Pregnant, but no baby?

Nicole - posted on 03/11/2010 ( 62 moms have responded )

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My husband and I were trying to have a baby (my 2nd, his 1st), I took a pregnancy test on Feb 14 and it came back negative, the following evening I took another one and it came back positive. I called the doctor the next day and made my first appt for the new baby! At that appt they drew blood to check my HcG level and everything was normal and I was about 6 weeks. They scheduled me for an ultrasound at the hospital because when their tech was in, i was in class. I had to drink 3 16 oz glasses of water before and when they did the ultrasound they made me use the bathroom 2 times before they could see anything. Eventually, the ultrasound tech said that she did not see a baby, but there was a yolk sac and by ultrasound I was 5 weeks pregnant! The following monday I went to my nurse visit at the doctors office and I was asking the nurse how far my bloodwork was saying I was and she said with my last period and the positive pregnancy test and the hormone level I was 7 weeks at this point. I told her about the ultrasound at the hospital and she said they hadnt sent the results over yet.
The next day I called my husband while he was at work and told him about the abdominal pain I was having and he rushed home and took me straight to the doctor. They did another ultrasound and said that there was no way that there shouldnt be an embryo with a heart beat and that the sac that holds everything was mis-shaped and there was no baby. He gave me 2 options: wait for a miscarriage or have a d&c. My husband and I decided to do the procedure (I had it yesterday) so that we werent wondering when the miscarriage was going to happen and to basically get it over with.

So, my question is: has this ever happend to anyone else? Or has anyone heard of anything like this happening? And if it has, how do I help emotionally support my husbad? He's trying to deal with this, but trying to comfort me before he is worrying about himself! I know there's stuff he's not saying and it's killing me knowing hes keeping it all bottled in to try to help me get through it!

We think we found out why it might have happend, I got into a car accident on Feb 2, the day i concieved, i went to the hospital and they wanted to do xrays, when they asked me if i was pregnant i told them that i was trying to get pregnant and it was my ovulation day. They still did the xrays and did not cover up my reproductive organs. We read on line that the radiation can cause a pregnancy to not develop especially in the first week or 2!

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Kayla - posted on 03/18/2010

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First I'm so sorry to hear that has happened to you. I know your pain, cause it happened to me last year. I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. Went to the doc, had all the blood test done and everything. There was an issue with one of the test that came back reactive for an STD (which I knew it was impossible seeing I had had a baby a year earlier with no problems). So I made an appointment to see another doctor for a second opinion (which she agreed, there was no problem) and the weekend before my appointment I had started spotting. I went in on that Monday for an ultrasound (at this time I was 11 weeks), and the tech asked me if I was sure that I was as far along as I had said. I was watching the screen and didn't see any baby and she confirmed that she could not find a baby. She went to get the doctor and she came in and explained what had probably happened. It's called a molar pregnancy, where your body will produce a placenta, but no embryo ever develops. I was in the process of miscarrying the pregnancy. I took it pretty hard, and have had another miscarriage since the molar pregnancy. I know this is hard, but the best thing to do right now is to stay positive and don't blame yourself. I know it's really hard to do, but none of this is your fault. It just happens sometimes. Just keep trying when you are able to try again. It's been a year since all of this happened to me and I still have a hard time dealing with it. You'll get through this and someday you'll have that precious baby you were meant to have! Good luck!

Asia - posted on 03/13/2010

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I had the same thing happen. I found out i was pregnant in may2008, when i went in for the ultrasound they found the sack but no baby or heartbeat. I had to have two more ultrasounds and a dozen hcg level checks before they told me that i miscarried. The doctor told me it happens alot, especially if miscarriage runs high in the family. Everything implants correctly it just never starts to grow a fetus.



I was devastated, and my husband tried to comfort me, but we faught alot about it, our nerves were shot and we took it out on eachother which strained our relationship terribly. Let him be there for you, but let him cope his own way. I pushed my husband to talk to me about it and he didnt know how to deal with it, which caused fight after fight.

Let him deal with it his own way for awhile, when it has finally started to get easier for YOU to talk about, then see if he's ready to talk!

Yadaira - posted on 03/18/2010

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Wow! Im sooo sorry! I cant even imagine what you feel but if its of anu help try to speak to your husband and be there for him. If he keeps that all inside it might end up hurting more than if he were to just talk. God Bless you both!

