pregnant and scared of labor!

Jessica - posted on 09/15/2009 ( 195 moms have responded )

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stories of easy labor/how to avoid too much pain, etc. would be appreciated. i'm 13 weeks with my first and already nervous about squeezing my little one out! thanks for your support!

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Dayna - posted on 09/21/2009

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Quoting Jessica:



Quoting Nicki:

Women and children died due to this!! Why be in pain when there is no need??? You are telling someone to go through this completely naturally, as if she were in the wild with no one else around. I hope she doesn't listen to you!!!






women like this need to toughen up!!! i plan to do this natural. there are so many alternative and healthier choices, why put man-made products in my body when it was meant to be done a more REAL way? i didn't create this post to hear how wonderful epidural is. i posted this to get ideas of what to do to prepare and hopefully have less tension and pain once i get to the point of labor. to be quite honest, i am against drugs and i don't want my baby coming into this world high. and i do want to feel what's happening to my body. i was just hoping to find someone who has had the mindset that pain is a good thing and try to see it from their perspective.





I think its wonderful that you want to make your own choices about birthing your baby. After all, it is you who have to go through it. But please don't insult the women who have come onto your feed (at your request) to give you advice and uplifting stories by saying they need to "toughen up". Especially since you have not actually had the experience of labor yet.  Going through natural childbirth without any drugs is VERY painful, and having an epidural can relax the the mother so that she can have the energy to bring that new life into the world. Also, in my experience, the epidural also relaxes the cervix and allows for a faster and smoother delivery. If you feel that you are "tough" enough to not need that extra help, than don't take it, plenty of women don't. I hope you have a wonderful delivery, and feel free to post all about how you felt every aspect of your delivery and how you did it without drugs, AFTER you've done it.

Priscilla - posted on 09/15/2009

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oh an to prepare yourself for labor.. its like trainin for a marathon.. are you gonna jus sit aroun an wait til tha day you run an then go run tha race?? no u train everyday so wen tha race comes you will be ready an in top shape.. apply tha same thang to labor.. walk everyday.. have sex as much as you want at least once a day.. do your kegal excercises an eat right. practice breathing.. learn how to relax your body even while you are in pain.. wen you are actually pushin dont scream an yell.. if u use that energy to push it will make each push that much stonger

Sierra - posted on 09/22/2009

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don't worry, depends on the conditions that arise. i had a pretty easy start and finish to labor, the middle was discouraging. i had back labor though (hurts like nothing you'll ever feel in your life, and no one told me about back labor). i think i could've handled it if my contractions would have stayed up front. but if you opt for an epidural, great, cause depending on any conditions, it's great. but the pitocin they gave me to speed up my contractions made me itch, lol. but with an epidural you may not feel anything or at the least very little. i hope this helps.

Rhonda - posted on 09/21/2009

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I have 2 beautiful children who I delivered with NO DRUGS. My son was born in 7.5 hours of labor (20 minutes of pushing) and my daughter was 4.2 hours with ONE BIG PUSH. It is nothing like people want you to think it is. It is an experience that goes so quickly you cant even appreciate the moments, let alone worry about the pain. I promise. Need some more support? Dont hesitate to email me.





Rhonda

Amanda - posted on 09/21/2009

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Hey,

My son just turned 5 months. I was so worried the whole pregnancy about labor and giving birth. When it got down to it I was so anxious and excited I would have done anything to get him out. The pain medication they offer is great and I strongly recommend an epidural. I had an emergrncy c section after pushing for 2 hours but everything worked out and it is the most rewarding thing. Keep your mind focused on meeting your baby face to face.

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Courtney - posted on 10/23/2012

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Everyone feels labour differently. I felt every single contraction with all three of my children, but it wasn't painful. I never shed a tear, screamed, etc.

Not everyone requires an epidural.

Courtney - posted on 10/23/2012

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Your body has been preparing for that moment from the moment you conceived your bub. Pain tolerance depends on the person. I can handle labour without pain meds. But other types of pain I'm not so easy to tolerate. Make a birth plan. Figure out exactly what you want. Do you want drugs? Do you want to use showers, balls, different positions, etc to eleviate pain before trying meds? Do you want the epidural? No one can make that desiscion but you.

