Rude,judgemental moms?

*Fluffy Bunnies - posted on 04/12/2010

I'm going to lock this thread now. I feel that it has gone off topic and is counterproductive to our community. While I understand your frustration we want to try our best to keep this a positive and encouraging place. Again if you see something that violates our guidelines please flag it. If you see something you don't agree with you just have to ignore it.

Ashley - posted on 04/12/2010

I feel you`re issue.. not necessarily because I personally have been attacked but because I do read and think about the other mothers like yourself for instance on the topic of breastfeeding. I have been lucky enough to be able to breastfeed, however I have many friends that haven`t and the bottom line is.. you are nourishing your child one way or another and therefore are a wonderful parent :) And as for the infant cereal in a bottle thing.. in my oppinion (and this is only in my opinion by observation) that it is not reccomended for BREASTFED babies before 6 months simply because it messes with mom`s milk supply and breastmilk is more easily digested than formula so breast fed babies are expected to nurse more frequently when they need additional nutrients and calories, so mom will produce more. Babies who already are eating formula have systems that are used to digesting it and if it is not enough then I don`t believe there is anything wrong with supplimenting further, with cereal.
As for Judgemental(rude) mommies , I think it is based around insecurities we all feel as mothers and they are simply trying to find some confidence in thier own parenting by shooting down other methods.. What I think is that we have to stick together and know that every baby is different and so MANY methods of parenting will work for different parents and children...I do believe in spanking WHEN the child needs a spanking.. if time outs work for one child GREAT! but they may not work for every child.. THATS FINE! The great thing is knowing as a parent what YOUR child needs for discipline and doing whatever that is :)
We should however respect other mothers and be sensitive to different views and parenting styles and we could be alot less contoversial in our oppinions if we simple added the prefix ``In my opinion`` or ``I Believe`` to our statements because we have to stick together MOMMAS!!!!!

Sherre - posted on 04/12/2010

Who cares how a parent disciplines? As long as your not hurting me or my family or seriously injuring your child(ren), do as you please! Rude and ignorant comments are not wanted so if you feel like offending someone, look in the mirror....just a thought. And honestly, like the breastfeeding issue...it is proven to be extremely effective in keeping baby healthy and smart. Studies have shown! Scientists have proven it. It's the same thing with smoking while pregnant. People say,"well what's the real harm? I was a big baby...I don't have breathing problems"...etc Good for you. Your child may not either, but not everyone is lucky. And please don't mistake my FACTS for an opinion. I'm not being rude but it aggravates me when people go through all these lengths to bring up extreme issues or to research information on things they should already know the answer to. So you spank, good...don't breastfeed...great, and you smoked your whole pregnancy and your child is 15yrs old and healthy, even better. Point is you can't judge what others do, but there is freedom of speech and mothers always think they know it all. If you want the advice, take it, if not, move on to the next topic...

Alecia - posted on 04/12/2010

I was spanked when i was little and i grew up to be a fine human being. i dont abuse people and i love my parents very much and think they did a great job with me. I see kids now-a-days and they are AWFUL!!!! maybe some spanking would do the world some good. and other mothers are VERY opinionated. even strangers tell me how i should do things. i know my child and u know urs best. try to not let them get to u

Jess - posted on 04/12/2010

So I decided to check in the dictionary to check the difference between Hitting, smacking, spanking and everything in between. And in short they all mean the same thing. HITTING !!! TO hit, to strike to slap. Its all the same. So lets quit this word game, call it what it is !!! Your hitting your kids, plain and simple. If you think its ok, stop trying to justify it and just own your actions !

Jess - posted on 04/12/2010

Another debate about spanking !!!



You choose to punish your child and I choose to guide mine. Doesn't make me wrong, whether I agree with your actions or not, you will eventually have to be held accountable for them. Our kids will grow up and our parenting style will be tested and each and every one of us will have that day where we decide if we did a good job or not.



Im raising my daughter to know her body is irreplacable and that its NEVER ok for ANYONE to hurt her, ever ! Her actions have consequences but never a physical one, no one else on this planet can take a hand to her so why should I ?