Dannielle - posted on 03/18/2010

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Heya, I had a blighted ovum pregnancy when i was 18 - the sace formed with a placenta and no baby - it was confusing and heart wrenching but i have been told it is not uncommon. i had to wait to have a miscarriage, they did not want me to have a D & C, which was even harder because i waited 5 weeks to miscarry and the placenta was still growing - at 14 weeks i was bleeding so heavily i was rushed to hospital, i was having contractipns and then gave birth to my placenta ... no baby! :-( ... in that 5 weeks i still had morning sickness, sore boobs, and hormones, i was still producing HCG ... Keep your spirits up - it was very very hard, but now we have had time to heal and are on the path to make baby again ... 2 years later ... hope thi shelps and hope your ok xxx

Danielle - posted on 03/18/2010

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Firstly, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. No matter how far along into your pregnancy you are, it still hurts. I've heard of this before. I think what has happened to you is what you described in your last paragraph...about the baby not continuing to develop. I think it is called a "blighted ovum." I found a fairly reliable website about it.



http://www.babycenter.ca/pregnancy/anten...



It is also known as a silent or missed miscarriage. The baby implants and then no more development continues. Sadly, this can happen to anyone. But the one up side is that almost all women go on to have normal pregnancies afterwards, so definitely do not lose hope!



I also would like to say that I think you did the right thing in getting the D&C done. Sitting around waiting for your miscarriage to spontaneously happen would just have been that much more stressful for you and your husband. It is a simply procedure that rarely has complications. I have had a D&C myself and went on to have my son (I got pregnant in 2 months or less) and am now pregnant with my second child.

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BabyCareBear01 - posted on 10/15/2012

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So... why am i 14 weeks preggo but still showing - blood and urine results? Anyone know?

Danielle - posted on 03/20/2010

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i found out was preg april 2006 went for scan was 6weeks no heartbeat but they sed wait 2 weeks so was very exited brought some cothes for baby had second scan at 11 weeks no heartbeat they sed do i want d and c so i said yes i had it was heart breaking never fully recoverd! stopped trying for kids as to upsetting nov 2007 found out preg again! never been so scared in my life every day i would check my nickers for blood had scan at 5weeks! no baby! waited another week had scan after xmas saw my 6week old embreo beating! another scan at 12 weeks still there had horrific sickness which reasured me as befor had no symptoms! plus i never asked for hcg numbers as i go google mad!! my baby was fine! born sept 2008! then 2009 nov was 5weeks preg no baby! hcg was 5000 at week 4 so they think was twins! hcg done again was 186 then 119 so i new! i was convince after 1 baby it would b fine! but nope! bled week later and got rid natrully! i still obsess andeel kicking and convince my self that its vanishing twin syndrome!! 1 baby dies hcg droppes then sneaky comes back up! but its not true!! would love o go into labor in july but not happning! me and partner of 5 years split through stress! so me and my son going it alone! i always feel sad! and now like 200 of my m8 having babies in 2010 and im soooo jelous!! dont no y it happnds! i tell myself it had disabilitys and wouldnt of survived if born and that helps the guilt! its very sad to loose a baby! esp when my ex says hes glad as he never wanted another yet he wouldnt use protection! but im ok now! hopefully 4ht time lucky in a few years!!but i will never forget them both!! x

RonEtta - posted on 03/20/2010

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Now that's happen to me not too long ago with my current boyfriend. We wasn't trying to have a baby, but I end up being pregnant around the summer time. When I told him I was pregnant, He couldn't believe it, but he said was happy about it. After that, he wasn't really a huge help like I thought he would and he just brush me and the baby. One day I wasn't feeling too good at work and was rushed to the hospital. After six hours, I find out I had a missed abortion and a few days later I had to get surgury to get the sack out. My boyfriend never came to see me or comfort me about it. I think he was more happy than sad that their was no baby. After that, he's told me that he doesn't want to have a baby with me.

