Putting a leash on your children

Kristie - posted on 05/11/2010

ok so 1 min ur whinging that 2yr olds shouldnt b in prams n now ur sayin they shouldnt b on a harness?? sorry love but not every1 has great children like urs (maybi urs is scared of a ass wooping)? with 2 children that are 2 n under n both walking now i think its alot safer to have one in a pram, personally i dont use the harness i feel like im walkin n treating my kid like an animal but each to their own.. we just have never got the hang of the harness... but i really think u need to stop judging other mother as there would b things u would do wrong (lik ass wooping)! n if ur travelling on public transport it is ALOT safer in a pram or on a harness where they cant run off infront of a train ect! how r u gunna feel if ur child gets hit by a car? mayb then u might not think its wrong having ur child on a harness or in a pram

Kerri - posted on 05/11/2010

Hmm? put my child in a harness, or stroller? or get my child taken away for "child abuse" for disciplining them in public,. Not to say that my child is not very well behaved but they all have their moments. We arent living in Old fassion times i discipline my child but i also keep her safe! Their are creeps in this world now!

Louise - posted on 05/11/2010

I spend a lot of time with my two boys by myself cos of the hours my husband works. 13 months and 4 and a half. When my baby was 2 weeks old I was in the supermarket with the pram and a buggy board for the older child to stand onto attached to the back. I was putting my shopping up and all of a sudden he took off. I had two choices. Abandon the buggy and run or stay with the buggy and let god knows what happen. Needless to say I ran with the girl at the cashdesk watching the baby. I caught my son just as he was about to step in front of a car. I was 2 weeks post natal and had had stitches and boy did that run hurt! That day I went home and opened the strap my mom had bought me a year before and I hated them as I thought the same leashes are for dogs etc. My mind is totally changed now. I have one that Straps to his wrist and then either to my wrist or the buggy if I have it.
It's well and good to say teach your child etc. My son no matter how many times he will say he knows he's not to run away etc he still does it. He has no concept of danger.
With 1 child yes I would just hold his hand but have you ever tried to push a buggy and hold a hand at the same time? I almost found out the hard way! So I prefer to use the wrist straps and know my child is safe than not and have him dead under a car somewhere!

Sarah - posted on 05/11/2010

"Come on give me a break, people should have the right to raise their children in the way they see fit to a certain extent but to tell me that an ass whooping is abuse i just have to disagree."

This is your quote Anine...if you believe this then stop critcising the way others raise their children.

Autumn - posted on 05/11/2010

im sorry but when you are flying alone with a 3 year old and and 1 year old, you need to be able to keep your kids in check and close to you...YES I USE A LEASH AND I AM NOT AFRAID TO ADMIT IT. it keeps my kids safe and close to me....no i dont use it all the time...just in areas where there are very large crowds. personally i think that its smart...you never talked to her so maybe the son had a condition that would make it very dangerous for him to be off the leash.

Casey - posted on 05/11/2010

i understand why people put leashes on their children..they are out of control or maybe they are going to somewhere like a mall where they don't want them to get lost..sometimes i wish i had a leash for my daughter who is 18months and is a lil hard headed but i really don't need one because whatever i say it goes!!!

Shannen - posted on 05/11/2010

I don't like them but then again i don't know what that parent is going through and if their child has austism or something similar or any sort of disabilty. Are you trying to cause problems on here? cause you had the other post about strollers and like i said on there and i will say ti again. Does it affect your every day to day life and what you do in it to see other parents with children in those children harnesses?

Like i said i don't like them but how the hell do i know what those children are like they arent mine. It also in no way affects me seeing those children in them.

Stop trying to cause problems by posting things that are obviously going to get a rise out of people. These aere the sorts of conversations you should keep to your self!