Ashley=) - posted on 04/12/2010

Coming from a mother who spent 11yrs of my life in care, i can tell you it doesn't take a genius to understand whats abuse..whats going to harm a child and whats not.



I believe alot of how parents raise there little ones is not going to harm them.Yes it might be different to what you do or i but thats life.Theres a clear line from different parenting to child abuse.



Be respectful of whats different parenting because most of the time there very loving caring parents doing the best the can like you and me so support not judge.





I think in the sense of saying your a bad mother and in dangering your child by putting cereal in there bottle,spanking etc is rude you might not agree with it as i dont but its not your place nor mine to say.Who are any of us to say another mother is a bad parent or in dangering there child.

once thats said its crossed the line in my opinion and its rude and uncalled her.



Just remember none of us are perfect mothers.:-)just mothers doing the best we can for the children we created.Good luck Moms.

Angela - posted on 04/12/2010

I don't agree with pushing your opinion on someone, but if you ask me what I think I will tell you. However, unsolicited advice is never welcome in my world. And as far as discipline goes as long as you are doing something that is what counts. I know my daughter and when she needs a spanking and when she just needs someone to hug her until she can calm herself down. As moms we have to make tough calls every day and none of us ever wants to believe that our method is not correct. I do think that there are wrong ways to raise a child and as I said before, if you ask me I'll tell you. But when someone just gives their 2 cents I have a generally do one of two things: become offended and tell them to keep it to themselves or I just simply ignore them.

Kimbeley - posted on 04/11/2010

Okay, thanks for clarifying that. And thanks Christina for your 'judgement' that the moms who think spanking is wrong are the moms with the bad kids - hahahaha, so funny that you've come on a thread about judgemental mums and you make that judgement!!! Does anyone else see the irony in that?
I still disagree with 'physical discipline' such as spanking, hitting, smacking, etc., etc. As I say to my 18 month old son, "we love our babies, we don't hurt out babies". As I said earlier, maybe I have just been lucky so far with my son in that he hasn't done anything that has warranted that sort of 'discipline'.
Really, if you don't want to hear other peoples opinions, then don't read the opinion threads. It's like going to a debate because your interested in the topic but only wanting to hear one side of the argument. I'm all for debating and, yes, I will stand up for the things I strongly believe in. I would never say somebody else is a bad mother for doing something else... but I will state my opinion on the topic.

Christina - posted on 04/11/2010

Totally agree with you on the spanking but, i do believe there is a fine line between discipline and abuse. A little swat on the butt is harm less. maybe if more parents would disciplined their kids there wouldn't be so mine bad little kid that know all they have to do is cry or make a scene and they get their way. The mom's that think that you are wrong for spanking you kid are most likely the mom's with the bad kids.

Kryss - posted on 04/11/2010

Tina~ i read all kinds of books not just on Dr James Dobson, and no i am not offended he was just the first to pop into my head at the time. We all do think and raise our kids different, that was my real point i just wish alot of the pushy moms would realize that we have our own kids and we raise them at our best they arent another moms kids...so their best may not be best for my child or yours...i agree with all thats been said here and i agree when asking you will get tons of opinionsi was more aggrivated at the fact that moms attacking other moms.

Hilary - posted on 04/11/2010

In my opinion I think ppl should butt out on other ppl's lives and let them raise their kids how they want. I definitely think that some ppl I know do a terrible job at raising their kids but when it comes down to it.. it's not me! I'm just going to do what I feel is right for my kid and unless I ask for advice I don't wanna hear it! lol

Heather - posted on 04/11/2010

I hate the fact that there are so many moms out there that are judgemental and yes I have spanked my kid but only when she bit if she threw a tantrum she either went in time out or got a spank on the butt. I would never spank her out of anger or frustration. And I know that it is hard out there with all these moms that think they are better than you. I'm glad you have brought all this up because it is a very controversial subject. Number one remember you are a good mom regardless of what other people say.

