Amanda - posted on 08/05/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )
On friday my husband worked late till 9pm he said on the phone but then i called at 1040pm "where are you?" and he said on the way he will be home in 15min....and hour later he called and said there was an accident and he was coming, but he was slurring...needless to say hhe couldnt tell where he was. he showed up at 1230am with a beer in his hand, saying there was a big accident i thot no wayb at that time of night...maybe im wrong....but i grabbed the beer, chucked it out the door and asked and beggedd him to tell where he had been....i got three different stories, we fought he pushed me on the floor and shook me hard three times down there and then threw meon the couch.....my dad was staying with us for the night as he had worked late too and came running down and stopped him....they talked, we fought, i screemed and cried i am sick of his selfish attitude, i have a 5 week old baby with him and he started drinking more after baby. he said he was sick of me and leaving, then he threatend suicide (for the last thing he could think of to get me to do wat he wants) he had called his sister and her husband, he stayed with them that night. hehad told me to "f" off from the house before he left.
Sat morning he came back and walked in while i was feeding the baby, he said are you leaving or what? i asked what are you doing? he saidit was his house he could come nd go as he pleased....he want up stairs to calm down, and saw my bag was getting packed....i was hoping he would come back and apolligise and we would be all good and i would stay....he got mad another BIG fight that included his sister her hubby and my dad, he left me again saying it was over, and again told me to "f" off from the house...my dad took me to the farm and my husband called that night and asked if he could still come to our daughters baptism the next day i said yes....he had promised on sat before he got mad again and left that he would not drink if i was not there...he showed up at church with wisky on his breath he drank half a bottle that night he told me, i took him aside after church to talk and hoped to work it out...we had a smalll fight his sister again interfeared and they all let me at church he told me to come back if i wanted he would take me (HA!) or dont up to me....i said come and talk to me like a man, and he walked away, i was told by a cop at church to report it and my parents forced me to go talk to the cops, we went back after chruch to the apartment and i packed somemore things cause it wasnt getting better he was still mad, he phomed and said sorry and wait for him to come back he wanted to make up...well he gt back and wasnt into comprimise it was his way or the hiway and he wasnt sorry for pushing me around or drinking after promising,
we fought again a small one he said i was too much trouble and too much wrk and he was going back to fiji...he packed his stuff and was leaving. my dad ended up calling the cops they took our staments adn his keys and sent him to his sisters.
I packed up my stuff and went to the farm.
he called monday night sounding like himself again i think he was drugged on friday.
and said sorry and he would od anything to get us back, he went to talk to pastor and is swearing off drinking for ever and making an oath at church he is getting baptised a christian cause he wants only unity now and will sign a paper that says he will not ever drink, or be ruff with me again, or get to leave and custody of our daughter. and is saying he is sorry and will do everything i want now...and he is.
I dont kno i think he is sincere and will honestly change, and that thikngs can be better then before especially as he decided he wants to be a christian too now. I was just wondering i could get a few opinions form you ladies, if any of you have had that kind of thing happen and they really did change, or wat. I would really like to kno thanks so much
I also believe in second chances i have bee given them - for big things too - and i am not wanting to walk away from the marriage covenant so easily...wat do you ladies think thanks so much