Pre-School..yay or nay

Kelly - posted on 05/18/2009 ( 70 moms have responded )

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Im just curious to know how many of you choose to NOT put your child/children into preschool and why. I have had a few people make comments to me implying that Im not being a responsible parent and/or holding my child back by not enrolling into preschool.

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Charlie - posted on 05/18/2009

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as an early childhood educator i think preschool can benefit children at the right age i dont see any benefit in sending them too early 2 years is a good age for girls they can handle it better , but boys tend to suffer seperation anxiety more so 3 is the recomended age , i personally think its fantastic for their social skills but if you already have them socialising with other children an adults through playgroup or even friends with children then that can be enough , preschool does present opportunity for them to explore and learn through resources available to them that may not be available at home and of course if gives some free time to spend some well deserved " ME" time , but what it comes down too is you , its your child and your choice dont let other people bully you into doing somehing if its not right for you or your child , hope thats been some help , Loureen

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Jessica - posted on 05/23/2009

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I love preschool because it prepares them to go to kindergarten without a problem I say YAY

Latrisha - posted on 05/23/2009

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That is not true I didn't put my child in a daycare or a preschool. Now she is in a magnet school and has been since she was able to start school and now she is going into the six grade. I took up time with her and I bought her a Leap Frog Pad it is very helpful she knew her states and capitals before she enter school.

Keri - posted on 05/23/2009

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Personally, I think that if you are working with your child at home and teaching them the things they will need for preschool such as alphabet, name, etc. then preschool is not entirely necessary. It is good for them to learn the routine of school, such as putting their backpack in place and following a schedule, as well as listening skills, and other things like dance and singing. When they're in a structured environment, they are likely to learn things that they could not at home. Personally, I will be putting my child in preschool when he is 3, and as a former 3rd grade teacher, I consider myself to be a great educator, but I don't feel like he should learn solely from my husband and myself.

Crystal - posted on 05/21/2009

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I seriously reccomend Preschool for the social experiance and they learn soo much. My son is finishing up his first year and due to his sage will have another year of preschool next year also.

Amber - posted on 05/21/2009

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preschool can be good but if you chhose not to you can tack that time to teach them waht they need to konw befor they start school and tack that time to bound with them

Elizabeth - posted on 05/21/2009

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Before becoming a SAHM, I was a teacher. I taught junior high and high school, but did my student teaching in a kindergarten class. From this experience, I can tell you that preschool is a MUST!!! The children that did not go to preschool were not very well socialized, and 8/10 of them had to repeat kindergarten the next year. It was so obvious who had not gone to preschool. They were very far behind and were always the ones crying at the door each day. I would definitely recommend it!!!

Tina - posted on 05/21/2009

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I would definately put the kid in preschool. My son is finishing preschool this June. He is a completely different child since he started. They learn lots of things and at this age they just absorb it.

Melissa - posted on 05/20/2009

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As a teacher and a mom, I definitely recommend preschool! Not only does preschool introduce some important concepts to children - ABCs, counting, story time, centers, etc. it also allows them to socialize with other children and follow directions from other adults. It sounds as if you're an amazing/supportive parent, who is already your child's first teacher, and that's fantastic...but I think preschool (even if just a couple days/week or a couple hours/day) is GREAT for children - especially if you find a GREAT preschool. I had no choice to put my children in, since I work, but I always say that even if I wasn't working, I would still be putting my children in for some time per week. I guess the main reason is b/c they can learn the daily routine of school - sitting when told, playing when told, eating when told...I've seen some Kindergarden children who have a very rough time making the adjustment to school b/c they've been home all their lives and have been in control of what they do and when. It's just so hard for some kiddos to leave mom and be gone all day, when they've never been gone at all. Even if your child already knows his/her ABCs, etc. it's just a great chance for her to start her own life and see that it's OK to love going to school!

Good luck w/ whatever decision you make!

Holly - posted on 05/20/2009

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I think that putting your chils in preschool is a good idia ,fist of all it gives them some time away from mom or dad for a cupple of hours a day withch some need that .also gives the child some other kids to play with and it teaches them so many differnt thing s ..GIrl its your child do what you thing is rite !if your child already knows how to begain to read write all the numbers and abc and colors and can cournt to oner a 100 and knows how to work a computer then ya wait but my son has to know all that and a little more for first grade !!!!

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Quoting Kelly:

So at the risk of sounding like dumb what is pre school mainly for...the socializing? I have taught my daughter her alphabet ( she's not perfect yet but pretty good) and we are starting on writing her letters and numbers.



