should i pierce my daughters ears when she's born?

Barbara - posted on 04/26/2011 ( 109 moms have responded )

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I'm wondering if i should pierce my daughters ears when shes born. i don't even know how to go about it though. do they do it at the hospital or do i take her someplace that specializing in piercing? I had my ears pierced before i can remember and i always liked them. or should i wait a few years and let her choose?

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I would never permanently alter my childs body. She has the right to bodily integrity. It is not my place to decide, her body, her choice.

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Personally I think babies with earrings look silly. I allowed my girls to get their ears pierced when they were 13. It was a fun thing to do for their 13th birthday gift and they were old enough to decide whether they wanted it or not. My oldest daughter had problems with the piercings (horrible pain and swelling) so thank God I didn't have it done when she was a baby, it was painful enough for a 13 year old, I can't imagine a baby going through that.

OhJessie - posted on 04/30/2011

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"For those of you who want to talk down to others because of the choices they made/will make; when did their life become yours?"

Bullshit. It's not YOUR life,it's THEIR life. Sure, they're yours for a little while - they're on LEND. At a certain point it becomes THEIR life and THEIR story. Not YOURS. Sure, they're yours for NOW but they won't. always. be.

That's my main objection to mommybloggers - there comes a point where it's THEIR story and not yours to tell. FFS can we respect the privacy of our children or not? My daughter is grown and now it's HER story to tell; it was HER story to tell since a long time ago. Not everything is about YOU. (Again, when I capitalize, I'm not screaming, I'm *emphasizing*.)

Melissa - posted on 04/28/2011

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I used to be really against piercing baby's ears, but then I talked to a woman who actually explained her reasoning to me, and it really changed my mind.

1 - all of the women in her family had their ears pierced as infants, so she almost felt like it was something that was supposed to be done.
2 - as an infant, the cartilage in your ears isn't solidified, it's much softer, and the nerve endings haven't reached the earlobe, so it's nearly painless. much less painful that if it were to be done when she's older
3 - since she's an infant, a newborn, she's not going to be tugging on her ears yet. she can barely find them! it will be up to you to keep her ears clean as they heal (which only takes a couple of weeks)
4 - by the time she's old enough to lose her earings, the holes will be completely healed, so you won't have to worry about them closing up before you can get a replacement stud in there
5 - they make studs especially for babies with soft backing, so you don't have to worry about her rolling over and sticking herself with her own earring
6 - this one is a bit trivial, but you won't have to worry about anyone mistaking her for a boy!

ultimately the decision is yours, no one can tell you otherwise. i hope i was able to help a bit :0)

Tyrae - posted on 04/26/2011

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I would wait until she's older and asks for them. My mother got my ears pierced when I was 8 months old and I ended up with so many infections in them (half of it due to metals that I'm allergic to). Truthfully I wish they hadn't been done. It wasn't my choice and I guess back in the 80's people thought it was cute to have babies with pierced ears. It isn't your body to be putting holes in, not to be rude or anything. I just think it should be her decision what happens with her body.

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Jessica - posted on 05/04/2011

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We had my daughter's ears pierced when she was 10 months old. We never had a single problem. She cried for all of 30 seconds after having them done. She is now almost 3 years old and she loves her earrings! Do what you feel is right.

Emily - posted on 05/04/2011

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I remember like it was yesterday the anticipation of getting my ears pierced. My mom promised me that I could get them done when I was 12, and I counted down the days, months, years until I got there. Then my mom took me to get a birthday haircut on my 11th birthday and surprised me by offering to get my ears pierced! I was so excited, and it is a mother daughter moment I will never forget. For that reason, if I have a daughter I think I will wait so we can share the experience. But many friends of mine have had their ears pierced from birth and never had any problems.

Hillary - posted on 05/04/2011

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I've had my ears pierced since I was a baby. I think I was about 4 months old when I had them done by my pediatrician. I never had any problems with them and until I was older...around 8 or 9...my mom just kept small silver or gold studs in them. I can tell you this...I've had my ears pierced 3 other times as I got older and every one of these secondary holes seemed very prone to infection, so much so that I eventually just took them out so I wouldn't have to deal with it. My first holes, however, never seem to get infected even until this day. I usually wear small earrings all the time and rarely change them out unless I'm changing them out for a special occasion.

