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Gretchen - posted on 06/30/2010 ( 103 moms have responded )

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my son is a month old and does not sleep unless he is with me. is this normal, and how should i get to sleep in his crib. the doctor said to let him cry himself to sleep, i tried and after about 2 min i picked him up. i could let him cry, it mad me feel so bad. what should i do?

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Jennifer - posted on 06/30/2010

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he's only a month old! he had you for nine months and he's still getting adjusted to the world, he needs you. letting him cry himself to sleep at such a young age will be very traumatic for him. he needs to know that he can count on you to respond to his needs, not ignore them.

try swaddling him, rocking him to sleep and then setting him in his crib. the idea is to very gently get him used to sleeping in his crib and the swaddling will help make him feel not as vulnerable. as he gets older, and more comfortable sleeping in his crib you will be able to start setting him in his crib while he drowsy, but still awake but for now you need to take it one step at a time. he will get there you just need to be patient about it. enjoy this time when he needs you to cuddle him, it is the shortest period in his life and you will miss it when he's older :)

Erica - posted on 07/05/2010

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never never never let him cry it out, crying is a distress signal, a month old is NOT capable of self soothing, he needs you, the books write my men who are not Drs. or children development experts in anyway that say you should let them cry it out have all either been discredited by real experts or dropped all together by their publisher, if you Dr. is telling you too let him cry it out then I would get a new dr.

Dara - posted on 07/09/2010

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PS - I co-slept with both my girls and noticed that I was more attuned to their movements in the night. We never had a problem, but we also never went to bed intoxicated either. Do what feels right for you.

Merry - posted on 07/07/2010

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Peggia, statistically when cosleeping is done properly it is safer then crib sleeping as the mother is in tune to her baby all night and right there to take care of the baby. When done wrong, like with smoking drinking drugs obesity or exhaution then it can be deadly.
crying can cause serious health problems for babies they can burst blood vessels, they can hyperventilate, they can vomit and aspirate it, they can pass unconscious from the strain, they can dehydrate, and they can become emotionally scarred from the amount of emotions that come hand in hand with crying.
crying has no medical need and there is no reason why a baby ever needs to cry. -medically-
Also sleeping with mom until toddlerhood sounds precious and the most wonderful gift to wake every morning and see your mommy right beside you.

Christy - posted on 07/03/2010

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I was told to let my daughter cry her self to sleep to and one time when she was four months old and had been crying for six hours(I timed it), with pirods of me going in there and patting her back or picking her up to calm her and put her back down I decided I was tired of beign tired and took her to bed with me. There are certain things you need to do to have a family bed to keep your child safe but it is worth looking into. It was so nice that when I had my son he was in there right off the bat. Once they got older, at about two or three they started sleeping in their own beds. With my daughter we used the reward system but my son just did it on his own. If you think that is something that you would want to do look into it. Don't let others talk down to you because it isn't something that they would do. There are many styles of parenting. You have to make the right choices for you.

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Katie - posted on 07/14/2010

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but if you're sooooooooooo exhausted and you have no help put him in the bed with you above your blankets. thats what i did with my daughter too.

Katie - posted on 07/14/2010

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what I did to get my daughter started in the crib is I let her fall asleep in my arms first then I put her in the crib. after awhile she got used to it. so now I can put her in there when she's tired and she'll fall asleep by herself after like 5-10 minutes of crying. I know you feel bad.. but trust me you will go crazy if you teach him that if he cries you'll just come to his rescue everytime. My daughter is so conditioned to this she'll cry forever, and wants to be held alllllllllllllll the time. And she won't go back to bed at like 5 am if she doesnt go to sleep in my bed.. and she's only 5 months old. so start while he is this little! Because I made the mistake of not doing that :( and I wish I would have.

Kristin - posted on 07/14/2010

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My daughter slept in the bed with us until she was about a month and a half. We lived with my parents at the time so she didn't have her own room. I really enjoyed it but by the time she was in her own crib we were both ready. She gradually figured it out. Now she sleeps in her crib. Some nights when we are having a rough one I sleep on the couch with her. I always worry that I am creating bad habits with certain things but I feel like I know what works for her and I and that's what I do. Have you tried to put him in his cribs for naps or even just another room? That is how I got Clover to get used to sleeping on her own. When we were with my parents I started putting her down for naps in the room after she had fallen asleep. It took a while but she finally got used to sleeping on her own. It will all work out it just takes time.