Erin - posted on 05/11/2010

Ok so you want people to respect your views of parenting and allow you to "appropriately" spank your child and then on the same hand you tink others should not be able to let their 2 yr old use a stroller or their child wear a "leash"? So now that I have your hypocritical way of thinking down pat...your child is 6! I'm real glad you got out of all those things 4 yrs ago, but when I was 8 mos pregnant with my son who was almost 3 he bolted from me while leaving a restaurant on two different occasions. You can BET YOUR ASS he got swatted for that one! And then I bought one of those back pack leashes because there was no way I could run after my child. After that, I didn't leave the house unless my husband came with for 3 months because I was afraid he'd do that when I could hardly walk, then after the baby...he's like a new child NOW, but then, eek! I only wish we would have bought it sooner because my husband took him to wild waves and almost lost him when he took his eyes off him for one second to get quarters from the change machine. The one place I would LOVE to see ppl use strollers and harnesses is in heavily trafficked areas like malls, amusement/theme parks, airports etc

Ashley - posted on 05/11/2010

I am against them personally. I had never thought about the sense of freedom they give a child. My oldest (almost four) was always aloud to walk a bit in front of us and the children's museum etc, our rule has always been, "go have fun as long as you can see me and I see you". She's never tried to take off, ever. I suppose I am a lucky mom though.
I would never use one, and my mom felt the same way.
But whatever each parent wants. End of story, YOU know what's best for YOUR child :)

Jackie - posted on 05/11/2010

Okay well this thread is very offensive to me. I have used a harness for my son and that has nothing to do with not being able to discipline or control my child. How is spanking your child and causing physical pain any better than letting them have freedom to roam as older people but while keeping them close? As far as the comment that if you cant handle your children then you shouldnt have them that was very very offensive. My 3 year old has Autism and no at times I cant control him. Doesnt mean I shouldnt have had him. Are you guys saying that you control your kids 100% of the time? If so then youre mother of the year.
Who are any of you to judge us as mothers? You dont know what the other mothers are going through. I've used it on my son because his thought processes are not the same as ours. I've also used it when he had to sit in the car for an hour for the drive to the mall and half way throught the mall I put one on him to walk so his little bottom didnt hurt. As many people are in the mall if you so much as sneeze anymore it doesn't take long for your child to be gone. You can teach a child anything in the world but that wont stop a kidnapper.
I dont see why any of you can judge and criticize how any of us raise our children. Yes to each their own. Yes I do believe in spankings and yes by law it is child abuse anymore. I would rather my son feel freedom for just a bit than to get physical pain or get embarrassed because he got a public spanking.

Betty - posted on 05/11/2010

A 2 year old I nanny for LOVES wearing her little pink "back pack" as long as you don't drag your child around with it and closeline people they are great tools. I still make her hold my hand when we cross streets because I do agree you should always be teaching them how to stay safe.

Betty - posted on 05/11/2010

So your against strollers and safety restraints? Not everyone has been blessed with your obviosly perfect child in fact most for most parents these strange things are what save their backs from breaking. You shouldn't expect your toddlers to obey you when it comes to where they are allowed to walk, that is silly. These things keep you from needing to have a death grip on your child's hand when he decides he can dictate your shoping experiance. Ass whipping is just that, OLD FASHIONED, parenting has evolved and abuse cases are declineing as a result.

Trina - posted on 05/11/2010

who cares? Really if your child is safe, and healthy, it is not my problem. A harness (the correct term for it) can be a helpful thing if you have a child who is a runner, spirited, or on the Autism Spectrum. I'm glad some parents are working hard to be good parents and keep their little ones safe...regardless of what others think. 99% of things on circle of moms is a matter of opinion. At the end of the day opinion doesn't equal fact, so it is no big deal. As long as a person isn't beating their children or actually abusing them then why get all up in arms? This is really such a small thing in the big picture.

Brittany - posted on 05/11/2010

ok so here is my thing with this subject... i have a 15 month old son... we went to seaworld and i had him in his stroller... i let him out when he wanted out to walk... there is TONS of ppl there walking through crowds of ppl... so if i had my child in the backpack strap why is that a bad thing.. granted i dont have one but when i was there i wish i did! it is so easy for a person to kidnap a child while walking through that crowd anyone could have grabbed him and darted off! if he would have had the backpack on something like that would never happen.. my son knows his boundaries to an extent... but he loves to roam... so i dont see a problem with these unless..... if your child is older... old enough talk and walk on their own and know the difference & know that if you touch that your gonna be in trouble then they shouldnt be one one... basically i think an age thing.. and any kid under 2 this shouldnt be an issue for anyone to use! over that.. then maybe you should teach your child right from wrong

Becky - posted on 05/11/2010

I use one of these and it is not because I cannot control my child. I can and she is very well behaved and I know that if I don't have it on her she will not run off or get into trouble. I use this because I know I cannot keep my eyes on her at all times and I do not want to risk that one sec. I turn my head to pick up my crying baby or I have to look up on a screen to see what time my train will be arriving and have somebody kindnap her. I have heard too many storys of children getting kidnap when the parents head was turn for not even 30 secs. My daughter loves her "doggy backpack" and when we don't need to use it she will start crying because she wants it.

