she still uses a bottle, whats the big deal?

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why are people so obsessed with getting their kids off of the bottle as soon as they turn 1. and why are people so judgmental toward moms who allow their toddlers to use bottles. As long as the child isn't running around with a bottle all day or having it hanging out of their mouth all day then I really don't see the problem. Why cant some mothers realize that not every baby is developmentally capable of using a sip cup or regular cup as soon as they turn 1?

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Pamela - posted on 07/31/2009

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So far all I'm reading is alot of judgement going on bottle, sippa cup, dummies the list can go on and on of things we must not do or we have to do this to be a good parent/carer, well you know what no wonder depression is so high!

I think i the case of the child with dev delays etc the important thing is not if she has a bottle or sippa cup but if she is getting what she needs!!!!!!!!!!!! Do what she is most comfortable with to meet her needs it souds like she has enough on her plate then worry about!

But for the debate over bottle or sippa cup then no dental worries will happen with any if you clean thier teeth 2 times a day and not let them run around all day/night with one.

We do not have to drag things away from our children just because they are 1 what we need to do is what is best for our children.

Over use of anything is a bad thing if we teach our children limits to anything a little comfort won't hurt anyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So everyone try to relax a bit and enjoy the children around you. There are too many judgement on parent these days it's just all about limits people!!!

Stephanie - posted on 07/30/2009

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Okay, so she doesn't take to the sippy cup the first time you give it to her. No one expects that, nor the second third fourth or fifth time. You can't just give up. When a child has been sucking on a soft silicone nipple or even a breast nipple their whole lives you dont really expect them to transition to something like a Nuby cup the first few times you give it to them do you? If you do you are on a rough road because no child takes to transition that easily. You have to keep trying, repetition is key. Children don't take to transition easily but they do take to routine and repetition. Don't give up on something because your child doesn't seem to like it. You're the parent, you know whats best for them not the other way around

Jamie - posted on 07/30/2009

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No one wants to see their child in pain. And yet some parents are hurting their children's dental health without even knowing it. While it's understandable that providing a bottle at bedtime is comforting, such a considerate action could actually be rotting away your child's teeth!



Known as early childhood dental caries, baby bottle tooth decay is caused when children are exposed to sugary substances on a frequent basis. Milk, formula, fruit juice, sports drinks and soft drinks all contain sugars that can harm your teeth -- the more children are exposed to them, the greater their chances of developing tooth decay.



Putting children to bed with a bottle filled with one of these liquids, or allowing them to drink from a bottle or breastfeed beyond meal times, are common ways of causing baby bottle tooth decay.



Why is extended feeding a problem? As liquid pools in the mouth, it remains in contact with teeth for a long period of time. This enables bacteria to convert sugar into acids, which attack tooth enamel. Over time, the enamel and inner layers of the teeth are worn down, eventually resulting in cavities, or dental caries.During sleep the flow of saliva decreases so it can not "wash" away the sugar. Sleeping with a bottles or a cup also allows these liquids to pool around their teeth for long periods of time to cause decay.



Those are just facts. And you can start a child at 6 month with learning to use a cup. I personally think its lazy parenting. The parent doesnt want to take the bottle away not that the child cant handle it.

Carson - posted on 08/06/2009

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BACK AGAIN..lol Wow I have 4 kids and all my kids were off the bottles at different ages and my daughter(off the bottle by one) and my other kiddo (off way later cause of developmental problems) are perfect (weight and all) so I dont see where a bottle tells ANYONE what kind of parent you are nor what kind of child they are.....it causes tooth decay okay i can understand that but so does candy and this and that...parents raise there kids different personally im goin to let mine be KIDS....(guess it looks silly for my 6 year old to still go to bed with his teddy to for comfort)

and for the org. post... if someone wants to turn around and judge you for how you care for the child just remind yourself ppl are so ignorant,judgemental hypocrites they "assume" whatever whenever without realizing that there might be developmental problems....The docs kept my son on the flow bottle(avent) for the longest time cause of Bradycardia and apenea..my son couldnt have jar food till he was right at one years old...my son couldnt eat table foods till 2 years old cause of other health issues..AND HE HAS GREAT TEETH!!!!!!!!!!! but honestly at that time i wasnt worried bout his teeth i was worried bout getting him fed even if that meant him being on a bottle till he got married.....