Olga - posted on 07/12/2010

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I had my little one sleep with me on the bed until she started to roll over, and I was afraid that she fell of the bed. I really do not like the idea of letting baby just cry when they are so little. I was putting my baby to crib after she get asleep since 4 months. Only now, when she is 10 months, I let her cry a little. At the same time, I do not let her cry for more than 2-3 mins. Usually she stops after 2 mins. I really do not think that it is good idea to let baby cry before they can sit up and burp on their own.

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My son also did that from about 3 weeks. It is because the start getting more alert and their need for security is higher. Just treat it with love and very gently then he will realize it is not so bad in this big wide world. If you let him cry to much, it will only make it worse. What will also help is if you give him a routine every time before he goes to bed (day and night) for example - the same bear in the cot, the same blankie, etc...what helped me a lot was a Cd called Instant baby sleep - you can buy it on the internet. It calms the baby and help him to comfort himself. It also cancels out all other noise so nothing bothers him. I used this until my boy was 15 months...this is the only thing any mother needs! Hope this helps :)

Alexandria - posted on 07/11/2010

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my daughter is 9 weeks and she did that for a short while. I would always try her in her crib, if it didn't work pick her up cuddle her wait till she fell asleep, then tried putting her back in her crib. Now I do the bedtime bath routine and it seems to work like a charm. She's sleeping 10pm-7am in her crib :)

Tawnya - posted on 07/11/2010

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Also it's very normal for them to be so attached to you. You have carried him the last 9 months.

Tawnya - posted on 07/11/2010

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You shouldn't let them cry themselves to sleep that young. Don't always listen to your dr. Mom's usually know best. You just need to be careful how you're sleeping and where the baby is. They have things at stores also that you can lay a baby on next to you w/sides to where it makes it less likely for a parent to roll onto a child and have something tragic happen. It's ok to let them sleep w/you, my 1st did for long time (yes it's hard to break the habit and I still occasionally let her being she's almost 4, but they are only young once, hold them as much as you can now, cuz when they get older they want to do their own thing) and my 2nd 1 wasnt much a cuddler but my third is 6 months and she still sleeps w/me off and on and sometimes she's ok just to sleep next to me where she can see me. Congrats and I hope things work out.

Nicole - posted on 07/10/2010

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I can not tell you what is going to work for you but both of my kiddos slept with me for several months or in their bassenet. then we started putting them in the crib for naps and when they were comfy with that then we started working on the nights. Like I said though this worked for us it might not work for you. But Now my daughter will not even sleep any where but her crib. I just wish I could say that for my son well and my husband lol!!!

Emma - posted on 07/10/2010

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i know it sounds daft but with my lil baby i got him into a routine asap and it really does help, bath bottle and bed same time every night. Also i made the mistake of holding him while he was sleeping through every nap instead of putting him down when he's just fell asleep now he's 11 month old and wont settle unless hes with me :/

Katie - posted on 07/10/2010

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I tried letting my son cry too and it didn't work very well. He slept in bed with me and my husband for a while, which I know we aren't supposed to do. But it worked. He would fall asleep on my stomach and gradually we would start putting him in the crib a little and now he sleeps in the crib every night at 4 months old.

Kelly - posted on 07/10/2010

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The swaddle and rocking him to sleep may be a good idea. In my experience, the longer you wait the harder it's going to be on both of you. I hated going through it with my son, ever time he cried I wanted to cry and felt like I was torturing hime, but you baby is still very small and won't rememer this phase. I started trying to put him in his room right before my hubby came home on R&R, it was very tough. I will know what to do when I have my next one.

Angela - posted on 07/10/2010

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My son hated sleeping by himself for the first 2 months or so. We just let him sleep on us or waited until he was in a REALLY sound sleep to put him down. I wouldn't let him cry though. He's still too young for that

Jennifer - posted on 07/10/2010

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I had the exact same problem with my second son. Everyone told me to leave him to cry but whenver I did he would would cry so much he would throw up. I couldn't leave him to do that so I would bring him in with me to sleep so I could get some sleep as well. This lasted until he was about a year old which yes i know is too long but it became a routine that was hard to break, for both of us. After about a year though it only took me about 1 night to get him to sleep on his own. It was like a switch went off and he decided it was time to be on his own. I think what works for you is what you need to do. You need to get some sleep in order to be a "happy, healthy mom" and remember he is only a baby and I truly believe you can not spoil a baby.