Anna - posted on 04/11/2010

It's a hazard of asking for/inviting the opinions of other people; you get all kinds. Granted, common courtesy should be common sense. I have this thing called "courtesy rage", kinda like road rage. It drives me nuts when someone is judgmental and dismissive right off the bat and refuses to consider the viewpoints and experiences of others. I may completely disagree with everything you're saying, and I will not hesitate to tell you so, but I will never belittle you or make you feel inferior for your viewpoints. It defeats the purpose of having an open forum dedicated to sharing and discussing different information if you go around polarizing and excluding people.

Trina - posted on 04/11/2010

I don't really like James Dobson at all, not to offend to you. I don't like his adversarial mindset. He seems to set up parents and children for a lot of dysfunction. That kind of makes me sad. We model behavior tons here. I act the way I want my kids too. That means I model patience, love, kindness and forgiveness. Like I said though, I might interpret God and the Bible differently (which isn't wrong, don't we all do that?).

Kryss - posted on 04/11/2010

Kimbeley~ I thought of doing a discussion on this but seems that alot of moms are attacking other moms..but to me in my parenting spanking was on the rear ..to me hitting comes out of anger. spanking is a corrective measure done when not angry and with a chat after wards about what happened and why and with reassurance of your love.
To me someparents hit bc its already out of control and the child has been let go too far and another thing...i would like to point out if you are having to SCREAM at your child you then have lost control...DR james Dobson teaches abt this...discipline has to be in the right character, but spanking to me is on the rear hitting to me would be in the character you use..if you are angry, you should never spank your child,calm down then give out the discipline...its abt control when you as aparent loses that....then you have to recontruct...i have never had to scream at my child nor hit him, i have disciplined him in spanking and later talks were enough..i am in no way perfect but, every child is different wht ever method you use just remember kids are part of your heart or should be..ones that you have to teach and bring up and wht they do will reflect back on you...your character is at cost so doing your best is expected...If you think you are hitting and not spanking take parenting classes..:)

Trina - posted on 04/11/2010

I want to know where you draw the line too. It confuses me. I don't get it, sorry everyone.

Kimbeley - posted on 04/11/2010

By the way, can you define the difference between spanking and hitting for me? (Honest question, I'm not being sarcastic or anything). I have asked this question so many times in so many different threads and communities etc, and noone has answered it yet! I'd be really interested to know where this 'line' is between the two.

Trina - posted on 04/11/2010

The thing is , even if we don't all agree with information that it is given it is still always up to each parent to research. If someone ask for an opinion, or ideas, would be better not to give them a truthful one even if it might challenge their thoughts and ideas? Sometimes I think we all can get a little defensive and not really "hear" others. If we could take the time to step back some, and just realize that most advice is not coming from a bad place it would help. Positive intent goes a long way. Also, I do believe in God but I don't really believe in a God of punishment and wrath. Instead he gave us grace and sent us a savior. I believe in peaceful parenting, even when it is so hard (just to address that part of what you wrote). None of us are above mistakes as parents, but if we take the time to learn and listen then maybe we can all learn to parent from the heart. It stinks that you felt judged, and it stinks when people are rude. A difference of opinion does not always equate rudeness though.

Kimbeley - posted on 04/11/2010

Ditto Sara. There are always going to be the controversial topics (breastfeeding vs not breastfeeding, sleeping methods, when to start solids, smacking vs non smacking). If you post a question on these, you will probably end up with a range of opinions, ideas, and so on. Honestly, if you feel that the thread is getting too heated, I think the best thing you can do is lock it. I also think that sometimes people may not give enough information on the original questions, which can lead to people jumping to conclusions.

Oh, and i was the one who referred to it as hitting... I wasn't being judgemental, I was calling it the word that I use for when one person hits another person.

*Fluffy Bunnies - posted on 04/11/2010

When you post a question to such a diverse group you should expect to get all kinds of answers. Use the ones you like and ignore the ones you don't. One thing to remember is Circle of Moms is international. You will get tons of different info and viewpoints. It's also very hard to convey tone while typing. Take all of the advice with a grain of salt and if something that's said violates our guidelines then flag it. That's what the admin and mods are here for :).

