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Karla - posted on 06/16/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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before i had my daughter my hubby and i were having sex like once or twice a week, but as soon as i got preggers i needed to do it atleast three to four times a day. my daughter is 3yrs old now and i would atleast like to get it once a day. my hubby doesnt want to do it that much. do any of you have this problem or is it just me.

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Karla - posted on 06/20/2009

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leigha; believe me he knows am always willing to go for it. i do all of that!

Charlie - posted on 06/20/2009

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Quoting Karla:

hell yeah!!! we need to take into our own hands. ewven though i have done this over and over he is still to blah about it. believe me i do anything. ill get on top ill suck i dont care. anything to get him into it. its when its been like 2days and nothing has happened that i get frustrated. i sound like a guy.hahaha


Grab the bull by the Horn !!!  or so they say lol

Leigha - posted on 06/19/2009

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Maybe he's just so focused on providing for the new one that it does wear him out. Stress is a BIG 'mood' killer. My husband has two jobs and I work in a stressful environment, but we've got two kids and enjoy our 'alone time' I don't take birth control because it seriously screwed my system up when I first went on it. Just keep it real. Do things like kiss him in the morning before he leaves for work (or you if you leave first) Make one of his favorite dishes for dinner at least once a week. Throw him suggestive glances and make comments that insinuate what mood your in without leaving him guessing. Compliment him about stuff outside the bedroom. One last thing don't DON'T loose the confidence you have in yourself during everyday tasks. That in itself is sexy. Having kids makes guys get a little distant cause of stress and the added weight of being a daddy. Don't take something to diminish your drive. Tell him straight forward while your cuddling with him on the couch something like 'remember when I was preggers and ...' you can fill in the blank. It'll go back to normal; sometimes even more so. Also being spontaneous and surprising him like others have suggested.

Karla - posted on 06/19/2009

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hell yeah!!! we need to take into our own hands. ewven though i have done this over and over he is still to blah about it. believe me i do anything. ill get on top ill suck i dont care. anything to get him into it. its when its been like 2days and nothing has happened that i get frustrated. i sound like a guy.hahaha

Kate CP - posted on 06/19/2009

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Try taking Zoloft. It has totally killed my sex drive. My husband is lucky to get it once a month. :(

Allison - posted on 06/19/2009

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My fiance can't keep his hands off me! I think it might be because I try and introduce him to new things in the bedroom. We have always keep our relationship hot, going to adult toy stores, renting adult movies, etc. We also remember to do the small stuff, love notes, back massages, a nice dinner. I think you just have to keep things fresh, maybe try a new piece of lingerie or giving a sexy lapdance. I recently surprised my fiance by jumping him in our driveway. What ever works for you!!

Jenn - posted on 06/19/2009

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I Feel The Same Way! My Husband Would Rather Sleep! LOL! I Mean Shoot All He Does Is Go To Work! I Stay Home With The Baby And Do All Kinds Of Things During The Day. And By The Time Its Time To Go To Bed It Would Be Nice To Have Some Romance. Okay Just Sex Works. LOL! It Was Only Once A Week Now We Are Up To About 3 Or 4 Times A Week! Thank God. I Didnt Know What To Do With Him. It Was Him Begging Me My Whole Pregnancy. The Baby Comes And Then Poof. Whatever All I Got To Say Is At Least Things Are More Frequently Now.

Heather - posted on 06/18/2009

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Ha Ha! My sex drive went to ZERO after both kids. My kids are 4 and 2 now and we are finally back up to 2 or 3 times a week... and he still wants more! I am so tired usually that even if I am in the mood for it more I just cannot get myself to go there even though I know the sex will be good :(

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my boyfriend is like ur hubby. I want it all the time and he rarely wants it. BEFORE our daughter... he had the drive as much as me.. but having her changed all of it. I wish I knew what would bring it back, I would do it. He tells me he just has no drive for it anymore.. he is 32... he says its his age.

Charlie - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Karla:

i am on the mirena and my sex drive has not changed one bit it is insane. i could do it all the time. its my hubby that has slowed down alot. i am always telling him that he doesnt know what he has. i always threaten to cut him off but i am to weak. he use to be so good. hes 30 now...is it his age?


Hey karla it worked a treat !!! lol  if your not sure what im talking about read my last post .

Karla - posted on 06/18/2009

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i am on the mirena and my sex drive has not changed one bit it is insane. i could do it all the time. its my hubby that has slowed down alot. i am always telling him that he doesnt know what he has. i always threaten to cut him off but i am to weak. he use to be so good. hes 30 now...is it his age?

Nichole - posted on 06/18/2009

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Quoting Crystal:

hahahahaha WHAT??? Total opposite for me!! Oh MAN my husband would be SO happy in your husband's shoes.... he wants some ALL the time, could do it any time of the day, and as for me, I think I could go the rest of my life fine w/out sex! I really feel bad for him! I love him but I just don't have the drive anymore!