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2009

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I would get the them off as soon as possible it is called baby bottle rot! I spent over 2000 dollars getting my daughters teeth fixed she is 5 years old has a mouth full of fillings and even a sliver tooth. I thought the same thing and did not take her off the bottle till she was 2 and a half by then the damage was done. It is hard but you got to do it lets just say i did not make the same mistake with my other 2 children.

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Kyla - posted on 08/11/2009

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My nearly 3 year old still has a bottle for bed, as she sees her 22mth old sister has one and at this time with 3 under 3 i dont have the time or energy to have a fight with her, as bad as that may sound. Her speach is perfect. She can tell me clearly and in long sentences what she wants and talks alot (sometimes i think too much)lol. Ive been told plenty of times to take the bottle away. I dont think i is harming her at all.

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i have to say im not that impressed with what that speech therapist just said.... my son is 3 (nearly) and he has a bottle AND he also uses words like disgusting, awesome, musical intruments etc so i have to say i don't agree with yr opinion that it affects their speech. maybe it would if they had a bottle hanging out their mouth all day everyday but majority mums wouldnt do that. and it could be other reasons some children have speech problems.... and as for the other woman saying its lazy if you dont give yr child the cup instead of a bottle. i think thats judgemental and abit uncalled for! who are you to say what is lazy about it..... its down to the mother and what they decide for their child. if you put your baby on a cup when you were told to thats up to you i prefer to keep mine on a bottle until i decide otherwise, but that doesnt mean they dont get a juice cup etc. and i dont appreciate it, along with christina being judged for letting my son still have a bottle!!

Mel - posted on 08/06/2009

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omg same old argument Heather - NOT ALL SPEECHYS FEEL THAT WAY THAT IS YOUR OPINION. my daughter has a speech path to and shes 16 months and they are just fine we her having a bottle infact they frequuently ask me to give her a bottle so they can look at how well she drinks

C - posted on 08/06/2009

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Actually babies should be introduced to the cup before turning one. Why wait? It is a developmentally great thing. As far as people judging you, hey, it's your child's developement, your child's teeth and your child. So.............

DARLENE - posted on 08/06/2009

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Christina i really think you should do what is best for your child, its not about her teeth, nor what people think, its about her health and how you can help her overcome as many obstacles as she can, try different things that WILL HELP her, every child develops differently, every mother has thier own opinion but the only one that counts is yours only YOU know YOUR child and what ability or disability she may have youre the only one that can help her and the only way by doing it is do your best and always love her like you have. Listen to the doctors and whatever advise they give you and most of all PRAY and ASK FOR HELP and youll see that with the time it will get better for her and you as well. AS a mother we all suffer with our children does not matter if its for joy or fear either way we'll be there for our kids thats what being a mother is all about so help her and do whats best for her and not anyone else. =)

Louise - posted on 08/06/2009

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my little boy is 20 months old and he still has a bottle of milk at bedtime. its not bad for their teeth. its just a bit of comfort. i wouldnt let him take it out with him and he do make sure he only gets it at bedtime and sometimes nap time. but he only ever has milk in it. he drinks juice from a cup

Dorothy - posted on 08/06/2009

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my thoughts exactly to the student. My son is 5 andhas speech delay. I was told to take him off the sipping when he was three. To some kids it is a security blanket. but we all had them as kids. I just think we all need to sit back and realize we all parent differently. for me it was easier to make a sippy cup then it was to fix a bottle when i was in the car. or in walmart etc. to each their own. we all feel what is right in our on minds and deal with these things differently. good luck to all moms still goig thru the bottle and sippy phase. so glad i am done with that

Jessica - posted on 08/06/2009

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The reason people make a big deal about it is due to the health issues that is poses the child. Having a child who uses a bottle after the age of one can cause dental problems, health problems, as well as developmental problems. I was a daycare teacher, and take it from me you do not want your child to end up having helth issues due to using a bottle for too long. The best way to bottle break a child (especially at this age) is to ease into it. By this point the child is probably using it at a security device. So during the day introduce the sippy cup to the child. Do not worry if they won't drink it at first. Believe me they will try it when they get thirsty and realize that they will not be getting a bottle. It will not be easy for you as a parent, but keep in mind it is best for your childs health! Then when bed time and nap time come up if you are in the habit of allowing the child to have a bottle for these then give him/her an empty bottle and a half full sippy cup. Allow your child to see others around them drinking out of "Big people" cups, and encourage them to do the same. It takes time, but will be worth it in the end.

