SEX: do like it more, the same or less?

Sakeena - posted on 11/10/2009 ( 30 moms have responded )

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since getting pregnant or having a baby, do you want/need sex more, less or the same as before?

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Shana - posted on 12/17/2009

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while I was pregnant I did not want it at all. And now afterwards, I still have not gotten my drive back at all. It has been 10 months but I still do not really want it all that often. Idk it might also be my fear of having another child w/o being married or in a long-term relationship.

Emily - posted on 12/17/2009

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When I was pregnant and started getting the big belly- sex kinda got awkward with positions or lack there of lol. Wasnt a problem when my hubby deployed at 7 months since he wasnt around to entice me..let alone trying to help yourself was useless and frustrating with a huge obstruction!! TMI...I know but some other women must have thought the same! Now that I am not pregnant I have a huge sex drive and am eagerly waiting the hubs return!

Casey - posted on 12/17/2009

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when i was pregnant i wanted it more after the baby i just wasn't in the mood,but now i think i got my mojo back!!!

Kellie - posted on 12/08/2009

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Quoting Jackie :



Quoting Sakeena:

I have actually started to take a new birth control. I use Mirena now. It's actually the first time I've used ANY bc






I'm on the Mirena too. I have NO sex drive AT ALL and haven't sice I started the bc about 8 months ago. I thought it was just my pissy mood that I find myself in all the time. Now I wonder if the bc has something to do with it.






i have used other types of b/c before and i use to have very high sex drive on them but since i got the mirena in its complety gone and my boyfriend isnt impressed at all ,ive told him its nt him it just i dont want it and the thoughts of it makes me sick ,is this really normal?

Kellie - posted on 12/08/2009

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oh god i have really gone off sex but when i want it i want it then and there ha ha and when i was pregnant i wanted sex all the time

Iysha - posted on 12/07/2009

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I wanted it more when I wasn't allowed to...i was on pelvic and then bed rest since 32 weeks and then the whole 4 weeks after...had sex once then went to my post pardom check up, got my IUD..then bled for 2 1/2 months (my Fiance refuses to have sex if I am bleeding) so... i wasn't getting any for a while ther. lol. Then My Fiance was on drugs that made it almost impossible to hold an erection so i was at a loss ther too. I'd have to say was very Sexually Frustrated. lol. Now, that there is nothing standing in the way....I want it just as much and as often as before I was pregnant, but not as much as when I was pregnant. And I enjoy it the same.

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i had a pretty random sex drive before getting pregnant. While I was pregnant I wanted sex more often, but during the last trimester everything was so uncomfortable that it just didn't work for us. Now after the baby we are FREAKS. lol My sex drive is like it was when my husband and I first met! lol

Jessica - posted on 12/06/2009

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Hmm when I was preggo my sex drive went waaaay up. I've hardly been in the mood since having my baby though (he's 6 months), it really sucks (moreso for my fiance lol!). I think a lot of it has to do with the fact I'm breastfeeding though... I've read that the hormonal changes can decrease your libido, and also (tmi) my breasts were always a big part of sex for us before... used to be a huge huge turn on for me... and now its just not the same since I'm nursing. He doesn't view them sexually while I'm feeding my child with them and to be honest I don't either. Sigh. I hope it goes back to normal after I'm done!

Nia - posted on 12/06/2009

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Quoting Sakeena:

when i was pregnant, i did NOT want it. At all. I didnt even want him to touch me hardly. Nearly 3 mos. after having the baby, my sex drive has gone up slightly, still waiting for it to kick in


I didnt either.

Danielle - posted on 12/05/2009

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But while I was pregnant I couldn't get enough of it until I was like...8 months along. Then I didn't want me boyfriend to even breathe near me. LOL.

Rachel - posted on 12/05/2009

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My sex drive doesn't seem to be affected by pregnancy or childbirth. It is more closely related to stress levels. More stress=less drive. I can say, though, that childbirth didn't seem to affect satisfaction - which was a relief! I was worried about that pre-baby! lol.

