatively about your choices and your life, i'd cut them out. tell them thank you for enlightening me, now, never call me again or talk to me again.

my doctor actually told me to just tell people to shut their mouths when they talk about how big i am and what they think about that...i think you can do the same in this situation.

congratulations on your baby and your wedding!

Jessi - posted on 03/28/2010

The two strongest marriages I've seen are my Mum and Dad, who got married at 18 and 19 respectively. They are currently married 26.5 years. Mum had me a week before her 21st birthday.
My Dads parents are coming up to their 50th and they are in their early 70s (not sure exactly), so they married in their early 20s and of their 8 children, the eldest is nearing 50 so they had him in their early 20s also. There is no way to judge if you're too young. Sometimes a young marriage has the advantage of you being able to grow together, as opposed to finding someone later in life and trying to match together..

Just my 2c

Rachel - posted on 03/28/2010

sometimes you gotta do what makes you happy cause if you dont nobody is gonna suffer and be unhappy other than you. Hope your wedding is everything you dreamed it would be,I wish you all the happiness :)

Erin - posted on 03/28/2010

I was 18 and pregnant when my husband and I got married, I had the baby after I turned 19. But people gave us a lot of crap about how young I am. I just turned 20 last February and we found out we were expecting our second little one due in September. One of his bosses FLIPPED out, saying that I was too young and I shouldn't be pregnant again and so on and so forth, so I know how you feel. =(

It sucks, but don't listen to them, only you and your fiance know how you feel about your relationship and your children. So just ignore them and go have fun! Just think, you'll be 40 and your kids will be moved out =) That's the way I look at it.

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2010

don't let people bother you (my spell sucks sorry) I am a young mother as well. I got prego with my daughter when i was 20 my husban who was then my bf had asked my mom dad and step dad if he could marrie me. They said yes. He bought the ring and then we found out we where prego so he brought it back bc it was too much. Fast forward fast my daughter was due March 17, 2006 we tied the knot on FEb 14th with close friends and our parrents and grand parents thats it small under 1500. Then a month later amy was born. People look at me messed up when im at the park and all that stuff and ask me whos child im baby sitting. Let them talk thats all it is. AS long as you 2 are happy you will do fine. Just make shour you keep the commincation open bc its going to get hard onc the baby comes but you can get thought it. You guys will be so happy. My hubby and I have been married for 4 years now and Amy is 4 I want to start trying for our 2nd child and we have alot to talk about with that. But you have to think about you and your family. You will do fine

Lauren - posted on 03/28/2010

I just turned 20 when i had my daughter and my fiance was 21 a few months after she was born. seriously shes the best thing thats ever happened to us. try not to worry about what people think. we shut those negative people out of our lives and it was for the best... sometimes they can come around and be ok once baby is born but for me it was, too little too late. so yeah. keep ya chin up and dont worry about them :)

Christi - posted on 03/28/2010

i got pregnant at 19 and had my son at 20. my husband was 25 at the time and i got some looks. i really didn't catch alot of heat because people that know me know that i am very mature for my age, raising an austic sister while your mother is dying of cancer will do that to you. just don't listen to what other people say. they can judge all they want. we got married before my son was born because it was our opinion that we think it was best to be married before children. my pregnancy was a totally shocker, i was on pills and we were using condoms and i was tested and told i was infertile. but we see our son as a gift from God and even though we got our family started a little sooner than we had wanted, we are now ready to face the world and start trying for baby number 2!

Lynsey - posted on 03/28/2010

dont let anyone make ur dreams only u can do that, im 21 in july and im getting married in august next year and i was 15 wen i fell preganat with my daughter she is now 4, justfollow your heart and head xxxxxxx

Kai Schele - posted on 03/27/2010

You cant let anyone tear down your dreams....If you feel like you are ready to get married and have a famlily by all means do what makes you happy. I got married when i was 19 and had my first child at 21, and i have no regreats about wither of those things...No one can live your life for you. So their OPINIONS i wouldnt let it bother me let it go in one ear and out the other...GOOD LUCK!

Cami - posted on 03/27/2010

People talked bad about me too when I got married at 17 years old--just 2 weeks out of high school! lol People swore I must have been pregnant but I wasn't! I just loved my husband. We have been married for almost 5 years now and we just had our first child last September--4 years after our wedding. The simple fact is that people are ALWAYS going to judge one another. It's human nature. Just make your own way and do the best you can with what you have and forget everything else. Those people who talked about me back in the day are jealous of me now so HA! Good luck and congratulations! Babies and weddings are both miracles and you are lucky enough to have both so good for you:)

Victoria - posted on 03/27/2010

I was 20 when i got married and 20 when i had my son now i am 21 and have one on the way. my husband is 26, but still i get little rude comments without ppl actually trying to make it so obviouse but i know what they mean sometimes and this is what i say. decades ago grls were married and mothering by like 16 years old, and i am out of highschool old enough to pay bills so i am old enough to move on and make my own family. she is probably just jealouse cuz she don;t have what you do.

Melaine - posted on 03/27/2010

i dont think your too young to get married..only you and your fiance know when you are ready not anyone else. I hate it when people judge you because of your age. i mean 21 isnt really that young to get married.. if i was still with my kids dad we would have been getting married feb of 2011. We planned it out so that we would of been together for 6 years before we ever tied the knot h would of been 21 and i would of been 20. but it didnt work out and its not ment to be. when i was pregnant with my son i got judged a lot i was only 15. People would always look at me like your too young...i knew what i was getting into and i was very young and i took responsibility. even after i had my son people would always look at me weird walking into restaurants and i just brushed it off and then i got pregnant again at 18 and people were always telling me i was crazy for having another baby and i just ignored them because i know god wouldnt have blessed me with another baby unless he knew i was ready. but i love my kids and thier the best thing in my world.

Jessica - posted on 03/27/2010

I was 27 when I had my first child and it threw us for a loop. I think that the experience of having a first child does not get easier the older you are. It is a challenge regardless because it is such a huge life change. You need to ignore what others are telling you long enough to clear your head and make sure that you are doing what is best for the three of you. THAT is your concern now, your new family. As long as you can sit down at the end of the day and feel at peace with where you're at no one else's opinions matter. Just nurture your relationship with your fiance and lean on eachother. It is tough but it is so worth it. Best wishes and congrats!

Miranda - posted on 03/27/2010

i was 19 when i was pregnant and 20 when my son was born...my fiance left a little over two months BEFORE my son was born...people do look at you when you've just turn 20 and are gonna be a single mom in a negitive way but i think i have good instincts...there is no age where you can have a child and be an ideal parent...there are people in thier teens and early twenties that are fantastic parents and there are people in thier thrities and forties that are horrible parents...it's not about age it's about the person...i became a single parent at 20 and my son is the happiest little boy i know and when we are out somewhere there's always at least one person that comments on how happy he is and being a single mom is what made me go to school...i finish my freshmen year of college this may and i'm going to be a teacher...so like i said before it doesn't matter the age it's about the person and what they are willing to do and sacrific to thier child...so when people are bein negitive my advice is to tell them you have the situation under control and if you make a mistake it's your mistake and before they worry about you and your mistakes to take a HONEST look at their life and see how they can make THIER life better...there is always going to be someone who wants to bring you down that's life but i hoped this helped and about the marriage i can't give you my opinion because i refuse to be with my son's father for the choices he made after i was pregnant and after my son was born so do your best for your child