Second child okay to have another baby shower?

Shannon - posted on 05/26/2010 ( 102 moms have responded )

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Were having our second child in Oct. Our kids will be 4 1/2 yrs apart. Is it okay to have another baby shower, even if its the same sex? We'll find our the gender in a week or two and I wanted to know what people though about this.

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MONIQUE - posted on 05/31/2010

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ABSOLUTELY!!!! ESPECIALLY TODAY WHEN TIMES ARE VERY HARD! YOU NEED ALL THE SUPPORT YOU CAN GET....

Rebecca - posted on 05/29/2010

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Hey, Im not sure if anyone else has mentioned this but I wanted to have a baby shower too and my sister said you should really only have one for your first, anyways I went to a first birthday party the other week and I was talking to a girl that mentioned that for a second baby it is called a baby sprinkle as you have already been showered with gifts for your first one so the second baby you are only getting sprinkled with smaller gifts and things you need. I thought it was cute so now I am having a baby sprinkle.

Shannon - posted on 05/28/2010

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Proper etiquette dictates it is acceptable to have another shower IF your children are approximately 5 yrs apart OR if you are having the opposite sex of what you already have.

Jenee - posted on 05/27/2010

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I believe that every baby should have a celebration. I would say go for it. If not a shower then maybe a sprinkle. Though I feel if your children are close in age ( less then 3-4 years apart ) and the same sex then there is no need for a shower.

Karen - posted on 05/27/2010

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what my family does for second babies (if the person still has most of the things from first baby and doesn't need much) is have a diaper party - mom to be lets people know what brand of diaper/wipes they use and everyone shows up with diapers of all sizes and wipes...nothing wrong with having a second shower if someone wants to throw one though, good luck and congrats on the upcoming arrival :)

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I didn't have a babyshower for my 2nd baby because my kids are 14 months apart so I thought that it was way too soon to have one and I just had one the year before. I'm not sure if there are any rules on babyshowers but I personally thought that it was too soon.

Ashley - posted on 05/31/2010

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P.S. I read some of your comments... I would like to know what the difference is between a celebration & a baby shower? I mean, I know the difference, but Im sure it is easier to have a shower before that way you know exactly what you need for the baby & makes things alot easier on you. Im sure your friends & family would agree, it wouldnt matter if its before the baby is here or after. Either way, they are still going to get u something.... especially if the baby is the oposite sex it is exciting to shop for someone & let them enjoy opening up a gift for their precious baby 2 b.... its not like this is your 10th child lol anyhoo....good luck :)

Ashley - posted on 05/31/2010

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I say YES u can! I am 31 weeks & we have a 4 1/2 year old boy expecting a girl this time & all I kept was his clothes. Even if noone gives you one, give yourself one because u deserve it! The ppl who doesnt think u should have one dont have to come or buy u anything.... you will be glad you did when it gets closer time to have the baby... You dont get near as much with your 2nd, but every little bit helps!!! Good luck & I say have one!!

Amanda - posted on 05/31/2010

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My second child is a boy and because I had nothing for a boy, my best friend threw my a baby shower. We are currently pregnant with our third child and chose not to find out the sex. So a couple of weeks after the baby is born, I plan on having an "introduction to baby" get together, but not another shower. It should be interesting this time around.

Amanda - posted on 05/31/2010

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I think having the baby shower each time is ok, just others are likely not to appreciate it because they just spent money on a child of yours. That's what i was told anyways. But someone still has to throw the babyshower for you, you don't throw your own....

Jaimi - posted on 05/31/2010

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hello and congrats to you! miss manners said no,unless there is a 10 year gap between your children.I do agree with having a celebration for your baby but not a shower.should we really expect our friends and family to bring gifts everytime we decide to have children,that is not right and its kind of ghetto.

April - posted on 05/31/2010

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I had one with all of my girls and I had 3 they are almost 3 years apart, but its nice to get everyone together before another arrival just one more time even if you dont call it a shower per say...you could also have a welcome baby shower after the baby is born if you would feel more comfortable with that :) Plus every baby could use some new stuff...it shouldnt all be hand me downs :)

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I wouldn't think it would be a big deal. Because it's simply a celebration! I don't see why some people have to make such a big deal about having more than one baby shower! It's your new baby and you and your family have the right to celebrate it!!!

Rebecca - posted on 05/31/2010

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I've been having the same debate, we already have a two year old lil girl and are expecting a boy in Sept. I feel like it would be unfair for us to have another one, but then again I have no boy clothes what so ever and all of the bottles are wore out..and most of em have little pink ballerinas on em. lol So I don't know, maybe the feed back from here will help me too. Thanks!
Becky

Ashley - posted on 05/31/2010

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I'm having a second shower and i'm having another boy but they will be 7 years apart. Some of the things I will be using was my oldest sons, like his crib, play pen, high chair and stroller. I'd say go for it though!