Your doing a great job. Dont let any make you feel bad because you dont want to put your child in pre school. If you are able to teach her yourself then keep doing it.  I would love to be able to do it more with my son.  I am in college full time as well as work, so the extra help provided by a pre school works for my situation. You seem to be doing great though and that is wonderful. Good luck!

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I feel it is a choice that can only be made on case by case basis. It depends on the individual childs needs and development. I personally think preschool is good in providing children with tools that foster socializtions skills. In my case my son is an only child and I go to school full time. For the last year he has been being watched by his grandparents. I am trying to get him into an early head start program at the university I attend for the fall. I feel in my case, this will benefit my son more than him being with his grandparents and no other children all day three days a week.

Diane - posted on 05/20/2009

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Hi Kelly...I'm a first grade teacher and I have to say that you can tell a difference academically and socially of those students that didn't attend preschool, many seem to struggle. Every child and the way a parent raises them is different and that is a huge factor (just my view)

Jessica - posted on 05/20/2009

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My first son did not go to preschool, he is going into kindergarten next fall. However he is going to a summer camp to prep him for school. He is very smart and good with other children and has 2 younger brothers and many cousins. My second son turns 3 this fall and I feel as though he needs the exta help and will be going to preschool. He is already in a class once a week. I think it depends on the child and your financial situation, do what you feel is right for your child. Don't worry about others judgement.

Katie - posted on 05/20/2009

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I work in a daycare and preschool facility (ages 6 month - kindergarden). The benefits (in my opion) of preschool (age 3-5) focus on their socialization and emotional development and encourage the children to learn through child motivated play activities. One of the added benefits is the ability to have your child be observed by an outside party. Things such as developmental delays, learning difficulties, and social behaviors that could be big problems for you child later in life are more apparent to the staff that interacts with the children. If you're considering daycare (before the age of 3) the benefits I've noticed are just generally more advanced kids. (We focus on the self help and language skills, like hand washing, eating at the table (with silverware), learning to sit at circle time for 5 to 10 minutes). I would also recommend attempting something more then just one day a week program. Children learn best with consistencey and depending on what your aiming for, it just doesn't have enough time to sink in to even the twice weekers we have.

At the moment though it's really a parents market. Visit centers and shop around to find what fits best for your child. If your not looking to do a full PreK thing, join a mom's group or just make sure you're child is getting enough social interaction with children his own age that he'll see later in Kindergarden. With the summer here consider daycamps at your local park district to get a feel for what your child likes or needs.

Hilary - posted on 05/20/2009

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I didn't put my son in preschool because it was just the schedule at the time. I do regret it though because it would have given him a start at kindergarden. It really is a personal choice I think.

Sara - posted on 05/20/2009

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I think it's a very good idea to put children in preschool. I had my daughter in for 2 years. She started when she was 3. She only when 3 days a week, but it was very good with socializing and it was a good starter with learning the ABC's and with numbers. She is now in 1st grade. It's crazy everything they expect little ones to learn in KDG and 1st grade now a days. Nothing like when we were little. By the end of 1st grade they are reading and writing. I'm very glad that I had her in Preschool. I would highly reccomend it to anybody even thinking about it!!!!!

Jill - posted on 05/20/2009

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I think preschool is a good idea, it teaches the child the structure of school, it also is nice for getting them used to socializing with their peers. If they're already in daycare I don't really think it's as important. Although I don't think that a parent who doesn't enroll their child in preschool is an irresponsible parent by any means. Do what you think is right

Priscilla - posted on 05/20/2009

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so i'm probably one of the few that would say you don't need to put your child in pre-school. Your her voice right now and you can prepare her for Kindergarden. Talk to her and tell her that one day she will start going to school and start making you things and you will be so proud of her when she brings home her first painting or project! I tell this to my boy and he starts jumping up and down of excitement!

Priscilla - posted on 05/20/2009

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All of my friends had/have their kids in pre-school. I'm not doing it because I'm a stay at home mother and we don't qualify for free preschool..lol. It's so expensive! I'm also due with my second boy in July so I thought it would have been a great idea to put my 4 yr. old son in pre-school. I don't wanna sound like a bragging mama, but my kid is pretty smart for his age. All my sacrifice and hard work has paid off. He know's how to write and spell his full name, he even know's how to spell his future brothers name. I do let him watch T.V. and I found some of the shows have helped alot with him learning his ABC'S and numbers. He loves repeating his numbers and singing songs and basically he's where an active healthy 4 year old boy should be. As far as having him interact with other kids, i take him a couple times a week to play areas, water play areas and my friends come over the house with their kids...and it's free! I only have one more year til he goes to kindergarden so I'm just relishing this time with my 1st boy and teaching him all I can and enjoying him.

