Sleep deprivation, any tips?????

Tara - posted on 03/01/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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Any tips on coping with the sleep deprivation? I keep hearing i should sleep when the baby does but after he wakes at about 8am hes awake til about 12 or 1pm & by then there are bottles that need washing & sterilising (im bottle feeding), washing that needs doing because he has run out of vests to wear & i need to eat too! So by the time i've done all that & got some food shopping or paid the bills etc he's awake again.

He generally wants feeding every 3-4 hours but some days i have spent 5 hours just constantly feeding him, usually in the morning or in the evening.

My husband helps when he's home & does his fair share of night feeds when he hasn't got work early the next day but he works shifts so sometimes he's out til 11.30pm & has to be up for work the next day at 6.30am so he has to get some sleep.

My little boy suffers from colic quite freuqently too, and it's usually in the morning or evening again so when im alone it's quite stressful. I've tried a few different colic drops, at the moment he's having gripe water which helps abit.

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Quoting Lauren:

I give my little one Infant's Mylicon drops before each feeding (every 3-4 hours). I also burp her more frequently during feedings. The combination has really helped her.

As for sleeping...I know it's hard to relax when you feel like you have so much to do but remember that not everything has to get done right then. You need to stay healthy in order to care for your little one and that means getting rest. Do you have a bouncy chair? If so, you can take it from room to room and get what you need done. Sometimes just being able to see you is enough for your little one.

Good luck!!


I agree. On an airplane they say in case of an emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself, then help your child. If you don't put the mask on yourself, you might have enough air to help your child. Same thing as sleep...if you don't allow your body to recharge you are less patient, not as quick to react when they're cruisin' all around the house, and if nothing else just plain tired.



Buy a few more bottles so you don't have to wash them in the am for the pm feedings. Let a couple things sit in the sink, it won't kill you. :) Then, put a load in the dishwasher and and go nap with your son. I'm one of the least effiecient people I know and I had three girls 4 yrs and under by the age of 21. I'm pretty much half bear, I growl when I wake up and could hibernate my life away. If I did it, you'll be just fine.

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Samantha - posted on 03/04/2009

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Quoting Amie:



 I became a nibbler of food to help combat the no food thing. When my doctor noticed I was losing too much to fast she asked me if I was eating properly, well obviously not, I only ate when I had a chance to sit and eat. oops. =) So as I said I became a nibbler, when I sat down to feed baby I'd have a little tray of snacks so I could eat while baby ate. I ended up eating healthier this way too. lol! Went through a lot of veggies, fruit, cheese, left over meat cut up in bite size pieces from supper, etc...Even now I'm sitting here munching on rice crackers. lol! The only real meal I eat is supper.


This makes me feel bad... as i type and read im eating Raspberry tartlet biscuits... lol



Jamie - posted on 03/03/2009

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Quoting Lauren:

I give my little one Infant's Mylicon drops before each feeding (every 3-4 hours). I also burp her more frequently during feedings. The combination has really helped her.

As for sleeping...I know it's hard to relax when you feel like you have so much to do but remember that not everything has to get done right then. You need to stay healthy in order to care for your little one and that means getting rest. Do you have a bouncy chair? If so, you can take it from room to room and get what you need done. Sometimes just being able to see you is enough for your little one.

Good luck!!



I have to totally agree with this. This is how I got things done. My baby had colic and I found she loved to glide. I could sit in the glider with her for hours.

Amie - posted on 03/03/2009

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Hi Tara,
I know exactly how you feel. My hubby works shift work too so a consistent schedule is hard to come up with that works for both of you. Especially if they get called in and then there's a kink in the new found schedule. It really is very irritating but know this, as the kids get older it gets easier.
What I did with mine when they were little was get bottles and things washed as they used them, obviously clothes this can't be done with but mine have closets full so laundry was something I could always put off for a couple days and even then I'd throw it in after they were fed and calm then quickly run downstairs throw a load in and come right back up. The feeding schedule as stuff obviously stays the same as baby wants, they gotta eat when they gotta eat. =) I became a nibbler of food to help combat the no food thing. When my doctor noticed I was losing too much to fast she asked me if I was eating properly, well obviously not, I only ate when I had a chance to sit and eat. oops. =) So as I said I became a nibbler, when I sat down to feed baby I'd have a little tray of snacks so I could eat while baby ate. I ended up eating healthier this way too. lol! Went through a lot of veggies, fruit, cheese, left over meat cut up in bite size pieces from supper, etc...Even now I'm sitting here munching on rice crackers. lol! The only real meal I eat is supper. Everyone else gets fed before me which is just how I am about it. The only real problem was the every day cleaning but that I gave up on mostly. I clean when I get to it, if I'm tired I nap with my little ones, if I'm not then I pick up. With 3 kids though people understood and the ones that gave me flack I shut up by reminding them I am not a maid, I am a mother with 3 kids to look after, I'll get to the house when I have time. It's not like the place is a sty and smelly, it's disorganized yes but that comes with kids. Though if they wanted to feel free to come over and help out. =D haha.
When hubby isn't working too it's so much more help. He picks up any slack that I've had to leave and even lets me sleep while taking care of the kids. =) I can't say much about the colic though, none of mine were colicky. Hope it helps though some what.

