planned c-section

Charmaine - posted on 03/03/2010 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Why do women plan to have a csection? I always wandered this... to me its very stupid of a women to actually say i do not want to be in labor i just want a csection on this day to fit in with my plans or whatever (unless its necessary for your health).. csection is a major surgery and it takes along time to heal and there is more risk of injury or infection to you and your child... so why do women chose this? ... aslo another thing that bugs me is planning it around your llife? well i am sorry but when this baby comes your life is going to be off your plan becasue you have to switch your life around this baby... i personally think if you chose a c-section (not based on health risks of having a natural birth) and are doing it because you want to fit it into your schedule or are to scared of labor then you are very selfish and shouldnt be having a child in the first place....



not saying c-section is bad... after 27hr of labor i ended up having one and i still am mad that i didnt get to do it naturally... so my next child i just pray comes naturally...

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LaCi - posted on 03/13/2010

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I'm not sure what the definition of a planned C-section is, however I did choose a c-section around the time of my due date. There were many issues, my son was large, he wasn't dropping at all, he was breached until the day of birth, I wasn't dilated at all. My mother was in labor with me for days, regardless of the meds they gave her to speed up labor, before they finally gave her a c-section. They induced my best friend and after days in labor she ended up with an emergency csection. Those are two of many bad stories of the people in my life who had terrible experiences with inducing labor, and they are not the worst stories but its not my place to tell those. When they told me I was showing no signs of ever going into labor, that they would have to induce or I would have to have a c-section I chose the operation. I had a gut feeling something wasn't right (actually I had that feeling all of the last month, I kept telling his daddy that the cord was around his neck), when they pulled him out the cord was wound around his neck, and the doc said I made the right call. It wasn't planned on until last minute but it was planned about a week before I entered the hospital. I'm happy with the decision. My recovery wasn't bad at all, I never noticed my incision and never had any pain. I was up and being a housewife as soon as they let me go home. My son was perfectly healthy. I honestly trust C-sections much more than I trust inducing labor. If I ever have another child and the situation is similar I will opt for the C-section again, no doubts, no remorse.

I think planning to have a C-section rather than give birth because you're afraid of the birthing process is naive, but I think there are many factors that lead to women opting for c-sections and that particular fear is only a very small amount of women.

I also never cared that I did have one, there was no guilt that I didn't push him out, who cares? I incubated, and am now raising, a healthy baby boy and thats all that matters and made what I felt was the best decision under the circumstances, how he came out is irrelevant. I think most of the disappointment women feel after a c-section comes from those who had their child naturally and act as though you aren't a *real women* because you didn't do it, which is ridiculous but it comes from everywhere. Similarly to women who can't breastfeed feeling guilty because of the remarks from those who did.

Most of that is my c-section rant, but thats what happens when ya get into threads like this :)

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Sarah - posted on 03/13/2010

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I think women who choose a planned C-section may not have been informed correctly on what can and does occur, long recovery, possible infection, longer hospital stay the list goes on! Also the fact that C-sections do hurt for some women they can be in pain for weeks!

Also Mental Health, women seen to get down about having a C-section, like they have failed, I suspect women who plan for 1 think this doesn't apply to them because it's what they wanted.
I personally don't understand it either? I've had 4 and wouldn't wish it on anybody!!

Mollie - posted on 03/13/2010

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I had a c-section after 15 hours of labor and no progress. My dr. said I have a pelvic disorder and cannot have children naturally. So, my second was a planned c-section and any that come later will be as well.

Candice - posted on 03/13/2010

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i would have loved to go natural,but madam had other plans...placenta grew over her exit so we had no choice! i dont think the caesar would have been my first option,but knowing now what its all about,i think i would do it again....

Rachel - posted on 03/13/2010

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I had a c-section because a got severe pre-eclampsia at 29 weeks.I don't no y anyone would opt to have a c-section.for one it takes so long to get over. I ended up getting a blood clot on my scar a week after the operation.one of the most painfull tints I've ever had.If I can and my health is ok I'm going to have my nxt baby naturally. I feel I kinda cheated on dis one cause I didn't go through any pain.it like I've missed out on sumtin.so people who r having a planned c-section I tink r taking the easy way out unless of course it is for medical reasons like mine

Ashley - posted on 03/11/2010

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Even though I had a C-section I think its only necessary when its the only option...they tried to induce me and kept increasing it and nothing happened...and they dr said that she was too big and the safest thing to do would be a csection so thats what we did ...everything went smoothly even though i didn't get to hold her as soon as they got her out they wrapped her up and reached her to her daddy and the look on his face was priceless after they finished up they took me to the recovery room and asked if i wanted to hold my daughter and brought her too me just minutes after i had been there .....but as of anyone wanting one because they think its the easy way out it isn't they just need to keep in mind the health of the little miracle is the most important thing in this world..if and when i have another just have to wait and see how its meant for me to have it

Chrystal - posted on 03/11/2010

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i do agree with that big time. i was told 4 days before-hand that i should have a c-section due to his size. i was lucky and had a really good surgery and recovery, but in some ways i still wish i'd had him natural. i dont regret missing out on the pain :), but it was hard not getting to hold him for over an hour while they closed me up and the feeling came back enough. and good luck if you plan to have a VBAC. they don't even do them here in Santa Barbara.

Sarah - posted on 03/11/2010

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i agree!! i had a c section and i refuse to have another one i'm 8 months pregnant with my second child and i let the doctors know from the beginning this will be VBAC and i'm happy they say it's up to me and they are on board.

