Please help 26yr mom of a 4yr daughter so dep. wants another child

Aimee - posted on 06/18/2010

so glad hes changed his mind told u to give him time and he will come round im so glad 4 u hope it all works out 4 u hope to har from u again soon keep us informed aimee

Sarah - posted on 06/18/2010

Thanks so much girls. My hubby and I had a sit down talk Wensday night and I got everything out and so did he. He knows how badly I want another child but he didn't know that when i had my yearly on monday all the baby things I saw and had to ask my dr to give me a min. He was vary soothing (my hubby) And he told me that he did have a change of heart awile back but didn't want to tell me untill he knew for shour. He said we can start to try bc he would like to try for a boy but he doen't care what we conseve as long as the babt is healthy. Thank his next question was do I was to be Pregers when we go on vacation next month. I said yes so we can tell the whole family together well Amy our 4yr can tell everyone. He is so excited he already to me to clean out the extra room. Its almost done. And bring the crib down so we all know how he feels. This mama cryed tears of joy.. Daddy is happy of the age gap we will have once we conceve. Thank you once again for all your words of hope. I can't express how happy Iam and im not even pregers yet next week we start trying. :)

Tiffany - posted on 06/16/2010

I think he's confused on how he feels about a second child. It seems like he's 50/50 on it.

Rebecca - posted on 06/16/2010

well if he doesn't want another child let him prevent it, I'm pregnant with my second child now and I would like another in a few year and my husband says he's done after this one too. I told him that I wasn't going to having my tubes tied or taking any birth control and when we have sex that he has to remember to use protection...So if a pregnancy happens there's nothing to do but have the baby...least that is my point of view and most generally when the baby gets here and daddy sees it..it's all good from there.

Aimee - posted on 06/16/2010

bless u. why is your hubby so nasty? tell u what i do i do a cause from home to get a qualification when my children all goes to school. if he wants u to go to work ask him to find u a job and help u and not critasise u.with the baby thing i dont think u are goin to change his mind any time soon. wish u the best of look with everything u do. i feel so sorry 4 u if u ever need to talk im always hear

Ash - posted on 06/16/2010

I think its great that your wanting another at this point. 3year gap is a gret age gap in kids. iv always seen it being selfish to have just one child ive never been sure why i think that, maybe cause iv a 2 1/2 year older sister and 15yr old half brother with a diff mum and we're all protective of eachother even with our sibling fighting. have you asked him whats hes reason fro only wanting one that he feels they need to be like him? maybe tell him how much good it can be for your little girl itll show her how to share more and social skills and responsibility of wanting to do things to help mummy and daddy with the baby. i hope he comes around i really do xxx

Sarah - posted on 06/16/2010

Thanks Aimee. My hubby keeps talkin about when our daughter (Amy) grows up we get our life back. This is our life and I love being a mother and have enouph love to spread around. I did stop talking about it and he brings it up evey now and then and its just to squish the idea of having another child. due to money or me still not working and when amy gos to school u better hav a job iv been looking there is nothing in our state and idk hes just a prick about it. Sorry thanks so much i love reading your advice it helps.

Aimee - posted on 06/15/2010

best thing is dont bring it up for a little bit then he will think u have forgot about the idea then he might say to u then do u want another 1. my husband is very hard headed and dont buj on anything i didnt talk about it 4 ages and that made him think. it is hard to listen to other mums listening to there babys heart beat but u have to stay strong and think that 1 day u will have enother 1. im 26 27 in sep and i know ive had 5 children i know if i ever wanted any more babys when these have grown up it wont be with my husband as he had the snip after i had my last baby dylan i feel sad some times but i then stop and think im only young when my kids have grown up i can have my life then . just remember to keep strong

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2010

Thanks Aimee for your words they help so much. I had an ob yearly appt today it was so hard bc there was a mother to be who got to hear the babys heart beat and scheduled an ultrsound it hert so bad my dr she knows how badly i want another and that my hubby is only well not even 50/50 on it. She says all in time pray and talk to him. Its so hard to talk to him about it bc hes think headed.

Aimee - posted on 06/14/2010

men dont know how women feel. it is a life changing thing but i told my man that mine would be bought up on there own and get very lonley. my hubby is hard headed and stubben but i got there in the end maybe he will change his mind in time i know its hard i usto cry all the time cause i seen my friends havin more and i couldent my last baby wasent planned by my hubby wouldent change him 4 the world. but always be strong never give up.

Sarah - posted on 06/14/2010

Thanks Aimee-
I get every pop up and I don't sigh up for them, I get everything in the mail, and every store with baby cloths my daughter gos for them before i do and says things about how cute a baby would look. He is so thnk headed. And doesn't get it how deeply I another. We found out his cus. is pregers with her 2nd and her 1st is 18months and shes not happy I cryed bc tha could be me how can you not be happy yes its another life change but its a beautifull thing.. IDk what to do he gets mad at me when i bring it up its just so hard and herts me so much bc he doesn't get it... :(

Aimee - posted on 06/14/2010

my husband did not want another baby at 1st and 1 day i said 2 him do u want to try he said wait a little longer then tryed to put me off and then every shop we went to i usto show him all the cute clothes then hes said yes that was after my second child know in on my 5th child i did a lot of convincing after that and im only your age good luck keep trying