Jessica - posted on 08/06/2009

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this should be an exciting step, i started my baby at 5 months old, he is only 6 1/2 now and can drink a full cup by himself. u do it early they get over it quicker. and you dont have to worry about their teeth...this is lazy if you dont introduce the cup....u take something away from a 6 month old or younger( after they learned how to do it) they only have a 3 day memory span and will forget they ever drank it a differnt way

Heather - posted on 08/06/2009

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And we agree that a sippie cup is the same at a bottle the cups that have a strw are the best for toddlers!!!! they do not spill and it starts teaching them to use different muscles that are in their mouth ( the muscles that they use for speech!)

Heather - posted on 08/06/2009

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I am an Speech and Language Patholgy Assistant and we study all about babies and feeding and bottles and it is not only bad for their teeth but it teaches the child to suck their food and instead or chew. It is also cause orthodontic problems and tounge thrust when they begin to speak.

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well i am myself in two minds whether to take it off him now he is just turning 3 or to let him have it a wee bit longer. its just one bottle at night he has a drink of tea while getting a story. i have tried to give him a cup but he isnt ready for it at night. i think ive done well getting him down to just one bottle. and his teeth are perfect so im just gona let it go for a wee while longer i think then see if he gives it up himself.



i can understand where christina is coming from there is so much stigma surrounding giving kids bottles beyond one but i think they are still babies then even though they are capeable of drinking from a sippy cup. i just think its more to do with the health professionals and the milestones etc as someone else said. but its nice to hear that your son had his bottle until two tabitha!! at least im not alone.

Tabitha - posted on 08/06/2009

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I think because once they start getting teeth, the bottle can start rotting their teeth, or something like that...I don' t know...My son had his bottle until he was 2 years old. I personally thought he would look silly with a bottle any older than that.

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oh yeah i agree. my son can drink from a normal cup during the day and or a straw i just dont see the big deal either if he still wants a bottle. just as long as i make sure his teeth are check regular.

Leanne - posted on 08/06/2009

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Does anyone realize that a sippy cup and bottle are practically the same thing. They are both ok in proper use. Neither should be in a childs mouth all the time. or in bed. learning to drink from a regular cup is best, if you're talking dental health!

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well finally another mum who is on my wave length!! and lets just get this straight okay.... a bottle is NOT AND I REPEAT NOT bad for their teeth what makes it bad is lack of brushing them after!!!! my son is 3 and has a bottle at nigth before he goes to bed, because its his comfort and he is slowly deciding for himself to come of it... so for all these mums who say to get yr kids off the bottle is that just because health people say so??? you do whatever you feel is right christina i am doing what i want to and my children are happy AND are fully capeable of using a cup/sippy cup. he just like a bottle.



so please dont feel that there is anything wrong with it because there isnt. just rememebr to brush their teeth and get dentist check ups. my sons teeth are perfect so ignore the "its bad for their teeth bit" thats a tactic professionals use to get yr child to grow up quicker than i think they should but thats just my opinion.



well im always here if you would like a chat. take care.x

Leanne - posted on 08/06/2009

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Does anyone realize that a sippy cup and bottle are practically the same thing. They are both ok in proper use. Neither should be in a childs mouth all the time. or in bed. learning to drink from a regular cup is best, if you're talking dental health!

Leanne - posted on 08/06/2009

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Does anyone realize that a sippy cup and bottle are practically the same thing. They are both ok in proper use. Neither should be in a childs mouth all the time. or in bed. learning to drink from a regular cup is best, if you're talking dental health!