Alesha - posted on 03/06/2010

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Yea that bugs me too. I had to have a c section with my son because of low placenta levels, and the doctors we worried his heart rate would drop if I were given medicine to induce labor. I just wanted a healthy baby, I was not leaving that hospital without a baby! They told me my best option was an emergency c-section so I reluctantly agreed. Although my c-section was really quick and I healed extremely quick, I still wish it never happened. By the time i left the hospital I was walking pretty good and a week later I was back to normal. I really wanted to deliver naturally, I really feel like I missed out, I really wanted to push him out and have my fiance cut the umbilical cord. Not being able to hold him right after he was born or be the first to feed him still eats me up inside. I'm opting for a VBAC next time around.

Serena - posted on 03/06/2010

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I think when it comes to famous people they decide on a c section because some woman tend to get more stretch marks in the last few weeks of pregnancy....i know i did lol......and I know for a fact that some woman opt for a c section because they would like there private parts to stay normal...if you catch my drift....I nearly had to have a c section with my son because I was in labour for a lil over 52hours and had no energy to push him out...they gave me the epidural (which i didnt want) but i still ended up having my boy naturally :)

Melissa - posted on 03/05/2010

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I had to plan a c-section because my baby was breech.But we waited and waited untill 2 weeks before the due date to try and get her to turn,but she wouldnt.We ended up having her a week early.There is more risks in having a c-section,but if its your only option there is no point in argueing.it only took me 3 weeks to fully recover.I would have loved to have her naturally, but she was stuborn and didnt want to turn.

Christi - posted on 03/05/2010

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AMEN! i felt so horrible after i had my emergency c-section a month before my due date. i never once had a labor pain and i didn't get to endure the struggle to give life to my son. it eats me alive! my sister-on-law from the beginning decided to have a c-sectiong because she didn't want to stretch out... why even have children then. she turned out to be a horrible mother... but that is besides the point. why even get pregnant if you are not going to go through the fight to give life to your child... i don't get it either!

Bailey - posted on 03/05/2010

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I also had a C sections after 20 hours of labor. It was my worse nightmare. It was incredibly painful and very hard for me to take care of my daughter after arriving home from the hospital. 13 months late i had a nother daughter. thankfully Vbac because i don't know how i would take care of 2 children, a newborn and a TODDLER after another C section. I cried and cried to have the 2nd naturally. Luckily it worked out fine and it was a very easy delivery. I really don't know why anyone would want a C section unless they feared thier childs health! But it is a personal choice!

Lauren - posted on 03/03/2010

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I had mild pre-eclampsia and had to be induced. Once I was given the epidural, Joshua's heart rate dropped and the doctor really wanted to do a c-section. Turns out the cord was wrapped around his neck. I had no trouble with the c-section. The only thing I missed was holding my son right away. I was taken into a recovery area until the meds wore off. That was disappointing, but my hubby took tons of photos for me. I'll be doing a c-section for the next one as well. No VBACs where I'm at.

Charmaine - posted on 03/03/2010

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ya i never got to breastfeed or hold my baby right after... it really sucked

Jennifer - posted on 03/03/2010

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I agree.... my fear was epidural and all but I had one. It didn't even really hurt. But I also had two of them and a spinal block. I didn't feel a thing.......... But I pretty much slept through it all too. I am very sensetive to medicine so the anastesiologist had to keep waking me up. I didn't get to breastfeed right away or have that skin to skin contact. I was SO looking forward to being able to have all of that. With all of that drama my delivery was the first time I had ever... been in the hospital, had an IV, had surgery, had a giant needle stick in my back etc.... very tramatic but I would do it all over again.

Sheree - posted on 03/03/2010

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My BIGGEST fear was having to have a c section. I can't even imagine getting an epidural or spinal block. Obviously if i had to do it, i would of, but I also cant understand why people chose to have one, unless it is medically necessary. Natural labour is one of the best things you can go through, you feel so good after doing what your body was designed to do. Women never used to have the option to have c sections. I think sometimes we have gone to far with medical/technological advances that people will just take the "easy" way out which more often then not is not the easiest way. Except for the shock I had as I had my little girl so fast, I was up moving around straight after her birth, was alert and able to hold and feed her straight away. It really was the most awesome experience :)

Jennifer - posted on 03/03/2010

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I think some women just want to get in and out and not have to worry about the pain and labor and pushing. I was in labor for 12 hours and pushed for 2 hours. My DD head was stuck so we had to have an emerg. c-section. NOT what I wanted, I cried and cried because I was so scared and wanted this to happen vaginaly. I am 7 months post-par. and have had more issues I think than I would have had if I would had been able to have her naturally. I am planning on having my 2nd VBAC! I am also planning on waiting until my first dd is about 2 just to make sure that everything is healed internally from my c-section.

Amy - posted on 03/03/2010

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I don't understand why some women do it for there first. I've heard for a specific birthday, because the baby's too big, because the baby is breach...etc. Some of them make since, like if the baby is breach. I also heard of them doing it if the umbilical cord is warped around the baby's neck. But actually planning for no medical reason, I don't understand it either.



Unless they had a c-section for there first and don't feel comfortable doing a VBAC. A friend of mine had an emergency c-section for her first and there aren't any dr's around that have done many VBAC's so for her she feels safer with a c-section (And I think they cut her wrong with the first).



VBAC's can be very safe if you get the right dr, but many dr's are now saying they won't do them.



I'm thankful that after 24 hours of labor I was able to have a natural birth, It was amazing, mostly after holding the baby, things you don't necessary get with a c-section.



I hope your next child is a safe VBAC!

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