Wendy - posted on 12/05/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )
This is actually the first time I've posted anything in this community, my name is Wendy. I have an adorable, brilliant, active young boy who will be three next month, his name is James. He is my pride and joy as every mothers' children are, BUT he throws the WORST temper tantrums. I'm not talking, kicking and screaming and having a fit. He is aggressive during his episodes. We have taught him that hitting and kicking is not right, and for the most part, he understands this and doesn't do it. He stays on time out when put on time out, but still acts out in the ways that got him there in the first place.
James used to take a sippy cup of only water to bed with him each night, up until about 4 days ago. His sippy cup is his security item. He carries it around with him all day long, brings it with him on car rides, into grocery stores, to grandma's house, etc, so you can understand how important it was for him to have it at bedtime. We had to take it away from him due to his temper tantrums.
Over the past year we have lived in this house and he has taken a cup to bed with him, each morning, if my husband or myself doesn't tend to him immediately upon his first beckon for us to come get him, he would bash his sippy cup against his bedroom wall repeatededly, usually went on for about five minutes straight as we didn't want to get him right away as he was hitting his wall because we didn't want him to see that doing so got our attention and made us come to him. We usually waited until he stopped doing that and moved on to play with some toys then we'd go get him. HOWEVER, being that he did this everyday for the past year, for five minutes a day or so, he actually put a hole RIGHT through his bedroom wall.
This finally resulted in us taking his bedtime cup away from him. We told him why this happened, showed him the wall, and he knows he was not to do that but continued to do it anyway.
I feel so awful having taken his security item away from him at bedtime, but what else could I do? I can't have my three year old putting holes in our wall because he's throwing a temper tantrum.
Does anyone have any suggestions for this kind of behaviour he is exhibiting? Is it normal for a child his age to show so much aggression that he put a hole through his bedroom wall? He is normally a very happy, energetic, loving little boy.
I'm so sorry this was such a long post. I really hope someone responds, I just don't know what to do. =(