Sarah - posted on 04/11/2010

I am judged reguarly on the yahoo site to the point where i no longer use it because i use control crying as a method to get my daughter to stop witht he night feeds that she no longer needs! U would think im never going in or leaving her all day from the sounds of these idiots who dont read what uv written properly! Theres plenty of things that i dont/wont do with my child but thats my choice and ultimately its ur choice what u do, its awful to think these sites are supposed to encourage mums and support each other yet ppl are scared to write things in the worry that these small sited bullies will make them feel like a bad mother! Im proud of how iv coped with my little girl and think despite the fact im in my 20s and married with lots of support its still a hard job to be a 24hr mummy and feel good at how my girl is developing and although id like her to sleep a little better shes perfect in every way and wouldnt do it any differently! My parenting techniques work for me and urs work for u, these women who bash u wont be there when ur childs tantrumming and kicking off to do these other tactics for u, if thats the way it works for u hun then do it!!!
I think ur fab and glad someone finally said something xx xx xx
ps. i also think that these mums who know everything are full of it and probably dont tell you half the troubles they actually have, that we all have but some women are just too proud to admit it, i cant always cope but u muddle through as best u know how! xx

Anisa - posted on 04/11/2010

The good news is that God does not see the bad things we do, he sees only the purpose of why we do things we do... Don't worry so much, just remember that you do what is best for your son. There is no perfect mom in the world, and there will never be an end to discipline your child in any way. You are there for him, and while he grows older, he will realize all you've done for him. Don't ever stop talkin to your child, because in a moment he is not home, and you are not around, he will think "i remember when mom told about this", he will make the right choice... : ) good luck sweety, you are a good mom.

Kristen - posted on 04/11/2010

Stop worrying so much about what other people say. They aren't part of your life outside of the internet anyway and besides I'm sure your a great mom and the best mom for your kids.

Christin - posted on 04/11/2010

most people feel breastfeeding is the route to go mainly bc in other countries its a big deal and is preffered. but in america its split, its not as huge as other countries. i have been told by alot of people not only on here thata merica is stupid and does stupid things. my babys not breastfed and shes very small for her age. shes not fat. im not fat nor was i a fat kid and i wasnt breastfed. alot of people they call fat might have a medical problem. they dont see that. so calling someone fat in itself is rude enough but you dont know why they are that way. some people yes it is their fault as they gorge on fast food, but seriously theres fast food joints all over the world not just in america. I have seen fat kids on maury and those are the ones whose parents let them gorge on junk and dont stop them. child obesity is usually the parents fault as they dont say no.

Brandi - posted on 04/10/2010

I believe that ALL moms think their parenting style or method is the RIGHT method, that's why we have chosen them to be OUR method. I also think that MOST moms have placed an ENORMOUS amount of pressure on themselves to do the RIGHT thing and to raise the PERFECT child (which we all know doesn't exist). I also believe moms are EXTREMELY PASSIONATE about their jobs as mothers. This leads to comments that while meant to be helpful, may read as judgmental or mean or rude. I also think that mothers carry an enormous amount of fear. Fear that their way may really NOT be the best way, or that even if we do EVERYTHING right, our kids might still grow up with horrible problems. Or the fear that What if all the things we think we know are wrong?? I know my biggest fear is that my kids will ultimately pay the price for ANY mistake I make, God help me, I hope I can avoid the big ones, cuz I know we all make them. Parenting is TOUGH job with HIGH stakes. Do any of us REALLY know if we are doing the "right" thing??? All we can do is the best we can and all we can hope is that our best was good enough. I know I have HIGH hopes for my kids. Those hopes include that they be upstanding members of society, they are happy and healthy, they are compassionate and kind, and that they are generally good and fair people.

Hilary - posted on 04/10/2010

YES! We are here for support and advice, not criticism!! There is a way to voice your opinion without being rude. Melissa- you are right, it makes me think before I post because I don't want the strong opinions!

Melissa - posted on 04/10/2010

I didn't mean in this group she's from the Circle of Mom's group.

