Question for anybody to answer.

Angie - posted on 08/11/2010

Stupid people are always going to turn their noses at other people who don't follow the "normal" way off life. I wouldn't let it get to you. You are an individual and a person who is unique in her expression. This is something you will teach your daughter and, in doing so, will show her that being your own person and expressing yourself the way you want is a good thing. Society doesn't have the right to make you feel like you aren't good enough because you don't live up to their standards. Stand up tall and just tell those Square jerks to pull the stick out, if you know what I mean. LOL. :)

Jessica - posted on 08/11/2010

I think some ppl are just way toooo old fashion..
I think tattoos are art..
These people that look at you should get a life,
Keep being your self :)

Bonnie - posted on 08/11/2010

I, timidly, admit that more often then not I judge people based on their appearances. And when it comes to woman and inparticularly mothers I am even more critical. I don't know why and I would never voice my opinions on someone else's appearence to them but I think it's just something I do because of my own personal opinions. I'm not a fan of piercings but I do have one tattoo that is completely concealed by clothing... and when it comes to other mothers having multiple piercings/tattoos and then you throw in how old they 'look' I find that I make negative judments of them without even realizing it... I wouldn't let it affect you though hun, everyone has their own opinions and own thoughts on just about everything right, and if someone frowns upon you for any reason that's their issue.

Kerrie - posted on 08/11/2010

im not so sure this is the reason
i have a 8 month old baby i have 6 tatts and havent noticed that i get any funny looks
however i will keep my eye out now lol

Sharlene - posted on 08/10/2010

Woman are bitches period, if you take note its a certain type of woman that will give you looks. I have two tats and i love them and i am plannig to go for another one. I had a belly ring but had to take it out because my belly got too big when i was preggies, planning to put that back in aswell.

Wendy - posted on 08/10/2010

I dont see any of your tats or piercings bad. If someone has a problem with it they can just look away. I mean its not like its harming your child.
When I look at people's tats in the store I'm trying to figure out what I want. I dont have any and I'm wanting one with my daughter's names. lol So I'm trying to figure out if I would like it on me.
I would just ignore the stares and as long as your baby is happy thats all that matters. I play with my girls in the store and people give me dirty looks cuz we're spinning in circles in the isle hahaha

Niki - posted on 08/10/2010

Don't worry about it! Teach your child that differences are good, it is what makes us interesting. Who would want to live in a world where everyone is the same? I have tats also, so I understand how you feel, but be proud of who you are and don't let the small minded people bug you :-)
-Niki

Angel - posted on 08/10/2010

you know what i live in Las Vegas, have 8 tattoos and a total of 14 piercings and i have a 4yr and 7month old and yeah i get looks but you know what it is mostly? jealousy. they cant pull it off and look as good as we do so they hate. even though its been years and years since everyone was proper and such society still cant accept the way people choose to be. just look at them and smile and go about your day. just remember they are hating on you because you make it look good and well they cant. thats the way i see things. i know im not God's gift to men but i know im me and im not trying to be anyone else and i have tattoos and piercings and well thats part of me. if they dont like it then they can choose to not be in my life or around me. just keep your head up and always SMILE!!

Kristen - posted on 08/10/2010

There is nothing wrong with being a stylin Momma! I personally don't have any tats or extra piercings, but kudos for you! Don't let them get to you. You are just expressing who you are, and apparently part of you likes to be a little bit funky! Be who you are, and raise your kids to be individuals too.

Medic - posted on 08/10/2010

Tell them to f off....my body is my temple and I happen to like it highly decorated....I hate plain walls. I have 9 very LARGE tats and several piercings. Not many people have balls enough to tell me much but to the ones that do thats what I tell them.

Jackie - posted on 08/10/2010

I dont let it get to me I just dont understand why people have to be so judgemental to others they know nothing about.

Emilie - posted on 08/10/2010

I wouldn't let it get to me. People have to find something wrong with everyone. Its always something. If it dont bother you, thats all that matters and as long as it doesnt scare your child. no ones the same and everyone has different taste.

Jess - posted on 08/10/2010

I get looks to. I have a turtle on my inside right forearm and a dragon on my back and also a celtic trinity on the back of my neck. I to have a few peircings including a facial one. I have a one year old and number 2 on the way. I wouldnt let it get to you. Who cares what anyone else thinks of you. They dont know you so dont really have a right to judge you.

Casey - posted on 08/10/2010

Not sure why that is. I hae three tattoos and waiting to get my fourth. My are very unique and everyone always asks me about them and I talk about them with pride.