I didn't pierce my daughters ears when she was little but she asked to have them done when she was 6. We did it and then the fiasco began. It was a struggle to clean them properly for 6 weeks and they did end up getting infected and we took them out. Her holes closed up on the bottom but wouldn't you know 2 years later she wanted them done again!? I took her for her birthday (that was an interesting trip!) and 45 crying-filled, back and forth, minutes later, she was done. She says she didn't know what she was getting so worked about since it wasn't that bad after all. LOL. Since she is older, she has done a good job of taking care of them on her own. In retrospect, I should have just had them done when she was a baby. :) I say go for it! :)

Tovah - posted on 05/04/2011

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I've had my ears pierced since I was 6 weeks old. Never had a problem with it. Got my second set of holes when I was 11. Wore earrings in the first set for 12 years and then earrings in the second set for a year. I took both sets of earrings out when I was 13. I didn't want the hassle of finding cute earrings to wear. 12 years later I still have both holes open. I occasionally poke them through just to make sure they stay open...
But I say do it. Seriously. They won't remember anything and as long as you get studs rather than hoops so there's no chance of a little finger getting stuck..
I know if I ever have a little girl I shall be getting her ears pierced. But not at some two-bit place in the mall. I'd take her to get it done in a safe and sterilized environment!

Janit - posted on 05/04/2011

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Yess exactly . I couldnt be as blunt felt a bit mean but this coupled with the health risk . Go you :)

Janit - posted on 05/04/2011

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i have had three kids two of which didnt stop pulling the tag on the belly button when they realised it hurt what happens when your girl if a few months old and feels something in her ear she wants to pull and chances are she will pull. I would advise u leave it, let it be that special thing she gets to have for turning five at least u know she wont pull and rip her ear drum :)

Heather - posted on 05/04/2011

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As far as I know the hospital doesnt do piercing.... I did my daughter (now 2.5 y/o) at 5 and a half weeks old... I had a bottle and paci ready for comfort but she didnt really need it she cried when they pulled on her ear but didnt get anymore upset when they pierced it..... I dont regret doing it so early.... But I made sure I knew the piercing place was good at piercing babies ears... My SIL used to work where I took my daughter so I knew the lady was good at it... One thing to worry about is if they dont pierce it in just the right spot as her ears grow the holes could be off so they pierce a little off center to allow for her growth... A plus is my daughter never fussed with them since they had been in most her life..

Teresa - posted on 05/04/2011

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It is your choice wether to do it or not. You do have to wait until after the 2 month appointment because they need the two serioes hep B shots first. We had our daughters pierced when she was nine weeks old. She didn't cry and they didn't bother her at all. She 10 months old now and probably doesn't even know they are there. You can get them done in some pediatricians offices...most recently I saw an advertisement in a Target Minute Clinic.

To each their own...you can judge me if you want. It's done and if my daughter hates them, she can take them out when she gets older.

Toni - posted on 05/04/2011

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@Vicki Wroe...Exactly! I get so irritated when I see babies with their ears pierced! Gets to me! They are not play toys and we should not feel compelled to make them "look cute" They are cute enough all by themselves!
Again, however, that is just MY opinion. ;)

Kristen - posted on 05/03/2011

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it took me a long time to make this decision too I thought about it from the time she was born and then at 6 months I was at the mall and jsut went for it... I was worried how people would judge me I look young although Im 25 people always think of me as a teen mom and I feel that getting her ear pierced would make people think that even more.. but im happy I did it.. she doesnt mess with them they havnt gotten infected.. I would reccomend H2ocean for cleaning them it makes it much easier and they dont have to stay still....but like I said I wouldnt change a thing I love her earings and so does she and I no longer have to hear people say my son is cute... even though she is always in pink and a dress I guess some people just dont get it...

also she cried maybe 5 mins till we went to the shoe store and she got to pick some new shoes out.. lol then it was over with and we went on with our lives..

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I chose to wait for my daughter to ask but if you do choose to get it done, get it done by a professional. Don't go to the mall. They use piercing guns and teenagers are the ones doing the piercings.

Also, don't take the earrings out for a long time... I never had any reaction to earrings before I lost mine and was too lazy to go get new ones... Now I have to wear special earrings.

