Amanda Martinez & - posted on 08/24/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )
This is my story sad but true:
Im a young Mommy im only 24yrs old Im a mother of 2 and pregnant with my 3rd. My son is turning 6yrs on December my daughter just turned 4yrs on this month of August, and Im 28weeks preganant at this moment with another Boy! Ok, My 2 kids are from my first love wich we were together for almost 5 year so both are from the same father. Now im pregant of the man who i really fell in love with and we were together now for 1yr and 5months. He is a good guy in the sense that he doesnt drink or use drugs or like clubs or hangs out all the time with friends and neither is a guy that looks for womens in the street all the time. He likes to be home and his hobby is to go fishing as much as he can he really enjoys that. He is also only 25yrs old. Well his been very sweet and very good stepfather to my 2 kids we were living together in apartment already we seem to be happy but at the bottom of my heart i wasnt happy cuz everytime we would get in a stupid fight or argument he would find things to say to hurt my feelings and he was always sucessful at that. While im here thinking I love him so much i cant hurt him back not even with words how can he hurt me and do stupid things to me. He broke up with me and told me he didnt love me no more and that i should of had an abortion when he told me to abd when it was on time and that i decided to keep this baby to have him with me anyways anyhow. I told him how could he think that way when im not with the father of my 2 kids and his doing his life and im doing mines. I told him he knew i dont bealive in abortions and that we both were responseble for sleeping without prectetion. He said that yes, of course now it was too late and that he will love that kid no matter what and that kid means his life now and that he was still with me because of the baby not because of me...that broke my heart cuz after he would tell me so many times he was deeply inlove with me and he was so happy that we were having a baby together. Just because a stupid fight he sundenly change his mind? To me is doenst make sense...
Well to make the story shorter, like 2 weeks ago after he broke up with me and told me he didnt love me no more and that we needed to sleep seperatated cuz he was not going to have sex with me anymore neither and that we were going to stay together at that place till the baby was born. I said ok for the moment but i knew it was time to make a decision on my own. Well one day my best friend told me to go to walmart with her to buy some clothes to take to her trip to cuba that she was leaving in 2 days and she was going to spend that night with me at my house. He told me when he saw me i was walking out that if i leave the house i was going to stay locked out and i would have to sleep somewhere else. I told him i had my rights to go in and out anytime anyways we werent together and everytime he would step in n out i wouldnt ask questions neither would tell him to stay out. He didnt care, i told him anyways i'll be back soon im just going to the store n i'll be back with my girl friend so i asked him to please not make a show infront of her or my neighboors. He did locked me out with her we ended going to his moms house. I couldnt bealive he did that to me being pregnant of him. His mom told me that he sees that like a joke that he needs to grow up or she will have to break his head! But i know that wont make him change or grow up. He left to the keys with my brother to go fishing, they ended up in jail for fishing in an area were they werent supposted to and they had got lobsters out of size...when my brother called me from jail i brak down on tears and scared to what was going to happend next cuz i didnt have money to bail them out he told me to calm down that the next day they would see the judge and they might get away with that cuz its was stupid and the cops didnt have proof against them. I went crazzy calling and finding everything out, that night. I hardly could sleep!
The next day they got out without the need to pay anything thanks God they just had to go back for court and call once a week. When they came back from teh keys he didnt even looked at me or spoke to me at all. That broke my heart too cuz i was so worried about them and he didnt cared. Then we got home and he asked me if i told everyone in the building that he was arrested cuz a friend asked him about it, i didnt reply because since he wasnt talking to me i wasnt going to answer that stupid question and i knew he just wanted to start a fight. I did spoke to the maneger of the building because of the rent n i told her he would pay but at the moment we had that inconvinience of him being arrested at the keys and the maintanace guy was there when we were talking so he might of been the one who spoke about it. Cuz i didnt tell anyone at all. But either if i would explain that to him he was going to still be mad and bealieve wahtever he wanted cuz i know him. So he told my brother that because of that he was going to lock me out again, that day they stay at the keys again to sleep in the house of another women that i dont know suppostly she is the cousin of his friends girlfriend that lives at the keys.
When they got back i didnt fight or tell him anything about sleeping out when he has never done that to me not even if we would been broken up or mad at eachother and neither I slept out not even in a familys house. He Locked me out this time with my kids and my poor belly it was night time cuz i had to drop off my brother and i went to buy my kids uniform for school and i got back home at night and my daughter was a sleep. I carried her up the stairs while my DR> has told me not to and he wouldnt open the door for me or my kids evrytime i would put the keys in and turn the knob he would hold the door...it was rediculous but i said fine im not going to fight u'll see whats going to happend now i went back down stairs carrying my daughter grabing my sons hand and went in my car locked my self in and called the cops on him. When the cops arrived i explained there was no type of violence or fight but he locked me out and i have rights and im pregnant of him and my kids dont need to pay for our problems. The cops called him downstairs and explained to him that for the law we were married and he cannot kick me out like that neither i could kick him out. That if we were going to live together but not together as a couple that we needed to respect eachothers space. He said fine...
When the cops left he locked me out again but didnt hold the door this time but i had my trouble bc my daughter was asleep. When i walked in i didnt looked at him or said a word i went straight to the room to lay down my baby girl and his words to me was..."That's what happens when u leave HORES in ur house! and since i can kick u out well prepare ur self to live with my other women cuz we going to be a big happy family, when i bring her to live in!" That broke my heart in pieces but i manege myself to just laugh so he could hear me laughing and i said FINE good for you...he did tell me other rude things i cant tell u guys here but the point is my kids were listening to all this. I didnt reply anything at all to his stupid anger. I went to sleep and the next morning when he left to work i got up and picked up all my kids clothes toys and mines and left.
Later that afternoon i went back with my cousin and my brother to pick up my brothers TV and i picked up all the things i had for my unborn child. I knowrest he bought himself a cellphone cuz he didnt have and he had broke mines in a fight too...he told me when i finished to leave him the apartments keys so i did...i didnt looked to his face or said a word and left. Two days later he send me a text telling me to save his number incase i needed it one day and that he only wants me to be ok with the belly to sleep and eat well...Next day he sends me a Text with an actitud telling me if i was going to keep the apartment or not cuz he was leaving to the keys to live at the keys. i didnt reply i left me a voice mail telling me to stop acting like a little girl cuz we needed to stay talkign because of the baby we were having together even do we werent together. He also asked me if this was over for good that he needed to know so he could start moving on in his life,that he knows he told me he was sleeping around but that was a lie and that he was sorry. Then his last text said Ima take ur silence as this is really over and im really sorry, but i have a question what u going to tell our son about me when he asks you fom me his father!?"
I mean are u serious!!??? after all this that he told me it was over that he didnt love me anymore, and he was sticking by me bc of the baby and he locked me out twice his going to ask me if its really over I think he really thinks this is a GAME! He has'nt called me or text me anymore and its been 3 days since he called and text me and i moved out on the 18th of this month. What u women mothers would do in my shoes? Would u forgive him and take him back if he comes beggin and saying his sorry? You think would he really would change and grow up?
Im in love with him, I adore this man but i know he has hurt me alot and even my kids, I know its not healthy or good for neither of us neither for the one on the way but i still have hope at the bottom of my heart that i could rescue this relationship. But i think too i should give up n move on alone with my 3 kids at my young age because he wont change and he even might not care at this point and maybe he really doesnt love me cuz if i was him i would be on the door in my knees already! Please help i need advices that helps me make the right choice cuz is enough of making the wrong ones! Thanks