Leslie - posted on 10/05/2010 ( 114 moms have responded )
I am SO angry! I have a "friend" who is pregnant w her 3rd child from a 3rd relationship and isn't getting any prenatal care. Let me give you some background. She married young and had a daughter who died due to an incompetent cervix. She successfully birthed another daughter but her marriage didnt last, sadly. She is addicted to love and very quickly jumped into another relationship and became pregnant. The guy didn't want the child so she agreed to an abortion and that's when I met her. We have a mutual friend who asked me to talk her out of the proceduer and I did. She had her son but the guy bailed soon after her son was born prematurely. I'm not sure how early he was born but his lungs were underdeveloped so I'm guessing before 30 weeks. Again, she jumped into another unsuccessful relationship and even went so far as to move her children in w the guy she was dating before he moved out. She met ANOTHER loser and surprise surprise, got pregnant, again. She had an abortion per the request of her boyfriend and 3 weeks later was knocked up again!!! She had yet another abortion and STAYED with the a-hole. She moved her children in with him and then later they all moved across the state. A few months later she was--you guessed it--pregnant again. The guy again told her he wanted nothing to do with her or the baby and kicked her out. She looked into having another abortion but after finding out she was 14 weeks along it became difficult for her to find a clinic who performed 2nd trimester abortions. I again, talked her out of it and tried to convince her to find a family to adopt her child. In the midst of her poor decisions she used child support money and her tax return to buy BOOBS!!!!! Really?? I finally couldn't hold my tongue any longer and told her how I felt after reaching my boiling point when her bratty children tore up my house and my son's toys while she sat and facebook'd on her iphone. She told me she was "doing the best she could" and "she left a bad situation". She dated the guy for almost 2 years and he brought drugs (cocaine, meth, pot) into their home on a number of occassions while her children were in the house and even sold it out of their home!! She chose him over her kids time after time until he made her leave. She is always the one who gets left and I think it's bc she treats her children as luggage; things you have to take with you when you travel. Kind of like clean underware or a toothbrush. Although one time we went out of state and she left her 1yr old son w her mother and "forgot" the diaper bag. We were gone for 3 days and he didn't have so much as one clean diaper. And now she's "struggling" w the decision to give her baby to a proper family bc she's unsure if she can "live w herself at the end of the day". You can kill your children, but you can't give them the life they deserve??? I can understand one abortion but repeated ones just to stay w the jerk who knocked you up? She keeps expecting my help but I can't give it to someone who doesn't help themselves. I have an 18m/o and a baby due in February. My husband has forbidden her and her children to come into our house again after reaching his breaking point and she still refuses to help herself. She called me a bad friend when I told her our kids couldn't play together bc hers were too destructive. I'm at my wits end and I can't take anymore of this...