Tamika - posted on 08/06/2009

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Personally I dont like seeing a child that can walk and talk and feed themselves with thier hands sucking on a bottle either, but I would never make a judgment on you as a mother just because both my boys were drinking out of sippy cups from 9 months. Does your daughter have developmental issues or are you just tring to keep her a baby for as long as you can? Once again not judging just trying to understand. For me I was not obsessed with it it just happened, both my sons had six teeth by the time they were 7 months old and they started eating solids around the same time. So it just made sense to give a cup with meals instaed of the bottle.

Dorothy - posted on 08/06/2009

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Well i am a little late for this debate. but here it goes. yes you are the parent. you know whats best for her. and yes a child will eventually take the sippy but as the parent one must take the steps to making sure she is off of it in a timely matter. Now if she does have developmental problems, then discuss this with her doctor. Find out what could be done about it. But most children still suck on a sippy like its a bottle any way. so bottle or sippy if you put them to bed with it, it will do the same damage. And yes you can give your baby juices. Just not full strength. And never to bed with juices. I broke both of my boys off milk bottles and sippy cups at age 1 by putting water in their bottles and sippies. its the will of the mother and how long she feels like dealing with the bottle

Gillian - posted on 08/06/2009

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why do you all care what others think anyways??

if your child is happy, healthy and good all around ,then why care what people think is right or wrong???

I personaly dont like seeing 18mth+ babies with bottles hanging out of their mouths, but who cares what I think??? I just dont think there is a reason to allow children to keep things past the time they need it, if the child is capable of drinking from a cup, then make them do it, do not promote them to be kept behind... it just causes problems down the road... but again.. MHO!!

Gillian - posted on 08/06/2009

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why do you all care what others think anyways??

if your child is happy, healthy and good all around ,then why care what people think is right or wrong???

I personaly dont like seeing 18mth+ babies with bottles hanging out of their mouths, but who cares what I think??? I just dont think there is a reason to allow children to keep things past the time they need it, if the child is capable of drinking from a cup, then make them do it, do not promote them to be kept behind... it just causes problems down the road... but again.. MHO!!

Courtney - posted on 08/06/2009

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DID you read the last part of her originial post? "why can't mothers realize that not every baby is developmentally capable of using a sip cup or regular cup as soon as they turn 1?"



THEN she went off later in this same post with this:



"did anyone read the original post? where did I say the child takes a bottle to bed?

I am caring for a 1 yr old that still takes a bottle and because of developmental delays she does not have the coordination or ability to drink from a cup or sip cup. this child would become severely dehydrated if a bottle were to be taken away.

It is not bad for a child's teeth to have a bottle, it is bad to take a bottle or cup to bed and it is bad to let them tote it around with them all day and to sip from it all day as well. I have seen this to be a problem with parents who allow their child to tote a sippy cup around all day. It is also bad to give a child juice. they don't need it. not in a bottle or a cup. I just hate it when people assume that a child has a bottle because th parent is lazy or the kid is stupid. The child I have has a bottle because she is unable to use a cup."



OK so there you go! SHE IS talking about obsession with bottles yes, but only because she has a baby with a developmental delay and is incapable of using the cup for the stated reason in the quote... So there for her case is different from MOST people and she is got upset over something that only applies to babies that are capable of switching from a bottle to sippy. No one should take a child off a bottle that isn't read. And why are people obsessed with getting their kids off bottles? BECAUSE that is when almost all pedi's recommend it if the kids are able to handle it... So it is not an obsession it is a common milestone that doctors recommend around that age because... Remember people tend to listen to doctors so if a majority of doctors recommend you get your child off a bottle... then a majority of people will follow... It is just a general guideline like I said In my previous long post from last night. So since there is a majority of people that wean their babies off bottles either a month before their first birthday or shortly after they turn one people tend to question it ( which must be the main reason why Chirstina got upset, which is perfectly normal) But I even told her in the other post I did last night not to get upset over something small like that because people only know what they have been told ( in this case, bottles should go bye bye at one) so it is natural for them to ask... Also because they do not know her baby has a special case where it would be really horrific results (severe dehydration)...

Jessi - posted on 08/06/2009

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Christina, I see a lot about "the books" but i see some good advice too.



