should sex education be taught in public schools? why or why not??

Kayla - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 29 moms have responded )

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Sex education should be taught in public schools for many reasons. For instance, if it was still being taught, the rate of STDs and teen pregnancies could be lowered. The students would get the information they need to make informed discussions. Education is the best way to help students to do the right thing. They could also discuss the dangers of STDs and how teens’ getting pregnant at such a young age is very difficult and how it can change their lives forever. The children would also learn about condoms. They would get information about what they are, how they are used, and how they prevent pregnancies, but not STDs. They would also learn about different types of birth control and how it works and where they can get it.
Students aren’t getting the information that they need to from the right sources. Talking to friends isn’t the best way to leant about such important things. Many students don’t know how to prevent catching an STD because the information is no longer available in school. Parents also don’t give this information to their children because of three reasons. One, the Parent doesn’t know how to approach their child about the subject or they don’t know what to say about it. The second reason is that it’s an uncomfortable subject to be talking to their child about. Thirdly, it could be that the parents are too busy with their own daily schedule and they don’t have time to sit down and talk about sex with their child.
If sex education was still being taught in public schools, it would answer a lot of questions the students have about the subject. It would also break the ice with their parents and allow the children to open up about the subject to learn more about it outside of school. They would know that they can go home and talk to their parents or other family members about the subject they want to know more about. Students would also learn about the free clinics in the area that they can go to for help or more information. For example, in my community they have what’s called Prohealth.
Prohealth is a clinic for teens who are embarrassed to talk to their friends and family about sex, STDs, or even pregnancy. There are nice people at Prohealth who keep everything confidential and answer any questions teens may have. Prohealth has all kinds of information that students should know about. They will show teens how condoms work, how they are used properly and how they prevent pregnancies. They highly recommend that teens who are searching for answers wait as long as they can before having sex, but if they don’t wait then Prohealth offers them free condoms and explains to them that it would be in their best interest to use them every time they have intercourse. Then they would give the teen pamphlets with the information they need to know when they leave the clinic.
Now that students aren’t being taught sex education, the pregnancy and STD rate has increased over the years. The children who catch an STD don’t understand how they caught it or who they caught it from. Then, they have questions that won’t be answered because they are too embarrassed to tell anyone about their situation. So they have to live with the STD the rest of their life. As their life goes on, they begin to realize that the STD is never going to go away. They have to live with it. The worst part about having an STD is that they have to tell every partner they are with at the time. Most times when they tell their partner that they have an STD, the partner will go get tested. In many situations the partner leaves because they don’t want to catch it, or they are embarrassed.
In conclusion, if sex education was being taught in public schools these situations could be prevented. They could also be approached differently by the teens. The teen pregnancy rate could be lowered along with the STD rates. Students would be provided with the information they need to prevent getting an STD or getting pregnant at such a young age. They would also learn about many places they can turn to for information or help with any situation they got themselves into. If sex education was being taught, they could open up to their parents about it and receive information from someone they know and are comfortable talking to. I think the school board should put sex education back into public schools so the students have the information available to them and to prevent higher pregnancy and STD rates.

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Alexia - posted on 12/27/2009

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Well they didn't teach it in my school and 30% of the girls have had babies before they turned 21.

Mandy - posted on 12/25/2009

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Quoting Christina:

I believe that Sex Ed is the PARENT'S job!!! Too many parents are leaving it to the school systems anymore and let's face it, the school systems are not giving out ALL of the facts! Schools are not meant to be babysitters or meant to give out information that a parent may feel uncomfortable with, schools are here to teach our children the fundamentals of learning. Sure, it should be taught in schools.. But the PARENTS should be talking to their children BEFORE Sex Ed is brought up in their class. PARENTS need to be MORE involved in their children's lives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



I so much agree to this.....I have a 6yr old little that will soon be 7. Do I think she should know about it right now, "NO." Will I tell her when I think the time is right, "YES!" The parents do need to become more involved with their childrens lives concerning SEX.. I know it may be hard for parents to tell their children about SEX and feeling like after you tell them you giving permission to do it but NO!! Every parent should have a talk and starting at the age of 12.. I know at a local middle school a sixth grader got pregnant and had the baby..That is horrible!! I know that they have these classes in high school where you can get a baby that acts real and monitored on how well you treat them.. Well I believe they should start taking these classes starting at 6th-12th grade and it really should be a requirement before graduation..I'm also talking about the boys also,having a baby is fifty/fifty...Parents need to talk to their children before it's to late!!!!!