Crystal, I am the same exact why. My hubby is all over all the time. I could look like crap just waking up, no makeup, hair tossed up and he still is trying to get some but nope not me, I could care less. I am more worried about the baby and I think that drives him crazy too. He is constantly saying to me when are you gonna love me, I think he may be jealous of the baby and I feel terrible.

Crystal - posted on 06/17/2009

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hahahahaha WHAT??? Total opposite for me!! Oh MAN my husband would be SO happy in your husband's shoes.... he wants some ALL the time, could do it any time of the day, and as for me, I think I could go the rest of my life fine w/out sex! I really feel bad for him! I love him but I just don't have the drive anymore!

Samantha - posted on 06/17/2009

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I think that mind and my husband sex drives have changed since we had the kids. We were all over each other all the time before the kids, and now not so much. We both want it, but I guess not enough for either of us to start things. I wish there was some way for us to improve this, or at least on my part so he doesn't think I don't want it.

Charlie - posted on 06/17/2009

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god i was contemplating mirena but if it does slow down the sex drive i dont think i want it , i just want him to catch up , i actually told him this morning that it was really making me feel like shit that he dosent want to as much as me , ive been holding it in for a while cause i didnt want to make him feel bad but now its said and done he said he is gonna make it up to me , ( looking forward to it ) and hes sorry i felt that way so now i feel heaps better that he knows and i dont have to sit their and stew on it ! so lets hope im " feeling " even better tonight lol !!

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Nicole:



Quoting Nichole:

I wish I had that problem but mine is reversed. Before I got pregnant me and the hubby would have sex 3 times a day but once I was pregnant that all stopped, I would have sex with him just to satisfy him and now even after I had the baby I still dont want it and he wants it all the time. My son is 3 months and I just hope I will want to have sex with him again. I guess sex can go either way. I read about it and they say if you are very sexually active you lose it and if your not you gain it. I just hope I regain mine.





I was the same exact way. It was very rare that I was in the mood for sex but my guy ALWAYS wants sex. But lately it has gone somewhat back to normal pre-preggers sex. although i really do think that not being on the pill or anything really helps. i have been off of the nuvaring for a couple weeks and we went back to condoms (which are better than the products they made even a year or 2 ago) hope it helps..





Thanks. If I don't get my drive back I may have to do the same thing and get the mirena taking out and just go back to condoms cause this sucks.

Nicole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Nichole:

I wish I had that problem but mine is reversed. Before I got pregnant me and the hubby would have sex 3 times a day but once I was pregnant that all stopped, I would have sex with him just to satisfy him and now even after I had the baby I still dont want it and he wants it all the time. My son is 3 months and I just hope I will want to have sex with him again. I guess sex can go either way. I read about it and they say if you are very sexually active you lose it and if your not you gain it. I just hope I regain mine.


I was the same exact way. It was very rare that I was in the mood for sex but my guy ALWAYS wants sex. But lately it has gone somewhat back to normal pre-preggers sex. although i really do think that not being on the pill or anything really helps. i have been off of the nuvaring for a couple weeks and we went back to condoms (which are better than the products they made even a year or 2 ago) hope it helps..

Karla - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Brittany:

Thanks :) I'm sure I was the first time around but with this one not so much. All the strech marks are there and they are TERRIBLE!!! And I still have a little baby weight left from my first. But my husband says I'm beautiful so I guess that is all that matters. I can't wait to start running again though... :)



its all in the way you see yourself. i had lost 28pounds beforew i got pregnant and believe me that did nothing to my figure i was still fat but once my baby bump started showing i felt goo about my figure. i was still over weight and got so swollen it was not cute. but knowing that you have this precious life inside of you makes it all feel better. make sure that your hubby is helping you out with these feelings you have

Brittany - posted on 06/17/2009

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Thanks :) I'm sure I was the first time around but with this one not so much. All the strech marks are there and they are TERRIBLE!!! And I still have a little baby weight left from my first. But my husband says I'm beautiful so I guess that is all that matters. I can't wait to start running again though... :)

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Brittany:

Before having my first baby my husband and I has sex everyday, sometimes even twice a day. When I got pregnant with her I had to have it all the time! Now that I am pregnant with my second I still want sex but I can't bring myself to do it. I feel really self conscious. I hope this goes away after I have this baby. I really miss being able to have sex without worrying that I look fat, big, ect.


Aw, I am sure you are not big and fat. Pregnancy is such a beautiful thing, you shouldn't feel that way. You are probably absoletly beautiful with a belly...Cheer up. :)

Brittany - posted on 06/17/2009

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Before having my first baby my husband and I has sex everyday, sometimes even twice a day. When I got pregnant with her I had to have it all the time! Now that I am pregnant with my second I still want sex but I can't bring myself to do it. I feel really self conscious. I hope this goes away after I have this baby. I really miss being able to have sex without worrying that I look fat, big, ect.