Haleigh - posted on 03/20/2010

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MY husband and I were trying to get pregnant and I had exrays on my back. I told the tech that I might be pregnant and they said that the radiation fromm x rays is so minor that it wouldnt do any damage, The reason they ask is because of how many you have had. If you recieve lots of x rays during a pregancy thats when your Dr. would become consurned. Anyway I was pregnant with twin, they were fine and I even carried them to term. A miscarrage could have happened soley from the car crash. Just remind your husband that it better for you all to find out early, and that this was just a test run. Now you know everything works and next time all will go well.

Angele - posted on 03/20/2010

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I'm really sorry for your loss. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage. I was just over 12 weeks along when I started bleeding; I didn't get any pain though, but I did feel that there was someting off with the pregnancy. My husband didn't show any emotions toward it either, but I think that that's because I wasn't really either. I didn't know what it was to have a baby and because I felt weird about the pregnancy for most of the 12 weeks, I guess I subconciously knew that this baby was not going to happen. I was sad, especially after the D&C and for a couple of weeks I did wonder if maybe it was me that just couldn't hold a pregnancy to term. There were a couple of nights where I cried quite a bit, but my husband stayed positive and reassured me. I guess radiation could be a reason, but I wouldn't beat myself up over it, because the chances are quite slim that that was the reason. There's a million reasons why a pregnancy might end in miscarriage and most of the time it's nothing that we did. I kept telling myself that there might have been something genetically wrong with the fetus and that it was better this way. Now that I have my son, I keep telling myself that things happen for a reason and if I would've had the other baby, maybe, probably, I wouldn't have had my son. Positive thinking helped us; good luck; don't get discouraged

Nicole - posted on 03/18/2010

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I had a similar situation happen to me. I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive (I was 2 1/2 weeks along). I scheduled a doctor appointment. At my appointment I was 6 weeks. I went back the next week and they said there was no development. I was scheduled to have an ultrasound at 8 weeks 1 day. On the day that I was 8 weeks pregnant...I miscarried. The doctors explained to me that a baby (only the water sack) will not show up on an ultrasound before 8 weeks.Hearing this helped me get through the loss.I hope this helps you and your husband

Davina - posted on 03/18/2010

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First let me say that I'm sorry this happened to you. It can be a tough situation. I went through something similiar. I found out I was pregnant from a pregnancy test. Went to the doctor to confirm and yes I was pregnant but my hormone levels were low but still I was pregnant. I was excited because this was a planned pregnancy unlike my first one which just happened.

I went out of town and on my trip started spotting and cramping. I knew something was wrong. I went to the ER and they did an ultrasound and they didn't see anything. They said I must have technically miscarried. Although I was upset I felt that this was nature's way of saying that a baby wasn't headed my way at least not then.

I told my husband who was really upset by the whole thing that we'll try again and that's that. No need to stress over it. I was sad for a bit but didn't let myself get hung up on it. I figured everything happens for a reason, good or bad.

Of course we didn't have to wait long 2 months later I found out I was pregnant and this time everything was normal. I now have a 17 month old son and a 5 1/2 year old daughter. I believe you're never given more than you can handle. Think of it as a test of character and take it for what it's worth. You miscarried, thank goodness the car accident wasn't fatal and you have a husband who obviously loves you. I'm sure now that you are aware of x-ray exposure and know how much you want a baby you'll just try again. I hope everything works out for you both. Good luck!

Sara - posted on 03/18/2010

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Having conceived means you got pregnant, so it is a valid pregnancy that is recorded for life, not a Phantom pregnancy where you convinced your self you where pregnant. Well that is one comment i got when this happened at 15weeks into my pregnancy and there way no baby.There wouldn't be any HCG levels in your blood if that was the case. All the symptoms was there, plus the hcg levels, this is called BLYTED OVUM, personally i dont call it a miscarrige because i never bleed to loose the Sac, had a DNC and chose to abort. Xrays are very unsafe when pregnant but in your situation the pregancy could have started as a blyted ovum so dont think it was the cause of it. It is nothing you or your partner have done. With a blyted ovum in most circumtances it happens quite early from conception. Any loss has stains in the family and everyone deals with loss in different ways. It will pass but never forgotten. Once i conceived after the blyted ovum i booked for fortnightly ultrasounds untill 12 weeks to make sure everything was ok. During my third pregnancy i wasn't so paranoid. Just have fun trying for another baby when the time comes :)

Sharde - posted on 03/18/2010

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I am so sorry to hear that! I have never heard anything like that in my life. It will get better for you guys. I will pray for you and your family.