Sarah - posted on 12/24/2009

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I do agree with having sex education taught in schools,too. The government needs to stop telling the schools that they'll give them government funding for teaching Abstinence only programs- these programs give miss information, no chance to answer questions the children might have, and they tell teachers to say things like "if you have sex...you'll die!!", it's true that this happens.

Sarah - posted on 12/24/2009

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Quoting Christina:

I believe that Sex Ed is the PARENT'S job!!! Too many parents are leaving it to the school systems anymore and let's face it, the school systems are not giving out ALL of the facts! Schools are not meant to be babysitters or meant to give out information that a parent may feel uncomfortable with, schools are here to teach our children the fundamentals of learning. Sure, it should be taught in schools.. But the PARENTS should be talking to their children BEFORE Sex Ed is brought up in their class. PARENTS need to be MORE involved in their children's lives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



I totally agree!! My daughter will be 10 in a few weeks. I have been talking to her since she was three about age appropriate things- touching, body parts, differences, and etc. As parents we need to have tons of little talks with our children as their growing up. Not when their 15 and probably already had sex. My mother never really talked to me, other than trying while she was taking a bath (my mother did work ALL the time, to support us) and what kid isn't going to tune you out under that situation. I got pregnant at 16 and had my daughter a few weeks after turning 17. I'm a big believer on educating our children for the real world. If you talk to your child from the start you'll have more influence on what they do as teens. I have a friend who says "oh they'll drink and have sex anyway", uh NO. I know friends who waited, due to the information, respect and love of/from their parents.

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User - posted on 12/27/2009

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I have a bit of an issue with parents who say that abstinence education is unreasonable and then go on to attribute it to oppressive religious beliefs. It is my personal belief that both scientific/traditional sex education should be taught jointly with abstinence education. I am a mother of a 5 year old daughter, and expecting my second, and I fully plan to teach them that while they probably won't wait until they are married, they need to love and cherish their bodies, and wait until they are older to understand the emotions that come with making that choice. They also need to know that the younger they are when they have sex the more unenjoyable it will be. A 13-15 year old boy (and sometimes even older) is obviously too selfish and eager to care about the experience of his partner. The mass media is flooding young people with the stupid and convoluted idea that sex is this glamorous thing when it happens in high school. They should be taught to wait until they find a person who loves, cherishes and respects them. We all know that MOST girls choose to have sex at a younger age because they feel it is expected of them, not because they genuinely care about the person they are doing it with. A school couldn't possibly teach this and a parent must find the time to do so.

Laura - posted on 12/27/2009

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I'm a little torn on this idea. I believe it's be the parent's responsibility to talk with their kids about it however there are lots of parents that won't and don't talk to their kids about it at all. My parents never talked to me about it but I did know and understand the basics that sex causes pregnancy and STDs but much beyond that I was clueless. I saw lots of kids getting pregnant when I was in Jr High and knew I didn't want that and managed to keep my virginity until after I graduated HS. My older sister had to explain a lot of things to me (oral sex, blow jobs, terminology like boner and the like) and her friends explained it to her.

However on the other hand if sex ed is taught in school I think that they should get permission from the parents to allow the child to attend and then that would open the door for the parents to start the discussion with their children on their own if they so choose. I think sex ed videos should not only include stuff about condemns, contraceptives, and STDs and the general idea of sex but should also include documentaries of others that became pregnant very young (13-17) and how that effected them and their life and what it is like when you are a mom at such a young age and also include people that have gotten pregnant at such young ages and had abortions or miscarriages and how that effected them as well.

C. - posted on 12/26/2009

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Quoting Sabrina:

I strongly believe that they should still teach sex ed in Public schools. Children and teens need to learn the facts about sex, etc... Think about it like this. Their parents may not be comfortable enough to talk to them about it or it is a forbidden topic. And asking their friends about sexual topics is not good either cause their friends may have not clue what they are talking about. It should not be uncomfortable to talk about. The more that children and teenagers know, the better.


I'm sorry.. But knowing that a baby is going to grow up into a child, teenager and later an adult.. As a parent, you should KNOW that you need to talk to your children about sex and other serious issues. That's what being a parent is!!!!!! If you didn't want to do the job, you shouldn't have become a parent at all! Plain and simple. Sometimes parents have to do something they aren't fully comfortable with.. It's a new experience being a parent with a child of any age, but it's detrimental for the parents to talk to their children. Our children need to know that we love them and respect them enough to talk to them about sex!!!!!

