Pregnant with baby # 2. any advice to prepare our daughter?

Christina - posted on 07/20/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I just found out last week I am about 4 weeks pregnant with our 2nd baby, our daughter is almost 18 months! Does anyone have advise on how to prepare my daughter?

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Cynthia - posted on 07/21/2011

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My little boy was a little over two when I got pregnant with my second baby. I bought him a little doll, and we played with it together when we talked about the baby. I let him be involved in everything. I recorded the baby's heartbeat on a video on my camera and he always wanted to to watch it! I let him go to my ultrasound appointments and gave him his own picture to show people. When we shopped for baby things, we let him help pick things out- the little brush set, nail clippers, a blanket, etc. He was so proud- he would carry them around with them in a little bag around the house. He was very concerned about diapers, :) so one day I took him with me and we bought diapers for the baby. We talked very excitedly about it whenever we could! We also got some books that we would read together at bedtime. We got "What Baby Needs", "I'm a Big Brother" and even some of the other baby books like "Arthur's New Baby" etc. He loved them. I was so worried. He was the first grandchild on both sides of the family, and was used to being the center of attention with everyone. I was afraid he'd be jealous of the baby, but when the baby was born, he was obsessed with her. He always wanted to hold her and show her off. Whenever he was playing somewhere he'd drag her little seat next to him. If she was crying and I didn't immediately run to her side, he was there to set me straight. I thought once the newness wore off that would be the end, but she's now a year old and hes as obsessed with her today as the day she was born. They're best friends! He helps her walk, gets her snacks, holds her and reads to her- I had nothing to worry about!!!

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Cyndel - posted on 07/21/2011

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I just had my second child! My son turned 3 when I was 8 weeks pregnant and he didn't believe that I had a baby in my belly until I was over 7 months pregnant...even though I started showing so that other people noticed I was pregnant at 4 1/2 months. I began to get excited only about 6 weeks before I gave birth. All I did was tell him that mommy had a baby in her belly, and that the baby was going to come out and live with us, I told him how the baby would cry alot because he will be too young to talk and crying was the only way to tell us that he was hungry or hurt etc, I used his monkey to show him how he could hold the baby and how to gently touch him. I told him only what he needed to know...that mommy had a baby in her belly, that baby would come to live with us soon, and how life was going to change when baby did come. There are some great books out there you can read to her that would help. My son was uninterested in these books though so I read them and incorperated the ideas into conversations throughout the day and especially at night when I was preparing him for bed.

Ana - posted on 07/21/2011

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Gabriella and one for Ava (new baby) It helped a lot. At first Gabriella was a little scared after Ava was born, but I included her with everything I had to do with Ava. (Gabriella loved it) My girls now fight sometimes but it's just that sister fighting..haha. GL!!

Ana - posted on 07/21/2011

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Hey Christina! First off, congrats on your 2nd child! :)

I'm a mother of two girls, ages 2 and 4. My girls are 2yrs, 2 months and 1 day apart. My oldest was 17 months when I got pregnant again. I got my oldest used to being around other babies and started pointing out other babies. (Especially at the grocery store with other kids with sibilings) Once my belly started getting bigger, I explained to her she was going to be great big sister & help mommy with the baby and be a big girl. I also did the buying two gifts. One for

Melissa - posted on 07/21/2011

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Hey Christina !

Congratulations ! I am also pregnant w/ my 2nd atm however my son is 3 now. Your daughter is probably a bit too young to understand much of what is going on at this point, but you can still prepare her. First, try and get her to LIKE other babies. Point them out on t.v. or when you're out and tell her she'd be such a great big sister. You can talk to her about how mommy is growing a baby in your belly (again all this talk she probably won't understand at first, but the repetition will become familiar as she gets older). Getting her a baby doll of her own that she can take care of may possibly be a good idea as well. I'm not due until January, but a woman suggested to me that when the due date comes near, that I buy 2 presents. 1 from my son to the new baby, and 1 from the new baby to my son to also help ease the new bond between them and start them off on a good note. I'm planning on trying that as well : ) GL I'm sure you both will do great !

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