Jay - posted on 05/03/2011

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@ amy
I think Alison meant she had to wait until after 2 doses of hep B to get her daughters ears pierced. x
I think its up to you hun, my mum got mine and my twin sisters done at 12 months and we love them, and as I said before, I have such a fear of needles now I am glad I had them done years ago before the phobia got so bad because I love wearing ear rings. But its up to you, not all mothers agree with getting babies ears pierced but some mums dont leave the house for 6 weeks, breast feed, bottle feed, vaccinate, dont vaccinate, use washable diapers...... so many things other mums wont agree about but its all up to you! xxxx

Vicki - posted on 05/03/2011

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to be honest this is 1 thing that really gets my goat.

Why do mother's feel the need 2 pierce their babies ears?! They don't need to make them look cute, babies are not accessories for us to decorate!!!

I can only imagine the pain/shock it would cause a newborn by shooting earrings through her tiny ear lobes!!

Kelly - posted on 05/03/2011

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I would never modify my child's body against their consent unless it was for something life threatening. I think my hubby and I did a pretty good job with our creation, but if mine wants to alter that, he can do so when he's old enough to go ahead and do it.

Jenn - posted on 05/03/2011

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Please let her choose.My parents got mine done when I was a baby.As I got older they found out I was allergic to nickel.So I couldent wear the cheap earrings an some of them were cute.I refuse to pay more than 10dollars for earrings.In a way I wish my mom didnt get my ears pierced.Now that I have a daughter I decided to wait until she ask to get her ears pierced this way its her body her decision.

Crystal - posted on 05/03/2011

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I had all mine done after their six week check, it's easier when their their babies then when their older xPost a reply!

Alison - posted on 05/03/2011

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I personally, would wait until baby girl has a chance to give input. That will make it a little more special, as well as insure that it won't need done again at a later time. (I've heard of them pulling at them, causing ripping and infection if done too early) :/ Good luck! :)

Katie - posted on 05/03/2011

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I don't know how it works where you are, but in Ontario we have to wait until she's had her first set of vaccines (2 months). Some people say yes, do it early, some people think it should be up to the baby. You decide what you think will be best for you and your daughter!

Amy - posted on 05/03/2011

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it's totally up to you, but i keep thinking it's not comfortable to sleep on [i have to take mine out at night to sleep well] and i'd rather have my little lady sleep well than look cute!!

My oldest daughter is 4 and is such a tomboy i'm glad i didn't get hers done. it's just one more thing to lose/spend money on/get infected.

um, alison....i'm confused. You HAD to get their ears pierced to get a hep B shot? Huh?

Alison - posted on 05/03/2011

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I got my daughters ears peireced at 2 months bc they required to have 2 dosage of the hep b shot

Charlotte - posted on 05/03/2011

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Me and my daughter are allregic to anything that is not 14k gold or higher. It is very hard to find earrings for piercing that are all 100% 14k, they will tell you they are, but the post or the back won't be. We even tried Titanium, my daughter ear had a knot on the back that didn't go away for months, She is 6 and does not want her ears pierced, she remembers the pain, after trying 2 times, we did it at 2 months they were very infected, ear turned black around it. Waited till she was 4, and she got the knot. The ear doctor she was seeing said she might not be able to have earrings. I am not getting my newborn's ears pierced either. I will wait till about 12 and hope with age they will be able to wear some kind of earring.

Amanda - posted on 05/03/2011

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When I had my daughter, Evelynn, who is now 14 months, my mother-in-law would ask me all the time when I was going to get her ears pierced. I would tell her everytime that it's not my body. What if she doesn't want her ears pierced? It is her choice. If Evelynn asks me to get them done then that is something we can do together. I look at it this way.... If they have an ear infection, they pull on their ears. What if it gets caught on a blanket while they are sleeping? Do I really want to clean a NB ear piercings on top of everything else? And what if she is allergic? Why not wait and let that be the first step of responsablity that you teach her? She will probably enjoy the cleaning and buying her first new set because it will be something that is important to her!! Plus, it will be a memory that she will have forever of the two of you! I had mine done when I was 3 and I still remember it! Good luck on your choice! Just think wisely about what is best for your little girl and whatever you decided will be right!

Jennifer - posted on 05/02/2011

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It depends on whether or not YOU are willing and have the time to take care of them. They will NOT do it at the hospital ..in fact they wont even clip nails at the hospital as it is considered a surgical procedure. Yea..I Said it..surgical ..think about it. 1. Do you want to put your daughter through the pain, and 2. Are you able to care for them properly among other things?

