People with kids that are 3 years apart?

Heather - posted on 03/22/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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Is it harder or easier? We were thinkin about maybe trying after our son is 2 years and 6 months. So when the new baby gets here, my son will be 3. I just wanted to know how it is? Since most people wait only 2 years apart.

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Kristin - posted on 01/11/2012

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Easier!! My kids are: 6.5, almost 3, and 6mo. The 3.5 year age difference was MUCH easier than the 2 year difference...

Tracy - posted on 03/23/2010

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i have 3 yrs and about 8 mths between my two and I LOVE it... my daughter was such a little helper when bub was born which is great to watch... if we decide to have another i will be waiting to have the same gap, i had a year with both at home now i get that one on one time, the second which i don't think i would get if they where closer they both get and got quality time with me which i love....

Sarah - posted on 03/22/2010

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My kids are 3 1/2 years apart. I have really liked it. I was only 18 months apart from one of my sisters and did not enjoy the closeness in age, so wanted my kids to be a little further apart but yet still be able to play with each other. When my daughter was born my son was done with potty training and he was starting preschool. This was nice because it also gave me a couple hours two days a week with just the baby. He was also old enough that he could get his clothes on by himself and could entertain himself for awhile. This made it easier so I did not feel like I had two babies. I had a preschooler and a baby. They are now 12 and 8 yrs old and I still like it. They can play together and have fun together, but also have their space. It is also nice with sports. For the most part there is not too much overlapping for school things. My favorite time was when my son was 4 and my daughter was about 6 months old. I enjoyed watching my son play with his sister and making her laugh (he was the only one that could get her to really do a belly laugh). Now that they are older we do have more of the sibling relationship where one minute they are best friends and then the next worst enemies, but will always protect the other if a third party comes in the mix.

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Brandee - posted on 01/11/2012

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My kids are 2 and half years apart and it is great. Just remember to include the older sibling in on almost everything. Just have him help get the diapers and wipes or the little things like that. Make him feel like the best helper in the world. It works great on my daughter with her little brother and he really gets exicted when she is around. The only down fall with them being so close together is when they are sick cause they both want you and the older or younger may not want the sibling around. They just want mommy all to their selfs.

Gin - posted on 04/04/2010

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My oldest 2 are 2yrs 8mos and 18 days apart and my 2nd and 3rd is almost 5 yrs apart he was born in Jan and she will be 5 in May

Brandice - posted on 04/01/2010

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I have a 5yr old daughter and a 13mt old son. I'm so glad for the 4 yrs that separate them. My daughter was old enough to understand what was going on and was able to participate in the preparations leading up to having the baby. After he got here, she's been a little Mommy. She's super helpful and it helps having one old enough to pretty much entertain themselves so you can focus on the baby when they're cranky, etc.

Heather - posted on 04/01/2010

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I loved having my kids 3 years apart. My oldest son was at the point where he wanted to help with anything and was very protective over his little brother. He was also very proud! I made sure to include him with anything I could when it came to the baby so he was as excited as everyone else, maybe even more so. Now 3 years later they are 6 and 3 and have a few battles but still remain very close. The biggest problem I have now is the youngest wants to be in school like big brother.

Christina - posted on 04/01/2010

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my son and daughter are 3 years and 3 months apart. it was hard in the beginning because my son was used to being center of attention, then my daughter was born and he had to learn to share me. now that he's 4 and she's 1, i think its a great age difference. he enjoys playing with her and being the big brother, he was out of diapers soon after she was born, he's a big help with her. i do have to say though, that we still do have some issues with sharing between both of them, but i think thats a natural part of siblings.

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we are waiting 7 years until we even think about another, of course next we are adopting if we do decide on 1 more. but my sister and i are 3 years apart and we are very close, we always were. i wouldnt want mine so close together but thats just me. we did have our share of fights. but we were at the same school in elementary school, and we hated being apart for long periods. it was great being 3 years apart since we had eachother to do hair and stuff.

Rachel - posted on 03/26/2010

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i would say it would be easier. i only have one child but when i was growing up my parents had 2 other children and they were 2 yrs apart. they got along great but my parents had a hard time with the diaper thing. they said the only problem was having two babies in diapers. i remember the boys playing and everything. they really loved each other to peices. so i think that 3 yrs apart would be perfect. thats what im gonna do. wait until my daughter is 3 and then have another one

Cecilia - posted on 03/25/2010

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i have a 6yr old son and 3yr old twins. they love each other, they fight, they play but they are close. i grew up an only child. i didn't want that for my child so we decided to have him a brother or soster. we asked which he wanted and he always said both. well that's what he got. any closer in age i think it would have been even harder than it was any longer and i worried that thye wouldn't the close. but you know your situation and how your family unit works together. it is an individule decision but 3 seems to be good.

Heather - posted on 03/25/2010

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lol Leah- I grow up as an only child. I did get everything I wanted but other then at I was bored all the time. So that's y my son will have a brother or sister.

Leah - posted on 03/24/2010

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A brilliant idea!!! My son was 3 when we had our daughter. He is a loving brother, she wrecks his things and he smiles at her, he just cant get angry with her. He plays with her all the time, makes sure she has her bottle when needed, baths with her. It is a pleasure!!!! They are now 4 and 10 months and it was the best thing that could happen when we had another child. It also takes a lot of stress off of us as they keep each other occupied and he is never lonely anymore. Although only children have friends at school, they also need someone to relate to at home.