Andrea - posted on 03/17/2010

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I have heard of that happening, my sister inlaws freind has had two of them happen, and they arent sure what causes them! I can relate in the husband department though, we just had a miscarriage a few weeks ago, and it was hard even with us knowing that it was going to happen. My husband wanted to be supportive of me, but at the same time didnt really know what to say, because in all honesty he isnt the one that is dealing with the major emotional turmoil. After we talked about it and how each of us felt with this misscarriage things went back to normal for us!

Mandi - posted on 03/17/2010

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Hi Nicole This happened to me a few months ago! And all my doctor told me is that sometimes this happens! There is a 25% chance that the baby won't develop in any pregnancy and it was nothing I had done but I too would like to know what might have happened! I had gotten really sick around the time I concieved and wonder if that affected it? The hard part is not knowing but I believe that things happen for a reason and it wasn't meant to be. We are now trying again and have faith that it won't happen again! I just wanted you to know that you are not alone :)

Condraneka - posted on 03/17/2010

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I do not exactly know what to tell you, but my heart goes out to you and yours. I can say that last year I got pregnant on Valentines Day. Unfortunately I did not find out until the end of March, but before I found out I had been hospitalized from Pneumonia. They also did an x-ray without asking me if I was pregnant or not. I found out like a week after the x-ray that I was pregnant. Anyway to make a long story short my son was a premature due to the fact I a placenta ebrassion. They told me that if I had not made it in to the drs office when I did then we could of both lost our lives. He was actually hospitalized for about a month. He was born 2 months early. The sad part was I had all kinds of problems told the doctors they did not check to see what was going on, and I could have lost my life behind it. I think that in your situation it is a strong possibility that it was from the x-ray.

Danielle - posted on 03/17/2010

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be careful with d&c's i have a friend who had a similar thing happen and had the d&c and they didnt do it correctly and the baby continued to develop and when he was born he was deaf, blind, and had severe brain damage. its best to let it happen naturally. drs dont always know best and sometimes its good to get that second opinion.

Angie - posted on 03/17/2010

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Yes it happens to the best of woman. In 2007 I did not know I was pregnet and had a few x-rays taken by the dentist then I found out I was expecting they told me to wait until my 2cd trimester to go on. 1 week later in the hospital they saw 2 sacs, one empty, one a fighter. They had me on bed rest for a month before I finally lost the baby. Emotionally you are down and it does not go away quick or easy. I am so sorry for what you have gone through. No person should have to deal with this one. On a sunny side.. We did try again with the help of ovulation tests and 9 months later I was there again. Pregnet (now hold your breathe) one sac empty and one sac fine and healthy. They said I should have had twins both times. A very scary pregnancy 5 months along and they tell me he might come out with downs syndrome. March 3, 09 He a (could not be healther) little boy was born perfect. The tears roll and he does fill that spot but the one lost will never be forgotten. My little man just turned 1. I still cry just writting this I cry for happiness and closure. Thank you and I pray things work out the way you dream of.

Lakisha - posted on 03/17/2010

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iM SORRY TO HEAR THAT. iT WOULD GET BETTER. GIVE IT TIME AND SPACE TO TRY AGAIN. AND DO NOT LOSE HOPE.

Jamie - posted on 03/17/2010

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This happened to a dear friend. Prego and no baby. The good news is that shortly after they got pregnant, no problems. Every man deals with miscarriage differently. My husband and I had a miscarriage and he just shut me and everyone out. I always just tried to lighted the pain by telling him that, that baby just at the wrong address. We wanted a girl and so I another thing I would tell him was that baby was a boy and he is waiting for his sister to come along first so he will come later. We did get pregnant about 2mnths later and had our girl and before her first birthday we were pregnant again with that boy. Make sure you both know that what had happened just happened and you shouldn't blame yourselfs. I got threw it with humor. Everyone is different just find what is best for you and if he doesn't want to talk about it, don't push it because it could cause stress between the both you.