Tedesia - posted on 07/09/2010

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Don't let the baby get the best of you honey, you will get yourself fraustrated. TAke a deep breath put him down to sleep in his crib, sit next to him, sing to him, read him a story while in his crib. he just want you to be close by, your voice will sooth him. He will get use to it after a while and will be able to sleep by himself

Raelene - posted on 07/09/2010

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When my son was that young, Id wrap him and cuddle him until he was nearly asleep- but put him in his crib awake still so that he would get used to settling himself. I couldnt do the hole let him cry thing either, so Id often have to do this many times before he would actually go to sleep. He sleeps wonderfully in his own bed now though and when we are having a bed time cuddle, he will actually ask to go into bed when he wants to sleep. Im glad I got him used to it while he was so young as I have friends with children the same age and they are at their wits ends trying to get their toddlers to sleep in their own beds now. Ultimately in the end, you have to trust your instincts and do what you feel is right for you and your baby. Good luck.

Amber - posted on 07/09/2010

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my advice to you is wait tell hes asleep asleep and put him his crib thats wat i did with my little girl it works... and ever since she was two months old she has slept in there and she sleeps threw the night ... and now my daughter is 5months and 5days old

Mazy - posted on 07/09/2010

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Co sleeping isn't dangerous, some parents & their habits are. Co sleeping has been done for centuries around the world! It is ideal, especially if you are nursing, since you (mom) become in-tune with the baby's sleep cycle, movements, etc. Sure, you wake up just a wee tiny bit to move an arm or switch breasts, but you don't have to fully wake up & neither does the little one. It was the ONLY way that everyone in my house could sleep when my son was young. However, when you co sleep, just like when you become a mom in general, you must sacrifice a few things; drugs, alcohol, late parties, etc. Your partner needs to be on board as well & act accordingly. I think SIDS just means "we don't really, honestly, 100% know what happened...so we'll call it that". Personally, I think that co sleeping gives the most restful sleep possible in the first three months.

I do not advocate ever proping up a bottle, asleep or awake! That is special bonding time & personally don't feel that bottles & cribs should go together. A child who takes a bottle to sleep or goes down very quickly after nursing often has problems with ear infections, as well as the possibility of choking.

Danika - posted on 07/09/2010

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i co slept with my second baby for 31/2 months. i just couldn't bare to leave her in a different room and i copped alot of shit from my mother inlaw but when i felt we were both ready i started to move her into her own bed during the day then at night. i did have to let her cry a little but i mostly held her to sleep then let her be. from about 8 months old she has been the best sleeper. she loves her cot and hates sleeping anywhere else. she is now 14 months and at each nap time and bed time she waves goodnight to each person in the house and and giggles as she goes to bed. she just loves it and for all the things my mother inlaw said she was way wrong. My little girl is a very affectionate but independent toddler. do what feels right in your heart. their only babies once and you can never give a baby too many cuddles.

Dara - posted on 07/09/2010

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I never let my babies cry it out when they were that young. I always rocked them or nursed them to sleep and then put them down. I found that listening to the crying made me cry too, so I couldn't handle it. When I would put them down, if they woke up I just kept my hand on their chest or arm until they settled and went back to sleep. Then as I started putting them down to fall asleep in the crib, I did it with widening physical proximity in increments. First I'd have a hand on them, then I'd sit beside the crib (not looking at them), then the chair by the door, then out the door. That wasn't until later on though. I say soothe your baby when he needs to be soothed and rock him to sleep and gently put him down. Every new mom feels like they're not doing a good job, but rest assured that your baby adores you and you're doing everything you can.

Kyrie - posted on 07/09/2010

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Propping a bottle is not recommended and dangerous. The baby could choke to death w/o you noticing...

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2010

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co sleeping, when done properly is actually quite safe and very very good for baby.



a lot of the cases of SIDs that we hear about on the news report that drugs or alcohol were involved and i wouldn't call that SIDS at all, its negligent homicide. last summer there was a story on the news that a baby died of SIDS...the story revealed that this was actually the second time this mother had a child of hers die of "SIDS." she came home drunk, and fell asleep with the baby on her chest, on a couch.



also keep in mind that a lot of cases are called SIDS because coroners simply do want the cause of death to sound like it might be a parents fault. i am not saying at all that when a baby dies of SIDS, it is the parents fault i'm just saying that there is more to this.