Sarah - posted on 05/20/2009

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YES! A thousand times yes! I have my degree in Early Childhood Education and worked at a preschool for 3 years. My daughter also attended the preschool I worked at. It did wonders for her socially and academically.

User - posted on 05/20/2009

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Preschool is totally a personal choice of the parents. There is no right or wrong answer here. The decision also needs to based on the child...some kids might do better with preschool than others. My now 5 1/2 year old just graduated from preschool and loved going and learned a lot...he only did 3 days a week for a few hours and it worked for us. My almost 3 year old will start in the fall and we will see how it goes for him. BUT we have 19 month old twins and will probably not put them in preschool...I personally think that preschool is a great way for them to develop social skills and learn to play well with others but there are other ways of accomplishing those things like play groups...and older siblings.

Natalee - posted on 05/20/2009

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my daughter goes to pre school and i can truly say she loves it and its propbably the bestt thing i have done so far in regards to opening up her social skills and her development. maddie has dispraxia which makes it hard for her to communicate with others which is part of the reason she goes to pre school to help her to communicate more. she finds it hard sometimes as most of the other children are further in their development but she enjoys going and when she gets up in the morning she cant wait to put on her uniform and go see laura, who is a support teacher there. madie has been going to pre school since she was three and yet she is still behind but i can say shes definately improved on everything. i say yes to pre school!!!

Michelle - posted on 05/20/2009

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Quoting Annie:



Quoting Michelle:

As a SAHM I put one oldest in preschool and will do so of my other. If children are in day I do not see as big of need as they are already getting the social side of it and are also getting use to listening to another adult. It is up to you thou, every child is different and some befit from it more than others.





What is SAHM?





SAHM is stay at home mom

Michelle - posted on 05/20/2009

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Quoting Annie:



Quoting Michelle:

As a SAHM I put one oldest in preschool and will do so of my other. If children are in day I do not see as big of need as they are already getting the social side of it and are also getting use to listening to another adult. It is up to you thou, every child is different and some befit from it more than others.





What is SAHM?





SAHM is stay at home mom

Jessica - posted on 05/19/2009

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LOl, I want to know where the free daycare is too. I was paying $105 a wk and it is increasing to $110 a wk next yr. It is one of the cheapest places around here.

Annie - posted on 05/19/2009

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Quoting Michelle:

As a SAHM I put one oldest in preschool and will do so of my other. If children are in day I do not see as big of need as they are already getting the social side of it and are also getting use to listening to another adult. It is up to you thou, every child is different and some befit from it more than others.


What is SAHM?

Heather - posted on 05/19/2009

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My 4 year old is in pre-k. Where I am from the kids have to be 4 (no younger)and potty trained. Prek is also taught in a classroom at the elementary school. The whole reasoning for prek around here is to get the kids adjusted to the school atmosphere. I think there is a difference in daycare and prek well at least around here where I live there is a big difference. My daughter has learned a lot from going to prek and she went in there already knowing her alphabet.... she could identify all her letters.... write her letters and count to 20.... spell her first name and write it. she knew where she lived and her phone number. She now knows how to count past 100 and her socialization is so much better. she is going on a fieldtrip in june, I love it it is just like shes in kindergarten they do screenings and everything twice a year! It's great! she goes monday thru friday from 1130am til 2pm. and it doesn't cost anything! I am a SAHM and my daughter was the only child up until 10 months ago so I think shes definetley benefited from this.

Jaime - posted on 05/19/2009

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I have put all 3 of my girls into preschool. Preschool is 3 mornings a week, it is a great school, cost about $120 a month plus a one time donation of snacks. All of my girls loved preschool, and it got them ready for big girl school. They have also attended a home daycare and have learned alot from both.

I agree with putting your kids into preschool as long as it isn't too expensive ($2500 a year alittle high for me) they learn different skills from a day care setting. Go with your gut feeling, can't go wrong with that one!

Mel - posted on 05/19/2009

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im shocked how much it costs to put your kids in school there! i dont think id do it if it cost that much either

Traci - posted on 05/19/2009

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I didn't put my little girl in preschool and I am not doing it with my other two either. You can teach your kid more than any teacher or daycare worker can. My daughter never went and she exceeds most of the other children in her Kindergarten class acedemically and also in her maturity. Don't let anybody make you feel like you're not doing the right thing. It's a lot easier sticking your kid in what amounts to a glorified daycare than it is to sit and teach your own child. The only thing I would recommend would be to get your child out of the house and around strangers. Maybe a gymnastics class, library story time, Sunday school, just something to get them used to being away from Mommy for a half hour or so. It will help with the separation anxiety!