My opinion is, if you can get her to drink from a bottle, and you're introducing a sippy cup for practice, who cares how old she is? Every child has different rates of development, just as some children need more time with things. I mean, some of these people seem to be making the assumption that every child meet milestones at the same rate, probably because theyre so worried about what their pediatricians have to say. But it's not true. You do what you think is best for your child. A bottle is HARDLY a life or death situation. Now if you were letting her play with electrical sockets, I'd tell you that you were crazy. =) Haha. But the bottle is hardly an issue. Whether its a bottle, sippy cup or any kind of food, their teeth have to be brushes twice a day, just like us. Tooth decay has nothing to do with just a bottle, unless its given to them over night, obviously. As to the deformation of teeth (i.e. bucked teeth) that comes with anything a child sucks on, but only if its habitual. If a child sucks their thumb excessively, that can be an issue if it doesnt stop when their adult teeth come in. Sometimes sooner if theyre obsessive about it. That can deform the mouth and shift their adult teeth before theyve even lost their baby teeth.



Honestly, just do what you need to do for your child. Every child is different and every child will either accept things or not. It's a judgment call for you to make and no one else.



Good luck and take care! I wish you the best! =D

Tara - posted on 08/05/2009

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Umm perhaps you should take a chill pill and read the actual post, here Ive copied it for you...

Started by Christina Sheps (July 30, 4:35 pm) (232 moms have responded)

why are people so obsessed with getting their kids off of the bottle as soon as they turn 1. and why are people so judgmental toward moms who allow their toddlers to use bottles. As long as the child isn't running around with a bottle all day or having it hanging out of their mouth all day then I really don't see the problem. Why cant some mothers realize that not every baby is developmentally capable of using a sip cup or regular cup as soon as they turn 1?

ummm, does that clear it up for you? Perhaps if you can't take people's freedom of speech then perhaps you should get off this page. This is a discussion about toddlers/babies and bottles not developmentally delayed kids.

And again P.S my son is in perfect health and is advanced! So know what you are talking about before you go blabbing about it! End of story, read posts more carefully know.

Tara - posted on 08/05/2009

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Exactly! Finally someone who see's my way. I don't see what the big deal if if my son wants a bottle in the morning or before bed. He can use a sippy, he is even pretty good with a cup, so who cares if he wants a bottle once in a while. Everyone is always pushing kids, just let them be kids! Each Child is different and has their own personality and does their own thing that's what makes them so great! Let them do it at their own pace and enjoy life.

Jessi - posted on 08/05/2009

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Christina, I see a lot about "the books" but i see some good advice too.



My opinion is, if you can get her to drink from a bottle, and you're introducing a sippy cup for practice, who cares how old she is? Every child has different rates of development, just as some children need more time with things. I mean, some of these people seem to be making the assumption that every child meet milestones at the same rate, probably because theyre so worried about what their pediatricians have to say. But it's not true. You do what you think is best for your child. A bottle is HARDLY a life or death situation. Now if you were letting her play with electrical sockets, I'd tell you that you were crazy. =) Haha. But the bottle is hardly an issue. Whether its a bottle, sippy cup or any kind of food, their teeth have to be brushes twice a day, just like us. Tooth decay has nothing to do with just a bottle, unless its given to them over night, obviously. As to the deformation of teeth (i.e. bucked teeth) that comes with anything a child sucks on, but only if its habitual. If a child sucks their thumb excessively, that can be an issue if it doesnt stop when their adult teeth come in. Sometimes sooner if theyre obsessive about it. That can deform the mouth and shift their adult teeth before theyve even lost their baby teeth.



Honestly, just do what you need to do for your child. Every child is different and every child will either accept things or not. It's a judgment call for you to make and no one else.



Good luck and take care! I wish you the best! =D

Faith - posted on 08/05/2009

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A bottle is bad for a childs teeth. When they suck on a bottle they tend to hold milk in there mouth when they lay down for a nap or bed and the milk contains sugar, this rots the teeth out. Also the way the nipple is shaped (round) causes there upper teeth to pull out and makes there jaw do the same. The use of a binky has the same effect. I believe it is up to the child and parents to make that change. My child took a sippy cup at one and she still has to have water in it at bed time, She is also on a flat binky, yes a flat one the my doctor says is the smartest solution to the dental problems caused from other rounder binkies. I hope this helps!!!