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Deborah:



Quoting Nichole:

I wish I had that problem but mine is reversed. Before I got pregnant me and the hubby would have sex 3 times a day but once I was pregnant that all stopped, I would have sex with him just to satisfy him and now even after I had the baby I still dont want it and he wants it all the time. My son is 3 months and I just hope I will want to have sex with him again. I guess sex can go either way. I read about it and they say if you are very sexually active you lose it and if your not you gain it. I just hope I regain mine.





Yea same here. We used to be very active. And I am 5 months now, and am not really in the mood. We both orgasm everytime but it's hard to get in the mood. My boyfriend is hot, it's not him. But it does hurt to have sex in the beginning of intercourse and it hurts afterwards for me. I am very sensitive down there now that I'm pregnant. 





Hopefully it doesn't last after you have your baby cause I am still waiting on mine to come back and my son is 4 months...:(

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Nichole:




Quoting Deidre:

If you aren't preggers get the Mirena... it will most likely mellow that out lol. I know when my hubby first got home from deployment and our daughter was 9wks old I was a sex fiend. I got the Mirena when she was about 5mo old and it has totally killed the sex fiend in me. We have sex about once a week if my hubby is lucky lol.







Really mirena makes you NOT want sex. Any other kind of birth control does that too me. I am the oposite of these girls my man is all over me and I dont want it. I just had mirena placed in hoping it wouldn't do that too me..Tell me more please?









Sorry if I freaked you out any.  I don't know if it is the same for everyone but I just noticed a couple days ago that my sex drive plummeted after I had the Mirena placed (back in october) while before I was all over my husband like a maniac.  It didn't help any that I bled for about 3mo straight after having it placed and couldn't have sex that entire time b/c of it (sex while bleeding totally turns me and hubby off).  I still have sex sometimes but I in no way need it, and I do enjoy it when we do have sex, but getting me in the mood is a real chore, and I blame the Mirena (not enough to have it removed though lmao).





Oh jeez...so I now I know why I have bleed for a week and half now. I though it was because its the first period since the baby. It wont go away and it has no signs of going away either..ugh.



 

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hmmm im not sure mirena shuts up the sex drive like that... i have had mine since september and it def has not killed my sex drive, try nuva ring, i used to have that and that kinda amped it up a bit. i cant take BC pills , god do they make me freakin sick.



go on a weekend vaca- no cells , cpu, nothing except you and your lover and massage oils. works like a charm no lie

Jinni - posted on 06/17/2009

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I have found that guys go through phases they want sex like crazy then they back off for what ever reason just keep trying it spice it up dress up, use toys, lube, what ever will arouse him put on some porn that he likes...... it will work men are human to once it's up they need to satisfy it, and it's not that hard to do.....i find if my man isn't in the mood and i wait till early in the morning when he is still asleep give him oral sex or just start rubbing on it and jump on 9 times out of 10 they will not stop you.

Deborah - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Nichole:

I wish I had that problem but mine is reversed. Before I got pregnant me and the hubby would have sex 3 times a day but once I was pregnant that all stopped, I would have sex with him just to satisfy him and now even after I had the baby I still dont want it and he wants it all the time. My son is 3 months and I just hope I will want to have sex with him again. I guess sex can go either way. I read about it and they say if you are very sexually active you lose it and if your not you gain it. I just hope I regain mine.


Yea same here. We used to be very active. And I am 5 months now, and am not really in the mood. We both orgasm everytime but it's hard to get in the mood. My boyfriend is hot, it's not him. But it does hurt to have sex in the beginning of intercourse and it hurts afterwards for me. I am very sensitive down there now that I'm pregnant. 

Deidre - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Nichole:



Quoting Deidre:

If you aren't preggers get the Mirena... it will most likely mellow that out lol. I know when my hubby first got home from deployment and our daughter was 9wks old I was a sex fiend. I got the Mirena when she was about 5mo old and it has totally killed the sex fiend in me. We have sex about once a week if my hubby is lucky lol.





Really mirena makes you NOT want sex. Any other kind of birth control does that too me. I am the oposite of these girls my man is all over me and I dont want it. I just had mirena placed in hoping it wouldn't do that too me..Tell me more please?





Sorry if I freaked you out any.  I don't know if it is the same for everyone but I just noticed a couple days ago that my sex drive plummeted after I had the Mirena placed (back in october) while before I was all over my husband like a maniac.  It didn't help any that I bled for about 3mo straight after having it placed and couldn't have sex that entire time b/c of it (sex while bleeding totally turns me and hubby off).  I still have sex sometimes but I in no way need it, and I do enjoy it when we do have sex, but getting me in the mood is a real chore, and I blame the Mirena (not enough to have it removed though lmao).

