Should i make my 4 yr old share her toys with her lil sister?

Alina - posted on 06/15/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My oldest is 4, and younguest 1, and as soon she sees the lil one taking a toy, she comes and takes it away, even if she is not gonna use it, and im not sure if i should make her share her toys or just let this stage pass....

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Sarah - posted on 06/15/2009

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Hi Alina! my two girls are the same age as yours, and i make sure they share their toys. if my eldest snatches something from my youngest, she's made to give it back and the same the other way. they each have toys which are 'theirs' but in general they share everything. sharing's really important to learn, so i'd try to enforce it if i was you.
good luck! :)

Savannah - posted on 06/15/2009

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Quoting Angie:

Maybe you could try telling your 4 year old she can pick a couple toys of hers that are off limits to the little one but she has to share the rest of them.



I actually agree.  My oldest son has a blankie that he doesn't have to share and my little one has a stuffed puppy that he doesn't have to share.  It seems to make them happier, knowing that they do have something that is "just theirs" and they don't mind sharing the rest of the toys as much.  If they try to steal from each other a lot of times they will just end up trading toys and that will be it.  Good luck!

Angie - posted on 06/15/2009

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Maybe you could try telling your 4 year old she can pick a couple toys of hers that are off limits to the little one but she has to share the rest of them.

App+7mnejhu - posted on 06/15/2009

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I would get the lil one a couple of toys I did that my oldest was the same and when they try to play with it I told them they couldn't unless they were going to share and it worked for them. The important thing is to remind them that its theirs but there's a time to share and play together.

Abby - posted on 06/15/2009

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my step daughter hates it when my son goes ear her toys, so instead of telling her off, we ask her to show him how it works etc and she ends up playing with him x

Alina - posted on 06/15/2009

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thank you Amanda, i will keepon making her then, i just wasnt sure, if it was fair to make her share.. THANK YOU

Amanda - posted on 06/15/2009

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i would say yes. This can instill BAD behavior later that will be hard to break. Sharing is something kids HAVE to learn no matter what. The 4 year old is NOT going to like it but she will learn and as long as you you stick to your guns it shouldnt take long to break the habit of wanting it all . then its smooth sailing from there, just remember once you begin to make her share you have to do it every time not whenever that way they understand "i have to share ALL the time"



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