It's not THAT bad. ;)

Mariah - posted on 10/21/2012

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Hi Jessica, I think you would find this Hypno-birthing recording VERY helpful! http://journeysinwardhypnotherapy.com/se... They also have 3 other hypno-birthing ones as well for natural anesthesia techniques

and to prepare your mind and body for the best birth you can have. They are so relaxing with soothing music and nature sounds as well as a beautiful voice to guide you!

April - posted on 10/07/2009

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honey, im going to tell you now that there is no easy labor. Best advice is to enjoy every second of the early part of pregnancy, even if you are natious..enjoy every day because when you get to be 8/9 months, you will be praying to go into labor because you are so uncomfortable all the time, it sucks to eat, sleep, sit, walk..and the list goes on, but i was so ready to get it over with. i started going into false labor at 34 weeks and i was ready then, but i stuck it out until i was 38 weeks 4 days. i tried everything except castor oil to go into labor and nothing worked until the day i went for a short 1/4 mile walk. the contractions were not that bad at all until i they broke my water at the hosptial, but i labored on my own with no meds for 20 hours...i know that seems like a long time, but it really flew by for me. anyways i was only 3 cm when they broke my water. after that everything went by even quicker! I had her within 2 1/2 hours...i wish i wouldve waited and not got the epidural bacause i got got it 15 minutes before i had her because the doctor pretty much insisted and the epi didnt even take. they made me start pushing at 6 cm and i could feel everything. they ended up having to use a vaccume and they cut me too...if i can go through that with the low pain tolerance that i have, i think anyone can. the worst part is getting the head out. i will give you a hint...the most EFFECTIVE pushes are when u push through your bottom, you will be able to tell if youre making pregress. push as hard as you can and it will be over alot quicker. after the baby is out, i cannot explain the releif you have. it is so worth it, but dont worry about it too much now. i know you can do it. i was completely healed and resuming normal activites after 1 week. i left the hospital 2 hours after having her if that tells you anything...also i live in germany and the pain meds are alot different. if you feel like u need the epidural get it, i dont know what it feels like bc mine never kicked in there was so little time, but dont be scared of the epidural hurting, it didnt hurt at all....hope this helps!

Christina - posted on 10/06/2009

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And by the way, my baby was not "high" when he came into this world. He actually stayed awake for about an hour after birth, which is amazing. You should keep your mind and options open when it comes to pain medication. Especially since you've never been through it, if you think you can do it naturally, awesome! But please don't insult the women who didn't. My contractions were so strong I felt like I couldn't breathe. Some say they feel like menstrual cramps, WRONG!! Keep your mind open, if you end up needing an emergency cesarean section, you'll be given an epidural anyway. All I can say is, you'll take it as it comes, that's what I did. It's coming whether you want it to or not, but you'll survive, and you'll go home with a beautiful baby!!

Christina - posted on 10/06/2009

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Anyone who says not to have an epidural is crazy. I was planning on a drug free birth, but I couldn't take the pain, after the epidural, I felt so much better, and progressed from 4cm dilated to 10cm dilated in one hour! I pushed for an hour and a half, and I could feel all of the pressure so I knew when to push, by the time Logan was born the epidural pretty much wore off. If you need it, take it. Nothing bad will happen, doctors are trained to administer them, and you will enjoy your borth experience more if you're not screaming in pain! Good luck girl! :)

CRYSTAL - posted on 09/22/2009

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I would not worry too much about this. I think everyone is a little nervous. I am on my third baby and even I get a little nervous still. It is really not that bad. I was in labor with my first and had to have a csec which freaked me out horribly. suprisingly even having a csec wasnt that bad and I opt for it now. Just relax and try to enjoy the pragnancy. one word of advise tho......drugs drugs drugs!!!!! lol

Melissa - posted on 09/22/2009

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I wouldn't know what "normal" labor is.. I was induced at about 42 weeks. It was my first, so when i was induced, i tried going without anything for the pain... 4 and 1/2 hours later i got an epidural.. and slept for the rest of my labor, which was only 11 hours long(pretty good i'd say for my first lol) if you don't want any pain.. then i suggest you get an epidural when you do go in to give birth... and on the plus side.. you get to sleep through it :)

Katie - posted on 09/22/2009

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Your body already knows how to give labor and it is a natural thing for our bodies to go through, whether we've been there or not. I'm expecting my first Dec 7. I am 29 weeks and nervous about labor, but I know everything is going to be fine. If it helps you can always talk to your doctor because I'm sure they have had patients with the same fear.