Lisa - posted on 05/31/2010

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My daughter is going to be about 22 months old when my son is born in Aug. My sister is having a baby shower for me but only because Im having a boy so I need all new clothes and stuff. Your kids are going to be almost 5 years apart so anything you have is out dated any how so why not have a shower

Becci - posted on 05/31/2010

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Go for it, why have a baby shower with one baby and not with the other, its still celebratin the fact that you are bringin another life into the world

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who doesnt love shopping for a baby (well woman anyways)! the thing i noticed at mine was how much every else seemed to love it more than me! lol i think u should if someone offers to arrange it, its not just for presents but for ppl to catch up with you before the arrival of the baby and u will be busy and tired etc... congrats and all the best :)

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hey i would other people enjoy it and its a day about you and the new one sometimes people give something to the older child to make them feel special too so as they dont feel left out. there is no harm to it. congrates on your second thou.

Stefanie - posted on 05/30/2010

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I believe that every child should be celebrated. Have the shower regardless of it sex.

Tara - posted on 05/30/2010

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My girls are 17 months apart. I had 4 showers for the first one so I didn't really need anything for the second. I threw a "Diapers and Wipes" party at my house for my second daughter and told the guests they really weren't obligated to bring anything but I wanted my second child to see pictures of the party and feel that she was equally celebrated.

Amanda - posted on 05/30/2010

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I agree. Go for it. Generally, they say (ah, but who is "they" anyway?) it's only appropriate for first time parents, but it is really a personal choice. I'd say if you want to have one, then have one. I just wouldn't expect very extravagant gifts.

Brittany - posted on 05/30/2010

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I would say go for it when we have another one we still plan on having a shower...you should celebrate both babies. Thats how I think of it atleast but in the end it is all up to you ! CONGRATS!!

Christina - posted on 05/30/2010

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I say go for it! Just cuz your first is 4 1/2 years old doesn't mean you can't have another one. I'm sure you probably didn't keep all your first childs' clothes for that long, or toys, and you're gonna need diapers, and I'm sure there are different things out for babies that weren't out four or five years ago. If nothing else, it's a way for your family and friends to celebrate with you before the baby gets here.I'm sure you're gonna want to spend the first few weeks or months of your babys young life bonding with him/her. (you didn't specify) That, for me anyways, wouldn't be the ideal time for people to be dropping by with gifts, even tho I'm sure your older one will enjoy opening them for u!

Amy - posted on 05/30/2010

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No, it's considered rude. But if your family and friends are insistent then I say forget protocol and have fun. Good luck!

Rebecca - posted on 05/30/2010

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Yes, hon, it's ok!!! I am pregnant for the second time and my son is 5 and a half. I don't have ANYTHING left over except for a few special toys that I just couldn't part with. :) Also I am having a girl this time around, too. A baby shower is a celebration of the child, so even if you had all the equipment you needed you should still have a shower!!

Kori - posted on 05/30/2010

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Of course it's okay, tons of people have more than one child and they have baby showers with each one. Sometimes there children are only a year apart, so by all means. If you don't have one everyone is going to ask you when you are so you might as well, every little bit helps!

Candi - posted on 05/30/2010

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I say yes! I believe all of your children are just as special as the first, even if they are all the same gender. I only have one child, but I will definately be having a second baby shower and hopefully even a third.

Amanda - posted on 05/30/2010

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I only had a shower for my first. Didnt have one for my second who was a boy or my third whivh was a girl. All are two years apart.

Lisa - posted on 05/30/2010

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i've got 11 weeks left of my second pregnancy, my oldest is 2 1/2 and my mom thru me another shower. My oldest is a boy and i'm having a girl so i needed more things than if we were having a second boy I wouldn't have had one. I think it's ok to do, plus depends on where you are in life and you most likely have a different group of friends and more people who will be included in your new little ones life. On the invite we did specify a few more things like blankets and girl items i needed but things not like bottles and things like that that I still had from first, just replacing the nipples...

Amanda - posted on 05/30/2010

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I was told that it's kind of asking a lot if you have another one if you have a baby of the same gender. But I think that being so many years apart it should not matter because most people wont hang onto old baby stuff for that long because it will eventually wear.

Tressa - posted on 05/30/2010

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i know people who have had baby showers for their second child and they are as close as the could possible be they got pregnant rite after baby #1

Have one

Jessi - posted on 05/30/2010

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always! when i was planning my shower i noticed online after the 1st baby they are called "sprinkles". but yeah it's ok ecspecially if your 1st was a girl & your 2nd is a boy...pink & floral just doesn't work :)

Traci - posted on 05/30/2010

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Yes. Especially if its a different sex. And even if its the same sex, they're going to be 41/2 years apart. You may need things you've gotten rid of, or that are broken, or worn out. Plus this baby needs its own celebration!