Sarah - posted on 03/17/2010

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Ive had it happen to me . I found out i was pregnant for the second time when I was 20 had previously had a normal misscarriage when i was 17 but all my blood work came back normal and when i went for my ultra sound they could find a heart beat at all the doctors figured that seems my body did what it was supposed to do for the first misscarriage it would do the same and let it go i ended up in the emergancy room having an emergancy d&c done only to find out there was no baby just the placenta which was 14 weeks along and i was actually only supposed to be 6 weeks along.

Victoria - posted on 03/16/2010

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When I worked in OB/GYN, a patient presented with very similar symptoms. She was 7 weeks pregnant and had scheduled her first ultrasound. When we prepped the Sonosite, it was a tumor that had attached itself to the uterus. In situations like that, it is sad that the body "reacts" the way it does. If there is something in there that makes the body think it's pregnant, HCG will be produced and will continue on as if you were pregnant. In regard to radiation, we are exposed to it every day. You would quite literally have to be nuked in order for your reproductive organs to be effected that way.

Lubna - posted on 03/16/2010

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dont worry.it happened to me with my first pregnancy.i was 3mnths pregnant wen i started bleeding.at the hospitals they did all kinds of external n internal ultrasounds but cudnt c anything.lster they discoverd that i was having an ectopic pregnancy.it was developing in m left tube.so i had two procedures done n they also had to remove m tube cz it was spoilled.but Thank God i have two beautiful kids now..take care n have faith in God.

Kate - posted on 03/16/2010

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im sorry to hear that your experiencing the same as what my husband and i did before christmas. its not an easy time for the both of u.
we had been trying for our second from aug and fiannlly got a positive but not to realise that there was going to be such a long road ahead of us. we went for our first scan (as we didnt exactly know our dates ) to have the sonographer tell us its a posible blighted ovum and if its not were about 4 weeks to come back within 9 days. so we re booked and headed back to be told its still too early there is only a sac and again looks to be a blighted ovum. i was getting so upset as they started to talk dc to me. so i had to rebook a scan again within 2 weeks. so i rebooked but to a different place and there the lady was fantstic she had a very good look and tyed everything to give us answers, as the night before i started to bleed.
she had confirmed that there definatly is a yolk but not one 2 of them. we were over the moon and went home so happy but yet not to realise we were heading for a longer road.
4 hours later that night i started to cramp it was such a horrible pain as if someone was stabbing me to realise i was misscrrying. un fortunatly the sac had attached to a blood clot and not me and i passed them with the clot.we were so devistated and it happed a week before christmas just when we had it planned to tell everyone.
but after all the there is light at the end of the tunnel we had a scan a week ago and found a heart beat, were 8 weeks pregnant again and everything so far looks great.
ok were not having our lil one when we wanted but seeing that heat beating was such a wonderful thing. hang in there unfortunatly we dont know why these terrable things happen but dont give up. my husband delt with the pain in a way that i could not hep him and he was terrable to be around, but im sure and hope your husband will come around once he has sorted it out within himself.
good luck and keep ur chin up

Lindsey - posted on 03/16/2010

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so soory to hear that, have never heard of that before. Prayers for you and your family

Christal - posted on 03/16/2010

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I just want to say I am so sorry you had to go through all of that,it had nothing to do with the xrays trust me,its just that it wasn't time for you to have the baby yet,believe me in about a year or sooner you will concieve,I had my d&c done on january 21 1999
and on january 21 2000 I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl,so please tell your husband not to be discuraged things will get better now.

Laurie - posted on 03/16/2010

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Hello, well i went thru the same thing and when they finally found out I was about 11 weeks pregnant and my husband was on deployment... They told me that my body was pregnant but all they saw was a sac and there was no baby inside or no heart beat so they plan for me to have a d&c done which I did after the red cross brought my husband back.... I have a 6 year old daughter now but she was 3 years old when it happened and all she kept saying to me was that she wanted to touch my belly because there was a baby inside mommy belly...I think that it really hit me then because I did not know what to say to her and all I was doing was crying because I really upset about what had happened.... I remember telling her that the baby went to heaven to be with god and that everything was going to be alright... It took me a couple weeks to really get better and stop crying but I kept telling myself that things happen for a reason and maybe god was telling me that this baby was just not ready to come... For my husband he never told me how he felt about the situtation but I know that he was upset because we really wanted another baby... All I can tell you is keep your head up and keep trying and if it is meant to be god will bring you another angel in your life..... take care and god bless.....