C. - posted on 12/05/2009

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Well, pre-pregnancy I had a fairly high sex drive. During pregnancy it got even higher and after pregnancy.. It took me 3 months to heal PLUS my husband is military and was at his first duty station while I was here with the baby. When I finally DID see him, heck yes!!! Sex drive was back to normal. But now he is deployed, so I try not to think about it :(

Allison - posted on 12/05/2009

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My sex drive has gone down since I have had my first one. Me and my husband hardly every have sex anymore but then my father in law lives with us and I fell very uncomfortable have sex with him in the living room. He stays up all night. I do have three kids though.

Ashley - posted on 11/27/2009

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Quoting Sharaya:



Quoting Melissa:

I Had A Really High Sex Drive When I Was Pregnant, and Now Its Even Higher...
My Fiance Tells Me That I Act Like The Man Sometimes When It Comes To Wanting Sex...lol






Me too...i thought i was the only one. I feel like the man in my marriage. When he wants to do it its great!!!!! but it seems like im always in the mood. The sad part is that he doesnt even have to do anything...i can just look at him and im like..."ok lets go!!" lmbo






Ha ha... I have a high sex drive generally,  I have to tell my husband  to keep the sexy down! Lately (being pregnant though) I am not so frisky boo!

Jackie - posted on 11/27/2009

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Quoting Sakeena:

I have actually started to take a new birth control. I use Mirena now. It's actually the first time I've used ANY bc



I'm on the Mirena too. I have NO sex drive AT ALL and haven't sice I started the bc about 8 months ago. I thought it was just my pissy mood that I find myself in all the time. Now I wonder if the bc has something to do with it.

Sharaya - posted on 11/27/2009

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Quoting Melissa:

I Had A Really High Sex Drive When I Was Pregnant, and Now Its Even Higher...
My Fiance Tells Me That I Act Like The Man Sometimes When It Comes To Wanting Sex...lol



Me too...i thought i was the only one. I feel like the man in my marriage. When he wants to do it its great!!!!! but it seems like im always in the mood. The sad part is that he doesnt even have to do anything...i can just look at him and im like..."ok lets go!!" lmbo

Natasha - posted on 11/10/2009

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I always had a high one and when i was pregnant after i started showing my fiance was scared of me. It is still very high. He says im just as bad as a guy cuz i want it all the time.

Erika - posted on 11/10/2009

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after i had my daughter i nursed and that dropped my sex drive to almost nothing but as soon as i was finished nursing it was bak to normal

Sakeena - posted on 11/10/2009

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I have actually started to take a new birth control. I use Mirena now. It's actually the first time I've used ANY bc

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I was so sick for the first half of my pregnancy that I was never in the mood. The second half of my pregnancy I was always in the mood. Right after baby, I was so tired that I didn't really want to have sex, and while it's gotten somewhat better, my sex drive still isn't all that high. But it had dropped off a couple of years before I ever got pregnant, so I'd say it's about the same as it was then.

Korrie - posted on 11/10/2009

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i am 28 weeks pregnant and i also have a toddler, i have no sex drive atm and really hope ill get it back :)

Melissa - posted on 11/10/2009

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I Had A Really High Sex Drive When I Was Pregnant, and Now Its Even Higher...
My Fiance Tells Me That I Act Like The Man Sometimes When It Comes To Wanting Sex...lol

Ashley - posted on 11/10/2009

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if it isn't back are you stressed? or on new birth control.. if this bothers you talk to your doctor.. it can be helpful!

Sakeena - posted on 11/10/2009

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when i was pregnant, i did NOT want it. At all. I didnt even want him to touch me hardly. Nearly 3 mos. after having the baby, my sex drive has gone up slightly, still waiting for it to kick in

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more!! im a mom and wife , and happy which is what i always wanted in life, im fufilled and doing wihat i was supposed to do .. confidence, etc.. i do a pretty good job! lol..

Ashley - posted on 11/10/2009

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you know there was this time that after one of my children i went on this birth control that made me not want it thank god i got off of it because it was driving me crazy! as you can see i love my husband very much "wink, wink" but being pregnant with my 4th should tell it all..

Chez - posted on 11/10/2009

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i wanted it all the time when i was pregnant but now with to kids we still do it lots not as often but it's always great.

Kiley - posted on 11/10/2009

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um.. i say i want it more.... While i was prego.. and after the pregnancy!!! ITS JUST EVEN BETTER!!

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