Kirsten - posted on 09/22/2009

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I just had my first in Januray, and I was one of those people that was convinced I was going to do the all-natural birth. I wasn't having pain killers, because I could take any level of pain that was thrown at me. Well, when it was 7:30 in the morning at my home, and I was having contractions that were 1 minute apart, I decided I was definitely NOT going all-natural! So definitely, take the epidural! When I was at the hospital, by the time I was 8cm dilated, the epidural wore off, so I was dealing with immense pain. The best thing I can tell you to do is the breathe. Remember to breathe, and make your partner remind you of that. Honestly, that is what got me through the final 2cm. And stay calm. The more worked up you get, the worse the pain is. Just go some place happy in your mind while you breathe and just remember that soon your little one will be safely in your arms. Trust me, the pain is completely worth the prize. Good luck!

Kirsten - posted on 09/22/2009

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I just had my first in Januray, and I was one of those people that was convinced I was going to do the all-natural birth. I wasn't having pain killers, because I could take any level of pain that was thrown at me. Well, when it was 7:30 in the morning at my home, and I was having contractions that were 1 minute apart, I decided I was definitely NOT going all-natural! So definitely, take the epidural! When I was at the hospital, by the time I was 8cm dilated, the epidural wore off, so I was dealing with immense pain. The best thing I can tell you to do is the breathe. Remember to breathe, and make your partner remind you of that. Honestly, that is what got me through the final 2cm. And stay calm. The more worked up you get, the worse the pain is. Just go some place happy in your mind while you breathe and just remember that soon your little one will be safely in your arms. Trust me, the pain is completely worth the prize. Good luck!

User - posted on 09/22/2009

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I am also pregnant and nearing my 4 month mark. I've found the most helpful thing to ease my tension is to plan plan plan! I do strengthening exercises designed for pregnant women (there are some really great workout DVD out there) and practice deep breathing. Working on your kegels when you're nervous can really help because you can just focus all your thoughts on breathing in through your nose and tensing then breathing out through your mouth as you relax. Also, get excited about the baby! Start buying a couple of things, or planning how you want the nursery/baby's area of your room. I find even walking through the baby department and looking at onesies is enough to banish any feelings except absolute joy! Good luck! Keep us posted on how the little one and you are doing!

Christa - posted on 09/22/2009

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I would suggest a birthing class! Learning ways to calm yourself and breathe will be a huge help! My son was 9 lbs 1 oz and had a HUGE head. I delivered him naturally without any pain meds or epidural. It is all about focusing and breathing! Also, make sure you understand all of your options. Instead of worrying about how much it will hurt (because it DOES hurt) focus on understanding the process and stages. Create a birthing plan and know what you want for your birth. Make sure you have a plan for every scenario. If you want to try having a natural birth go for it but plan for a pain control method just in case. Having a child hurts like hell but as soon as you hear that first little cry, the pain disappears and you forget all about it.

Amanda - posted on 09/22/2009

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dont be afraid of labor YES it hurts but it goes by so fast and you will forget about all the pain you had and you will have your precious baby in your arms

Danielle - posted on 09/22/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

pregnant and scared of labor!

stories of easy labor/how to avoid too much pain, etc. would be appreciated. i'm 13 weeks with my first and already nervous about squeezing my little one out! thanks for your support!



i just had a little girl almost 2 wks ago. I already can't wait to have another one. You tend to forget the pain, it's well worth it. By the time you are ready to have ur baby, youre just going to want it outta there, you won't be so nerved up until it happens. When it comes time just remember to breathe deep and keep relaxed, if u tense up it hurts more. For me, the deeper I inhaled the less i noticed the pain. I was also in the Jacquizzi (spelling?) tub for an hour, that really helped me out alot. But some people it makes worse. Everyone is different, you might not have that much pain compared to other people. When it got bad my mom rubbed my back for me. It only took me 26 mins to push my little girl out from the first urge to push, and she is my first child. I didn't want another dr to deliver my baby so i pushed as hard as i could, because my dr was supposed to leave at 8, my daughter was born at 8:16 am.