Simone - posted on 08/10/2010

people are going to look at you funny no matter what clothes you where or what your tatoos are ect... i get that lot time when i used to have my eyebrow dun i got all kinds wierd looks and now ive had it removed due to it got infectid i still get those looks*so ild just ignore them if i was you end the day if it doesnt effect your ability to be a mum then thats all well n good

Lacey - posted on 08/10/2010

I have 2 tats my ears pierced and my navel done too. People are annoying and will always judge. YOu would think that with the times we live in now that there wouldnt a stigma attached to tats and piercings. Walk tall and be proud of your ink and holes! I do!

Breeyan - posted on 08/10/2010

Sadly, this happens a lot. I also have tattoos. And piercings. I am actually 19 going on 20. So tons of things are compounded atop my 'look'.

Its just that people find it to be distatesful after you have kids to have 'worldly' things. They think that if you have kids, you should be...a nuntype. lol. They thnk after you have children you should be clean, and presentable at ALL times. its just a fact of life. I see nothing wrong with having tattoos or piercings, as long as they're tasteful, and coverable if needed.

If you're comfortable with yourself and your image. Don't sweat it.

Lungile - posted on 08/10/2010

Some people are either just jealous (u can still wear a top that shows your navel or they are just old school! dont stress! as long as u r are a good mom,thats all that counts. we are not all the same and people need to deal with the fact that times have changed.and the " frumpy mom" look is a big NO!!

Nichole - posted on 08/10/2010

heres my opinion its not really an answer but merely an opinnion..... what does any thing you do to your body have to do with your parenting.... i have tats and peircings and guess what its my body!!!!

Carmine - posted on 08/10/2010

Because, people can't accept those who are different. I have 6 tattoos, only one on each bicep, the rest on my back. my HUSBAND on the other hand, has a full right tribal sleeve, 7/16th (I think) lobes, snack bites, lebret, inner and outer conches all pierced. We always get looks because I don't look as outragous as he does, but I just glare back. Who cares what others think! As long as you love yourself (and your lil one of course), screw those who attempt to judge you without knowing you first!!!

Jayla - posted on 08/10/2010

from what I see on your picture you have up, you cant tell, You do look very young but that is a good thing.. and will always be a good thing, Some people are just haters who feel the need to make fun of others for no reason but they are jealous of U, don't let others get you down, what U have to tats are fine there is nothing wrong with them and your piercings... your not covered head to toe with tats and piercings ... she is wrong, your ears are done and you have nice tats on your leg tasteful too.... The people are jealous that you look so young looking and your going on 30.... Don't let them get you down...

Jessica - posted on 08/10/2010

My guess would be because they were raised that mothers dont do things like this... I also have piercings and a tat and sometimes i get the same reaction when they are speaking to me and see i have my tongue pierced... it happens but you dont have to a sterotypical mom... Our children come to us with everything and anything cuz we appear to them as more than a parent cuz our appearances are more of a friend, but our actions are always parenting its just they are more comfortable with it

Theresa - posted on 08/10/2010

there stuck up b#tche$ if you ask me i have a monroe piercing and 3 tattoos i dont think theres anything wrong with it as long as you dont go to far with it lol

Veronique - posted on 08/10/2010

It's sad to say but it's a stereotype!
I have 2 tats 1 on my lower back and the other on my shoulder blade. The one on my lower back is a heart and on my shouler blade is the foot prints of my daughters with there names.
When i do get looks i ignore those people.
I don't stop my self from doing things because of what others might think. This is my life and as long as i take good care of my kids i don't see how a tattoo can make me a bad mom.
Good luck!

Lori - posted on 08/10/2010

its prob a combination of looking young and the tats/piercings. people are ignorant. i say something like the colors are nuce right? or this one didnt hurt....my kids cant wait to do it, lol. and walk away.

Shandy - posted on 08/10/2010

i think a couple of things when i see that stuff on people i wonder what they mat mean and if there is a lot why so many and sometimes I am a little scared by that person because o the streotpye but Iam not saying that they are not o bad parent because i dont know them as a person so that may be what other people are thinking and feeling as well and not so much what you may be thinking what they feeling hope that helps a little bit

Michael - posted on 08/10/2010

i wouldn't worry about other ppl.u are ur own person and i have seen worse! i am a mother of 2 lil boys and i look about 16 and i will b 24 on the 24th of this month and i have piercings and 2 tat's! ppl look at me and give me looks like what the hell???! but i just look at it as they are complimenting me! dont worrie about what other ppl think of u and do what u have to do, and that would b take care of ur kids and screw all other biotch's.it dont matter how u look it matters how u raise ur kid (kids)! do u and u will b happy!