Tiffany - posted on 08/05/2009

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My daughter is 1 and drinks milk from a bottle. She has been drinking juice from a sippy cup since 6 months, so it's not like she doesn't know how to use one. Since she turned one, she even drinks from regular cups using straws now. I don't think that a 1yr old should be off the bottle, that's why I allow my daughter to continue drinking milk from it. One yr. old is still really young. It's a difference between a 1 yr old & a 3 or 4 yr old with a bottle..if you see a pre-K child with a bottle, then that's a big deal. But if your kid is 1 or 2, don't sweat what everyone else is saying about him/her. Beware, pacifiers are even worse than bottles though!!

Courtney - posted on 08/05/2009

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"did anyone read the original post? where did I say the child takes a bottle to bed?

I am caring for a 1 yr old that still takes a bottle and because of developmental delays she does not have the coordination or ability to drink from a cup or sip cup. this child would become severely dehydrated if a bottle were to be taken away.

It is not bad for a child's teeth to have a bottle, it is bad to take a bottle or cup to bed and it is bad to let them tote it around with them all day and to sip from it all day as well. I have seen this to be a problem with parents who allow their child to tote a sippy cup around all day. It is also bad to give a child juice. they don't need it. not in a bottle or a cup. I just hate it when people assume that a child has a bottle because th parent is lazy or the kid is stupid. The child I have has a bottle because she is unable to use a cup."



Hope this wont sound mean or rude, I understand why you would be upset but hope this helps.

First of all it is bad for the teeth regardless if they take it to bed or not or carry it around all day or not... thats why DOCTORS recommend weaning them off the bottle by one or slightly before their first birthday...But MOST parents do allow them to go to bed with it or carry it around all day which is a main reason why doctors recommend it... Second of all your situation is different from most... You have a baby with a developmental delay...So you have no need yet in that case to switch her from a bottle to a cup or sippy... Unless his/her doctor says otherwise! Of course people are going to ask you why you have a one year old on a bottle still, but only because they do not know the kid has a delay

and if they do know you should be lucky they are being polite and asking instead of assuming they have a problem or you are lazy. You are complaining about something that in your case does not apply to you sicne you have a child with developmental problem. Weaning a baby off the bottle by the time they are one is a general guide line DOCTORS recommend for people with children who do not have the problems you are explaining you have... A doctor may suggest TRYING it and if there are any problems etc with it then to go back to the bottle... No doctor in their right ming would recommend you continue doing something if it meant the child is going to be harmed in anyway or is incapable. Every child is different and devleops differently some babies are ready for a sippy at 4 months old some are not! If you go and look at sippy cups most of them tell the ages that they are for and yes there are some that say for 4mo+ so it does show you that there are some kids who are ready for it and some that are not... Don't get upset if people give you a funny look or ask you why like I said they do not know why or your situation... hence the word STRANGERS they do not know you or anything about you or your one year old. People only know what they have been told or looked up themselves (i.e no more bottles by one) so it is natural for them to ask when they see someone doing something opposite from a general guideline that MOST people follow... Hence general guidelines.... If we spend our lives getting offended over small things we would be miserable all the time.. Try not to let things like this upset you...It does not hurt to get asnwers from other mothers or father for advice if you have questions, but remember it is just opinions, that are based off of a general rule. You are the parent and you know what is best for your child, and you can always ask your peditrician. Maybe you should find a blog with other parents who have a simular situation like yours so you do not feel lonley in your situation.. Good luck and I hope this helped... I need to go change a poopie diaper now :)

Jessica - posted on 08/05/2009

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I know this isn't anything you haven't heard from the other people, but I can tell you HOW bad it is for their teeth. My little sister had to go to Children's Hospital and be put under to fix her tooth decay because my parents waited to long to take it away from her. She was 2 when she had the surgery and she had been off the bottle for about 7 months at this point. Her two front teeth were the worst. They were completely rotten and hollowed out. With the surgery they reconstructed her teeth and gave her fillings. They were so thin you could see the silver caps on the back of her teeth right through them. Meanwhile, it was hard for her to actually learn to eat real food with her front teeth being so bad. My parents didn't really think there was anything wrong with it either, and that was 17 years ago so there weren't as many "do's" and "don'ts" as there are now. And at 18 she has a whole new set of teeth. But it wasn't a good situation.