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Becky:

hi i got the mirena fitted too, i have a gorgeous man but i dont want to have sex its nothing he is doing, it is me, anyone else have this problem?? help? xxx


I have the exact same problem. I have a gorgeous man also and the sex was great until I got pregnant and now even 4 months after having my son I still dont want sex. I just got mirena myself. I dont know what the problem is. I wish I wanted sex cause I feel bad for my man, he practically has to beg me for it anymore. I don't know what to do. I did just get my first period so I am hoping that maybe my horomones will balance out and I get my sex drive back if not I don't know what I am going to do.



 

Becky - posted on 06/17/2009

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hi i got the mirena fitted too, i have a gorgeous man but i dont want to have sex its nothing he is doing, it is me, anyone else have this problem?? help? xxx

Karla - posted on 06/17/2009

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I hate to admit it LOL but is a common thing to go through! I would recommend (cause it worked for me "wink) lol to set the stage, just start a little sensual kiss in the morning and set the mood at night time you might not be able to do that daily but if you do it 1-2 a week it will be great for both of you. A lot of new dads feel like they might "hurt" you or baby if they have sex with you so that puts a damper on their sex drive! You are gonna have to be reassuring about how you are going to be fine and after a couple of times their stress level regarding their worry diminishes. Hope this help, let me know if I can help any other way.

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Karla:

do u orgasm every time u 2 have sex


I do orgasm every time we have sex but it takes me forever to even want the sex?

Karla - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Alisha :

I'm having the same problem now, I'm 7 months pregnant and omg I am in pain I want it so bad but my fiancees labido is sooooo low. It always has been so its not like a huge change but now its hard to handle because I need sex so bad lol...he doesnt understand at all. We did it to days in a row now its been a week and I'm dieing.



omg i know extactly what u r feelin. i feel like crap when 2days go by and nothing. the funny part is that i start the whole thing and still he has the nerve to be tired..wtf

Karla - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Bianca:

I feel better now, cause I have the same problem, I thought my husband does not love me the way he used to!



i was talkin with one of his buddies and he doesnt get it at all. yes a guy. but am frustrated cuz i feel we dont do it enough but he says hes tired. am like ur friends wish that they had some one like me....u better hope i never change cuz then u will be introuble

Karla - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Loureen:

OMG i have the same problem !!! i thought i was the only one everyone else says how they dont want to do it anymore , no way not me lol if anyone has some answers help us out ! lol



sista u are not alone

Karla - posted on 06/17/2009

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i have the mirena and it has not slowed me down. i need it atleast once a day,damn

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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Quoting Deidre:

If you aren't preggers get the Mirena... it will most likely mellow that out lol. I know when my hubby first got home from deployment and our daughter was 9wks old I was a sex fiend. I got the Mirena when she was about 5mo old and it has totally killed the sex fiend in me. We have sex about once a week if my hubby is lucky lol.


Really mirena makes you NOT want sex. Any other kind of birth control does that too me. I am the oposite of these girls my man is all over me and I dont want it. I just had mirena placed in hoping it wouldn't do that too me..Tell me more please?

Nichole - posted on 06/17/2009

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I wish I had that problem but mine is reversed. Before I got pregnant me and the hubby would have sex 3 times a day but once I was pregnant that all stopped, I would have sex with him just to satisfy him and now even after I had the baby I still dont want it and he wants it all the time. My son is 3 months and I just hope I will want to have sex with him again. I guess sex can go either way. I read about it and they say if you are very sexually active you lose it and if your not you gain it. I just hope I regain mine.

Deidre - posted on 06/17/2009

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If you aren't preggers get the Mirena... it will most likely mellow that out lol. I know when my hubby first got home from deployment and our daughter was 9wks old I was a sex fiend. I got the Mirena when she was about 5mo old and it has totally killed the sex fiend in me. We have sex about once a week if my hubby is lucky lol.

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I'm having the same problem now, I'm 7 months pregnant and omg I am in pain I want it so bad but my fiancees labido is sooooo low. It always has been so its not like a huge change but now its hard to handle because I need sex so bad lol...he doesnt understand at all. We did it to days in a row now its been a week and I'm dieing.

Bianca - posted on 06/17/2009

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I feel better now, cause I have the same problem, I thought my husband does not love me the way he used to!

Mel - posted on 06/16/2009

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yeah mine will only do it about once every week and a half. really if i get it one weekend i think yep this is it til at least half way thru the week after so i better make it good haha. i just do it myself now ive given up trying to get it from him more often. but since i want another baby he does do it when he knows im ovulating haha i feel for u

Charlie - posted on 06/16/2009

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OMG i have the same problem !!! i thought i was the only one everyone else says how they dont want to do it anymore , no way not me lol if anyone has some answers help us out ! lol

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