Malissa - posted on 12/26/2009

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I'm not entirely certain where your from, (I'm assuming it's somewhere in America) but I know around here (Ontario, Canada) they teach various forms of sex-ed in both the public and separate school systems (I went to Catholic elementary schools, and a public high school) and it wasn't just abstinence either, they covered everything. I believe it should be taught in school but it isn't going to have much of an effect unless parents are involved, supportive, and respectful to their children with this subject and all other aspects of their lives. Growing up, if a child has the right support, they learn confidence and respect towards themselves and others, then even though the peer pressure is there, the child will be a little more resilient to it.
I know there are some parents who don't want it taught for religious reasons, but parents seem to forget that our children are more than that, they're people with opinions too. Just because someone is raised with certain beliefs it doesn't mean that person will agree with those beliefs for their whole lives. I was raised Roman Catholic, I was Baptized and Confirmed when I was younger but as I grew up and learned more of the world I realized that I truly didn't believe in it, it didn't mesh with who I was, so now I consider myself an agnostic of sorts.I'm not saying that's going to be the case with everyone but it is a possibility and parents should be willing to "cover all bases" because you never know after all they say an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and I truly believe that.
Just my thoughts on the matter (as scattered as they may be...) either way good topic thanks for the opportunity to share :)

Charlie - posted on 12/26/2009

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YES , absolutely the more education on the matter the better obviously some parents are NOT teaching their children sex ed and while i do not think it should be solely left to schools to teach it and parents SHOULD step up unfortunately that isn't happening and children are left uneducated and pregnant or worse end up with life long STD's .

Sex education is a must from both schools AND parents , luckily in Australia we have a great program but like most school programs it could be improved .

Michelle - posted on 12/26/2009

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OMG yes!!!!!!! Abstinence is an unreasonable thing to teach kids... It's just not going to happen. It's so much better to teach kids that abstinence is best, but if you can't do that, you should know how to have sex safely. It's so much better to teach responsibility. It's so important to teach kids this.... And if my son's school won't tell him, I'll suck it up, embarrass both of us, and teach him. I don't want to be a grandma in 15 years, and I don't want my son to wind up with an STD that he'd have to deal with for the rest of his life. He shouldn't have lifelong regrets because his schools AND his parents failed him.

Jayla - posted on 12/26/2009

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As an educator, I believe that Sex-Ed should be taught in school, however it needs to be taught at home also. The parents can not place all Sex-Ed on the schools. We as parents and educators can prevent the rise of STD's, and pregnancies in school and for teens at a young age. Not by having sex-ed classes while they are already in high school and most likely already engaging in sexual activities, we need to get to them while they are in middle school. i have 2 nieces age's 13 and one of them is already sexually active and the other doesn't really care right now. The one that is, she has been active since the age of 11. Her parents are in denial of the situation and she wasn't suppose to have her first sex-ed class until the 9th grade. By that time, she either would have ended up pregnant or with a std that she wouldn't be able to get rid of. Sex-Ed classes need to focus on heterosexual activity as well as homosexual activity. It amazes me the amount of my students and adults who think or once thought that oral sex and anal wasn't sex. Had one student to tell me that she got pregnant from just having anal sex with her boyfriend. They had anal sex because they thought she couldn't get pregnant that way. Everything needs to be covered in these classes as well as by parents or other family members or community members if the parents arent taking a stand to help their children and community. Its not just on the educators or the parents, this is a community effort.

Eyvonne - posted on 12/26/2009

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Yes, because teen moms r on the rise, how can u prevent something from happening, wether it be diseases, pregnancies, and protecting ur self if u dont have the knowledge.

Sabrina - posted on 12/26/2009

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I strongly believe that they should still teach sex ed in Public schools. Children and teens need to learn the facts about sex, etc... Think about it like this. Their parents may not be comfortable enough to talk to them about it or it is a forbidden topic. And asking their friends about sexual topics is not good either cause their friends may have not clue what they are talking about. It should not be uncomfortable to talk about. The more that children and teenagers know, the better.

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Sex ed and Puberty are taught in schools in NZ.

My sister is 18 and was never given the sex talk to by my parents and she is 18 and pregnant.

Back in my Grandparents day, it wasn't frowned upon if you were 17/18 and pregnant but now days ur looked down upon if you are. My best friend at high school fell pregnant when she was 18. It was planned. She got alot of filthy looks too.

