Post Partum (sp) depression trouble

Crystal - posted on 03/16/2010

thank you everyone for your advice and help..I finally broke down and talked to the hubby to be..He understood and was actually more understanding than i thought and he realized why i was the way i was because he had went thru deppresion himself years ago. But it still doesnt help the way that i feel...He doesnt get mad at me anymore for goin a-wall sometimes LOL he just shruggs it off which helps some LOL. The one thing he done that really drove me to my edge the other day was he kept sayin go to bed ill take care of mark go to bed go to bed...Im like thats my problem i want to stay in bed!! I dont want him to act like i cant care for my son if i cant do anything else i can do that! and thats the way he made me feel like everytime i get up to get the baby he runs to him first he may be just tryin to take some of the load off of me but taking care of my child is the one good thing that i have in my life!!
I am in the works of gettin Tenncare but its slow....Im hoping that i will be taken off of this celexA...im almost out and ha ve no insurance so it looks like im going to have to do without till i figure something out!

Kay - posted on 03/01/2010

I went through something very similar! My Dr put me on Lexamil, it helps, don't know where you live but if you are in Port Elizabeth try Dr Swart at the Medicross near Makro he really is great! He's the first Dr that didn't make me feel like an idiot. You know when they talk AT you and not TOO you, well he talks too you. Good luck to you it's a shitty thing to be going through.

Amy - posted on 02/28/2010

Hi Crystal! I know how you feel honey, you are not alone but i will say that i was on the Celexa for 3 years and it didn't do much for me either. I just had baby #2 on 2-19-10 and they put me on Zoloft this time and i feel alot better than i did when i started taking Celexa. I also found that the Celexa made my memory bad, i just couldn't remember little things and thought maybe it was just mommy brain as we call it but then i found out that i was not the only one that was going through this so i told my doctor that i didn't want to go back on the celexa and he put me on the Zoloft. I hope things get better for you and good luck!!

Amanda - posted on 02/27/2010

I went through almost the exact same thing, and it lasted until my son was about a year old. Nothing towards him, just toward pretty much anyone else I came in contact with. I was also put on Celexa for the same thing you said you were. Lower doses didn't really help, but higher doses made me feel numb and have pretty much no reaction-good or bad-to what people say/do or anything going on. I would suggest trying a different medication if it's not helping, but keep in mind that it does take a little bit to notice a difference. With your fiance, I think it would be a good idea to talk to him about what you're going through. You're not alone in going through this, and it doesn't make you crazy! He may actually be very understanding of it once he knows what you're going through and could help you deal with it. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to!

Sarah - posted on 02/26/2010

Crystal, I'm so sorry you are going through this right now! I haven't actually experienced PPD, but I do suffer from OCD and axiety. I did have some depression during my pregnancy with my son, and it was a horrible feeling, so I do understand to a certain extent. I am currently on 50mg of Zoloft for my OCD & it is helping tremendously, although I feel like I'm might need to go up on my dosage some. I think talking to someone like a counselor/psychiatrist would be a BIG help. And like Amanda said, some do charge on a sliding scale.



And I can relate to you as well about talking to your fiance. My husband just never could quite grasp the fact that I have been dealing with OCD/axiety for so long. He thinks it's all in my head and that it's something that I could control if I just "tried hard enough." Well, it's a little harder than that. I would often feel embarrassed trying to talk to him about it. Maybe you could just sit him down one night and tell him that you have some things that you need to talk about and that you need all the support you can get right now. I hope it all works out for you hun! And we are all here if you EVER need to talk!!

Amanda - posted on 02/26/2010

First, call around to different doctors because there are a few who charge on a sliding scale. Try talking to your fiance. He may not get it but still try. If you are having a lot of problems, you may need to take a break from him. Once my husband and I were having so many problems, I called his sister to see if I could stay with her for a few days. Fortunately, we were able to work it out, but I know how hard it is to be depressed and have a baby and not have support from your partner.

Crystal - posted on 02/26/2010

Charmain no Im not breast-feeding. I want to go get further help but i had medicaid and only pregnancy medicaid at that cause i made to much money to get full coverage and its actually run out already...so going to another doc is kinda impossible right now...I try to tell myself that this is silly and i need to straighten up but...that just dont work LOL im happy wit my fiance' but he just makes me so mad and i fly off the deep end over nothing. We are havin serious issues and im afraid that if i dont get a handle on this that im going to loose him. I want to tell him whats going on but then again i dont...

Jill - posted on 02/24/2010

I'm sorry Crystal. I went through PPD and anxiety with my little one. I know how you feel, it is so hard. Please go to a psychiatrist, not a psychologist. Psychiatrist can prescribe meds. and they know more about the different meds. and dosages. You can be honest with that person and have someone to talk to. That is there job. I felt the same way. I took zoloft 100mg. it took time to get through. everything changes when a baby comes into the picture. I get so frustrated still when my hubby doesn't help out, etc. Stay in close communication with your fiance and tell him how you feel and maybe you can figure out ways to work things out in a better way. You only had your little one a little bit ago so don't put too much pressure on yourself. Give yourself time the 6 mons. mark and one year mark is awesome and keeps getting better. Mine is 17 mons. now and talking up a storm. It is so much fun.

Charmaine - posted on 02/23/2010

i went through the same thing... the only thing that helped me was sleep... i had anxiety and mood swings and depression pretty bad... i never took medz (im in psychology so i did some other methods) i also would just cry it out.. the only thing i did wrong was not talk to my husband and tell him how i was feeling... I started feelilng better when my son was 6 months old but only because i had another friend going through the same thing and we talked about how we felt to eachother because we both understood (its hard for others to understand) and ya now i feel fine... r u breastfeeding? i know when i started to ween i started to feel better also

Amanda - posted on 02/23/2010

Try therapy. It helps to have someone who will listen to you rant without judging. They can also give you tips on how to stay calm. You may also need a different med. I am on my fifth anti-depressant(Zoloft). They have upped my dose twice and now I am doing better. I still get angry with my husband when he is being a jerk, but at least I don't want to strangle him. I can stay calm and walk away.