Elizabeth - posted on 07/09/2010

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I know it's hard but you just have to let him cry. Also try proping his bottle next to him in the crib. Then once he's aseep and the bottle is gone, quickly take a bottle out and stick in a binky.. That what i had to do for my daughter

Kyrie - posted on 07/09/2010

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My daughter had nightmares when I let her cry so she's always slept with me and my son as well. This is completely normal.

Tia - posted on 07/09/2010

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even after seeing on the news every week how many babies died of suffocation from sleeping with the parents?? omg. i was way too afraid to ever do that.

Mazy - posted on 07/09/2010

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Yay for swaddling! My son slept in a mini bed (a cosleeper actually, just not attached to our bed) at the foot of our bed. He would be put to bed there to sleep for a few hours & whenever he woke up, he would come to our bed to sleep the rest of the night & nurse. Then, when he turned 3 months old we moved the little bed to his own room where he slept through the night! I think we stopped swaddling around 2 months or so...He moved into a regular crib when he was 6 months old & able to sit up. I really think it's okay to let the baby sleep with the parents during the first few months.

Tia - posted on 07/09/2010

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the risk of SIDS is highest until after 4 months... my doctor said to keep my daughter in her in her bassinet next to my bed until at least then - NOT in a crib in another room that young. babies cry for a reason, at 1 month old babies typically do not sleep through the night yet. your baby is still an infant and does not understand that you are letting him cry it out.... it wont teach him to sleep better. they just wont understand. the only thing they will know is that they are crying for a reason and no one is coming to get them. =(

Lauren - posted on 07/09/2010

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my daughter was exactly the same, i hated to see her cry too but i had to stop myself from picking her up and letting her sleep in our bed with me as it was too dangerous and i was scared of rolling on her or something! i put her in her moses basket to sleep and stayed near her so she could still see me and also held her hand or stroked her head until she settled so she knew i was still there. i did have to let her cry though as she had to get used to sleeping on her own. at first id only leave it 5mins or so before i picked her up but as soon as she was settled id put her back down again and then left it longer before i picked her up and keep increasing the time until she was ok. now she will quite happily go to sleep on her own in her moses basket and its so much easier and less stressful for us both! she even sleeps a good 8-10 hours a night at 10 weeks old now! good luck!

Keara - posted on 07/09/2010

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you should swaddle and snuggle him until he is almost asleep, and then put him down and let him put himself the rest of the way to sleep so then he learns how to do it by himself but still knows that you are there

Mary - posted on 07/09/2010

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I can't believe so many people are basically just saying deal with it! Obviously you shouldn't let him cry for hours on end, but if he won't sleep at all unless you're holding him (I've been there) then you're not getting enough sleep either (again, BEEN THERE). Tricia Santos is right, letting them cry a little doesn't instill "mistrust", it lets them learn to fall asleep on their own, which is what everyone of us does throughout the night without even knowing it. I suggest to all of you, get the sleep lady book. Baby learns to fall asleep, yes there's crying, but you're still there, comforting a little and letting the child know you're there without you doing all the work to get him/her to fall asleep.

Again, I'm amazed at most of the responses. You all either got lucky in one way or another, or you haven't gone through an entire year without even a half of a nights sleep.

Tricia - posted on 07/09/2010

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Letting them cry is the hardest thing to do! Our doctor told us the same thing. When we did it our son was 14 months old. The first night he screamed for an hour...the second night a half hour...the third night twenty minutes and so on. Now he doesn't cry when I put him in the crib and he plays and then falls asleep in 5 minutes and has been doing that for over a month now. Now that he can fall asleep on his own and is learning to comfort himself he sleeps longer...because when they wake up in the middle of the night and don't see you they will scream. Now that he is used to it and wakes up he just falls back to sleep on his own! It is hard but so worth it in the end when they are finally used to it. Starting from a younger age is even better...it's harder when they are older. My husband couldn't handle hearing him scream and wanted to go in the room to get him and I stopped him...once he fell asleep we hugged each other for getting through the hardest night of our lives but were also proud of knowing that we made it through and he made it through and that it was good for him in the long run! Good luck and stay strong!

Samantha - posted on 07/09/2010

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I would find a new doctor! My now 10 month old co slept with me for 8 months, she refused to sleep in a bassinet or crib. It had to be with me. She now sleeps in her own bed, happy as can be. Being so young and letting him cry like that just ingrains mistrust in him! Do what YOU feel is right. I still have to swaddle my little one tight for her to go to sleep, she knows being wrapped up means it is time for sleep. You will get the hang of what works the best for you!