Angie - posted on 05/02/2011

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I don't mean to come across as judgemental, but why inflict pain on your baby for a single second longer than necessary? Vaccines are one thing, but I think it's kind of messed up to inflict that on your baby because you think it's cute. She may want them later, but at that point at least you can discuss that it will hurt and she can make that decision.

Sonya - posted on 05/02/2011

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Well I think you maybe should wait until she's about 5 or 6 months old. When they pierce their ears, they make sure the ear lobe is big enough, but if its not, then they wont let you. My daughter was 5 almost 6 months when I got hers pierced and she's 15 months old now. She likes to play with her earrings, but I have always told her not to since they've been pierced and now she doesnt bother them at all. Her ears havent been infected, red, sore, or anything.I keep her ears clean everyday, twice a day to prevent them from getting infected.

Toni - posted on 05/02/2011

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@ Jennifer Lot
Precisely! I am not here to judge, that is just my opinion. You have yours, I have mine.

Toni - posted on 05/02/2011

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I agree with you Ohjessie! It is theirs! And I was also 13, and it was my decision, and a birthday present too. :)

Sarah - posted on 05/02/2011

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Tammy with my 2nd daughter we had an issue with one of the chicks not listening about which mark to use. She ended up with one where it should be and one farther back where you would do a 2nd piercing. We just left them and when we had them done a 2nd time, we had them pierce one in front and one farther back so that both piercings looked even like they were supposed to.

Barbara- be prepared for those types of situations also if you get them done; it happens. Or sometimes the child will move their head slightly; this can happen at any age though!!!

Tammy - posted on 05/02/2011

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I also paid extra for medical grade plastic. She hardly cried, like 30 seconds......

Tammy - posted on 05/02/2011

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I had my little girls done about a week ago. I loved them as soon as they put them in. Only problem was that I should have made them remark them. They did both ears at the same time, but I heard the girls saying to use this mark, not the other mark, and they ended up doing one of them pointing down instead of straight in, making them not match. I paid a fair amount to have it done, so now I had to take the odd one out and have it redone in 2 weeks. They are almost already pierced. It is your own decision. Nobody can make it for you. My husband didn't want them done, keeps teasing me about them, but I wouldn't have done it any different (other than making them remark.) She was 9 weeks old, just had her 2 month needles. Here, they don't do it in the doctor's office. I took her to Ardene's in the mall. Better than the hairdressers.

Sarah - posted on 05/02/2011

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I have 3 girls and they all their ears pierced; twice actually. I got them all done before a year (9 months, 6 months, and 3 months I believe) I went to Claire's for all 3. My oldest decided she wanted hers done a 2nd time so I did the younger 2 at the same time. I figured they'd probably want them done eventually since older sister has them so I just wanted to get it done and over with. My girls all love their earrings; they get to help pick what we buy and pick ones to wear that match their clothes. (They are 7, 4, & 3 right now) I figure if at some point they decide they don't like them anymore, they can always take them out. The holes will most likely close and even if they don't, it's not really noticable. I don't regret getting them done young; I actually thought it was easier than when they know they're there. They didn't mess with them and I didn't have to listen to whining about wanting to change them. Since they have to wear the same ones for 6 weeks, my eldest got mad because they didn't match her outfit!! Plus all my girls were totally bald as babies and that way people could tell they were girls! LOL. It's completely your choice; I've never heard of a hospital doing it. If you don't do it at an age where she won't remember the pain and can't mess with them, be careful about what age you do have it done. Good Luck.

Jennifer - posted on 05/02/2011

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I did my daughters when she was 2. She picked her earings and said thankyou to the woman that did it. no crying(Im pretty sure she was trying to prove she was a big girl) I didnt do hers younger because I didnt like the idea of her having to sleep on them and not knowing why it hurts when she turns her head.

Medic - posted on 05/02/2011

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@ Toni- then I guess I am not a "good person" but really who are you to judge???

Emma - posted on 05/02/2011

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i would wait until she can decided because from past experience getting them done on a child too young is not good at all my oldest daughter had to have hers removed by the hospital as they got imbedded in her ears the same thing happened to me as well but i was a lot older than her she was only two and i felt so bad about it, with my youngest daughter i am going to wait until shes old enough to decide for herself. hope this helps you.