Brooke - posted on 03/16/2010

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Sometimes if a woman REALLY badly wants to get pregnant, her brain will fool the body into thinking it really is. You will get all the symptoms, but no baby. It is called a ghost pregnancy (at least, it used to be. They probably have some other name for it now.) My advice would be to take your time to grieve for this pregnancy loss, and just relax. It will happen when it happens.

Amythyst - posted on 03/15/2010

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My sister went through something like that last summer she thought she was 12 weeks and according to blood work and hormone levels the doc thought the same. the ultrasound showed a sac that apparently stopped developing at 5 weeks. never found out a reason for it. She tried waiting it out but after two weeks her body still thought she was pregnant and the sac was still not growing so she had the d&c.

Jennifer - posted on 03/15/2010

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I am so sorry to you had to go through that. That is terrable! Have faith and stay strong as a couple. All you can really do is try again. I remember what it was like when I went to my first apointment with this pregnancy. They couldn't see anything and when they did the Dr. told my husband and I she wouldn't tell anyone about it because it might be a miscarriage. Of course we were devistated and found another Dr. This really is once of the hardest things you go through as a couple. Good luck and don't give up :)

Abby - posted on 03/15/2010

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Nicole, first of all I want to tell you how deeply sorry I am that you are going through this and I know nothing that anyone can say will help. I just recently had my second miscarriage about 2 mths ago and I am having a very hard time with it. I had to have a D&C with both of them. The first was a lot like yours except there was a very small cell mass of an embryo that didn't develop past the 5th week and was dead inside of me for almost a month before I knew it- my body hormones still thought I was pregnant and I was measuring at 9wks. Then 4mths later I got pregnant and carried to term a perfect baby boy. He is 3 now and doing wonderful. We had ovulation day and everything down trying for #2, saw the heartbeat on an ultrasound and everything was fine at 8 wks, started bleeding at 10 wks and we found out we had lost it- passed some of the missed pregnancy naturally before they could get me in for the surgery it was awful. We named her and made a special box with a letter from each of us and the ultrasound pictures. It may sound corny but it helped a lot. This probably doesn't help or really answer your question but I know that when I went through this (and still am) that it helped to talk to people that have been through it before when no one else seems to understand. Its hard not to find a cause and blame something. Your xray sounds like a logical explanation, my dr just told me it was a chromosome abnormality and the cells didn't divide right and we could try again in 3 mths. Once again, I'm so sorry and you and your husband will be in my prayers. Feel free to write if you need someone to talk to.

Rebecca - posted on 03/15/2010

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I miscarried my first, i was 4 months.
I now have 2 kids,2.5yrs and 8 months. In October i had what is called a chemical pregnancy and it was kind of hard but my lordy...my youngest was only a few months old. Take it one day at a time. When i had my first one, i was devastated. I was told i would never be able to have kids and there i was, i had beat the odds. It broke me down so much i broke up with my bf of 5yrs and moved back to my home town. I was too ashamed to look at him and know i would never be able to give him a child.
I found that having a good support system behind me helped me the most. My mother and friends were awesome and although i wonder what my life would be like now if i never left, i wouldn't change it for the world.
Don't be scared to talk about how you're feeling and also allow him to talk about how he is feeling. Remember this is his first child and it resulted in a MC but things will work out for the best, i swear! You will be able to go on and carry another child as you already have:)
It is difficult to deal with but i think you made the best decision for you by getting the procedure done. It can be very hard to cope with and even making the decision can be hard, as i'm sure it was. Remember in your heart that you made the best decision and you will be blessed in a few months with a healthy pregnancy:)
I wish you the best of luck and i'm so sorry you ha to go through with this.

Betty - posted on 03/15/2010

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I'm sorry for your loss. I recently miscarried. That was how I found out I was pregnant. It really bummed me out and now I'm taking a break from trying for a while. At least I know that I was pregnant. Just try again when the two of you are ready.

Jacey - posted on 03/15/2010

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im sorry to hear about this, it must be hard, but ive never heard about it, i guess you learn something new everyday, i do know that no matter what they're supposed to cover you up sso that is def what happened, from what you've said.