Nicole - posted on 08/05/2009

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My son is 28 months old and still has a bottle, i didnt think it was such a big deal! i still dont after reading all these comments! each to their own.. there could be worse things that can happen!

Katie - posted on 08/05/2009

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It causes the teeth to come in wrong and can actually can cause tooth rot. that is what happened to my friends son. she let him take the bottle to bed and now is paying out the nose for dental work. Poor little boy has a hardtime chewing and the dentist said it was because he was on the bottle as a toddler.

Stephanie - posted on 08/05/2009

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Christina, my daughter had a bottle till she was two. SHE was the one ready to give it up. I know moms who still have one and their kids are almost three. Personally i think that might be pushing it. Everyone does it different, but for the most part, aren't we all doing ok? All the moms i've talked to here are good honest moms.

Martie - posted on 08/05/2009

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Honestly, if you give your baby a proper breakfast, provitas/cheese,veggie sticks as a snack, proper lunch, fruit snack and proper meal, you would not sit with a problem that your child will loose more weight because she is not getting her milk. I started training my baby girl when she was 9 months, she refuses the sippy cup, so I drank from my cup and she follows me, IShe will be so thirsty, she would grasp at anything. I started buying the nice small Oros Bottles yes it is messy in the beginning, but eventually they get use to the flow of the fluid, making it easier to swallow.Remember if you are not going to "push" your child out of the comfort zone, they will never be ready to do anything themselves.

Sarah - posted on 08/05/2009

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I dont listen to what others say. I nursed for 17 months and my daughter would not take a bottle EVER! So she went right to a sippy around 12 months. I also didnt give solid foods til she was over 6 months. You know your child better than anyone else. Try a sippy once in awhile and see how they take it.

Danielle - posted on 08/05/2009

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i wont judge ne one when it comes to babies and bottles however I would have to agree with the majority of the ladies. I say this because my first born used a paciifer (similair to a bottle nipple) until she was two and a half. I only really weened her off after i had my second child and got tired of looking for both pacifiers throughout the day. I really believe it was laziness. I didnt feel like hearing her cry so i didnt bother seriously trying to get her off. my laziness resulted in me not using my better judgement therefore when my daughter's teeth grew in she had a horrible overbite. I understand that u dont let ur daughter walk around just holding it in her mouth, but it does seem like there may b some kind of attachment. if she cant hold a cup on her own hold it for her. thats what i do for my 9 month old who wont take a bottle @ all. dont just give up saying she cant she cant she cant...keep trying, eventually she will come around. Its hard hearin people talk about ur child so the best thing to do is to keep trying!!

Carson - posted on 08/05/2009

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love the last comment made by melissa..... and not on those that are judging your decision. They obviously don't know your child, to hell with them. (That is what I tell myself, when others judge me for what I do with my daughters!)

Melissa - posted on 08/05/2009

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you know, I personally had my daughter off the bottle at 8 months, but I did that because I felt she was ready. The important thing to remember is the EVERY child is different. Just because something is right for one baby does not mean that it is right for another. You are your childs mother, and you know what is best for her.

You are listening to your pediatrican and that is the most important. And of course you are not going to do anything that will purposfully harm your child. Your daughter has a weight issue and you need to focus on getting her weight up. You don't need to worry that she is still using the bottle, or that she cannot hold a cup. Focus on the weight, and not on those that are judging your decision. They obviously don't know your child, to hell with them. (That is what I tell myself, when others judge me for what I do with my daughters!)

Carson - posted on 08/05/2009

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I agree with your post i have a child now 5 was on a bottle till bout 18 months cause of development problems (3 months premature) so I like to see what they had to "assume" when he had a bottle then again ppl didnt know the situation either..My child my choice!!!! Guess ingnorance kicks in to some

and for tooth decay my daughter was off the bottle at 6 months drinking from sippy cup great at 8 months and had to have lots of work done to her teeth for tooth decay... didnt come from a bottle!!!!

