Potty Training Problems

Tanya - posted on 02/22/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




Please help me... my 2 1/2 year old girl will not sit on the toilet or potty chair. She is still in pull ups

and refuses to go on the toilet. she even pretends she is going potty standing up like my husband. any suggestions to get my stubborn girl to go on the potty????

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Paula - posted on 02/23/2009




my daughter is 3 and we're still having problems with it. part of it is stubborn-ness on her part. and part of it is lack of regularity. When i'm home with her i put her on the toilet regularly, but her dad doesn't. Going to grandma's house doesn't help much either because one grandparent does potty train with her and one doesn't. i don't even want to think about what would happen if we took her on my dad's boat....


we tried the reward system with candy, suggested by my Mother in law, and it worked for a while, until daddy just kept giving her candy each time he decided to eat one. We also tried little toys (my brother works at Burger King and brought home a ton of kids meal toys) and that also worked for a while until she decided those toys weren't worth it.


She was afraid of the adult potty, and refused to use hers. Until i discovered the secret to getting her to pay attention! Let her pick her own undies. It worked like a charm. She spends about half the day in them, accidents or not, it makes her happy and she's much better about sitting on her potty. naptime and bedtime she's in pullups. but she wakes up dry from both fairly often.

kids go at their own pace, don't let other parents tell you you're kid is behind, and don't let the day cares pressure you into forcing your child too soon. i was a preschool teacher for years in a Toddler/2-year old room, those teachers get PAID to work on potty training with the kids.

Jacqueline - posted on 02/23/2009




The reward system works great or it did with both of my kids. Like the other mothers were saying earlier...start small. My daughter is 2 1/2 and we just got her potty trained about 2 months ago. Our biggest problem was getting her to go poop. She loves babies so we told her that if she went poop...we would buy her a baby. The first night she did...we went to Target that night and got her a baby. Don't get discouraged. It will eventually happen but they have to be ready too.

Katie - posted on 02/23/2009




I think the candy approach is very good, I used it with my first two children and they potty trained fast. My third is having some trouble I give him mm's when he goes on the potty, he will pee but not poop and he will only do it at home not anywhere eles, he just turned two in December. I think the best thing to do is to stick with it. I believe once you start something with them you have to follow through with it. One thing I do is make him sit on it about every 15 to 20minutes even if he doesn't want to. Stay calm and stick with it thats my advice, I now its hard trust me I'm going through it to. I also think that you know when they are ready whatever there age is. I figured out with my first two that you are the parent and you know what is best for them so trust yourself, it will pay off in the end when you don't have to buy the expensive pull up anymore.

Anika - posted on 02/23/2009




I know some people frown at this approach, but they way I got my 2 year old potty trained was to give her a small sweet of a chocolate button if she went "wee-wees" on her potty. She got the idea very quickly, even though when we started potty training her she was only 14 months. It took her about a week to get the idea and know where she needed to do her toilet business. She had accidents, it happens, but we just said "Never mind" cleaned her up and didn't make much of a fuss. We stopped putting nappies on though, or pull-ups during the day, so that she had the sensation of being wet when she had an accident. I know some people may not like that, but it worked.

She is 2 now and is fully potty trained in the house. We are tackling going on outings and etc at the moment. She goes to day-care on Monday mornings for two hours and I don't put her in pull-ups for it. The staff preferred that if she had an accident I just supply more clothes to change her into rather than pull-ups. So she is getting the hang of it. there were no accidents today, and we went to another baby group after I picked her up. 3 hours! I did ask her if she needed to go, she said she did, so I took her to the toilet and she went there.

Brenda - posted on 02/22/2009




To be honest she may not be ready yet.  It is a common misconception that a child should be potty trained by 2 or 3.  My son is 3 1/2 and just completed potty training.  All children develop differently, and sometimes it takes longer for one child than another. One of the biggest indicators is staying dry all night, and real interest in the potty.  If she doesn't mind being wet or dirty, she's probably not ready.  I knew my son was getting ready when he started ditching his dirty diapers and his wet diapers.  At that point, I instituted a reward system (I bought a big back of dum dums because stickers and charts didn't work for him).  It was slow at first, but he got the idea really quick.  But then I took away the pull ups and put him in undies.  We went through a few days of accidents, but he caught on pretty quick after that.

Every child is so different, don't feel bad if she isn't ready.  A lot of moms feel pressured to get their kids potty trained as fast as they can and if they aren't ready you're setting yourself up for them to regress or resist completely.  I know how frustrating it can be, but letting them train when they are ready will cause you much less stress and worry. Hope that helps you out!

Stacie - posted on 02/22/2009




I have a 2 1/2 year old son who is almost completley potty trained and we were having a really hard time with him for the first little while. What we did was go out and bought a nice gumball machine and I found sugarfree gumballs at Costco for like $15 for an obnixous amount. Then we let him make his own bank,we used an old small rectangle can that powdered cappuchino came in. We let him color paper to put on it, use stickers, and make it his own. Then we cut a slit in the top of it for pennies. If he went pee he got 1 penny and put it in the can. If he pooped he got a penny and could choose wether to put it in the bank or use it for a gumball out of te machine. It worked like a charm! We also took him out after his first accident free day and got him a new hot wheels car, and then after his first accident free week we took him and got him a new peice of track for his Thomas the Train set.

Its also helpful to get them to do little chores, we want Ryan to learn to help around the house, so he has little chores that he has to do, Pick up his toys, put his dirty clothes in the hamper, little things like that, and when he does them, he can take a penny out of his bank and get a gumball with it. Works great!

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try not to get frustrated.  I firmly believe kids will go in their own time.  Continue to coach her and be positive.  Start small with her.  Just will her sitting on the potty reward her.  Maybe if you can afford it take her to the store let her pick out a few toys that she loves and put them up where she can see them. (start small)  Let her know when she sits on the potty the right way she gets a toy and then when she goes to the potty she gets another toy ect.  I would make the toys small that way you dont go broke : )  Just remember to stay postive with her.  Praise her every time she does it the correct way and show her how to do it the correct way.  reminder of the prizes she can get.  make a sticker chart, get noise makers ect... make it fun for her.  Just dont push her.  she will go when she is ready just keep reminding her what big girls do.  Hope that helps.  Stay positive and go outside to scream!   : )

Miri - posted on 02/22/2009




Have you tried the reward approach? Because I was having sort of the same problems with my 2 1/2 year old until we bribed her with suckers or stickers.  Sometimes kids need that extra little motivation to get going.

Hope this is helpful if you haven't tried it already.

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