Kate - posted on 05/19/2009

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My oldest son started at a nursery school shortly after I found out I was pregnant with Baby #2. Mostly because we felt he needed more interaction with children. It was the best thing we could have done for him. He took right to it. Loved going everyday- meeting new kids, learning, playing, all of it. Now three years later I have recently started sending my younger son to the same nursey school. He had to be convinced that he liked it. It really depends on the child.

Amanda - posted on 05/19/2009

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Quoting Michelle:



Quoting Nikki:

I'm not to this point yet as I have a one year old but I already know what I am going to do. My son will go to pre-school but only 2-3 days a week and half days! I do think it's great to get them transitioning, however I think sometimes parents use the every day 5 days a week as free day care..it's too much for them (in my opinion).





free daycare?LOL i'm paying out the rear for 3 hours of preschool a day





haha yeah no kidding, It costs about $700 /month for half days 5 days a week in our montessori schools, Only $2500/year for the christian preschool about $30/month for public where they basically play and learn nothing and than theres the inner city school which are free but do people really want to deal with the lice notices and lock downs that go with the inner city schools? My daughter has done both the top end and bottom end (we live downtown and it was a transportation issue)



It is pretty sad to have to deal with lice notices and gun lock downs when they are 4, the preschool she is in now has had 1 lock down. they share the building with kids up to grade 8.



I am regreting having ever put her there. we are looking into a french school where she will be in september. Hopefully better than where she is now.



I know some parents look at these cheap or free options and think oh how wonderful they can learn the basics and socialize but the years before 5 is when the child has an absorbent  mind and is capable of learning whatever we can expose them to. I say fork over the money and opt for a better education for the kids. They will benifit when they enter their formal education since they will not have to focus on the "basics" in the early years.

Arwen - posted on 05/19/2009

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If parents work with their kids, there's no need for preschool I think. I would only suggest play dates. Preschool days can be so long for a child to be away from his or her parents. If you have to work, it's understandable, not much you can do besides that.

Amanda - posted on 05/19/2009

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statisticly showing children who attend preschool fare better during their formal education. They are often better adjusted socially and mentally than the children who do not attend. That is nott o say you cant teach him at home and have him attend play groups a couple of days per week. My daughter just turned 5 earlier this month and has been working at a grade 3 level for a year now. she did not go to preschool when she was 3 but she did go this year ad will go to kindergarten in the fall. even though she is more advanced than everyone in her schoool in early elmentry we still wanted her to go for the socialization.

Christin - posted on 05/19/2009

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there are significant education benefits to the child, the early years are big years for learning for kids. Many parents think they can teach their preschooler all they need at home, but they also need that social element. It makes adjusting to kindergarten much easier.
Check this site out http://www.zerotothree.org/site/PageServ...
this will outline in more detail the benefits. This a federally funded research study on whether or not preschool and early intervention programs are worth the money put into them. It is very enlightening.

Katie - posted on 05/19/2009

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We put our eldest daughter in pre - school just before she was 3 and I really think she benefits from it. She only does 2 mornings a week which I think is plenty enough for her at the moment. But it's great for them socially as well as educationally and she really enjoys it. We will probably up her sessions to 3 a week in September when she will be almost 4. I don't think there is anything wrong in not putting your child in pre school provided they get plenty of stimulation at home and get taken to other social activities.

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I sent my daughter to preschool last year and it was actually the very first year of it at this place that was just about gymnastics. They are called Shooting Stars preschool and they did basic preschool stuff and gymnastic things. It was perfect for her because she is one big ball of energy. The main reason I sent her was for the socializing. To my suprise they learned so much stuff including how to write her first and last name correctly she learned about colors and patterns, how to cut, and even her phone number and address. I was very impressed with that. It was so benificial to her and she only went on Tuesdays and Thursdays from like 8 to 11:30 or something like that. I'm glad I did because now that she's almost done with Kindergaten already, they don't have a ton of time to spend on all that stuff and they have weekly homework already. When I was in K we did stuff like show and tell and naptimes. Not anymore. They learn a ton of stuff so much sooner now a days so I'd say send them to preschool or start teaching them more now. Just my little imput, sorry so long!

Jessica - posted on 05/19/2009

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I put my son Braiden in pre-school this past fall and I think that it has been really great for him. He has learned so many new things that will really help him once he starts kindergarten. He has learned even more about sharing, caring about other peoples feeling, taking care of other people property when borrowed. They also helped me further by teaching him how to recognize, shapes, numbers, letters. I work so even though I had already been teaching and working with him on these things it helped for him to be learning and working on it with someone other than me and my husband.
I don't think that you are being an irresponsible parent, if you are uncomfortable with sending your child just yet that is your business. Don't let anyone make you feel badly for making a decision that you think is right for you and your child. I do however think if you change your mind, that as long as you do your homework and pick the right school for you and your child...you wont regret it. Hope this helps....good luck and God Bless you.