INETHIA - posted on 09/22/2009

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Sorry to hear that you are scared but that is to be expected since you hear so many stories about labor being the worst pain you can experience. Every experience is going to be different though. Just relax and try to make it one of the best things that you have ever experienced and you will do just fine. Meeting you baby will be all worth it.

Stephanie - posted on 09/22/2009

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Relax, That is all I can say. It is going to happen...At the end you are going to be wanting that baby out! Trust me! As long as you have an epidural, you will do just fine, you cant feel anything but pressure. Good Luck!

Melissa - posted on 09/22/2009

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I will say that I was scared of labor during my pregnancy since I was pregnant with my first child. For me, labor started as lower back pain and really bad cramps. I got an epidural when I got to the hospital, so I felt pressure with contractions after that. Don't worry about the pain because it is all worth it in the end when you see your baby. Good luck :)

Sarah - posted on 09/22/2009

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My number one recommendation? DON'T watch A Baby Story...(or if you do, keep in mind that it's a show and people tend to exaggerate whilst being filmed). I watched at least an episode a day and would get so worked up thinking about all these things that could go wrong. All the women seemed so uncomfortable and screaming for pain relief. It's good to be educated about what can happen but understand that more often than not, things go fairly smoothly. When I eventually went into labour, I stayed at home as long as I could tolerate. It was about 4 hours of contractions bent over the couch. I was more pissed off about not being able to concentrate on the season finale of 24. When I got to the hospital, I was at 8cm and too late for the epidural I didn't want anyways. I'm terribly afraid of needles so opted for a little nitrous oxide instead. It wasn't nearly as bad as TV made it seem. Aside from the burn as the head crowned, I wasn't in much pain and wasn't all that uncomfortable. I joked throughout my entire delivery. I think the stitches I got afterward (I tore pretty badly) felt worse! Try not to think too much about it and just go with the flow. I specifically decided not to create a birth plan but in the end, it pretty much happened the way I would have liked, anyways. Hope that helps :)

Tearee - posted on 09/22/2009

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I was really lucky when it came to labor. I was already dialated to a 10 when I got to the hospital, so there wasn't time for an epidural or any drugs for that matter. The only pain I felt though was contractions, and it was all back contractions. I didnt feel him come out or anything cause I was too focused on getting him out. I ripped, but I wasn't in pain with that either. I took no pain meds during the healing process either because I had no pain. I was up and walking an hour after my son was born. However, my best friend had to get the epidural, so don't be scared to ask for it if you're in a lot of pain. She said it helped her out so much and she didnt feel pain after that, just pressure. Good luck.

Brianna - posted on 09/22/2009

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Im 34 weeks pregnant and in the begining I was a intimidated by the labor aspect. Not so much anymore. You just have to konw that its going to HURT like HELL, and just deal with it =) As long as you get your breathing down, and an epidural, I hear youll be fine! Also, its only the contractions that hurt like hell not the opening of the crotch, but once that epidural is in, your good to go! This is at least what I hear, so just know that its going to hurt, but once you see your little one, youll forget all about it...Good luck to both you and I!!!

Sarah - posted on 09/22/2009

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I'm expecting my second child and when I was due with my first I to was nervous I got a good bit of advice but it still can be scary, I had the attitude that this baby has to come out of me whether I like it or not so try and think of ever contraction as one less, I had to be induced cause my waters broke first but other than that I was very lucky and only had gas n air and petidene (think thats how you spell it) I had no stitches and I believe that it was because i rubbed wheat germ oil on my perium, also i went once a month and near the end twice a month for reflexogoloy (sorry my spelling is bad) try to be calm and don't listen to horror stories everyone loved telling me how hard and horrible it was but to be honest I don't remember the pain just the wonderful little boy I had afterwards.