Tamika - posted on 12/25/2009

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I agree that sex ed should be taught in schoool, but it should be taught at home first. I am 27 and I had sex ed in school. But I got my first sex ed lesson the day I got my first period. I came home and my mom pulled out the medical reference book and showed my the difference between the male and female anatomy. She explain the reproductive system and how it works for both male and female.she taught me about STD's and birth control, and even pregnacy and birth. I was 9 when I got my first period and in the 10th 3rd and 4th semister when i got to sex ed class. A lot of kids were having sex already by the time they got to sex ed, as a matter a fact my best friend was 5 months pregnant in our sex ed class. Its not the governments nor is it the teachers responsibility to teach our children about thier bodies. That is our job and as long as we rely on sex ed classes teen pregnancy,STDs and AIDS/HIV will continue to increase.



Teen pregnacy is not always becasue of miseducation. I had my first at 19 because my sons sperm donar put a hole in the comdom.

Medic - posted on 12/25/2009

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sex education is still taught in schools, atleast where i live, but i remember being a teenager and teens arnt stupid...they know how they are getting pregnant, getting std's and what can happen, its not like its a great secret they arnt being told. i think the problem is that teens dont have anything constructive to do and parents are not as involved in general so the teens have more time to do whatever they want. so i think it should be taught for those that have questions and for those that will talk to their parents it gives a nice way to start a convo...ie...at school today we learned.....

Dalal - posted on 12/24/2009

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i think that sex ed should be taught in school only because children are starting to do things at younger ages with out parents knowing. i may be out of place for saying this but i think that those parents that are concerend about the sex ed teachings should be the ones that attend the classes with their child.

Tiffany - posted on 12/24/2009

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I think as parents we have to step up and talk to our children about sex, drugs, morals, values, etc. My mother bounced around the subject of sex with me because she was uncomfortable and I vowed to never be that way. When my children are old enough we will begin our sex talks and I plan on informing them in every way possible about safe sex, std's, pregnancy, etc. etc. etc. I want them to feel comfortable enough to talk to me and do not planning on just telling them not to have sex(which doesn't work). I want them to be able to make an informed decision and know how to protect themselves when the time comes.



As for school, I want them to be on board with me and helping to inform my children as well. We live in Georgia and the schools teach abstinence only sex education and I am 100% against that. Why tell them just don't do it and leave it at that? They will do it if they want to. Studies have shown pregnancy & STD rates are higher amongst teens that got abstinence only education, whereas the rates start to drop when kids are in informative sex eduation. The people that are saying it's not the schools job to teach our children are forgetting that we intrust our children to them for 7 or 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, 180-220 days a year. They ARE suppose to teach our children too.

C. - posted on 12/24/2009

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Quoting Jamie:

Hell yes, obviously parents arent teaching their kids about sex at home since girls are getting pregnant younger and younger.


Taking away the parent's responsibility completely isn't going to help matters. Parents need to talk to their children about certain things, and sex should be one of them. If you are not the one talking to your child about such important issues, then you start to lose that bond. every parent should be able to talk to their child about ANYTHING w/o feeling embarrassed. If parents did not want this responsibility, then they should not have become parents at all. WE, the PARENTS, are here to raise our children, NOT THE SCHOOLS!!!!!

C. - posted on 12/24/2009

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I believe that Sex Ed is the PARENT'S job!!! Too many parents are leaving it to the school systems anymore and let's face it, the school systems are not giving out ALL of the facts! Schools are not meant to be babysitters or meant to give out information that a parent may feel uncomfortable with, schools are here to teach our children the fundamentals of learning. Sure, it should be taught in schools.. But the PARENTS should be talking to their children BEFORE Sex Ed is brought up in their class. PARENTS need to be MORE involved in their children's lives!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Quoting Ashley:

To be fair, girls are getting pregnant at an OLDER age. Not a hundred years ago were 13 year old girls married off to 20-something men and having babies. While society has changed, biology has not. The influence of religion and the shame it bestows on sexuality and the human body has caused a bit of ignorant parenting...people want to act like it won't happen, but then it does. I spend a lot of time on YAnswers and you wouldn't believe how many "Can you get pregnant by...?" questions come up in the pregnancy section. Most of the time, the deed wasn't even done, but these girls AND BOYS are freaking out because of some extremely minor foreplay and thinking they may've conceived off of it. I don't agree with teenagers having sex, but I do think it's important to give them the resources and knowledge to make the decision responsibly.



The getting pregnant later thing also has to do with how much longer we live now, which has created a social construct of children and adolescence that did not exist. It began around the Victorian era and has grown stronger since-and it's reflected in everything from the marketing of children's literature to our current ideas about teen pregnancy. However, I don't think that's a sound reason not to want to cut down on teen pregnancy-our forefathers did a lot of things I wouldn't personally want to do. Sex education would help eliminate some of those pesky rumors like "hot tubs are the idea temperature for sperm to survive, so you can get pregnant in a hot tub without having sex" or some such b.s. It's been shown that teens who are taught abstinence only are less likely to have and use protection because they don't expect to have sex and they think that if they do, nothing will happen to them. Teens who are education about protection and the consequences of unprotected sex are more likely to have protected sex. And I'd love to leave it all to parents but, like so many other things, it's increasingly obvious that not all parents are educating their children on the subject of sex.

