Seperated and pregnant with baby number 4......

Melissa - posted on 12/03/2010

While your family may not be too thrilled about the idea of you being alone and pregnant at first I think they'll learn to come around. I've seen it so many times where a woman gets pregnant and is so terrified of what her loved ones will think of her less-than-perfect personal situation, but the one thing you need to keep in mind is that they are always going to be your family, and they are always going to love you. I don't know what the circumstances surrounding your split were, but after so many years I can only imagine the reasons were clear and valid. I don't suggest terminating a pregnancy, aside from my own feelings on it, it seems YOUR feelings are against it, and that's a regret you don't want to carry on your shoulders for the rest of your life. I, too, found out I was pregnant after a break up. I found out my boyfriend and best friend had gotten together behind my back (they're now married) and less than a month after that I found out I was pregnant. Just like you, I couldn't imagine terminating, and let me tell you that my son is by far the BEST thing that has ever happened to me. Having 3 children already I'm sure you know that feeling, and of course this will all be difficult, but even strict families are loving families, and I'm positive you'll be just fine :0) I wish you all the luck in the world, and I hope you don't stress too much! It's not good for the little one OR you!!

Shelley - posted on 12/03/2010

I understand that you are going thru an incredibly tough time, but I think it's important to see that it's only temporary.
As for you family, I say screw 'em. Who cares if they are mad about your pregnancy? Were they mad about all your other children being born? Did they love them anyway? If not, do you love them?
If your family can't accept you and your child/ren, then make your friends be your family.
The whole 'when God closes a door, He opens a window' thing is true. No one is ever left with no options.

Trish - posted on 12/03/2010

Hang in there. Is there anyone you can talk to. Things may be messed up now luckily nothing lasts forever and this bad moment will pass. Your family may be strict but like any other family they will still love you and baby in your tummy. Just pray for strength. You'll get through this. Maybe this baby is the love you need in your life that you didn't get from your ex. Hope everything turns out okay for you.

Candace - posted on 12/03/2010

If terminating the pregnancy is something that you can't see yourself doing then don't do it. You can't think about how your family is going to react and base your decision on that. You have to do what you feel is best and what you'll be able to deal with at the end of the day. Don't do something that you're going to regret after doing. Maybe you should talk to your ex and see how he feels about the situation. I think that maybe if you feel that you have someone's support you may feel a little better about the situation but again don't base your decision on other people's feelings even if it is family

Amanda - posted on 12/03/2010

I have 4 kids, and I found out that I had gotten pregnant with my 4th just like you about a month after my ex-husband(now) had left. He wasn't very happy, and neither was his family nor mine. But I held my head high and carried her til full term, working 40hrs a week as well as raising my other 3 children, who at the time were 5, almost 3 and almost a yr. So it wasn't easy, but if they really love you they'll accept you for who you are and stand behind you no matter what choice you choose. If you don't want abortion, consider adoption. If you don't want to do that than what's the problem with keeping your child. If your ex is a good father than why would he be so upset? He helped you create this child didn't he? Hang in there and do what your heart tells you to do and things will fall into place. Like they say, some things fall apart for others to fall into place. :)