Michelle - posted on 03/03/2009

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I feel for you, for the first 6 weeks of my daughters life i felt like i had no sleep and my partner also works shifts so i felt like i was doing it alone. With the colic thing i tried loads of different ways but i found this one very affective.

I read that a dummy can relieve colic pains and i didnt want to use one but finally gave i after a few weeks. I lye on my side with my baby in a spoon position holding her tummy with dummy in her mouth and gently rock. She would moan at first but then settled and we would both sleep like that for 4 or 5 hours. Also you mentin that ur baby is feeding alot durin the evening, Colic makes babys feel hungry when there actually not and by feeding you are adding to the colic problem.

Samantha - posted on 03/03/2009

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yeah, at least now you have lots of ideas. Definately try the vest one, it's efficient and lots of fun!!!

Tara - posted on 03/03/2009

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Thanks so much for your advice.

With advice from a midwife i have just started a new day & night routine to try and make things abit easier. We have a proper bedtime routine with a warm bath, a massage, a cuddle & a warm bottle, with lavender oil burning in the room & a few drops on his cot sheets to make him sleepy, then we put him down to sleep at about 11.30pm with lullaby cd playing. Hopefully this will help him sleep better in the long run.



During the day we now keep the place busy, noisy & bright so he knows the difference between night & day.We make sure he doesn't go longer than 4 hours without a feed during the day so he has milk little & often, that way hopefully he will take in enough during the day so he won't wake up as much during the night.



I am going to buy some more bottles, vests & sleepsuits so i don't have to frantically run around washing bottles & doing washing when he's asleep so i can sleep!



Thanks for all your help! :)

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i would suggest getting your naps in with the baby and when the baby is awake strapping on a baby bjorn and getting them done together......

relaxing would help too...its impossible to relax i know but you need to...we never realize how high strung we are those first few months. i suggest warm bath, reading, time without baby even though it is hard.

also i have to agree with everyone on a consistent schedule. my 9 month old goes to bed every night in his bed t 8 and has since week 3. he luckily always slept through the night after that.

gripe water is awesome. have you tried switching formulas? i swear when my daughter was colicky it was a milk allergy and my son it turned out to be reflux even though there was no actual spit up. we put her on similac isomil and him on enfamil a.r. once, we did that they were completely different kids.

Jaime - posted on 03/02/2009

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You need to try to create a CONSISTENT schedule.  My daughter is now 8 months old and she has been on a great schedule since she was about a month old (we also bottle feed).  Feed your son every 4 hours even if he's not showing hunger signs.  This will teach him when to expect feedings and will also build a great trusting relationship between you and your son.  Between feedings make sure you put him down for a nap.  My daughter usually naps about 2 to 2 1/2 hours after every feeding for about 45 minutes.  Just like he needs consistency with feedings he also needs to take regular naps.  Once you've established a good schedule, your son will also probably sleep through the night. 



Try not to sweat the small stuff around the house. It will get done sooner or later.  If you need help, don't be afraid to ask someone like your mom or a friend.  Try to talk to your husband about helping out more when he is home (laundry, bills, dishes, etc).  It isn't healthy for you to be sleep deprived and to feel overwhelmed  - for you OR your baby.  You DO need to take naps and time for yourself.  You need and deserve to have a break now and then.  This will make you a better mom! 



As far as the colic, I would recommend looking into switching formulas if necessary (I've used a soy since she was a week old), maybe using Mylicon before feedings, and frequent burping while feeding.  Also, try to keep him upright for about 15 minutes after he eats.  If it is a real problem, talk to your pediatrician. 



Best of luck to you! :)

Maria Eugenia - posted on 03/01/2009

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Your baby is only 1 month old? That would be very difficult and even worse if you have more kids. Both of my girls gave me a hard time the first few months especially my oldest one. After the 4th month or so they easily fell into a schedule on their own. My last baby had some problems with colic and believe or not the only thing that worked for me was to give her either chamomile tea, or anise tea, or both. I just boiled a tea bag or the anise seed with a tiny bit of sugar and gave her about an oz. when she seem to be too uncomfortable. I know a lot of people think that you can not give babies anything other than the breast milk or the formula. I did this with both of my girls and they are both fine. My mom gave me the advice and, you know, those old home remedies DO WORK! Perhaps you will consider giving it a try.



Take it easy though, if you need to pospone some chores for one day just so you get some sleep, it will be worth it. You want to remain sane =).... Good Luck!!