Jay - posted on 05/02/2011

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Toni - posted on 05/02/2011

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I don't have girls personally, but I will tell you that every time I see a person getting their baby's ears pierced, I think they are not good people. They are knowingly hurting their baby, and for what??Vanity? If I had a girl, I would wait until they were old enough to make the decision themselves. But that is just me. Good Luck!!! :)

Stifler's - posted on 05/02/2011

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P.S I'm quite concerned that there are places that *sterilise* anything. Studs should come out of a packet and so should needles and then the needle gets thrown away. And what's with the "a tattoo parlour is no place for a newborn, take her to the doctor" comment. Tattoo parlours pierce ears alllll the time, doctors do not.

Stifler's - posted on 05/02/2011

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Wait and see if she wants them done. You will have enough other stuff to worry about with a newborn than cleaning piercings.

Tiffany - posted on 05/01/2011

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My mom had my ears pierced when i was 3 months old. You can go to walmart or claires in your local mall. Its going to hurt no matter what age but at 3 months its not going to be traumatizing. They make special earrings for babies that screw on so they dont come out as easily. You are the mom, do what you want to do

Katie - posted on 05/01/2011

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Wait til she asks.....not every girl wants pierced ears. My daughters grandma on her dads side wanted us to pierce her ears as a newborn saying that it doesn't hurt babies. But I've seem babies crying alot from it and I wouldn't wanna put my child pain for something like that

Jessica - posted on 05/01/2011

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See when they did my daughter there were 2 girls one on each side and it was done within seconds and she only cried till I let go of her head and then she was fine and smiling.

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 05/01/2011

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I wanted my ears peirced and got it done for my golden birthday when I was 10. It was special, I remember it hurt so bad it took them like 15 minutes to do the other ear but I got it done and was so excited, I have never regretted this choice so I agree to wait a little while at least. Years even! Let her decide :)

Jessica - posted on 05/01/2011

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Well I don't know about right away when she's born but I got my oldest daughter's ears pierced when she was 5 months old & have never had an issue with them. She was lil & didn't know they were there so she never messed with them & still to this day doesn't even remember them most of them time & she's 5 yrs old. i have a 2 mo old lil girl & I'm gettin her's done at no earlier then 5 months too.

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I guess I'm just wondering why it's that important? Is wearing jewelry so important that you're willing to take the risks (regardless of how small they are)?

And to the lady who said when did your life become ours? I guess it would be when she asked us for our opinions.

Alesha - posted on 05/01/2011

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As a parent of 3 girls. I would advise to wait til she is way older. When your daughter is able to take care of her own ears and know what is going on as well. None of my daughters have their ear pierces. My oldest is 9 now and she doesnt even care about having hers pierced. I think that at that age its not really a good thing to do. Their is many possibilities of getting ear infections and earrings getting pulled out. Just at the age she is at their is many different things you have to worry about when it comes to ear piercings... Wish you luck on whichever way you decide to go

Jay - posted on 05/01/2011

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Mine where done when I was a year old and I was soooo thankful because I loved wearing earings and when I was older loved them too!
But having a fear of needles it tool me years to finally go in and get the second hole put in, I was 19 years old!
So I say do it! but keep tight studs in, my mum washed mine and my twin sisters ears every 4 or so hours during the day, before bed and in the morning.
We didnt get infected or anything..
Got pierced in the mall, like every other age..
TIP: get gold, less chance of infecting x

Tracey - posted on 05/01/2011

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I had my ears peirced when I was 6 months old, and had no problems, no infections and never played or pulled on the earrings, it also didn't matter if the earrings were silver or gold. I got my daughters ears pierced for her first birthday and oh man, a few infections and 10 pairs of earrings later, she's fine lol no infections with the gold earrings and doesn't play with them anymore. Lots of people refuse to pierce under 5s ears but the lady at the Jewllery shop did it for me. If you do it when shes born, she'll grow up with them and think its normal so prob won't have any problem with her pulling on them. And as far as infections go, well it depends on the person. If she doesn't want to wear earrings when shes older then she can take them out. Also when I got my daughter's ears pierced it did not hurt her, she was in a snot coz she had to be held and stay still but that was all.

Maxine - posted on 05/01/2011

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i had my daughters ears pierced at about 6 months and had no problems, even with her teething, just keep them clean and turn them in the bath and its all good

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