Please Help!

Karen - posted on 12/06/2010

You can sit downn with him and show him things he can do when he is mad. Like hitting a pillow, telling you that he is mad, and teach him to talk it out. If he sees you doing it when you get mad he will learn more quickly. At preschool they tell the kids "Now I am mad. What you did just made me mad. I don't like it when people.... Could you please...(stop hitting me) for example. You can hit a pillow (might look silly but do a few punches) then let him know you are calming down my taking a few deep breaths and talking to him. They told me to let him yell when he is mad and to talk angry but teach him to watch what he says. Like no name calling, bad words, hurting ect. Kids need to be taught how to handle these new feelings. Do something and anounce that you are sad, happy, anxiouse. And use face expressions too. It works wonders and really gets them to focus on what you are doing so they repeat.

Jaime - posted on 12/06/2010

Hmmm...I don't have kids yet (our first is due in a month or so) but I don't think feeling sorry for your son because you have to discipline him is going to make things better. I also don't think taking his sippy away at night is going to help. I think it might be better for you to take a more active lead and take the sippy or whatever he's attaching this anger to away when he's throwing his tantrums. It might not work, but I have a feeling that he'll at least slow down if he is shown that he doesn't get to keep his toys when he's not being a good boy.

Wendy - posted on 12/06/2010

Thank you for the encouragement. It's comforting to hear someone tell me it's most likely just a phase. I hope so, I am trying to get him back to cuddling this stuffed dog he picked out for himself, and took to bed everynight with his sippy cup, but ever since we took the cup from him, he wants nothing to do with the dog either. Poor guy. I'm sure he'll get used to not having it and I hope his temper tantrums calm down substantially.
As far as meditating when he naps, I'd love to, unfortunately James refuses to nap lol. I've tried putting him in his room and telling him it is time to nap, but he just won't. That's okay though, because he sleeps long hours through the night, which I'd prefer rather than waking up too early for me (I work until 11:00 every night, so this would be hard).

Nicole - posted on 12/06/2010

well- my tow year old likes to scream-and hit me- i dont tolerate it i have tried to get down to her level- i have tried time out and i have not spared the rod in a matter of speaking but i am tired and exhausted- i dont let her run rampid or back talk- i tell her no- i asked my own mother about it and she said just stick to your guns- who's will is stronger kind of thing. i lay down the law and i keep to it- i'm told its a phase- and this is just one of them- i'm tired too- just hang in there- with the sippy cup i'd say get him a stuffed one. or try and get him attatched to a different security item. good luck- and try to meditate when he takes a nap

Melissa - posted on 12/06/2010

i have a 3 year old son and although he doesn't have a security item, i would sugest sticking with it, but if it continues for so long you can't stand it the other option might be giving him something different, even change the item nightly so he has something but doesn't have the same thing every night so he won't get soo attached to it and then take it out of his bed after he is asleep, i mean give it 1-1.5 hours before you take it so you know he is asleep. I hope this helps you. I used controlled crying from when my kids where young so they go to sleep fairly easy now.

Wendy - posted on 12/05/2010

Thank you♥ He's usually such a good little boy. A charmer for sure, makes everybody feel instantly happy but when he gets mad, he gets MAD lol. I've wondered about taking him to see a therapist, but it worries me to think I may have to do that with my three year old boy. I mean, he's my precious little boy...I don't want to think there is something seriously "wrong" with him, ya know?

Rachel - posted on 12/05/2010

I also have a three year old little boy but he has always been very passive an never had a security item of any kind. but my suggestion to you is that you just have to stick with him not having the cup and after a few days he will be better. good luck i hope it works out. maybe if his agression is that bad maybe he needs to see a therapist to see why he is so agressive.