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i found out i was pregnant Jan 1st, 2008, and on Feb 14th, valentines day the doctor told me that i had the sac but no baby with a heartbeat. They also gave me the choice of letting happen naturally or having a d and c. I chose natural. After well over a month still nothing happened. they brought me back in for another ultrasound to see if maybe they missed the heartbeat. They said it was still not there. So i had the d and c. Personally for me it was heartbreaking. A pain that i never want to feel again. I felt terrible for my husband and i wasn't sure i wanted kids anymore. What helped us was talking to each other. After a few months we decided to try again. And we had our daughter in May of 09. After talking to people i hear it to be very common to miscarry the 1st time. I was trying to come up with an answer for what happened and was making myself crazy over it. So as hard as it is, i would suggest take some time to heal and talk things over and look to the future. I wish you all the best!

Jessica - posted on 03/15/2010

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this happened to me when i was 17. i got pregnant, and i had an ultrasound at 6 weeks and i only had a yok sac. my hcg was also only 228. the doctor told me the same thing, i could go home and miscarry or i could go in and have a D&C. i also opted for the D&C, because i felt i needed closure. I doubt it was the x-ray though, a million and one things and most commonly gene abnormality that is neither yours or your husbands fault was the reason the pregnancy wasnt viable. I suggest take a break from the baby making, and have "if it was meant to be it will be" attitude.
good luck and my condolences to your family.

Sherre - posted on 03/15/2010

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The same thing happened to my sister. They told her she had no egg in her sac. I've never heard that before until it happened to her. I'm sorry that you went through that as well.

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I have heard of this happening before, there are many reasons that a pregnancy does not develop properly...just take it as though it wasn't meant to happen right now, and try again in a couple of months.
As for the x-rays causing your misscarriage, thats not necissarily true...I'm an x-ray technologist and we x-ray pregnant women at our hospital post accident or other serious injury, some even stay in the ICU for weeks or months and get many x-rays and their babies are fine it just depends...as for the shielding of your reprodctve organs that should have been done, unless you had x-rays of your pelvis or abdomen, in which case you can't shield because it will cover up the area of interest.

Alicia - posted on 03/15/2010

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wow, thats a lot to take in! that has not happened to me but all i can say is...sit down with him and tell hime that your thankful for how strong he is, but he can console in you and its ok for him to be upset and scared. thats why you two are married, if there is something wrong with your partner you do what you can to help them open up and share their fears. just tell him its ok to be upset--even if he wont share now, he will one day.

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it's really not that rare. honestly your husband and yourself should talk about it and get everything out in the open. also i see no reason for either one of you to get stuck on this, i'm not trying to sound cold hearted because i've had a miscarriage i'm just saying don't dwell on this one situation. talk about it then put it behind you and keep trying for that baby!!! i wish you the best =]

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I am very sorry you and your husband had to go thru that. I believe everything happens for a reason, please dont take that the wrong way, maybe it just wasnt time. Of coarse it might be easier to get pregnant now. I have quite a few women in my family that had miscarriages and soon after they were blessed with a healthy pregnancy. there are alot of different reasons it could have happened. I hope it doesnt again, and I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out for you. Soon.

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Hi Nicole,
What you had was called a blighted ovum. I also had this happen to me my first pregnancy. I want to start out by saying I am sorry for your loss. I know it is heart breaking.
The way my doctor explained to me is that sometimes the body can sense something is wrong with either the sperm or egg. So even though the egg Is fertilized and a gestational sac is forming it just stops growing so the egg doesn't become a fetus. Maybe the x rays you had damaged something and your body just knew something wasn't right.
The good news Is that this doesnt mean you can't pregnant again in fact I got pregnant for the second time one month after the D&C and now I have a happy , healthy 6 month old son.
Again I am so sorry for your loss and good luck to you :)

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I just went through the same exact experience just this past week. I also opted to have the D&C. The doctor said it usually happens because of chromosomal abnormalities. Its hard to deal with but if you talk about it, it might be a little easier to deal with.