Shana - posted on 08/10/2010

Ugh I know that feeling. >>;

I have 5 ear piercings, my nose, tongue and my navel. And I hardly even wear my earrings. My nose stud is very small and it's not like the tongue is so visible. But I still get the odd strange look. I never understood really but meh, I learn to not care what other people think. It's not like piercings or tattoos can change the person on the inside. :3

Bridget - posted on 08/09/2010

I have no idea. Most everyone I know has tats nowadays, at least in NJ. Even 50, 60 year old businessmen and women are getting into them now so I thought that was a thing of the past. Come to NJ you won't get any looks ;)

Amy - posted on 08/09/2010

haha...I wonder what they think about me...I have 3 tattoos (traamp stamp, one on my right breat and my ankle) and I have facial peircings (lip nose and eyebrow)...DOn't even let it phase you...you know what and how you are doing, and you don't need "validation" from other moms

Aoife - posted on 08/09/2010

ignore them people should mind their own business it is after all your own body an none of any1 else's ul find they wont have much to say if you approach them about what exactly they are looking at

Jennifer - posted on 08/09/2010

I have a large tat (my family tree) on my leg, one on my shoulder and one on my lower back. I think I look young too and most people stare at my baby but he's not 8 months yet so maybe it's because they think you're young. Where do you live? I guess I must live in an open minded community because I don't feel that. I feel the stares when feeding in public but that's about it. Screw them!!! Or maybe they're checking out your art work not judging you.

Nicole - posted on 08/09/2010

My thought is .... It is your body do what you want with it. You have the piercings and tattoos because they are something that you wanted right? So, who cares what everyone else thinks. I used to try and hide my tats and then I realized I didn't get them so I could hide them, I got them because they mean something to mean. I have 3 tattoos and a total of 6 piercings (3 in each ear). Let people stare all they want as long as you know you are a good mom and that your child is taken care of it shouldn't matter what the public opinion is of you.

Tasja - posted on 08/09/2010

I have no tatoes and only piersed ears, one in each. I agree with all that has answered to you, ignore them. I saw a mom the other day (propably you) and thought, it is nice to have a "modern mom". If your kids love you, who cares? I am thinking of having a tatoo now.

Carrie - posted on 08/09/2010

My husband has tattoos and piercings. He has his ears stretched, a septum piercing (middle of his nose), an eyebrow ring and a bar in his ear (through his cartridge) and some tats on his arms. When he has our 3 year old daughter with him going to the store or park or wherever he gets the same looks. People look at him like he shouldn't have a child because of his piercings and tats. I tell him all the time that I don't think people are looking at him in any other way other than out of curiosity, well at least 85 percent anyways. I could say the same to any one in that situation, maybe you just feel like people are looking at you like that because it is rude for people to stand there and stare and not say anything! My husband is always saying "if your gonna stare at least say high or something!"

Hollie - posted on 08/09/2010

hey in 23 and mum to my 4 year old son and 2 year old daughter i have 9 tats and my ears are full of peircings. i cant say i ever notice any one looking at me diffrently because of them. but if u think that y they lookat u then my only sugestion would be to cover up ur tats or just try to stop worryin about wat other pepole think . hope this helps

ps sorry about my spelling x

Vixi - posted on 08/09/2010

Other people (women especially) are quick to judge others on their appearance. Some even get a buzz of it!

But I heard a quote on a film the other day and it made me think, at least you don't have to make a show of yourself to be noticed. You get the attention by just being you. Some people would kill for that attention.

Walk with your head held high and be proud of your appearance, people who stare and judge are obviously insecure about themselves and make themselves feel better by judging others! x

Amy - posted on 08/09/2010

I stopped reading after '29 and look 19'. Oh man, I'm 28 and wouldn't give a shite what looks I got if I could ditch the wrinkles and grey hairs that are coming through.
What was your problem again? Nothing that can't be solved by relocating to a more open-minded neighbourhood, by the sound of things :-)

Leah - posted on 08/09/2010

I too get looks all the time...I have the majority of both my arms covered in tattoos, and have even had people come up to me while im shopping and ask me why i would do such a thing to myself... Exactly how do my tattoos affect the way I raise my son??? They dont interfere with me feeding, bathing, changing him etc, so I dont see what the big deal is. People are quick to judge, dont let it get to you, just ignore it.