Melissa - posted on 04/10/2010

I completely agree. There's one lady on here especially that is so rude I'm surprised her sour attitude and rude comments haven't had her kicked off of this site. It's sad that when you go to ask for help mom's start bashing you. This is supposed to be a support group, or so I thought it was. It's nice to hear others opinions but when they start going overboard it's almost not worth it to post a question.

Jessi - posted on 04/10/2010

personally i would like to know who said the thing about americans being fat b/c of the whole feeding thing. my brothers, son, & i were all fed cereal around 2wks...we were also formula babies. i pupmed for the 1st month but due to stress i ended up running dry. none of us are even close to being overweight. what makes children fat is their parents allowing them to sit infront of the tv all day eating the same amount of food that an active child would.

Sarah - posted on 04/10/2010

You'll find people everywhere who think that their way is the right and only way. Everyone has an opinion. But, it's the narrow-minded, judgmental people who refuse to accept that other people may do things differently than them that get on my nerves the most. These type of people can NOT be reasoned with. When they get an idea stuck in their head...forget it. They are right & you are wrong. No questions asked.

I can't help but find myself laughing hysterically when I read some moms' posts about how they are raising their child (hey, I'm only human!) But, I accept that they can raise THEIR child how they want to, and I can raise MY child the way I want to. I would never post something demeaning or derogatory towards another mother just because she chooses a certain way to discipline or raise her child. The only time I find myself getting involved in a heated argument is when I feel like I need to defend myself. We all feel the need to defend ourselves when our beliefs or opinions get stepped on by another person. It's only natural. There's been SOO many times when I've wanted to go off on another mom & tell her to shut her narrow-minded, judgmental, know-it-all mouth, but I TRY to practice self control. :)

Christin - posted on 04/10/2010

its ok to have a different oppinion bc i have seen some that were wrong and that do endanger their kids. its ok to feel strong about an oppinion but not be so rude about it. with boasting about kids, it happens. i think every parent does it but i think when it gets to the extremes of actually saying my childs better then its wrong. you can have a different oppinion without being rude about it and start bullying about it. no ones going to have the same oppinion. its all on how you bring it across.

Sam - posted on 04/10/2010

I try never to post when I feel overly strong about an issue. This site is to help each other. Now of course I don't understand or agree with so many things that I have read but as said above perhaps I don't have all the information or a mother isn't being clear, but whatever the reason there is no need to be derogatory, just pass to the next conversation and let it go! The people being rude out there are not helping someones children, or even helping a troubled mom. Haha when we see a nasty post we should type "Excuse me but your not helping, maybe go find another fluffy cloud to hide in'. Bahaha sorry I like to laugh at my own jokes! Cheers girls we rock.

Jennifer - posted on 04/10/2010

You said it! Everywhere I go I have women telling me how I should raise my kid! I come on here and there's a lot of really good advice. But at the same time, some people don't know how to put forth their opinions without being derogatory towards others that don't think like them. I have no problem with the way anyone wants to raise their kids, except of course if there is clear ABUSE. I witnessed this girl (and I say girl because she was 17) smack her son extremely hard on the butt and then pick him up and throw him in his stroller. The stroller tipped backwards because of the way she tossed him in and the poor little guy got his head smashed off the floor! That is abuse! Thankfully she doesn't have full custody of her son and she only gets visits with him. But if that's what he endures during visits, I feel very sad. And the worse thing is that she was 8 months pregnant at the time. Later I learned that her baby was stillborn. As sad as that can be, I secretly say Thank God. I don't tell anyone how to raise their kids but it's good that there are authorities to step in and help kids that are actually being abused. But when I give my son a tap on the butt and someone got something to say about it, I just wanna give them the finger! If it didn't hurt my hand then it didn't hurt my kid! I know I kinda went off topic but that's what came to my mind......

Ashley=) - posted on 04/10/2010

There's mommies who see there way as the only way and there's moms who see there way and respect the ways of other parents too.





Also some parents feel the need for spanking not all but we bring up our children as we see fit and don't listen to others saying your wrong you only have your child to answer to when there older lol.