Courtney - posted on 09/22/2009

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The Best thing to do is relax ... when you are in Labor Just think of the bundle of joy that will be coming ... enjoy being Pregnant ... but Look Forward to what is to come !

Carolann - posted on 09/22/2009

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just go with the flow remember your body is made for this and ur body will know what to do and everything will come naturally, i was exactly the same as you. im 22 and had my first child a little girl 4 weeks ago and i was scared the whole way threw until contractions started and i went onto auto pilot and it all come so natural you will know what pain relief you want if any at all good luck on your little person and hope it goes really smooth;y congrats xx

Krista - posted on 09/21/2009

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I personally took the epidural. I didn't have much of a choice, I had pregnancy related high blood pressure that could have sent me into ceassures (sp?) and the epidural brought that risk down! From like 24 weeks and on I started having nightmares about labor on a nightly basis! I was scared out of my mind. I will tell you I was so tired by the time delivery came I just didn't care about the Pain! I pushed for 2 and a half hours and had to have a c section anyways! I will say, they claim a c section is way worse afterward cuz of the healing, and that wasn't even half bad! The first time you hold that precious baby you'll forget how hard labor is! my son is 5 months old and i've almost completely forgotten how much pain I was in during recovery at the hospital! Good luck, really and if you can deliver naturally that's great, but if you can't don't be discouraged, you still brought a life into the world and that is beautiful!

Haley - posted on 09/21/2009

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Ummmm, I am very nervous about having my first as well, i am 22 weeks and very scared of that part. But be calm and be in control of how your controlling your emotions. :) and keep your head up.

Nicole - posted on 09/21/2009

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I best thing I can pass on to you is not to think you have to wait and wait for the epidural. I did this and stayed at 4cm for over 24 hours. My body wasn't able to relax enough to let myself dilate. Once I got the pain meds, within 2 hours I was starting to push.

Nicole - posted on 09/21/2009

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I best thing I can pass on to you is not to think you have to wait and wait for the epidural. I did this and stayed at 4cm for over 24 hours. My body wasn't able to relax enough to let myself dilate. Once I got the pain meds, within 2 hours I was starting to push.

Felicia - posted on 09/21/2009

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wow you have along way to go!! i was also the same way though i just had my son two weeks ago and was scared to death but once you are in labor all the fear will go away all you need to do is listen to your doctor she will tell you when to push and show you how to breath ... breathing in through your nose and out your mouth really helps with the pain although the pain goes away right when you see your child and its amazing from then on

Sam - posted on 09/21/2009

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another thing is I kept reminding myself that many people before me have done this without the use of drugs, and if they can do it so can I

Sam - posted on 09/21/2009

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Quoting Jessica:



Quoting Nicki:

Women and children died due to this!! Why be in pain when there is no need??? You are telling someone to go through this completely naturally, as if she were in the wild with no one else around. I hope she doesn't listen to you!!!






women like this need to toughen up!!! i plan to do this natural. there are so many alternative and healthier choices, why put man-made products in my body when it was meant to be done a more REAL way? i didn't create this post to hear how wonderful epidural is. i posted this to get ideas of what to do to prepare and hopefully have less tension and pain once i get to the point of labor. to be quite honest, i am against drugs and i don't want my baby coming into this world high. and i do want to feel what's happening to my body. i was just hoping to find someone who has had the mindset that pain is a good thing and try to see it from their perspective.






good girl. i had same the experiece with people. i wanted to have a completely natual birth with no drugs but people around me like friends and family kept suggesting to have an epidural. not that i would knock anyone who does its just it is completely a personal choice. if you can do it with out the the drugs the feeling of accomplishment is so overwhelming. yes it does hurt but thats part of your accomplishment. dont over think it. take it as comes and think about your goals but don't be too distressed if it doesn't happen how you want because babies health comes first.

Sam - posted on 09/21/2009

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lord... you have a long way to go yet. i tried not to think about it, as the nerves make the experience worse. just take every day as it comes. besides once you get there all you want is baby out. the last 2 months are extremely uncommfortable.