Anna - posted on 03/14/2010

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oooh, Im so sorry for you and your family. I have personally never had that happen, honestly, I read your caption and was intrested in your question. i dont really have any advice for you other than stick together and be eachother's best friends. You need eachother right now. Im really sorry that you went through that. :)

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I am sorry for you and your husband. The silence between you is hard to go through. My first pregnancy was a miscarriage, I had low HCG levels right away so they could tell it was going to abort right when I found out I was pregnant. It is emotional to go through. I bled for two days and thought I miscarried, I went back for blood work and a week later found out I was still pregnant. I was scheduled for a D&C. Emotional and hard to go through. 6 weeks later I got pregnant again. You are the most fertile after D&C because everything is clean. My doc did test on the cells and it came back Abnormal cells, so the body knows what to do. GOOD LUCK, I think the best healing is to get pregnant again!!!!!

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I had a friend that went thru 2.5 months of pregnancy only to find out that there was the morning sickness, the tender breasts, the missed periods and everything else that goes with pregnancy. When she had an ultrasound, there was no fetus in the enlarging water sac. It was a complete pregnancy minus the fetus. I guess it is rare, but it does happen. She chose the DC as well but it broke her heart. She was pregnant 3 times. The first was a miscarriage at 8 weeks or so. Then the empty nest (what i call it for lack of better medical terminology) and she now has a 3 yr old daughter.

Nicole - posted on 03/13/2010

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No, they didnt make me come back in two weeks for an ultrasound. i went for one the thursday before and that said i was 5 weeks 1 day but it was impossible when you looked at my period dates and the day i had a positive pregnancy test. and then when i went the following tuesday for the ultrasound, the doctor said that there was no way that a baby shouldn't have been there with a heartbeat. he gave me the option to wait for the miscarriage but like I said I didn't want to go through all the stress of waiting for it to just happen. I have a 2 year old, go to school, and work so as bad as it sounds, I really couldn't afford to just wait for it.
The dr. also said that we can try again after 2 periods. He said if I get pregnant before then, it increases a chance of miscarriage to 85%. We still are not sure if we are going to try again after the 2 months or wait. I was going to put off school for a semester, but I can finish in December so we might just wait until after that; instead of me only taking 1 class in the summer and taking fall off.
My husband is taking it quite well. He started opening up after he realized that mentally I really am OK. Ive accepted the fact that it happend for a reason. It also helps the both of us knowing that there was no baby, so we didn't exactly lose one!

I am sorry to hear all of your stories about this also!! My prayers and thoughts are with you all! And for those of you who went on to have beautiful and healthy children, congrats!!!!! Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and support!! It's really nice to know that even when my friends and family aren't around I have a whole communtiy of women here for me!!!!!

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the same thing happened to me last november I found out I was pregant and after the new year rold around I went to see the dr. for my first visit, everything was positive. then the next week I started to spot, went in for an ultrasound and HcG test, but there was not sac and my levels were low. I ended up having to have a D&C. needles to say I became pregant later that month but did not find out I was pregant until 15 weeks. I had a healthy baby girl on Halloween!

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I had a miscarriage my first pregnancy, i was four months but had never had a sonogram or ultrasound until the day when i woke up in the middle of the night with abdominal pain and spotting. I went to the ER immeadiatly and when i had a sonogram done, the doctor said that he didn't see a baby at all just a yolk sac so to speed up the process he gave me some pills and had to go thru the pain at home of going to the bathroom every 10 minutes to throw large clots of blood which was a scary experience for me i never understood what had happen if i was actually pregnant or not....but i had to have a D&C to clean my uterus after that

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ya same thing happened to my sister...its called blided ovum...i beleive...something along those lines. everything develops except the baby. the reason it happened to my sister is because she was trying so hard that she actually convinced herself she was pregnant....but she never was actually pregnant. she went through the miscarriage. hemoraged, severe abdomnial pain. she didnt have a d&c..i actually dont think they even gave her the option...they just let it happen on its own......it really is crazy and so sad...sorry for your loss...hope it gets better

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It happened to a friend of mine. She was pregnant just like u. A sac with no baby. :( They say it is normal. Expect in her case she waited for the miscarriage. It happened at 5 mths. A few months later she was pregnant again. That pregnancy was normal. Just be positive and don't focus on getting pregnant or you'll have a harder time. Good Luck. :)

Sheryl - posted on 03/12/2010

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i am so sorry that happen to you guys. i hope things get better for you too. i have never heard of anything like that happening before.

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