Dana - posted on 05/19/2009

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i plan on putting my children in when they are 3 years old. it will only be 2 days from like 9 to 11:30. i think that is perfectly fine. And as far as not putting them in goes i don't see any problems with it! I think preschool is more for socializing!!

Kimi - posted on 05/19/2009

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My step daughter is in preschool and I don't think she has been learning very mutch there at all. Luckly she is a september baby so she has the option of waiting an extra year before kindergarden or taking it twice. I wish I had the option of teaching her myself but I don't and we work with her when we can.

Kelly - posted on 05/19/2009

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Quoting Kimi:

As long as your child is learning the basics than I think it fine to teach them at home. There are plenty of classes, like gymnastics and art, that will expose your children to other kids so whats the point of paying someone else to teach your child simple things that you already know? There are plenty of recources out there for homeschooling children of all ages and if you don't have to work than you should be the one teaching your kids at this young age. Unless my children are develpmentally delayed or extreamly gifted I will be doing preschool with them myself. There are plenty of wonderfull preschools out there if it is nessisary for your situation.


I have found a lot of pre school work books that I have been using with my daughter also she will be enrolled in dance soon. Just out of curiosity....of all the parents who will be enrolling their little ones in pre school how many of you went to pre school? I didn't nor did my husband and we both got through school just fine in fact at the top of our classes.

Kelly - posted on 05/19/2009

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Thank you all for your input. I was hoping that more people who have not done the pre school route would comment but no such luck. Oh well.

Kimi - posted on 05/19/2009

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As long as your child is learning the basics than I think it fine to teach them at home. There are plenty of classes, like gymnastics and art, that will expose your children to other kids so whats the point of paying someone else to teach your child simple things that you already know? There are plenty of recources out there for homeschooling children of all ages and if you don't have to work than you should be the one teaching your kids at this young age. Unless my children are develpmentally delayed or extreamly gifted I will be doing preschool with them myself. There are plenty of wonderfull preschools out there if it is nessisary for your situation.

Lindsay - posted on 05/19/2009

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My kids are both in daycare a couple of days a week becasue I am in school finishing my degree. I originally was not going to put them in preschool becasue they do get a lot of that in daycare. They are 4 and 2 1/2. My son, 2 1/2, is in speech and the program he is in stops when he turns three so he's going to start pre-school in Aug. to continue his speech through the school system. To avoid jealousy, my 4 yr old is going to start pre-school also. I think it will benefit them but to be totally honest, if it wasn't for the speech program, they would have gone to daycare up until kindergarten.

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For me, my children will be in school for 13 years. As a stay at home mom, I think it is important that they have as much time to bond with mom as possible. My two and 3 year old boys know their ABC's, counting, colors, etc.. They interact with other children at the park and when we visit friends. These are all things they learn at home with me. Preschool in my mind is a place many (not all) dump their kids to get away. Thats not ok with me. The first few years spent with your babies are important, thats why I became a stay at home mom to begin with.

Michelle - posted on 05/19/2009

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Quoting Kelly:

So at the risk of sounding like dumb what is pre school mainly for...the socializing? I have taught my daughter her alphabet ( she's not perfect yet but pretty good) and we are starting on writing her letters and numbers.


i dont know where you live or what type of school you'll be using for kindy so this will vary ..my sons in catholic private preschool and will be in the same throughout school he's required to be able to write all letters upper and lower know his numbers he has to be able to write at least to 10 sequencing patterns colors shapes etc they did one hour of testing before he could even get into the school we picked luckily for us he's been doing everything he needed to learn for a couple years now and preschool is helping him to fine tune things ...like his writting his started to look more 'adult' instead of taking a good chuck on the paper for one letter like when they first start learning

Michelle - posted on 05/19/2009

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Quoting Nikki:

I'm not to this point yet as I have a one year old but I already know what I am going to do. My son will go to pre-school but only 2-3 days a week and half days! I do think it's great to get them transitioning, however I think sometimes parents use the every day 5 days a week as free day care..it's too much for them (in my opinion).


free daycare?LOL i'm paying out the rear for 3 hours of preschool a day

Michelle - posted on 05/19/2009

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my sons' had preschool *hes graduating this Friday *sniff* and starting kindy in august... kindy teachers have told me there is an obvious difference in kids starting kindy that have had preschool compared to non preschoolers

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