Cailie - posted on 09/21/2009

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if your not aorried about pain meds just tell your nurse's that you don't tolrate pain well at all and that you want DRUGS. i did that ( and i don't handel pain well at all) and they gave me some stuff untilll i was abel to get the epidural after that it was great. i actuall slept most of the time and really enjoyed my first birth. i still remeber what happen and how it all felt! but the moments that they handed me my son and i got to kiss him for the first time everything that i had to go through i would do all over again and more just to hld something that you love so much and you just met is the best thing in the world! good luck and enjoy the time till you have your little one!

Annie - posted on 09/21/2009

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Your body was made for this, Braxton hicks help to prepare you by giving you a little pressure and pain at a time and slowing strengthening you for the big event. Labor can be worked through with good breathing (relax completely and breath into the area of pain......this will actually decrease the pain by a 1/3 if not 1/2.....tensing causes more pain) and I found that walking through the contractions instead of lying or sitting through them lessened the pain. I went all natural and would do it no other way. No drugs. But this is not for everyone. It can make the bond between you and your child stronger and you can heal faster. Squatting positions are great for releasing pressure on the back. If you do this daily it will help you during the really hard contractions. Transition is where most of the pain occurs in most women. This is when the contractions no longer surge up but start to go down and you feel like you want to push. Once you reach that point it is all "down hill" from there. Your baby will be in your arms very soon after. Just never forget to relax completely between contractions or you will tire yourself out quickly.

Laura - posted on 09/21/2009

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I jsut saw you wanted to do it naturally, I think that it wonderful, if you are wanting a good childbirth book go get. Ina may's guide to childbirth. You will love it and it will help you a ton.



be prepared and remember that every-body is different and every labor and pregnancy is different. be available to change.

Laura - posted on 09/21/2009

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It is scarey to think about on your first but don't be. Have faith in your body, it was made for this. You will do it and most likely think in the end, oh it wasn't so bad, especially because you will have a precious little baby to hold. If you are planning on having an epidural, no worries, If you're not, you can do it. It is all a matter of faith and knowing you can do it. I had 2 with an epidural and one without. I survived all three and would do it all again. Good luck!

Gabrielle - posted on 09/21/2009

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Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!! I can understand you being nervous. I had an emergency c-section and when they told me what was happening I have to admit I was a little terrified! It's normal to be nervous. Childbirth classes will help get you more prepared or at least maybe help you feel less nervous. I read that sex is also helpful. Lots and Lots of sex - if you feel up to it. Light exercise like walking and swimming as long as you don't over do it. I was planning to have a natural birth but it didn't happen that way but something else that helped calmed me was reading about it as much as I could. And watching a baby story. Good luck - I hope all goes well with you and your little one!

Amber - posted on 09/21/2009

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You'll be just fine. Try not to worry about it too much, because unfortunatly it has to be done. The little bundle has to come out sometime :). If you're nervous about the pain, bring on the epidural. It works wonders.

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I just had my first child 5 weeks ago and believe me, it is not as hard as it seems! I recommend the epidural. After I got mine, pushing my little one out was a piece of cake! You'll do just fine! After all, women have been doing this since the beginning of time!

Misty - posted on 09/21/2009

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walk alot, with my first son i walked every nigth around the park, probably about 20 laps a night. when i went into labor at first i only felt my contractions when i was up moving around but after they really got started they didnt hurt. with my 2nd son i didnt do much at all and my contractions really hurt, the more excercise or activity you do the better and easier labor will be. also with my first i had an epidural, but did not with my second and even though you can feel everything and it hurts a lil more i felt better & recovered faster afterwards than i did with the first!!

Lisa - posted on 09/21/2009

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hi jessica, i was scared just like you are and was petrified of how much it would hurt but i went into labour about 14 days early and had him on the 2nd of september 2009 i went into labour at 10:40 and he was born at 11:40 yes it did hurt but one thing i can tell you for sure is the pain is well worth it when they put your baby in your arms you will find a rush of love xx hope this helps you xx lisa

Norita - posted on 09/21/2009

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I walked alot during my pregnancy with both of my kids and when it came to labor the pain was like bad cramps so I ate ice and had my hubby rub my back while I was having a bad contraction and I waited till they told me you get the epidural now you dont get it at all I got the epidural and all was ok! 2 days after I had our kids I felt ok and was up taking care of the house and the baby:) Just tell yourself the whole time its worth the pain because by the end of the 9months you will just want that baby out so you can love on him or her! Good Luck!