Merry - posted on 07/09/2010

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my Dr told me that "give it 20-30 years and 'cry it out' will be considered child abuse" interesting to think of but I can hope!

Eva - posted on 07/09/2010

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Letting him scream or cry will do no good. I've tried. Babies cry for a reason. Not because they are just being brats. They think they NEED something. Going to them especially when they are that young is the way you build their trust in you. Letting them know you're going to be there for them. If your baby fussy for more than 3-4 minutes. Go to them. You're the mother! They need you near! :)

Eva - posted on 07/09/2010

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Honey my son was the SAME way. I had to hold him the whole first 3 months of his life for him to sleep at all. And I got flack from my friends and doctor about the dangers of co-sleeping, but desperate times call for desperate measures! As far as getting him to sleep in his crib, swaddle really tight (just make sure he can still breathe :) and after he's asleep lay him down on his back in his crib. It may take several times, but eventually, it'll work. Crying it out does NOT work. It just harms you and baby. Good luck!

Merry - posted on 07/09/2010

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Is it true that crying strengthens a baby's lungs?


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The BabyCenter Editorial Team

No. Letting babies cry doesn't do a thing for their lungs.

Babies cry for a reason, although sometimes it's hard for adults to figure out what that reason is. They may be hungry, tired, wet, or overstimulated. They may need to vent, suck, or simply be comforted.

Crying doesn't benefit babies physically or emotionally, and it doesn't teach them to cry less. In fact, studies show that babies whose cries are responded to cry 70 percent less than those who are ignored.

Merry - posted on 07/09/2010

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7 THINGS PARENTS SHOULD KNOW ABOUT BABY'S CRIES
" 7. Crying isn't "good for baby's lungs." One of the most ridiculous pieces of medical folklore is the dictum: "Let baby cry, it's good for his lungs." In the late 1970's, research showed that babies who were left to cry had heart rates that reached worrisome levels, and lowered oxygen levels in their blood. When these infants' cries were soothed, their cardiovascular system rapidly returned to normal, showing how quickly babies recognize the status of well being on a physiologic level. When a baby's cries are not soothed, he remains in physiologic as well as psychological distress.

The erroneous belief about the healthfulness of crying survives even today in one of the scales of the Apgar score, a sort of test that physicians use to rapidly assess a newborn's condition in the first few minutes after birth. Babies get an extra two points for "crying lustily." I remember pondering this concept back in the mid 1970's when I was the director of a newborn nursery in a university hospital, even before fathering a high-need baby had turned me into an opponent of crying it out. It seemed to me that awarding points for crying made no sense physiologically. The newborn who was in the state of quiet alertness, breathing normally, and actually pinker than the crying infant lost points on the Apgar score. It still amazes me that the most intriguing of all human sounds—the infant's cry—is still so misunderstood. "

Natalie - posted on 07/08/2010

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More than likely the baby is used to hearing the sound of your heartbeat, they make bears that vibrate and make the sound of a heartbeat so that the baby will learn to sleep without you in their own bed. Or you could try letting them cry it out a lil... Just set them in there when they start to get sleepy and go back every 3 minutes or so, give them the passie back and reassure them that you are still there. They will eventually tire and go to sleep on their own. It is hard but it will be good practice to break them of the habbit now verses when they are older! Plus I always think of this when he's crying, the more he cries, that better lung capacity he's building!! The doctors will tell you to let them cry sometimes and that its good for them...

Mary - posted on 07/08/2010

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I forgot swaddling! I also swaddled my second and there is a right way to do it. Just wrapping a blanket around them isn't enough, you have to adjust their shoulders. I forget where I saw this, but it definitely makes a difference. Push your shoulders forward and together... now do that to the baby and wrap him like that. Think about when you snuggle with a blanket, do you just lay it on you, or do you bring your shoulders together? Most people bring their shoulders together, and that's what babies like. It takes maneuvering to get their shoulders to do that AND wrap the blanket, but you'll get it! Good luck!

