RSVP?

Schyla - posted on 11/16/2010

So I get irritated by this as well so here is what I've done to keep it from bothering me I make every event a pot luck! I will just send out invites and say it's pot luck and if you can't come we understand. 1 it takes away the stress of rather I have enough to eat for everyone or not 2 no RSVP required for an open house event and 3 less stress for you! You know people have no manners now a days and although it's not wrong to expect them you shouldn't work yourself up over something you can't control. I wouldn't go chasing people down as that just seems like more stress and if no one shows up that's their loss make it an event anyway!

Ashley - posted on 11/15/2010

thnx Tiffany im sure it will go great--its just frustrating that people r so rude! Ive since called like everyone since the party is only like 6 days away now & just about everyone is coming & their responses where i just thought u knew we would come!?! now how would i know that--apparently im a mind reader now--lol...GRRR--out of 28 invitations 8 people called & RSVP'd--SERIOUSLY!!!!

Carmine - posted on 11/15/2010

don't worry I had the same issue. If they weren't replying at all it was alot of "I don't knows". My aunt was bad for that (except the baby shower). She at least mailed my daughter's present and said if they show up they do, if not they don't but her gift was there. It would just be nice if they'd learn to plan ahead as the rest of us do!

Tiffany - posted on 11/15/2010

It is one of the most frustrating things! For my daughters 1st birthday, we didn't do invites. We sent out a FB event and had people reply there and almost everyone who rsvp'd they were coming, came. I wouldn't go overboard with food, maybe call everyone yourself or enlist family to call some. It is annoying, but most won't rsvp and I don't get it either lol. Hope the party goes well!

Bonnie - posted on 11/14/2010

So true Emma, and then those people get pissed when it happens to them. I'm sorry, but you don't get the priveledge when you can't get something that is just common courtesy right.

Angela - posted on 11/14/2010

It's a constant problem with people, so we ask now that people RSVP "regrets only." Then we have a better idea of who is coming to stuff since we'll only end up with a phone call or two from the few people who aren't able to make it to an event :)

Stifler's - posted on 11/14/2010

I thought it was only me Bonnie haha people in general must just not get that you're organising your wedding and you have to know who is and isn't going to be there for sure. My husband's cousins girlfriend RSVPd and then a week before we hear from all these people that she isn't coming or some shit. I'm like... it's a sitdown dinner you can't just not come if you've RSVPd I don't care what your situation is.

Karla - posted on 11/13/2010

Yep I have this problem and it absolutely irritates me. Where is the courtesy? It really doesn't take long to rsvp whether you can or can't make an event. It does make it very difficult when you have to cater with food or book a resturant and need to know numbers. I have got to the stage now where in any invite I send, I put date and time, but state that when they rsvp I will give them details of the location - because then if they don't rsvp then I know they won't be coming! Or on the other side I also hate when people rsvp to say they are coming, but then don't show up! That can be just as irritating.
If there isn't enough food at your daughters birthday, then bad luck - so long as the kids can eat, parents will just have to go without. I find it extremely rude that so many people don't rsvp these days.

Bonnie - posted on 11/13/2010

For my wedding, we constantly had to remind people to RSVP because we weren't getting responses. A week before the wedding we were still chasing after people. A day before the wedding people said they were going to be there and then 25 people didn't show up. I don't know how, but it turned out that one entire table did not show up and at least 5 people at that table didn't even know the others.

Ashley - posted on 11/13/2010

OOOH Melissa that is my biggest pet peev...when people say they r going to b there & then don't come--GRRR!!!

Ashley - posted on 11/13/2010

u know what they say about assuming...LOL--thnx guys just needed to get that off my chest--:)

Keshia - posted on 11/13/2010

I know what you mean we did this for our baby shower my sons first bday and our wedding and I swear only like 5 people sent a rsvp I was so mad I wa slike im never doing this again if theres not enough food or something then its their fault they go without

Bridget - posted on 11/13/2010

This is EXACTLY what happened to me for my daughters 1st birthday. We only invited family, but NO ONE RSVP'd and most people were from out of state. We had to call around and ask if people were coming, and people started saying Yes and Im bringing this person, or this family. The list grew to much larger than we expected, so we bought food accordingly. The day came and less than half of the people showed up. Its so frustrating!

Iysha - posted on 11/13/2010

For my daughter's birthday, I invited everyone. Only a handfull of people showed up and we bought a lot of food. I'm glad it was bbq style because the food didnt go bad. lol. Nobody RSVP....some called to say they werent going to make it...only my mom said that she'd go but that my dad wasnt going to be able to make it...I would suggest to have enough food so that everyone gets one serving...ppl are bound to not show up and some will bring a friend or kid's friends. You may even have leftovers...we had enough leftovers to give a good amount to the people who did come and still have a lot left over for us =]

A good suggestion, call them and ask if they will be able to make it...that you are just trying to figure out how much food to make/buy and are trying to get a head count.

Sarah - posted on 11/13/2010

nup you're not alone for my 21st nobody RSVP'd and i was so ticked off so i cancelled the event (Told family that i knew were coming) and had dinner with mum only to have people rock up at her place (where it was going to be held) I told them all to buzz off and next time to call if theyre coming

Sarh - posted on 11/12/2010

For my son's baby shower barely no one had RSVP! It made me so mad for the same reasons, needed to know how many people, how much food, and some other things. I needed to know if I could do it at my house or rent a hall. It is very irritating, I asked my mom if I could have a list of people who did RSVP and only allow those people in my house. She said no though. lol. If there is not enough food to bad.

Danielle - posted on 11/12/2010

Heck no you aren't alone! I put RSVP's on my son's first bday...and his baby shower (when he wasn't here yet lol)...and both times people didn't respond and then showed up (which was fine except that I didn't have enough food/too little food). Even if I discover that day that I can't go (ex: my son gets sick) I ALWAYS RSVP lol.

Brianna - posted on 11/12/2010

for my wedding half the people didnt rsvp and so i had to call them thats like 100 people! lol

Melissa - posted on 11/12/2010

My daughters second birthday is tomorrow and I still don't know who is gonna be an A-hole and just show up! On top of that, no one is offering to help out or bring anything food wise. I gave up. The food is for the kids, if they want something they can go get it! lol Why don't ppl RSVP?!?!? Or they RSVP and don't show up. I thought it was just me and maybe all my friends and family hates me! Thanks for venting, I had to as well ;)

Nichole - posted on 11/12/2010

I completely understand. The same thing happened for my son's first bday party. I even did an event on Facebook in addition to mail invitations, and in both I put RSVP. Only a few people RSVPed to my party. I changed the location last minute due to weather... Those that didn't RSVP were ticked cuz they didn't get told the new location cuz they didn't RSVP, until they called cuz they couldn't find us.

Stifler's - posted on 11/12/2010

It's okay, I put a phone number on our wedding invites and people still texted me the rsvp or facebooked me or didn't RSVP and when i called to confirm whether they were not coming they were like "i thought you would just assume we were coming"

Chrystal - posted on 11/12/2010

I completely understand where you are coming from! There is a reason for RSVP. Even if you can't make it atleast have the common courtesy to say no I'm sorry I can't make it. I completely get you on that one. You are not alone.