Jessi - posted on 04/10/2010

we had a "quote" when i was in the army...BAM!

Nikki - posted on 04/10/2010

I really believe it is human nature for mothers to boast about their own children achievements and developments, I don't think I know one mother that doesn't think their child is the best at this or the prettiest or the smartest. As parents we are proud of our children's achievements and who doesn't love to share something exciting about their child. I really don't believe anyone does it to make others feel bad, and children develop at different paces, no two will be exactly the same, so it shouldn't make you feel inferior. As long as your children are happy and you feel you are a good mum; that's all that really matters, don't let anyone's opinion make you feel bad, the best part about this site is you can delete your post and never look at it again. Have faith in your own abilities, don't let people get you down, there are always going to be rude and judgemental people in the world and here is no different I suppose, you just have to rise above all of that stuff, it'snot worth worrying yourself about.

Hanna - posted on 04/10/2010

I completely aggree it is up to the parents how they bring up their kids no one else and no one should be told off for what they are doing. My mum and dad used to spank me and my sister when we were little and up to no good and it has not done us any harm and I will do the same to my twins if they are naughty. There is always the thing that some parents know best when it comes to bringing up children and will preach and condem others if they don't conform to what they say. Each child is different I have identical twins and they might look the same but they are totaly different characters so they need to handle things at different times. Oh and another thing (sorry to rant) it's not just the judgemental mums it's also the my child is better than yours mum. When you are a first time mum and you have people boasting about the fact that their child has been walking since they were 7 months old and can read war and peace at the age of 7 it makes you feel like you are doing something wrong. I reponded to a thread about child development and it was like a competion of which child is better. I think we all just need to chill out and not worry so much what others think at the end of the day you know what is right for your child.

Shannen - posted on 04/09/2010

I to am sick and tired of these mothers who tell other mummy's that they are bad parents for the way they raise their kids.

My husband was physically abused as a child, and he is the most patient father i know. i am so sick and tired of saying if you smack a child they will become abusive. If thats the case then what happened to my husband? I smack my children i also do time outs and all those sorts of punishments and all i know is that with my children i have to change it up all the time cause they will get used to one thing and become ok with it.

I have also been told off numerous times by some of the mothers on here for the way i parent. And i am so sick of it. Like you said an opinion is one thing but telling some one they are wrong is another!

Melly - posted on 04/09/2010

So glad im not the only one who has noticed this. Sometimes im too scared to put my opinion out there. Because im afraid i would get jumped all over because it seems that by a vast number of people that i'm a bad mum. I couldn't breastfeed, im not religious, i'm not married to my partner, my partner has every right to input in to HIS childs name even though yes i carried my son for 9 months it is HIS child too, my son isnt circumsized, i give him a tablespoon of boiled water because when he empties himself out which is about 30 mins after a feed he doesnt need milk, but wont settle as he wants something in his tummy again (and i have done so since he came home from hospital), and now apparently my son shouldnt be sleeping through the night until he's at least 4 months old because he still needs night time feeds until then (he has been sleeping through from 8pm to 8am since he was 6 weeks old). Not from my doing he did this all on his own. Is my son sick, unhealthy, not happy? No! So I must be doing everything right by my son, and that is all that i care about, my son, who i know better than anyone else, and know what is best for him. I dont know anyone elses child so im not about to sit and judge or harass them on what they do or dont do for their child, but when they do ask for opinions or advice, i'm more than happy to chip in with advice and i wont ram it down their throat, i wont judge them, and if another person also gives advice different from mine im not going to jump all over them and tell them they are wrong, and I would expect the same should i come here wanting advice and opinions.

Christin - posted on 04/09/2010

i agree, theres a line between abuse and spanking. i get people who bash me saying its wrong to hit a kid and they grow up to be abusive. those are the ones who are from abusive families. when you abuse a kid yes that creates problems. not spanking. it irks me that people say your wrong for spanking. i got popped for back talking and never did it again. i didnt grow up to be abusive. my husband got some good beatings and hes not abusive. and with breastfeeding, i get alot of shocked people when they hear we bottle fed. they push breast feeding on you because its cheaper and they feel it makes the kid smarter and healthier which isnt true. my childs not breast fed and shes healthy,happy and more advanced. alot of countries believe in breast feeding where as americas is half and half. so people from other countries down us for bottle feeding.