Trisha - posted on 09/21/2009

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The best advice I could give you is to talk the stories with a grain of salt. When I was pregnant everyone had me scared too death and as long as you don't do it natural and take the epidural you should be fine.

Jessica - posted on 09/21/2009

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ok, i was in labour for 1 hour and 45 mintues with my first, i had no pain relief what so ever, they tried giving me gas but one puff made me sick and i couldnt handle it, from the stage i needed to start pushing to the stage i gave birth was 15mins and i was happy when my daughter was born, i didnt get time to change into any positions, and i was in the shower most of my labour, i felt that worked for me, i guess if you want to avoid as much pain as possible i suggest you ask for your choice of pain relief when your waters break, and try a hot shower! good luck!

Charlie - posted on 09/21/2009

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The best advice i can give is to READ !

find as much information about labor and the stages you go through , know all your options going into birth EG natural , pain meds ,ect ect .

Be open minded birthing does not always go strictly to plan .

I personally found knowing all the information i could about labor and the birthing process really made me feel comfortable , knowledge is power !!



And remember it will all be over soon , you wont remember the pain and you get to meet the most amazing and important person in your life , they will steal your heart.

Chanel - posted on 09/21/2009

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its been 8 weeks since i had ma first and i had no drugs or anything my labour was 14 hrs in total and my establish labour was 9 hours. all natural i tryed the gas but it did nothing my waters had been leaking for a few daes and i told my midwife and she said it hadnt but i new i didnt pee my self over night and wen i went into labour we told hur to break the waters i was 2.5cm dilated at that point and she still said no neways bout an hour or so later she finaly came bk in a broke my waters nd found out that baby was facing the wrong way do i had to sit on a rocker to turn hur around and bout an hour after that i had my gawjus lil girl with only 3 pushes it feel like u need to take a poo at that stage lol thats wen u no it time to push... not all labour and births are horra stories u neva no u could have a short labour and the most brezziest birth everyone s unquie it just really depnds on ur pain tollerant lol and jus keep concerating on ur breathing everyone will keep telling u to keep breathing and it will get really annoying but its the best pain releif

Chanel - posted on 09/21/2009

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I found that not thinking about it until the time happens helpd me heaps evryone used to ask how can i not think about it... it was quiet easy i just kept my self occpuied i work right up until 4 days b4 i poped me lil girl out and honestly i would have to sae the contractions are the worst but if u have a hotwater bottle or a wheatbag and take deep breathes nd try and keep as much pressure off ur back as possible try leaning ford on a chair. but oneslty chicky once that pain is over u got a gawjus baby boy/girl in the world and thats the best's feeling and all that pain was worth it.

Jessica - posted on 09/20/2009

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Quoting Nicki:

Women and children died due to this!! Why be in pain when there is no need??? You are telling someone to go through this completely naturally, as if she were in the wild with no one else around. I hope she doesn't listen to you!!!



women like this need to toughen up!!! i plan to do this natural. there are so many alternative and healthier choices, why put man-made products in my body when it was meant to be done a more REAL way? i didn't create this post to hear how wonderful epidural is. i posted this to get ideas of what to do to prepare and hopefully have less tension and pain once i get to the point of labor. to be quite honest, i am against drugs and i don't want my baby coming into this world high. and i do want to feel what's happening to my body. i was just hoping to find someone who has had the mindset that pain is a good thing and try to see it from their perspective.

Katerina - posted on 09/20/2009

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i was freaking out during my first pregnancy also, so much so that i ended up going into labor at 35 weeks!!! i was in shock, body & mind, and honestly did not even feel the pain of the birth until we were out of the birthing suite and up in our room. the best part is that all up i barely made it to hospital, it took less than an hour! all births aren't horrible & i did not make this up but i sure hope it cheers you up!!

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