Ashley - posted on 05/11/2010

Anine, I am in full agreement with you on this subject. I'm sorry but if you as a parent have not instilled proper behavior in your child then you've failed miserably as a parent. There are too many parents out there that allow the "Dr. Phil's" of the world to raise their children and not do what is right on their own. Be a parent and not their friends.

Nicole - posted on 05/11/2010

You know Anine, I used to feel the same way you did when I was younger, before I had children, or even when I had just one child, but then you know what happened? I had more children and one of those children has an autism related disorder and everything I felt about parenting changed. My autistic child has been the only one of my children to use a harness and he was the only child to use a stroller in his older years. Autistic children usually don't look like they are special needs to the general public and, therefore, people could think that the parents of these children are lazy, can't control their child, the parents need to give their child a spanking, etc. and never realize that their child is special needs. Again, if you don't want people to judge you for spanking, don't judge others for using harnesses or strollers. It's not like harnesses and extended stroller usage have ever been shown to cause psychological problems in children, but some might argue that spanking does.



I was spanked as a child and I am not opposed to parents spanking their children (as long as it is not considered abuse) and I am okay (mostly HAHA!) and I am also not against harnesses and strollers. Like you said "people should have the right to raise their children in the way they see fit."

Anine - posted on 05/11/2010

And please stop throwing child abuse around jenee for just a moment. Now a days everything is child abuse. You can't talk to loud to a child because it's child abuse. You can seperate 1 child from the other children because it"s child abuse. You're not suppose to beat your kids because it's child abuse. Come on give me a break, people should have the right to raise their children in the way they see fit to a certain extent but to tell me that an ass whooping is abuse i just have to disagree.

Anine - posted on 05/11/2010

Yes i feel that wearing a harness or as i like to call it a leash is offensive. Why is that necessary? if you know how to discipline your child putting one of those things on them shouldnt even cross your mind. Until now i have never met a child who wore a harness and actually like it. That to me is a little weird but whatever floats your boat do as you see fit. I'm just saying for me personally i have instilled certain rules with my son so things that happen to most parents don't happen to me. I guess i'm just lucky to have my son because i have no problems with him at all.

And as far as the ass whooping i see no harm in that because sometimes a good pat on the ass is what some of these children need. Sometimes talking is not always the answer to everything and that time out stuff doesn't always work. I'm from a family where we got our ass whoop when it was needed. Now i'm not talking about going all crazy and beating your children until they are bleeding and all that, but a little smack or pat on the ass won"t hurt no one.

Jenee - posted on 05/11/2010

So a leash is wrong and so is being in a stroller after 2? So then what? It's not something that is new. Parents have been doing it for so long now. These days "ass whipping" is considered child abuse.

Cindy - posted on 05/11/2010

I grew up having to wear a harness (not a leash, children are not dogs after all) and I LOVED it!! It gave me freedom to walk separate from my mum and I liked the independence I felt. That is my personal experience with harnesses. If you don't like them don't use one but as a child who wore one and loved it I would use one with my son

Nicole - posted on 05/11/2010

Okay so keeping your child safe with a harness is offensive, but "ass whooping" is acceptable?????

Kerri - posted on 05/11/2010

I know kids can run around and be crazy sometimes but to me the mothers/fathers that use those shouldn't have kids. If you can't handle your children then you shouldn't have one. I completely agree with you anine im sure my son at some point in his life will get his ass wooped

my mom almost bought one of the leashes just because they have some that look like little animal pack backs but instead there an animal with a really long tail and thats the leash!! It really upsets me the people who use that damn things!

September - posted on 05/11/2010

That's not a new thing. I'm surprised you've never seen that before. Not saying I agree with it, I would never use one personally. I would also never whip my child to keep him in line. My 18 month old son has no problem holding my hand and walking next to me and never have I had to resort to the "old fashion ass whipping" or leashing my child. There are other ways to mold respectable children :)