Mary - posted on 07/08/2010

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He's only a month old, so he is still adjusting. Babies cry for everything, not just because they need something. His lungs become strong from crying, so it's not hurting him. My advice for right now, make sure he's in his own room and that you have a monitor. When he wakes up, get up and go to him, but WALK SLOW. Then you're "going to him" so you feel better, but he's also not getting picked up the second he cries. If you don't give him a nuk/paci/etc, give him one if he'll take it. It's comforting. I didn't give one to my first child and she woke up every half hour until she was one... I was ripping my hair out. My second child, I gave her a soothie paci, let her cry a few minutes before picking her up (I walked slow) and she's a great sleeper and always has been. That's my advice for the next week or so... while you're doing this, buy The Sleep Lady book: Good Night, Sleep Tight by Kim West - Google it. Buy the book, read it through (it's not that long because it's broken up by age), and visualize the words in the book as you sit through crying (yes sit through, you don't leave him!) No, I do not work for The Sleep Lady in anyway (although if Kim West reads this and wants to pay me, I'm up for it! I tell everyone I know about the book!). I really don't think I would have had a second child if it weren't for that book, that's how good it is.

Charlene - posted on 07/08/2010

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you shouldn't let him cry for a long period of time especially after his cord has fallen off it can cause him to have a herniane. i use to swaddle my daughter. But I also use to breastfeed so i really did not have a problem at night with her.

Danielle - posted on 07/08/2010

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Ok here is what I have learned. (I am a single mom to a seven week old) He will sleep in my bed with me all night. In his bassinet in my room he wont. I had been letting him sleep in a diaper b/c i figured he was hot (its been close to 100 here) well when i would go to put him in his bassinet he would wake up b/c it was cold on him. So i started putting him back in pjs, and then it was a little bit easier but still not simple to put him to bed. So I started taking my heating pad while I was feeding him before putting him down for the night. Once he is full I take the heating pad out, and put him down. Tonight he wasnt even asleep when I put him down, but in the warm bed and blankets he went right to sleep
Here is the thing though this weekend I am going to transition him to his bedroom, because I wake him up. Walking into my room his hands go up meaning he is startled, getting into my bed --when he is in his own bed mind you-- he wakes up from the crinkling noise!! So I am going to see if moving him across the hall helps!!
Let him cry, I started with letting him cry 15 mins, it was hard but the second night he went to sleep before his time was up.
But if you can get into a easy transition you can do it without screaming all night.

Titania - posted on 07/08/2010

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It upsets me to know that a doctor would suggest that you let your one-month old cry. I totally agree with Jennifer. Check the temperature in the house and see where's he's comfortable, music, swaddle, rock, baby massage...he needs to know you're there and will help him transition. Also make sure you take time out for yourself. Five or ten minutes or do something like enjoy the scent of a flower or light fragrance; if the sleepless nights are taking it's toll on you he would be able to notice that. You are and awesome mother!

Andrea - posted on 07/08/2010

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aww you should not ever feel bad because your son would feel that you feel bad an that can unsettle him too i have 4 children and honestly let him cry sometimes when he dont cry thats when you should worry other wise you will have sleepless nights untill hes about 5 honestly be strong you can do it.x

Krista - posted on 07/08/2010

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I couldn't do the cry it out thing either. Try wrapping him in one of your t-shirts or laying it down next to him. Babies love their momma's smell. It is a process. Nothing just happens over night. I am not sure if you are nursing, but I lay down next to mine and nurse her to sleep and then crawl out of the bed. Once she is good and asleep I move her into her crib.

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Gretchen Never feel like a failure! Keep in mind everybody is different and everybody raises their child differently. My son has slept in his crib since he was born. So I didn't have that problem. Do what YOU feel is right. But keep in mind, when he does start to get older do let him cry. If not you will be stuck with a 10 year old in you bed and it puts a damper on things ;)

Roxanne - posted on 07/08/2010

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I would never let them cry it out even when they're older. YOU know what's best for your baby. They thrive on contact and knowing you're there for them when they need something. My son is now 6-1/2 months old and I NEVER let him cry it out. I get to him as soon as I can. He may fuss, but he's never left screaming for me. Swaddle, co-sleep, wear him in a wrap/sling...it helps :)

Laura - posted on 07/08/2010

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Yes, that's very normal! He loves you and feels safest when you are around. I LOVED to hold my baby and sleep with her when she was that age, but we do have to put them down sometimes (unless you get a carrier). A nurse once told me that if you hold a baby for 20 minutes after he or she has fallen asleep then they will be more likely to stay asleep after you put them down. It has almost always worked for me.

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