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SAHM's- feel bad for hubby?

Rheannon - posted on 05/18/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I have a daily battle with myself everyday: go back to work or stay at home?

I went back to work when Alyanna was 6 wks old. I worked at a daycare & she was able to go to work with me. My daughter has had some medical issues since she was born. Nothing too serious but very scary as a first time mom. From the time she was 7 wks old until she was 5 1/2 months she had an ear infection which resulted in tubes. Along with the ear infections she always had a cough & runny nose. When Alyanna was a little over 6 months, my husband and I decided that I would stay at home with her. He had an amazing job that allowed that at the time. Then he was laid off shortly after & ever since then we have been battling to pay bills. My daughter has still been sick alot & she is tiny & underweight for her age(now 14 months). We want another child & I want to be able to stay at home. However, I also want to be able to help my husband so not all the stress is on him. I just can't see putting my daughter in daycare again. I have seen how some kids are & I'm so scared that she will get hurt & begin getting sick 24/7 again & then I'll have to be home with her anyways so it's like whats the point?

Does anyone else feel this way? My hubby says its okay for me to stay home that he doesn't want her in daycare either, but I just can't help but feel bad.

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Amy - posted on 05/18/2010

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I don't think you need to feel bad for your husband at all, especially if he's ok with everything. If he's still out of work, you might be able to help find something that will help pay bills in the meantime.

My family too is a one income family, but I'm the one working. My husband hasn't finished his degree yet so finding a job to cover the cost of daycare isn't easy. When I was laid off about a year ago we both looked for work, that way if I didn't find something right away he could at least bring in a little extra money. It is hard being the working parent, the added stress of what happens if you get laid off, etc. But being a stay at home parent is just as hard. Your daughter is 14 months, so she's most likely starting to get into lots of trouble (if she isn't already). Just make sure he know's that you appreciate what he does for the family, and if you can find a job with opposite hours, that might also be an option.

Katie - posted on 05/18/2010

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I feel the same about having to help out my hubby....I was thinking of working at a little restaraunt that is open 24hrs and taking a night shift so that when he got home we would have an hour or so to visit and catch up on the day and then he could take over the bedtime routine. I havn't gotten lucky with a job yet but I am still looking. You could also try working from home on your computer or going through a corospondence class for a medical billing specialist, I think they work from home. That way you could be with your baby all day and night if you worked from home. I hope everything turns out for the best and you can beable to stay home with your daughter :)

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