Ahhh..... I strogly recommend a book called "Healthy sleep habits, happy child" by Marc Weissbluth,M.D. My husband and I have learned so much from it. It had even helped us solve some issues with my 4 year old. She did not sleep throught the night until she was about 3 and I got my 6 month old sleeping throught the night for over 2 months now. Very helpful!!!!

Renee - posted on 03/01/2009

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yeah i know my son started teething at 5 weeks that's why i needed to find something natural cause i didnt want to give him medicine if i could help it! they are tiny and dissolve instantlly so no risk of choking or swallowing. yeah they are worth the lack of sleep! it's hard but the reward is definitley great!



 

Jamie - posted on 03/01/2009

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I use medijel & thats great but you can only use it every 4-5 hours. Its very difficult to give her teething medication as shes so young but i just use the medijel & kids panadol & give her lots of cuddles. Lack of sleep doesnt bother me so much anymore coz i know its all for a good reason & shes so worth it

Renee - posted on 03/01/2009

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Hey Jamie



just letting u know the only thing i found helpful for my son when he was teething was teething tablets. You get them from the chemist they are 100% natural so can be used from any age. they are in a small white bottle with a blue and pink label. if u ask at the chemist they will know. They are on the shlef with all the other teething gels and stuff. but they are little tablets that dissolve instantly when put in the mouth and if ou rub one over there gums it gives them almost instant relief! do this regularly to help relieve there pain.I have told 5 of my friends about them and they all swear by them and reccomend them to others!



good luck!



 

Samantha - posted on 03/01/2009

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You know you cant take it away and if you could you would. So the next best thing is to sooth them with panadol, cuddles, kisses and anything else that will relieve them. It's the best you can do in such a horrible time. But it gets better when you see that chomper come through you'll love it and so will they.

Jamie - posted on 03/01/2009

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Well as they say, your childs pain is your pain! You kinda feel helpless coz you can't take their pain away

Samantha - posted on 03/01/2009

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i know how you feel Jamie, my son was 2 months when he started to teeth. Now he's 14 months and he has a mouth full. But i just remind myself that its as hard on them as it is on us.

Jamie - posted on 03/01/2009

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I have a 7 week old whos just started teething so believe me, i know where your coming from with the lack of sleep. Everyone is different but with me, i pay bills once a week, steralise bottles at night time when my partner can look after bubs & with washing clothes or chores, i do it all in the morning so when it gets to the afternoon, my partner is home & i can go for a sleep while he looks after my daughter. Good luck

Samantha - posted on 03/01/2009

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when james was little we went to the doctors for a check up and he said just get through the first three month and all that is REALLY necessary is being fed. He said do what you have to do to get through it coz it is really hard work. Whether it's drops for colic, settling him a certain way or just leaving not important things for a day when you had better sleep the night before (which can involve wearing the same tshirt or pants for several days in a row) but you are just so tired you dont care. For us it was our family. They were everything. If you dont have the option of family maybe putting you son/daughter in childcare for one day just so you can get some sleep and work done. It is so hard to let them go for the first time, believe me, i just did it with my son and it was hard but when you get them back you feel like a new person and ready to go again.
good luck.

Renee - posted on 03/01/2009

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hey
sorry i dont want you to feel like there is a magic bullet, but sleep deprivation is just part and parcel of being a parent! i'm, a single parent and my son woke up every 3 hours for a feed and then took and hour after that to go back to sleep.  He is 3 and half now and has only just started sleeping more than 5 hours at a time. Some kids sleep and others dont! All you can do is try different things, and try to catch even a 15 minute nap if you can, you would be suprised how much more refreshed you feel even if you havent had a full and proper sleep. every little bit helps. He also had really bad colic and the only drops that worked for him were infacol wind drops. it's in a bottle with a yellow label!

Leron - posted on 03/01/2009

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What we did with our son was my husband took every third night so i could get a full nights sleep. It really helped to keep me from getting too tired. What about using the liners for bottles. Atleast for those stressful days...it also might help with the gassiness too.

Lauren - posted on 03/01/2009

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I give my little one Infant's Mylicon drops before each feeding (every 3-4 hours). I also burp her more frequently during feedings. The combination has really helped her.



As for sleeping...I know it's hard to relax when you feel like you have so much to do but remember that not everything has to get done right then. You need to stay healthy in order to care for your little one and that means getting rest. Do you have a bouncy chair? If so, you can take it from room to room and get what you need done. Sometimes just being able to see you is enough for your little one.



Good luck!!

Jen - posted on 03/01/2009

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I recommend a schedule. Same wake time every day (I do 7am). Have a feeding, then play for anhour, then back to nap. The cycle continues every 3 hours during the day. You'll get one out of every three hours to yourself while baby naps. Like we say, "Nap is not optional!" Soon your baby will follow the schedule withour promting. Luck!

Lesley - posted on 03/01/2009

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I haven't tried this and I would def ask your pediatrician but I was at gnc the other day and they recommended aloe vera juice. Apparently just a few drops works great.

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