Seriously?!

Jackie - posted on 12/04/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Theres a few of us that have posted threads that are our own personal opinion and I speak for myself when I say that I, in no way, was attacking or judging anybody. I received several hatefull messages from other mothers about my post and apparently alot of people took my post the wrong way and I even got a few threatening messages. Now the last time I checked this was a place where we could voice our opinions as long as we werent being pissy about it. I just have the question of why in the world would you take somebody elses opinion on a matter that doesnt have your name in it and isnt refering to you and then get all bent out of shape about it. I've spoken my mind on several topics and been told several times that I'm stupid, lazy mother, ignorant, a bitch, no good, trash, and mouthy. I just think its pretty pathetic that when I check my inbox I see a message telling me to watch my back due to my opinion I posted in a thread. Really?! Lets all just put on our big girl panties, act like the women that we are, and grow up. Everybody has a different opinion and we all have the right to speak it but none of us have the right to bash anybody else or attack another person let alone threaten them.

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Jackie - posted on 12/05/2010

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Sara - thanks and if it keeps up I will but this is my way of letting them know that I'm not as petty as they are. I still havent brought up any names but if it keeps up I most certainly will let you know. This is the place where we ask for opinions from other mothers because if everybody had the same opinion then we wouldnt need to ask other mothers.
In a way this is how I'm saying I'm not scared and I wont tolerate this. People do make stupid rash decisions to send messages like the ones I've received and regret it later so maybe they will see the err of their ways so i dont have to report them.

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Jodi - posted on 12/05/2010

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Some people find the truth too hard to hear and are too cowardly to stand up for anything, themselves, others, a cause...and so they PM...they threaten...they pettily bring themselves down to 4th grade bullcrap (that even most 4th graders know better than to do) because they lack integrity, courage, self-confidence and self-respect. I hope each and everyone of those people who have PM'd you are reading this and know just exactly how pathetic they are. Let them PM away...report them and get booted...boohoo...I'm sure we'll all miss them.

Tiffany - posted on 12/05/2010

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I think as long as you're being respectful when giving your opinion, there should be no issue. It's ridiculous how much drama comes from giving an honest, respectful opinion. If you are receiving threatening messages I would report it. Don't let it get to you and keep giving your opinion. That's what COM is for. =)

Tah - posted on 12/05/2010

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you need a default response..like bite me...,,or after school..schoolyard..3pm..wanker.....

Alison - posted on 12/05/2010

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Women are becoming more and more isolated as mothers and this is just a way to further keep mothers alone in this!
We are here to support one another and this is just horrible behavior. I'd report them and send them packing! Their negativity is not welcome.
Wonder what happens when their kids have a differing opinion?

Your opinion is never going to match another 100% and being different is never a wrong thing. People need to open their minds a little more and realise we live in an amazingly diverse world and its this diversity that makes us richer!

Jackie - posted on 12/05/2010

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Its just really pathetic. What am I going to watch my back for anyway? What would we as mothers do if we found out that our children were acting in this manner? My children would have some serious consequences I guarantee you of that one. Yes I have sent private messages to a few people who took my messages wrong and I offended them. I explained that it wasnt my intent to offend and I felt that I should apologize for offending them and further explain my position but I have never sent a personal message of the sorts I have gotten. I never even replied to any of these messages.

Brenda - posted on 12/04/2010

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Well tehn do something about it, report them, and lets keep the site to grown ups, We all have the right to say what we think, and the fact thet you behing the screen are writing your message and laughin about it while you doing it, while other lady out there is reading your message in a different mood than yours and its getting upset about it, I dont think there is a need to call nobody names, and less to do threats like 'Watch your back", lmao I mean we are online, what they gonna do send a virus to your computer??lmao or what? what elese can you do? lmao just report the person girl go ahead! DO IT!! lol and keep giving your opinion! no matter what people says

Autumn - posted on 12/04/2010

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Ok I am new to this website but thought I would say something. Yes Motherhood is like High School, and yes people have the right to give their opinion if they ask for one. But do what I do when people are being cyber stinkers, I look in the mirror and say to myself " I am true to me and they are hiding behind a keyboard and they are not worth it." Im not saying to not be upset because by all means you have every right, just got to think that not every person is a smart, mature mom some are still in the high school mode ( sadly ) But if the problem does still continue or if you want to take it the step further I would talk with someone higher! I hope this has made you feel < -----------------------------> this much better :D and hope you have a better day. And dont forget to Smile!!!

Bonnie - posted on 12/04/2010

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Jackie, people want opinions then you have the right to give yours. If they don't like your opinion, well than that is too bad, they should just ignore it then. And like Jodi said, if people are sending you nasty messages, report them. They probably think they can't get in trouble if they say these things privately. Guess what? Surprise.

Lynsey - posted on 12/04/2010

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motherhood is like highschool! From online chats to the park!! There are always mom's who will disagree with you just because and there are always mom's who think you are rude when really you just have a kick ass sense of humor!! Lift you chin a little higher- report them... and grab a coffee and smile!!!

Jodi - posted on 12/04/2010

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It is actually against No THUMPS policy to threaten and harrass by private message too. If it is someone doing it continually, you should report it to the CoM Community Management Team. People have been banned for it in the past.



I don't understand the burning need to say something by PM - if you have something to say, either say it in public or not at all. And if what you have to say can't be said in public because it will be considered against No THUMPS, then why say it at all.

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