Dawn - posted on 02/21/2012 ( 112 moms have responded )
I have seen the posts on here and other forums, but I am so torn right now. I have been told that it is "HORRIBLY TACKY" to have another shower regardless of whether or not the second baby is a different sex.
In my case, my son is almost 20 months old, and will be over 2 years old by the time this baby arrives. I did not have any intentions on having any more children anytime soon so I gave stuff away left and right. But alas...I'm pregnant again (can we say whoops!) and I am very happy that I am, but now I kinda left myself stuck. If I have another boy then I will have to buy all new stuff anyway (mostly things like towels, washcloths, MAYBE bedding, clothing for sure). But, if I have a girl, I will need stuff anyway b/c I have nothing for a girl.
So what should I do? I really don't want to be seen as being tacky or without any manners at all, but I would love to celebrate this baby as much as I did with my first. I know it's not about getting things, but i would feel bad for my baby if he/she didn't get the same excitement that my 1st got. I don't need any big items and I would never expect anyone to buy those things...just the necessities like clothing or diapers/wipes, and MAYBE a few toys but we still have quite a few things that my son is getting old for that could be passed down I'm sure.
I have heard of the idea with ppl just bringing diapers and wipes, but would it be acceptable to go ahead and make a registry and say that it's strictly optional? I mean, if someone is that offended by it I guess they don't have to be there if they don't feel it's appropriate, but I would hate to make people upset by the idea.
Any suggestions are wonderful. Thanks everyone =]