Domininque - posted on 03/24/2010

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I have 4 kids and they are all 3 yrs apart. It is a perfect age gap. The youngest is already pretty indenpendent by the time the baby comes. And accoriding to child development it is the best age gap mentally for the children also!

Heather - posted on 03/24/2010

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yeah thanks everyone it sounds like that will be great for me. Angelica I had to have a c-section with my son so I problly. Have one again so I hope my son would want to help out then so much. But like I said before he loves helping me now so I hope he will then. I just hope I can get him potty trained by then. He never lets me know when he has to go. I was potty trained by now, but his father wasn't potty trained until he was 2 1/2.

Kristina - posted on 03/24/2010

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My oldest was 3 when I had my 2nd child and it was great. She was entering her independent stage and loved to help out and it made her feel like a big girl. It was nice not having to change two sets of diapers or trying to potty train one while u were having to give most of your attention to the other. It was less stressful.. Now they are 8 and 5..They are very close but every once in a while my 8 yr old wants her space and not have the lil sister up here butt. She likes being able to help her learn her ABC's and 123's she is even trying to help her read. If I had wanted another child I would of done it when my youngest was 3, I really think it is the perfect age difference. Hope this helps..Good Luck ;)

Melissa - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have 3 children- Jordan 11yrs old, Cain 8yrs old, and Destiny 7yrs old. Jordan and Cain are 3yrs and 2mths apart and so Jordan was awesome when Cain was born! She loved to help me out and she was such a proud big sister! I loved it. Now Cain and Destiny are 2 days shy of 1 yr apart and those just kinda became like sidekicks. If one was into something the other one was right there too! Like I said I loved it with my first 2 being 3 years apart. Hope this helps. Good luck.

Samantha - posted on 03/23/2010

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I have a 3yr old and a 10 month old and suprisingly my 3 yr old is very helpful....I love it since my youngest was born the older one has been a very protective big brother. He is very attached to his baby brother. And now as the baby is getting older and able to do more its so cute to watch them play together. My 3 year old helps with everything.

Angelica - posted on 03/23/2010

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My sons are 3 yrs and 8 months apart. In my opinion its a really good age difference. My first son was old enough to understand that there were many things I couldnt do and tried his best to do it himself. During my pregnancy if I didnt feel good i would just tell him and he would sit and just watch tv or color or quietly play in his room and even lay and take a nap w/ me (or pretend to) if I wanted a nap. Since I had my baby he is still very helpful. I had a c-section so if I needed something for the baby he would say "mommy dont hurt your stomach I'll get".

Heather - posted on 03/23/2010

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Thanks I am a stay at home mom. But we live with my parents right now to get money together. I had my son when I was still in high school. But I also can't work bc I take care of my grandfather for my mom. So I have my son helping with that like he take water over to him and stuff. lol So I will be taking care of all them on my only bc my husband works long hours. So when he gets home he doesn't really help me out.

Sharise - posted on 03/23/2010

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My kids r 20 mths apart thanks to deployments...lol (everytime my hubby came home I got pregnant). Anyway, although thats a lil closer than 3 years it was tough for me in the beginning mainly b/c m hubby had deployed again after my second was born. But the good news is that the older child is very helpful. I must admit, it does take a little while to get a new routine for 2 kids. But your 3 year old will b n school soon so i think that having another child when ur first is 3 is a gr8 idea! hope that helps! r u gonna b a sahm?

Heather - posted on 03/23/2010

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That's what I was thinking if I have the next one that I should have them 3 years apart. I figure the my son would want to help me. He already helps me put stuff away and clean up his toys. Thanks everyone

Bridgette - posted on 03/22/2010

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well from personal experience i have 2 children and they are 3 years apart i think it is alot easier then them being like 1 year apart my daughter helps me get the diapers and wipes she always wants to help out its cute

Melanie - posted on 03/22/2010

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Mine are 2 1/2 years apart my son is now 1 and my daughter 3 1/2. A bit tough for me at first with the sleepless nites and still having to care for 2 children during the day but i had a supportive husband and family near by to help out:) But now they are lovely together they can play together and i would not of changed it to have him later. The bond betwen them is so beatiful. :) good luck!!

Bri - posted on 03/22/2010

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My oldest just turned 3in November and I am expecting my second in 9wks... I dont' quite know if its easier or harder per say.. but my daughter is extrememly happy and at each appt she asks if this is when her brother will be born.. she helped pick out his name and she loves to sing and talk to him and read to & rub him... I know this isn't really helpful, but good luck to you!

Heather - posted on 03/22/2010

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I grew up as any only child and I have not idea but, my son seems like he would be a good big bother. But we are waitting until after christmas to make the final choice but I want to know if its good but so far it sould like it will be. I dont want them to be 5 years apart bc my husband and his brother they weren't close and still aren't.

Carolee - posted on 03/22/2010

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I'm wondering the same thing... I'm due on my son's 3rd birthday.



My cousins are three years apart, though, and my aunt said she LOVED the age gap.

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