Amanda - posted on 08/05/2009

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People want to get their kids off the bottle asap because it IS bad for their teeth, and problems with your teeth can increase your risk of health problems as serious as cardiovascular disease and diabetes. Most people are so judgemental when they see a toddler with a bottle because 9 times out of 10, (obviously not in the case of a developmental problem) it IS because of laziness & no one wants to see a child in a position that could potentially harm them. Personally I don't care if other people's children have bottles hanging out of their mouth when there 5. It's not what I would choose to do, but to each their own. Everyone's entitled to their own opinion & no one should be pissed on for having one.

Nubia - posted on 08/05/2009

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my oldest boy is two i started giving him things in a sippy cut when he was about 6 months and he was very good with it he would drink from it and everything and then he went to cup and straws and he was good my one problem was and still is that he does not and refuses to drink milk in a sippy cup or cup so i give it to him in the morning and at night in a bottle he does not fall asleep with it cuz he never has and i brush his teeth before he goes to bed and i havent noticed anything bad i just dont want to take the bottle away cuz if i do he wont drink any milk at all i know several moms that have that problem with their babies and well i would rather him drink some milk then no milk at all

Nubia - posted on 08/05/2009

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my oldest boy is two i started giving him things in a sippy cut when he was about 6 months and he was very good with it he would drink from it and everything and then he went to cup and straws and he was good my one problem was and still is that he does not and refuses to drink milk in a sippy cup or cup so i give it to him in the morning and at night in a bottle he does not fall asleep with it cuz he never has and i brush his teeth before he goes to bed and i havent noticed anything bad i just dont want to take the bottle away cuz if i do he wont drink any milk at all i know several moms that have that problem with their babies and well i would rather him drink some milk then no milk at all

Becky - posted on 08/05/2009

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I started taking the bottle away from my son at about a yr. It took a few months for him to finally let it go. He had a hard time tipping a sip cup so we started using the cups with straws. He did pretty good with those. We still gave him a tip cup regularly everyday for him to practice with but he hated them. He's 3 now and people give me crap about him still using a cup to drink his milk from. He doesn't use it before bed either so don't start. Call it lazy parenting if u want but it just works for us. He is capable of drinking from a regular cup but makes too much of a mess. As long as it works for us I could care less what other people have to say. Its not like they're the ones dealing with it. He's my son and as long as he's healthy I'll give him his cup.

Danielle - posted on 08/05/2009

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i believe that a child should be off the bottle by at least 2. Now my daughter decided not to take the bottle at 6 months..and of course the doctors were filiping out. But i introduced the straw to her and she took it very well..so i decided if she breaks herself i am not going to give it to her. Now on the other hand my daughter is 2 now and i am having a hard time breaking her from the pacifer, she is not allowed to take it out but putting her to bed without it is hard.. she don't really suck on it she plays with it in her hand and usually it is under her crib before she falls asleep. Now my nephew was not taking off the bottle until he was about 2. We would encourage the sippy cup but my sister's inlaws did not want to deal with the transition so behind there back they would give him the bottle so it mad it hard on her and there is only a 7 month difference between my daughter and my nephew...I believe it becomes more of a problem when the child is above the age of 3..My husband has a sister who is 6 and still take s the binkie everywhere and it is pure laziness on his mothers behalf...I believe all children have there time..that is just like when a child potty trains you can not force them if they do not want to do it..........Yes there my be side affects to taking a bottle or pacifer but what would you rather live with they may be able to prove it causes teeth problem but they also need to prove how traumatic it is for a child to take something away.....

Wendy - posted on 08/05/2009

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People are always going to judge you no matter what you do with your child. Do whatever is best for her. My 14 month old son refuses to eat so I have to give him a bottle. He only takes 3 bottles a day (at nap & bed times). He can use a sippy cup but won't take his formula from it. It is a very good day if I can get him to eat just 1 meal. He is only about 17pounds but he can do everything else he is suposed to do.

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