Sexless relationship and very sad

Krista - posted on 01/16/2012

I dont really have an answer :(



I am in my 20s and my hubby is in his 30s. In the last year or so, sex occurs once every month to every other month.



Its not the lack of sex that bothers me most, its the intimacy I lack. I dont even get touched anymore. I get a peck at night and a peck in the morning when hes off to work (peck- light kiss). I am a stay at home mom and I do work hard, but I do understand my hubby works alot harder than I do.



Its sad, but this happens to lots of couples. Good luck hun!

Danielle - posted on 02/18/2011

If anyone would like any advice to get things going better in the bedroom, plz feel free to send me a message. This is one subject I am very educated in, both profesionally and personally.
I've tried to get the OP to message me so I could help, but havent heard anything yet, I would truly love a chance to help you.
Jessica, I would love for you to message me if you would like some help bringing back the intimacy into your relationship.
The same goes for any women who come across this, feel free to message me and we can work to bring the fun back into the bedroom and figure out what issues are hindering that oh so important part of your life and relationship.

Jessica - posted on 02/18/2011

Good question. I am 21 and my bf of four years is 28. He has no interest in a physical relationship and I find it so difficult. I found out I was pregnant on August 22, 2010 and I gave birth to our daughter October 27, 2010. I wasn't aware I was pregnant. We had only had sex one time that year and it was when our daughter was conceived. Since then (she is now almost four months) we have not been intimate at all. I am sorry. I wish I had the answer. It just sucks!

Nikki - posted on 02/18/2011

Have your explained to him exactly how you feel?

Melissa - posted on 02/18/2011

I would definitely advise counseling, it sounds like something may not be right, maybe a medication he started taking around 4 years ago? I'm sorry, I know that part in a relationship is very special to us women. Good luck..

Melissa - posted on 02/18/2011

Thank you for all of the advice. I have done all of what everyone has suggested. And nothing. So I started making myself think maybe sex isnt important, but I was lying to myself. Im a sexual person and I would be fooling myself if I tried to belive otherwise. Bottom line is he is content not having sex and Im not content. Like I mentioned I love everything else about him but we have no love life.

Sharlie - posted on 02/18/2011

if he really isnt into the idea of sex, start with cuddles and kissing time. aim to have a cuddle and kiss for an hour a day, and work from there. :)

Danielle - posted on 02/17/2011

try getting like a honeymooners kits, for lovers. it has massage oils and things of that nature. there is also a website that has a sexuality "quiz" that you both take seperatley and see how to get you two on the same page in the bedroom. ill find the link for you and send it via message to you. there is also a site i use to order things for me and hubby, you may find something there that could hel. they have kits with oils and such just to get things in the mood and a whole lotta other stuff. plz private message me, i would love to give out advice for you and this is my specialty! I just don't want to unintentionally offend anyone here that may be extremely modest. So private message me if you want and the same goes for anyother ladies interested in speakingg with me. this is the one subject im good at lol! and no im not trying to sell anything or make you join something or anything of the sort. sorry about grammar and such, im typing w/ one eye open cuz my contacs are no longer cooperating at 2AM lol

Rachel - posted on 02/17/2011

i agree thats a long time but i honestly think its strang that a guy doesnt want sex ... i thought all guys want it lol ..... when i read ur post the first thing i thought is if he isnt getting it from u were is he going to get it ??? this prob sounds horrible but u need to talk to him and maybe consider a sex therapist

Medic - posted on 02/17/2011

I do not think ULTIMATUMS are a great idea. Maybe getting away and just talking without the expectations of anything.

Kayla - posted on 02/17/2011

I am a 28 year old mom of 1. I am married to the love of my life who has a mental conditon that causes him to have the same type of issues with intamcy. I have also given him altamatames. This will one cause more problems! I have also, told him that I will go and find it else where and that caused a lot off problems. So that left me two choices
1.) Seek counceling ( which is is helping slowly0
2.) Pleasing yourself (by any means possible)

Brianna - posted on 02/17/2011

3.5 years?.. thats a long time. I think you guys should maybe take a romantic weekend get away for something to "reconnect" maybe even have a few drinks together that usually gets people talkin.. then can lead to other things ;) lol... or maybe i wonder he has a phycial problem that hes embarrassed to talk about?