Brandi - posted on 08/08/2010

i say ignore them, if they dont like it then they dont have to look at em...they all sound very tasteful n not extravagant...so i wouldnt worry bout it....so keep being a good mommy, and dont worry bout it..:):)

Melissa - posted on 08/08/2010

Im almost 27 with 3 daughters (almost 8, 6, and 2)... I have 3 tattoos one on each shoulder blade and one on my right leg. And trust me i plan to get more, they have meaning to me. I also have had piercings. Right now I just have my lip but at one point I had my nose, eyebrow and tongue as well. eyebrow was taken out before the lip was done.
people always have something bad to say about others, i dont give them a time of day. as long as you know your a good mother to your child who cares if you have tattos and piercings, its not like you walking around looking like a hooker. i say ignore them or tell them to take a picture it last longer =)

Linda - posted on 08/08/2010

forget what other ppl think....as long as your kid is happy and you are being the best parent you can be, then i dont see a problem, whether you had 1 tatt or 12..or however many piercings...no one has the right to judge you.

Jacqueline - posted on 08/08/2010

It is just people and there stupid painted picture of how a mom should look.. People has to understand that just beacuse you have all that, doesnt mean that your a bad mother.. I have only my ears done and have no tats.. I she some mothers with tats everwhere that are very wrong to have with children.. But I am not one to judge anyone.. I just think that it could have been a time in there life and leave it at that.. I just think that people need to stop with the whole "painted picture" and see that every one is different in there own way.. It is the 1930's where mothers are seen in the kitchen wearing dresses and high heals making dinner.. I just hate that people would judge a person for something so small.. I hope that you can over look them and just be yourself.. How really cares what people think anyways?? They are you own children.. You know that your a good mother and that is all that should matter.. Don't judge a book but its cover... :)

Amanda - posted on 08/08/2010

So the big picture here...your wonderful 3 year old looks at you as the most beautiful person in this world! You mean more to her than anyone ever could and that is all that matters. I wouldnt wear shorts before my son was born and gained weight from the pregnancy and having trouble losing, but I wear shorts now. What changed my mind? The one thing that matters most to me looks at me and has the biggest smile on his face, loves me unconditionally and could careless how my legs look in shorts. My husband doesn't mind either! But when it comes to my child and how he looks at me, the world just fades around us :) Praying for you and that the looks stop! You're a MOMMA! That's B-E-A-U-tiful!

Liza - posted on 08/08/2010

don't mind them,, in this years we are already in technology time, no one can stop that. tattoo's and piercing are common this days.. we called it "art", and it depends on how you carry your self,, if you have those arts in your body and yet you act decent, then who cares... i have 3 ear piercing in my left ear and 2 in my right(i have it since i was in high school) i put tiny earrings in my piercings and i love it... it doesnt change me as a mom with those ear piercing i have... i still do my best to be a good mom with my two kids... and i still want to have a small spider tattoo in my foot if i have time(thinking the pain while doing it...ouch!,lol).... be a mom to your kid, dont mind them,that's your life, you love it... they cant do anything.

Sarah - posted on 08/08/2010

people don't realize how they hurt each other until they are the one getting hurt. The problem with a lot of them, is EGO. They think they are better than everyone else. Your tats or piercings don't sound bad at all to me. I have seen a lot worse! You just hold your head high...because not only do you have tasteful tats and a few piercings, but you have a wonderful 3 yr old. Don't let snobby people who have nothing better to do get you down. You can always do like my husband does when someone stares at him, give them a reason...stick your tongue out at them...lol

Jamie - posted on 08/08/2010

Tell them to take a picture next time, don't let them bother you. I have tats as well and I've seen people look at me funny. Its just their jealousy because none of them had the guts to get pierced or tattooed and they probably really want to.

Rowena - posted on 08/08/2010

sadly people are judged by how they look and not by the person they are, i have gotten a few of those looks myself. It is there issues you don't have anything to worry about just hold your head high when you see them giving you that look it's what i do.

Adrianna - posted on 08/08/2010

I don't understand that either. I have 4 tattoo's also. My nose is pierce and my tongue and my ears are pierced with a bar going through it. I don't get any looks from anyone. If they don't like and I see them I will comment to them about it and they smile and look the other direction. I guess women these days expect us to look professional and not how we feel comfortable with ourselves. Its not like I have done any of these things to my 2 year old daughter. I don't wear anything for them to think that it's wrong. I look at it if they don't like it then to bad. Don't feel bad girl I have the same thing.

Jill - posted on 08/08/2010

I get the same looks. My husband has a mowhawk and tattoos everywhere and I have 11 piercings in my ears and my lip done. I ignore them or stare back. If someone is rude or hostile towards me I give them the exact same treatment. Thankfully I'll be able to give my son a better upbringing than they got.