Christina - posted on 05/30/2010

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I believe it is ok. I have a 2 yr old boy, and we found out a few months ago that we are having another boy. We moved out of state and couldnt bring all of our sons things frm when he was a baby, so we decided to have a baby shower. I wouldnt have one if I had everything I needed, but You can always use more stuff that you might not have or need.

Monica - posted on 05/30/2010

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heck ya!! of course!! it's a celebration of you and your new baby!! :D GooD LuCK!!!

Mhairi - posted on 05/30/2010

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boo ya!! Party it up!! My friends offered me one, but I declined due to I have everything. My kids will be 3 1/2 years. BUt heck yeah, why not? Celebrate your second baby for sure!! :)

Julia - posted on 05/30/2010

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If others throw you a shower, sure. Every baby should be celebrated I agree, but I believe there is other ways to do it than another shower. Honestly I wouldn't give a shower for a second baby only 4 years apart but that is me.

Gina - posted on 05/30/2010

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Since others tend to do the baby showers for you.....let them decide. whoever is putting the shpower on for you....let them decide. i say yes if gender is different....

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if they are far enough apart that your stuff is unsafe or out dated or possibly recalled then and if the kids are different genders then I would say go for it. The problem is that when you have them too close together people think about the gift they bought you not too long ago and they probably think you have everything you need from your last baby. If someone wants to throw you a shower then have one but I would only register for things you really need. I know someone who is on her 6th baby and has had a shower for each one. I just went to a shower for her two years ago. and a year before that.. etc. Yours are far enough apart that I am sure that will not be an issue. Just make sure someone else is throwing the shower!

Tasha - posted on 05/29/2010

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I think that someone will probably want to throw you a baby shower. Its okay to let them. Its a way of welcoming that addition to your family, plus its memories to share with your children. But of course my kids are 7 years apart but with a 4 1/2 year old you probably need new things anyway.

Kelly - posted on 05/29/2010

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I don't think that it is fair that you only get one baby shower. One way to get around it (what I am planning on doing and have done for friends/family) is to have a diaper shower. A friend or family member should throw you a very casual diaper shower. No BIG items, just things that you need fresh with a new baby especially if it it of the opposite sex. You don't get to register, but everyone buys you things that you need such as: diapers, powder, clothes, new crib sheets, etc. It is best to have it a casual walk through shower with the usual snacks, drinks, and decorations. But they can come and go as they please during the two or so hours that you designate for the "Welcome the new baby blessing to your family" Party.

Kassidey - posted on 05/29/2010

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I say go for it. I am having a 2nd shower in the fall regardless of if its a boy or girl. The doctor did not think I would be able to get pregnant again so we gave away my 16 month old's things after he out grew them to moms who did not have a lot of money or family to help them. I am blessed to have gotten pregnant a 2nd time through a combination of lucky circumstances and I have no qualms about my sister-in-law throwing me a 2nd shower. I agree with the sentiment about not throwing yourself one. Conspiring with your sister / sister-in-law/ etc. about it though...... :-) no one would know would they!

Angela - posted on 05/29/2010

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It depends on how traditional your family is, but the general rule is to have only with the first baby. A popular and accepted alternative is a meet and greet once your baby arrives. So many people will want to see your bundle or new addition, and it offers people a chance to shower you and baby with gifts.

Veronique - posted on 05/29/2010

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Well my daughters are 16 months apart and i felt bad about having people come to a second baby shower, after all they are both girls so i had everything i needed. But since your kids are 4 1/2 years apat i would see why not after all you will need things that you probably threw away or gave away and plus if you have a boy you'll need boy stuff.

Casey - posted on 05/29/2010

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my aunty is about to have her 3rd child... were giving her a baby shower but its more of a coffee lunch date and everyones going to contribute a small cash ammount so she can buy a big thing fo the baby... so go for... all babies r shesh!

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Of course you should have a second baby shower. We have 2 girls that are 2 years apart. For my second baby shower, instead of gifts my friends had people sign up to bring a meal after baby arrived. It was great. We didn't have to worry about cooking dinner the first 2 weeks and we would not have had time. Everyone also brought a pack of diapers. Every baby deserves a celebration. If no one is throwing you one, than have a "meet the baby" after he comes and ask that no one brings gifts.

Erin - posted on 05/29/2010

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i say do it and have another shower...i think you deserve it. i know people have different points of views... but think about it... why does the first baby get a BIG celebration and the second one doesnt?? i think each baby should get their OWN shower, its only fair to each child.....

Erin - posted on 05/29/2010

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i say do it and have another shower...i think you deserve it. i know people have different points of views... but think about it... why does the first baby get a BIG celebration and the second one doesnt?? i think each baby should get their OWN shower, its only fair to each child.....

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