Nikki - posted on 04/09/2010

I think a lot of mums are just very passionate about their beliefs, and maybe get carried away. I don't have a problem with anyone trying to inform me of their choices or even pushing their beliefs because ultimately it is my choice if I want to use that information. I don't however agree with people bashing each other for their beliefs, each to their own.

Rachel - posted on 04/09/2010

THANK YOU!!! Somebody needed to say this and I am so glad you did. I have been so irritated the past few days about some of the things that have been said that made it out like because I didn't make decisions in my life that others made, I was wrong. We all have the right to raise our kids in a way that we feel fits their best interests and should not be put down because of what we believe. Sharing different opinions is one thing but Bashing each other is another, after all, who are we to judge anyway, NOBODY is Perfect! Again, THANK YOU!!

Christina - posted on 04/09/2010

I am in total agreeance with you! On ALL points!! And thank you SO MUCH for pointing out that God does not just say "oh it's okay, just don't do it again". Because when you sin against Him, He let's you have it! I am not sure why the mommies are being so rude and pushy, but it sure is getting tiring. Personally I believe that they need the Lord in their life and we (Christians) should pray extra hard for them, as well as ALL of the mommies out there. Even Pastors need brothers and sisters in Christ to pray for them. We are ALL sinners and like you said we all have flaws. To all of those who have been pushy or rude, we need to encourage each other, not put each other down!!!!!!!

Jessica - posted on 04/09/2010

I think its because being a mother is SUCH an important role for us. We all love our children to death, would do anything for them, and so as an extension we tend to take issues related to parenting very seriously. I know for me, I am much more opinionated about mother/baby-related issues than any other topic- i.e. breastfeeding, discipline, etc. Because I love my son and things related to him are so important to me, that I want others to hear my views.

I think you're right though- its so important to remember that we can't actually judge other moms without knowing them, just because their opinions differ from ours. And that we are all moms trying to do the best for our children. ITs so easy to get into silly arguments over topics on the internet, but in real life I know moms who didn't breastfeed, who let their babies CIO and who even spank, and I don't think they are bad moms overall just because they do things differently than me. Websites like these are GREAT resources for info and support but they can get nasty too, unfortunately.

Stevie - posted on 04/09/2010

amen kryss i totally agree i am so tired of also hearing all these other moms talk crap on other parents cuz of their parenting styles or just for anything it doesn even always have to be about their kids and your right that is wrong for them to do that when moms are coming on here to ask for some help not getting told that they are a bad mom or parent because of this or they want so advise on something that might not actually have to do with their kids and idk this idk i just cant seem to express myself enough to certain ppl what is going on and what is wrong and so much more nothing seems to be really working it is just wrong for other moms to just sit there and think they are all high and mighty when like also no one is unless their name is god and well i think there is only one person with that name i also couldnt breastfeed my son i wasnt allowed to do that with my daughter as you know that reason lol i plan on trying to pump for this one i spank my son talking does nothing to him but how would it when he is only 17 months right my son is healthy as can be so is my daughter am i a bad mom becuase when i was pregnant with my daughter and i was sick and didnt know i was pregnant i took nyquil am i bad because when i haadnt offically known about this one but had a feeling i took some cold medication also hmmm idk but my children are healthy my little girl for heavens sake is almost 3 now and this one i had a heartbeat at the first app and i have another week until my next and i think i felt one of the first kicks not to long ago no i dont think im a bad mom for any of the things ive done moms these days just need to learn to grow up and say what other moms do is what works for them and their child(ren)

Erica - posted on 04/09/2010

RIGHT ON!!!! I am so with you to what you said about people bashing you I have one I had an older woman stop me and ask how old my daughter was when I told her 8 months she told me I may want to consider putting her on a DIET!