Ashley - posted on 12/23/2009

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To be fair, girls are getting pregnant at an OLDER age. Not a hundred years ago were 13 year old girls married off to 20-something men and having babies. While society has changed, biology has not. The influence of religion and the shame it bestows on sexuality and the human body has caused a bit of ignorant parenting...people want to act like it won't happen, but then it does. I spend a lot of time on YAnswers and you wouldn't believe how many "Can you get pregnant by...?" questions come up in the pregnancy section. Most of the time, the deed wasn't even done, but these girls AND BOYS are freaking out because of some extremely minor foreplay and thinking they may've conceived off of it. I don't agree with teenagers having sex, but I do think it's important to give them the resources and knowledge to make the decision responsibly.

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I think it should definitely be taught in schools-and I think that the numbers on the "effectiveness" of abstinence-only education versus actual sex education show that teens who have had sex education are more likely to use protection, thus less likely to end up pregnant or with STDs.

Jamie - posted on 12/23/2009

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Hell yes, obviously parents arent teaching their kids about sex at home since girls are getting pregnant younger and younger.

Julie - posted on 12/23/2009

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If a parent don't have time to sit and have a serious talk with their child about a very important topic in life, then those people should not be having children. This is a conversation that could be talked about in the car or over dinner.
Where I live we have a place called Planned Parenthood and teenagers can go there without a parent and get condoms, birth control, yearly exams, ect.......
When I was in high school we had a sex ed class and us teenagers thought of it as a joke. When I was 16, I had my first child and there were quit a few others in my class that were also pregnant. I don't believe that having a sex class in school matters.
Not trying to offend anyone!!!!

Stephanie - posted on 12/23/2009

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I'm not saying that sex ed shouldn't be taught in schools, but I do agree with what Julie says. It seems like A LOT of parents are leaving it up to every body else to teach their children. I think if neither parent has a small amount of time to sit down with their kid because they have a "busy schedule" then that is definitely a problem. No one works 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Maybe the increase in pregnancies & stds stems from the changes in parenting styles therefore changes in children's behavior over the years & not from a lack of sex ed.

With that being said, I think teenagers are at a point in their life where they would take the advice from a source other than a parent which is why sex ed in school might be a good idea. I doubt as a teenager than he/she would know 100% nothing about sex. Abstinence is a great thought & all, but it doesn't always seem realistic. They say people are having unplanned kids at younger ages so in order to prevent this why isn't birth control more affordable?

Bonnie - posted on 12/23/2009

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I think it should be taught so that kids can learn about the various things that could come from having sex. However I don't think that parents should expect the school to take over on teaching children about sex. I think parents should still have "the talk" with their children

Kayla - posted on 12/23/2009

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i understand your point of view about it, but theres this little thing called peer pressure...and about how, when, and how to approach the convo with your child there are websites for parents on how to do these things or ask friends and family how they would apporach this situation. but many parents dont have the time to talk to their children about this because their daily life schedual is too busy. if the parents are too busy to talk to their children, where do you think that they will get this info about sex if their parents cant give it to them. how will what resources they have or where they can go to talk about sex if their parents arent around. so I think that certain topics about sex should be taught in public schools. but you cant just look at the negative view about sex ed in schools you have to look at the positive as well as the negative.

Julie - posted on 12/23/2009

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I think yes and no.....I don't believe that it will put a decrease in teen pregnancy and/or STD's. There are some parents who don't care and don't have the talk with their teens. Some don't know when to have that talk with their child. Some don't know how to start that conversation with their child. Is there a right and wrong way and/or time to have this conversation with a young adult??????

Everybody is going to have their own opinion on this topic, but I feel that it is that parents responsibility to have the "sex" talk with their own children. We as parents are our child's teachers, not the teachers at school. If more parents would sit down and have this talk with their child then that would leave an open door and the child might be more open to talking with their parents about this.

My oldest son will be 11 in September and will be starting Middle school as well. My husband and I will be sitting down this summer to have this talk and conversation with him. We have an open communication system with our children and tell them they can come and talk to us about anything, and so far it has worked. We are always honest with them and do not lie to them.

This is very touchy and everyone is going to have their own opinion, but come on we as parents have to teach our children, not the teachers.........

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